This is a piece written by a friend of mine from long ago.. He is missed. But his words continue to speak to me. The only caveat I would add is to include ‘submissives’ as a group to those ‘littles’ for whom he writes.
Imagine a cake. A very rich and yummy cake. Dense, multi-layered, just a treat for the body and spirit.
All the physical intimacy of your relationship - from the kisses and caresses and snuggles and every permutation of intercourse and the play of every variety you care to invent using household items or the Stockroom catalog… all of that is the icing. It goes on last. Set it aside for the moment.
The cake is the real relationship. It is the trust building and getting to know you better every day over the course of years, growing closer as friends. Fitting together like puzzle pieces. Learning to love, and accept love in return.
Babygirls, or littles, are special creatures. They need, at the end of the day a safe harbor to rest in, free from worry and fear. You have to be that safe harbor – and there is no generic fixed set of things you need to do. Each and every woman is both alike and completely different. Embrace the dichotomy and get used to not knowing everything. You have to be vulnerable first. You have to trust her. You have got to watch, and listen, and pay attention. LEARN her.
Give her lots of excuses to open herself to you. Allow her to reveal herself at her own pace. As each layer and aspect is revealed memorize that new stuff too. If she retreats, sit quietly and let her come back when she’s ready. Let her teach you about her. I promise if your interest is SINCERE, in time she will show you everything.
Love her chipped parts, kiss the healed seams. Help her heal the ones that are not completely fused.
Love her. Let her love you when she is ready.
That is the cake. The emotional and physical intimacy goes over that in the form of icing. And the better the cake, the richer the icing.
If you choose to build it, the journey is part of the joy. You will be a few years in… look back and realize you are five years better. It’s a miracle.
If you find the THE girl, and fully commit and truly win her? Brace yourself for the happiest years of your life.
Being a DaddyDom means I lead, and not merely in the bedroom. I watch, learn, and help my partner overcome her fears, or perceived weaknesses, help her develop and achieve goals and mostly just be the one place she can lay her troubles and stresses down and just be appreciated and loved.
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