i don't care how uncomfortable you are around cis men, queer cis men still need places to go, and sometimes, those spaces will be shared with yours. disabled and neurodivergent queer men and queer men of color especially need a place to go. the queer community isn't the "fuck cis men" community. that is the rad fem community. if you think cis men and people who read as cis men are inherently "too scary" or shouldn't be allowed in queer spaces, you joined the wrong community.
additionally: hi, trans woman here. who gets called a cis man by the queers around me pretty consistently. literally no matter what im wearing or doing or what my makeup, nails, clothes look like. trans girls will come up to me and compliment my partner for having such a gnc cis boyfriend. just wanted to say: well i cant say that but im gonna say: dont do this shit.
also it becomes real fucking clear after a while of this that its not even "cis men bad" in their heads, its "anyone im not attracted to is bad" and theyre only attracted to skinny white femme. cis men bad is just a "progressive" label for pushing white supremacist ideals.
not to fucking mention how "cis men bad" forces trans men who could be mistaken for cis to disclose their trans identity. which a cis guy could just lie about anyway so like. whats the end game here are we gonna start doing genital checks or can we all just settle the fuck down and believe that if somebody showed up to the queer event they prolly belong there and its none of our fucking business why
okay last thing, sorta unrelated, but if u never dated a woman with a beard then i think ur a loser and beneath contempt. okay i love you byyyyye
thank you so much for this addition- this is exactly what i was implying when i said that people who "read" as cis men also need safe spaces to go and should never have to disclose their trans or cis status in order to be able to find safety. this mentality disproportionately affects trans women and trans men. this affects trans people way more than it does cis people- people project their idea of what a cis man "looks like" on to whoever they want to without discretion. you summed it up perfectly. thank you












