re-learning how to ask for help before it's an emergency will help you get rid of the feeling that you're always having to drag other people into your emergencies btw
if you really think it's not fair to keep asking people to step in when things have already gone to shit and it's gonna be super stressful to them, the realistic solution is to ask for help before things have a chance to turn into a crisis so that the help needed is more minor, not to magically become the one person on all of planet earth that never needs help
and if people get mad at you for asking for help on something minor, that's a sign you need different people in your life. I promise there are plenty of people who are not just willing to help a friend, but excited at the opportunity to feel helpful and like you want them in your life!
