SUBJECT CASE # .009 - STUDENT
What is your name, age, and place of origin?
Brooklyn Aurora Martin, 23; hailing from New York, NY
What is your zodiac sign and three of its characteristics?
I was born on April 2nd, so that makes me an Aries; we’re known for our independence, enthusiasm and sometimes we’re said to be slightly impulsive too.
What is your current occupation and career goals?
Well, I’m currently studying Political Science, with a minors in International Studies and in Women’s Studies. I’m also a journalism intern at Teen Vogue when I’m not here, a part-time barista at Starbucks and a member of the board of directors for Haverford’s student government. So, you could say I’m usually pretty busy. In the future though, I’d love to become the editor of my own magazine.
What brought you to Haverford? If you are a native, what has kept you around?
I really felt like I needed some time away from the media’s magnifying glass, to get time to really bask in the college experience in my own way.
Tells us about your HISTORY.
Why did you choose Haverford (town/university)?
Well, my mother was born here, so I’d heard a lot of good things about the town; it’s practically impossible to get through a single day without her reminiscing about her small town life and how Haverford is her absolute favourite place in the world. She was the one who pointed Haverford University out to me originally too, and I’m not going to lie, it’s kind of hard to say no to a top ranked school with state-of-the-art facilities and opportunities at every corner. Plus, it felt good to step out of the glow of the spotlight for a bit, you know? Everyone always expects it to be warm and welcoming, but at some point, your skin can’t get any thicker and the daily comments about your life, choices and appearance tend to seep through the cracks.
What did you know about Haverford before coming here? (if not native)/ What do you think sets Haverford apart? (if native)
I only knew what I’d seen on the university’s website, so a lot about how they’re very generous with financial aid, their rankings, the diversity of the student body, and all of that normal admission spiel. And then, regarding the actual town, I’d heard a lot about it from my mom, who’s from Haverford. She mentioned a lot about how beautiful the town was, and how there was a very special atmosphere to it, like no other place she’d ever been to.
Did you come here alone? If yes, is there someone you wish could be with you? If local, is there someone you wish you had around? If not alone, who did you bring and why?
I mean, I didn’t really have anyone else to bring along, so yes? Again, the main reason for me to come here was to study, so I didn’t really have a reason to make a plus-one tag along, and everyone who graduated from high school with me skipped the gap year option and directly went to their respective schools, so I can’t really think of anyone I could’ve brought with me. Plus, no one I knew was really interested in coming to a small-town college anyway.
Do you think you made the right choice? Do you have any plans to leave Haverford?
So far, I’ve absolutely loved being here. It’s a lot calmer than New York, but I’m also not sitting around all day twiddling my thumbs, wondering when something to do will miraculously fall into my lap. And when it comes to leaving, only time will tell. Although I’m pretty sure I’m going to move back to a bigger town once I’ve graduated, because you can’t really build a solid career in a tiny town like this one.
Tell us a story from ages 7-13 that had an impact on you and tell us why.
We used to have this amazing summer house in the Hampton’s — we’ve sold it since, the roof was starting to get old, and my mom couldn’t stand not having any privacy when we were there — and the said house had a really nice pool, with a deep end and a diving board and all of the other amenities people are used to adding to their pools. I’d never really been a very good swimmer, and my dad had never really been too happy about that, because it meant trips to anywhere with a beach were usually accompanied with me whining about how I didn’t want to go into the water, and how my hair would get wet. During the summer after my seventh birthday, my dad decided he’d had enough of my quote-on-quote “petty tantrums” about swimming, and decided to playfully throw me into the deeper end of the pool. Although I managed to swim and get out of the pool, I spent a good thirty seconds confusedly kicking my legs while swallowing chlorinated water. And from then on, it’s been impossible for me to go swimming unless I can confidently stand up wherever I am in the water.
What was your first dating experience like? If you haven’t had one, what do you imagine it to be?
I dated a guy back in high school, from freshman year to the middle of junior year. His name was James Sutton, and while we’d been in the same classes since elementary, something must’ve happened over the summer between middle school and high school, because one second he was just James, and then the next he was James and it was hard for me not to stare. We were great together, because we kept each other on our toes, you know? He was the one who pushed me to start a campaign for student body president, and I pushed him to try out for the men’s football team. We were a team, and we’d planned on applying to the same colleges, on travelling to the same places, maybe even co-owning a dog and a cute little shoebox apartment at some point… But when the SAT and ACT scores came out in the middle of junior year and we realised that we could attend the same universities, he broke up with me. And it should’ve been heartbreaking because he kept insisting that I didn’t love him, because I wasn’t spending any time with him and I was always busy with something else, and I never really fully let him in. It would’ve been heartbreaking, but I knew he was completely right.
Were you a good student in high school? Did you play any sports or participated in any extracurricular activities?
I’m not usually one to brag, but I was in the top percentile of my graduating class. It’s the kind of perk that comes with being an over-organised workaholic, I guess. I’ve always been one up for just about any challenge, which explains how involved I was on campus. I was the student body president, I started a mentoring program which paired high school students to elementary school students and I played in my high school’s intramural volleyball team. And then I also got my Teen Vogue internship during the second semester of junior year, even though that doesn’t really count.
Are you close with your family? Who are the member of your immediate family and what are they like?
For a family who sees each other in small increments of time — while a tour winds down, or the promotion for a movie comes to an end — I’d say we’re relatively close. I definitely feel close to my parents, even though both of them stopped raising my brother and I when we grew old enough to spell our names and tie our own laces without taking too long. But even then, we’d still get birthday cards, and the occasional basket filled to the brim with exotic foods. They always remembered the important dates in our day-to-day lives, like when I was set to perform in the Nutcracker at age seven, or when Camden — my older brother, our parents were very set on giving us both geographically inspired first names — was to present his project at the science fair. We strategised middle school friendships and sleepovers over the phone, and to an extent, it felt normal to me. Of course, the number of men posted with cameras everywhere we went didn’t feel as normal as those said phone calls, but when I was young, it didn’t really stand out too much. It was in high school that it really hit me. All of the other girls weren’t splashed across page six when they went out with their male friends to get a scoop of ice-cream, they didn’t have to rush to get into their cars when they left school to avoid being mobbed after one of their parents released a press statement and they had their moms with them when they went prom dress shopping.
I guess the family member I’m closest to is Camden. Mainly because he lived through it with me, so he gets the strain leading the life that we have has on relationships and the way you view others. His overly wise take on relationships, why they’re difficult to maintain and how trust is practically impossible to fully give came from his last relationship, which failed spectacularly after he found her mailing copies of his text messages, emails and direct messages to various tabloids to make up for her half of the rent. After kicking her out of his life, he fell straight back into his role as a workaholic — not that he’d changed too much while she was around — and graduated from Stanford last summer, before making his way to San Francisco to get his startup started, to put it simply. Keeping busy was both a requirement our parents had for us, but also our own way to cope with their absence and the way things played out for us. It made more sense for us to fully invest ourselves in getting a stellar GPA, rather than finding new ways to impress the quarterback during promposal season, or crying over the fact that our mom had to stay in Venice for an extra two weeks.
What is your name, age, and timezone?
What kind of activity can we expect from you?
I’ll be checking in daily or every other day, depending on how hectic things get :~)
Tell us about your PERSONALITY.
Do you think that you are true to your zodiac sign? Why or why not?
I’m usually pretty skeptical when it comes to things like astrology and tarot readings, but some are quite spot on sometimes, and it’s hard to not want to believe in it. And, I like to think I’m definitely as determined and driven as people say Aries’ are.
What is your biggest turn off and turn off (personality wise)?
I love someone who can keep a conversation going; people who just blindly agree to everything and let you do all the talking are really boring, and hard to want to maintain any sort of relationship with. And as for my biggest turn off, I think it’d just have to be someone who’s lazy and expects everything to be handed to them on a silver plate.
If you hadn’t chosen the career path you did, what would you have loved to do and why?
I think I would’ve just continued to travel and volunteer. The two years I spent overseas were probably two of the most interesting years of my life, and I got to meet so many interesting people, who didn’t know me for what tabloids wrote, or for what my parents did, but who instead knew me for the effort I put into helping them, and learning about what they went through daily. I went to the Ivory Coast to help build a sustainable water system, and I met a woman there that was the literal epitome of the strong, independent woman; she was a force to be reckoned with, and it was much more inspiring than the so-called feminist self-help books that are bestsellers on Amazon right now.
What would your dream significant other be like?
I don’t really think I can narrow it done to a very specific type, but at the end of the day, I think I’d mainly like to find someone who challenges me, and what I believe in. And I guess it wouldn’t hurt for my potential significant other to understand that keeping busy is a pretty key part of who I am, and that I can’t just give everything up at the snap of someone’s fingers.
What is the most hurtful thing anybody has ever said to you? Why do you think it bothered you so much?
Over the years, I’ve grown a pretty thick skin, after having to deal with the constant input of others regarding my life and the way I was living it. But, a few years ago, after I’d graduated high school, and decided to go volunteer overseas, an unnamed magazine saw fit to publish an article on how I was volunteering to pass time, because school obviously hadn’t crossed my mind due to my parents’ success. It also linked their success and popularity to all of my achievements. The article in itself didn’t change how much I believed in my own success, but it really made me wonder whether everything I’d done was thanks to how hard I’d worked, or thanks to the connections I had thanks to my last name.
If you could give some advice to 7 year old you, what would you say?
I think I’d probably warn her in advance about how much of a black hole celebrity can become. As a child, it’s really easy to get wrapped up in how wonderful it is to be recognised and photographed, and you tend to not really shelter yourself, which can then be detrimental on the long run. I’d probably also teach her to rely on her own vision of herself, and not on the one people have of her. I know that that would’ve been useful for me to know how to do today.
If you had to make a break up playlist, what three songs would you choose and why? Alternative, what three songs would be on your fun/happy playlist?
For my breakup playlist, I’d probably want a few sad songs to really help get all of the crying done:
Run by Snow Patrol; this song’s lyrics are all about endings, which makes it pretty appropriate for a breakup playlist.
Love is a Losing Game by Amy Winehouse; I absolutely adore Amy Winehouse as a performer, and this song’s one of her best in my opinion.
Bumper Cars by Alex & Sierra; this one really hits home in terms of the types of relationships I’ve encountered, where both parties realise that they’re very much in love, but aren’t good for each other, or available enough.
My happy playlist would probably be a lot longer, just because I spend a lot more time doing that as opposed to breaking up:
Perfect Day by Hoku; I think I first heard this when I was watching the Legally Blonde movie, and it’s been of my anthems ever since.
Dance Apocalyptic by Janelle Monae; this one’s one of those songs you can absolutely never not dance to.
No Diggity by Chet Faker; the tempo in this one isn’t necessarily fun, but I like its slow, flirty vibe — and it’s the perfect lounge song.