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“Masturbate in front of the mirror, look how beautiful you are when you cum.”

—

me.

This is probably some of the best life advice I could ever give you.

xo,

g.s.

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How to find people who are cool with the glitter.

Q: How do you meet so many people who are so open about the “glitter?” I know I’m not alone and I’ve done my research, but I feel like I go to such a small college and come from a small town that 20-21 year olds won’t be understanding. I feel like I won’t find someone who is accepting of it. I don’t want to have to go on a dating site for it. I want casual sex and relationships but I feel like if I tell one person everyone will know. The only people who know are a few family members..

A: Hm.. I can see where that would be tough.

For me it’s all about being open and presenting my glitter as if its not a big deal. People in general really just want to be spoon fed information: Which is why the media plays such a major role in American society. The media says herpes is scary so people are scared. I present in a way that it’s not a big deal, I am physical proof that it hasn’t destroyed my life or hindered my level of attractiveness. People accept that and move on.

Some people freak out. And when they do, I just look at them like they’re stupid and move on.

Either way it doesn’t bother me.

Socializing is scary when you’re young. You want validation from your friends because your still insecure about yourself. Which is healthy and normal but it can cause a lot of unnecessary anxiety. You think you’re a cool fun person to be around but when your friends reinforce those thoughts it makes you feel AWESOME. But even if just one person thinks you suck it can throw your whole ego into a tizzy.

Glitter is the same thing.

YOU know that herpes isn’t a big deal.

And when you explain to friends and lovers and they understand it makes you feel AWESOME. But if one person freaks out, you start to doubt yourself and everything falls apart.

You cant let that shit get to you. The confidence of knowing you’re a fun person and the confidence that glitter isn’t a deal breaker both have to come solely from you. No one else. That way your confidence cant be shaken.

The reason I find so many people who are cool with the glitter is because EVERYONE KNOWS.

It’s ballsy but effective.

Yeah some people will freak out. Yeah some people know me as the girl with herpes. But you know what? Those people would have judged me anyway… if not for herpes than for something else.

But I am free. I don’t have to keep secrets. If i’m having a shitty outbreak I can complain to my friends about it. I’ve even get tons of adorable holistic herpes healing gifts like essential oil potions and fancy soap from my holistic friends. For every person who is a dick there are 10 people who just fucking have so much love and support to give… cause I gave them faith and opportunity to be awesome by being real and honest.

I promise you nothing feels better than that.

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Herpes Sensi, I am involved in the BDSM/fetish scene and playing with a well known Dom, I plan to sleep with him down the track and of course, disclose but is it silly that I dont know how people in this scene will react? What are your experiences? He has a open relationship which makes me question if he’ll be okay about it. Lotsa love, your hsv sister.

So when I was in the fetish scene one of the components I really enjoyed was the formality of everything.

As apart of a traditional ‘play’ session I would have a very business like meeting with my play partner and talk about does and donts and what we were both looking for out of this adventure ahead of time.

This is where I would disclose. And it doesn’t have to be like “oh I have herpes”. It can be like, “hey If you’re punishing me please don’t cane my pussy, tissue trauma can cause a outbreak for me blah blah blah. And explain from there. That way you’re being cool about it, he should be too.

But it may take him a little while to negotiate with his partners.

The thing about having open multiple partners is that not only does he need to be cool, his partners also have to be cool. And this can very from them not giving a fuck and you guys just using condoms (which would be ideal). Or no sex and he can play with a vibrator and gloves (there’s a multitude of reasons that a lot of people ‘play’ while using gloves). Or it can start of with gloves and as you’re relationships progresses and things become more official maybe you fuck then.

All are great options you’ll just have to be open minded. (But isn’t that what subbing is all about?) But the greatest thing about being in a ‘sex positive’ community is how accepting everyone is.

As for my experiences, when I was really hitting that scene hard i was into dating couples… I loved being the guest star and then riding off into the sunset while they scwabled about dishes. So my formal meeting was with both of them so It was easier for me.

Any who, It sounds like you’re working with a professional (wink wink) and I doubt this is the first time a situation of this nature has been brought up.

You’re young, you’re hot, you’re kinky. The world is your fucking oyster.

Get it girl.

xoxo,

g.s.

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My husband and I knew the day would come but I didn't expect it so soon.(1 yr.&8 mo.) I gave him the glitter. He seems to be doing much better with it then I am. What do I do now? How can we heal? Can you suggest some sites on that topic? It just hurts to see him hurt and to know that my stupid ass mistakes caused my husband this pain! Am I being selfish for feeling bad? Do I just need to get over myself?

Woah, Woah, Woah.

First you need to stop hating on yourself…

Your husband is a grown ass man.

He knew you had the glitter, he wanted to to not only tap that, but ONLY tap that… that’s why he married you.

Your husband is a grown ass man.

Yeah, sharing the glitter sucks. But he knew, you knew, we all knew that it could happen. All you can do now is show him the ropes, and use this a bonding experience to give you a even stronger relationship.

It’s Ya’lls glitter now.

Having sex is not a mistake. Getting a STD is not a mistake.

It’s life, and shit happens. You’ve got to let this shame go. You’re a amazing devoted woman who loves the fuck out of her man. And I guarantee he knows. it. From what you’ve told me he’s probably more worried about you then himself.

Want to help heal his pain?

Worship that dick.

You heard me.

If it hurts, blow on it for him with that come hither face.

Take baby powder and a cotton ball and power that dick like it was your face.

When it starts to heal give a him hand-job with coconut oil with a dash of tea tree oil.

Show him how fucking sexy he is.

The biggest issue with the glitter is getting your sexy back. You guys are so lucky to be able to go through this together. Make him feel like the sex god he is and instead of a burden you both share, it could be catalyst for a second honeymoon.

xoxo,

g.s.

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A lot of you guys write to me with so much pain in your hearts.

You got a scary disease, and on top of that some of you aredealing with self-hate, abandonment, deception, cheating, even rape and suicide. Stuff I cant even imagine. You are in one of the hardest parts in your life and you choose to share yourself with me, allowing yourselves to be vulnerable with a complete stranger.

I want you all to know how strong and brave you are to do that.

You are taking something and dealing with it, taking strides in bettering yourself and looking out for others.

You are practicing self-love like a mother fucker.

I just want you to know how fucking proud I am of you, and that you have taught me so much.

Ya’ll are my heroes, and I try to be more like you everyday.

xoxo,

g.s.

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Besides needing to disclose, do you think you're glitter is going to change the way you go about dating people?

Damn, that’s a loaded question.

Here we go.

Sooooooooooooooo, yes and no.

Yes, in the way that I’m still going to get out there. I love dating. It’s so much fun to get to meet new people, learn new things. I tried a herpes site and that was a bust. So I’m still on the okcupid. If there are men/women out there who will let me spit in there mouth there are ton out there who aren’t grossed out by herpes.

spit>herpes

in short: my method of dating will stay the same.

No, in the aspect that I’m going to start dating with intention.

If my life was sex and the city; I’d be Samantha Jones.

Being a psych person. Being a psych person who’s into couples counseling and sex therapy. I’ve done academic studies on BDSM and blah blah blah. I’ve always been so open minded when it came to sex and relationships that I’ve done a lot of stuff. A lot of fun stuff. And I loved every minute of it. (see slut shaming here). But I’ve had this fear that there was some awesome sexual experience that I was going to miss out on. Something I haven’t tried yet.

I was chasing experiences, not people.

But dating is more than just romantic road trips with french musicians, being hung from the ceiling and banged into submission by a man you call sir or getting chased by rabid dogs in Mexico while trying to buy condoms. It’s about finding your other half, someone who challenges you and makes you want to be a better person. Someone who makes the world brighter; just because they’re in it.

You asked if glitter is going to change the way I go about dating people. No.

But, It has changed my perspective on dating.

I’m less looking for experiences now, and more looking for someone to share those experiences with.

Thanks for making me think about this.

xoxo,

g.s.

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Thanks, but no thanks.

Q:I just wanted to say I love your blog!! I have genital hsv1 and have been single for about the past 8 months. I went on a date with a guy last night and we were both really into each other and I decided to casually bring it up. He seemed fine with it but I feel like he’s dodging me now. I know I shouldn’t take it personally and it says more about him but it sucks still. I was just wondering if you can give me some advice or positive vibes to make me feel a little better?

Thanks xo

Rejection Sucks

A: It just does.

People are weird; they’ll reject you cause of herpes, they’ll reject you for the way you dress or even what fucking college you went to.

This in no way reflects your value as a person.

You for whatever reason are not his jam.

And that’s okay.

ALSO it may not be because of herpes. I disclosed to a guy once (not in a very thoughtful way might I add). He started dogging me and I freaked out and stopped talking to him to avoid the inevitable rejection.

Three weeks later he’s’ hitting up my friend asking why I stopped talking to HIM. She said I though he wasn’t down for the herpes.

He was totally down.

Just had a busy work week (he is in film so that happens often).

I was 50 shades of embarrassed.

So don’t set yourself up for failure just yet.

But if he’s not into you (for whatever reason) I made a blog post just for that :So you got rejected.

It should help ease the pain and it shows what I do to get my sexy back.

Good luck!

And remember you are a bad boss bitch.

xo,

g.s.

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Haha...oops.

Don’t joke about your partner having sex with someone else.

Why?

A.) It is not providing a safe place for a real conversation.

B.) It is not a appropriate way to “test the waters”.

C.) If you joke that “it’s okay” then they’ll think it’s “okay”.

D.) all the above.

I get that having those conversations can be hard, they can be awkward and you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. I get that, I really do. There were partners that I was cool with them banging other people and those where our relationship was straight monogamy.

But joking about stuff is a passive aggressive attempt communicate something you want.

weak

You’re better than that, If you want something ask for it like a grown up.

It bummes me out to see some of you guys get hurt when it was pretty easy to avoid.

xo,

g.s.

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Stuff about me

Rules: Tag 20 followers you want to get to know better.

Name: Heather

Nicknames: hufflepuff, Vega

Star sign: Virgo

Gender: Female.

Height: 5.2

Sexual orientation: Pansexual

Romantic orientation: unrelenting fear of commitment and the emotional responsibility of others aka cat lady

Favorite color: black

Time right now: 19:31

Average hours of sleep: 9

Last thing I googled: shoe makeover

Number of blankets I sleep under: 1 big duvet

Favorite fictional characters: Rebecca Sharp

Favorite famous people: Seth Rogen is a comedy god.

Favorite books: Dune

What I’m wearing at the moment: tights and workout top (though I have no intention of working out).

I tag: EVERYONE

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My mind is blown all because I know your name now @glitterslutblog. Maybe you mentioned it before but I never knew so I always had to reference you as my OG herpes Wonder Woman but now I’m like, Heather, yassss queen.

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herpesandhappy Totally making me blush.

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I love you so much. You are such a QUEEN, and make me feel like one too. I have been crying myself to sleep for days. My diagnosis was a year ago, but I am newly single and it's all coming back, I've been scared and I've just been very depressed. Your blog and your attitude help tremendously. It just helps me feel normal again..

Thanks for noticing :]

and you are a mother fucking Queen!

I know ending a relationship is scary. You kind of have to figure out who you are again, without having that person in your life. Don’t feel like you have to rush into dating again, take some time.

Treat yourself.

Spend all the time and energy that you spend on your partner and spend that shit on you! And you’ll start feeling like a queen again in no time.

As for dating don’t stress, some people will be cool, others won’t.

But when you love yourself that shit doesn’t matter as much. It’s all about how you feel about yourself.Everyone else will follow suit.

xoxo,

g.s.

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Hey! So I think I remember seeing a little while back that you have had some experience with bdsm/domming. I just started seeing this guy and he wants me to get dominant with him. I've only ever been a submissive in a sub/dom relationship but I want to try it out. Any tips? Things I should do/not do? Also if this wasn't you, super sorry for the random ask.

OOoooOO that’s so exciting!!!!!

and yep that was totally me. meow.

My tips would be to get a piece of paper and write down the following.

1. What about domming appeals to you? What about it turns you on?

2. When you subbed what did you enjoy about that? Write down some of your favorite moments.

3. What are some characteristics about your dom you really loved?

4, What about this whole experience makes you nervous? (it’s okay to be nervous).

I know it seems like a lot of writing, but to indulge in a relationships like this, its important that you have to have really good interpersonal communication with yourself. You’re the boss lady now, it’s a lot of respectability and not to be taken lightly.

Now when you’re done with that I would give your man some homework.

Have him write down what about you topping him turns him on the most, and have him describe a relationship dynamic he envisions. (ex, pet, slave, bottom bitch ect..)

a dom made me do this once, and it was the best homework i’d ever gotten, cause I REALLY had to think about what I wanted.

When you guys establish a dynamic you need to give him a check off sheet like this http://belasarius.com/tag/spreadsheet/ this way you can see what interests him the most and what stuff to avoid. (this is probably the most important).

After that it’s time to play!!! Just be confident, be yourself and really practice TRANSPARENT COMMUNICATION.

Also most metropolitan areas have bdsm groups where you can take classes (i totally recommend this) that way you know how to practice safely (especially if you’re into electro play, or cock torture).

Sorry for so much advice but I dommed before I did anything else, and If i had done all of this, I would have been a much better mistress. You are a guide for this man’s sexual fantasy’s is a privilege to be able to take charge and it’s a privileged that he is willing to submit to you. If you have any more questions feel free to hit me up!

“Safe, sane and consensual”

You’ll do great!

xoxo,

g.s.

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I've been fighting depression and anxiety for about 3 years. Planned my suicide and all. Went to group therapy, therapists, meds and all. Then I was diagnosed with herpes. 2 months ago. I'm a germophobe. Getting herpes was on of my biggest fears.Tomorrow is my birthday and I'm so down. Any little mark or bump on my body I freak out. I have scrubbed my skin raw. Yesterday i dropped to floor in tears. I honestly think herpes will push me over the edge.

This is going to sound like a giant crock of shit and I’m sorry but this is the most honest and genuine advice I can give you.

So. I’m my spiritual belief system, you have many lives and each life there is some sort of obstacle that you have to overcome in order to become more spiritual enlightened.

(i know hippy dippy bullshit)

BUT….

If this is really the worst thing that happened to you (and it was for me) maybe there is something you’re supposed to learn from this experience. For me it was searching less for experiences and more about finding someone to share those experiences with… and truly loving all of myself, starting with the herpes. This is stuff i never would have learned without my glitter.

Maybe for you it’s learning how to control your anxiety and germophobia.

Cause you know what….

YOUR BIGGEST FEAR CAME TRUE….

AND HERE YOU ARE.

It isn’t easy but you are HERE. LIVING. Overcoming fear and pain, you are already showing yourself and all of us what a strong and amazing person you are.

HOLD ON TO THAT FEELING

That feeling of strength, It may hurt, it may be hard but this is a stepping stone to becoming an even more amazing person that you are now.

This is an opportunity to better yourself, don’t pass it up. Call your docs, schedule some appointments and face this bitch head on.

Show yourself what you’re really made of.

I think you’ll surprise yourself.

xoxo,

g.s.

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So you got rejected.

It happens.

It happens if you’re rocking the glitter or not. Having it does give people a really good excuse though.

“its not you, it’s the herpes”.

But it sucks. You’re bummed. You can feel your self-esteem drop a little bit (or a lot of bit) depending on how much you liked the guy.

Most of the time I don’t bat an eyelash. I mean I’m into some weird shit, so I’ve gotten turned down a lot pre-glitter too. But every once and a while there is a person that I really connect with and am pretty bummed out that I’m not their jam.

So here’s what I do.

Phase 1: Taco time.

I chill. I pout. I watch all the gossip girl.

Phase 2: Bath time.

I talk a long luxurious bath. And I mean a serious bath, with candles, bath salts, dimmed lighting and some drake jamming the back round. I shave all the things, I sugar scrub I am feeling clean and delicious. And then I masturbate my brains out… maybe thinking about gossip girl. Judge me if you want, but there is something about physically loving yourself makes you emotionally love yourself.

Phase 3: Pamper.

Now is the time to cut those bear claws, paint your nails and put on your sexiest panties.

Phase 4: Dance. What makes you feel sexy?

Beyonce?

Brittany?

Casey Veggies?

Blast that shit.

Dance your ass off. Do it in front of a mirror. Dance sexy. Tweeeeerk. Or just do the grocery cart if that what makes you happy. But do it till your exhausted.

Phase 5: Sad? Who’s sad? I’m too busy being sexy!!!!!!

Sometimes I just chill and play batman arkham Origins. There is something about kicking bad guys Asses that makes me feel awesome.

And sexy, cause I’m doing it in my undies.

Batman undies.

The moral of my stories is….Don’t let a little rejection scare you.

It just means you’re that much closer to the slut of your dreams :]

“ones fear of rejection is ones fear of love.” ― alexandria honey

Love is scarier then herpes, I’ll give it that.

XOXO,

G.S.

All of the cartoon people are from a blog called http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/ It is easily the funnies thing i’ve ever ready. You should check her out.

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Just disclosed to my future husband.

and you know what he said when we saw each other next…

“I don’t want you to be freaked out about giving me herpes. If I get it, I get it. I’m a grown man and I know what I’m getting myself into. And you’re totally worth it.”

THAT’S WHAT A MOTHER FUCKING MAN LOOKS LIKE.

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Looking fabulous with the glitter

You’re having a great day, the birds are chirping, the sun is shining, then…

It happens; you feel the tingling, the itching you know it’s coming on. A glitter attack, just in time for your date, work or just life in general.

A big fucking red light on your life.

Being a yoga teacher, and outbreak is my worst nightmare. Tight clothes, hot class and demoing a headstand, all while my vagina is screaming.

Fuck that shit.

I may be feeling yucky on the inside but I can still look fabulous on the outside.

So I’m going to give you my glitter outfits, for those dates, work events, parties where you need to feel great and look great.

Glitter or not.

My glitter attack secret; going commando. Let those bitches breath, that helps them heal faster and it’s way more comfortable (for me) to not have anything touching my lady bits.

Here are awesome commando outfit options.

Maxi skirts- casual or sexy, this is great for brunch, dates and get together.

(Source)- This site gives good tips and tricks

The goddess Dress- Every diva NEEDS a goddess dress, it’s flowy, beautiful not only do you feel, but you look like a demi goddess. This is great for a fancy date, wedding, or just because.

Loose yoga pants- these are soooo cute, I wear this all the time. I also live in a ‘yoga city’ so a lot of people are running around in stuff like this. This is my casual going to the pool, camping, beachwear.

High waited dress pants- I also am a marketing director for a wellness center and dressing up for work is a must. High wasted, looser fitting pants make this a lot easier and the high wasted pants make me look like less of a hobbit.

I know it’s hard to feel pretty during a glitter attack, but sometimes you just have to fake it till you make it.

And, you will always make it.

“A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous.”

― Coco Chanel

I can’t always be classy, but I will always be fabulous.

Xoxo,

G.S.

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How do I get my dude to go down on me? He knows I have ghsv1 and in the beginning when we were just making out and I had not yet disclosed, he made moves to go down there and I said no. He was confused, but when I disclosed, he understood. The topic hasnt come up since... :(

Well I would bring it the fuck up!!

You: Hey do you like ice cream?

Him: yeah

You: You know what would make me scream?

Him: What?

You: You eating me out. How would you like to go about doing that?

The last conversation you had was NO he couldn’t go down of you because you have hsv1. Not hey you can go down on me, but you just need to be in the know. So he may not even think it’s okay to venture down there.

It’s your job as his partner to inform him that yes it is okay, and would also be very appreciated.

xoxo,

g.s.

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“Whats the difference between love and lust? Lust wont break your heart, but only love will set you free.”

— Glitterslut (via glitterslutblog)

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