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“How do you know someone is for you? They bring peace you haven’t found anywhere else. They support your effort. They water your growth.”

— Unknown

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“I hope you fall in love with someone who never lets you fall asleep thinking you’re unwanted.”

— Unknown

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“I’ve spent so much time in my head and in my heart that I forgot to live in my body.”

— Tara Hardy, Bone Marrow

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2026. I’m ready for you.

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Woke up from a weird nap and saw this reel and it's making me feel like I need to get up and walk for like an hour

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“You hear but are you listening? You exist but are you living? You look but do you see?”

— Unknown

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One of the most interesting things I've come to from working with a therapist long term is understanding how disrespectful it actually is to treat everyone like they are babies when it comes to emotions and reactions

Like expecting other people to not be able to handle truths or difficult conversations - or even trying to hold onto past experiences where those types of things went poorly and not giving people the chance to show up differently

I think when I see people pleasing talked about it's almost always through the lens of how it effects the person doing it and that's given the main force of attention but it has been helpful to me to understand it's actually very distrusting and even belittling to expect other people to not be capable of handling a uncomfortable emotion or situation and it's not doing anyone any service to decide for them what they can and can't do even if you tell yourself it's for their own good or it's a consideration

It makes me wonder how many times I've hurt someone else by assuming I was making their life easier with choices that at the end of the day were being made by me so that I myself didn't have to feel worried about their reaction or feel the guilt of making them unhappy or hurt

And it really shows me that having self respect sometimes means not giving yourself the excuse of "just trying to make everyone happy" and patting yourself on the back no matter how many times you see it blow up in front of you and understanding everyone is responsible for their own emotions and choices and taking that away from them is never fair or the lesser of two evils

Forcing people to live by your rules when you make decisions about what they want or can handle instead of being authentic and allowing people the chance to react to you authentically as well is really just another form of perfectionism and being controlling and I think the freedom so many of us would feel if we stopped telling ourselves we are martyrs and admit the right thing might actually be accepting being the bad guy in someone else's mind or being disliked and having the stomach to accept that instead of the social gymnastics required when you tip toe around everything and treat people like babies who need protected