paisley/bowie/ziggy/braynz she/they - 20 - audhd rey mysterio and scott hall/razor ramon's silly bug READ PINNED BYI - NSFW/PROSHIP DNI ‼️ ic mothcandii__ on insta!
hi!! welcome to my tumblr account!! i post about a lot of things that interest me such as wrestling, american psycho, extreme cinema, jjba, dislyte, panic! at the disco, asexuality (specifically sex repulsion) and a lot more things. im a selfshipper too if you care,,, my two mains at the moment are Rey Mysterio [ok sharing!] and Scott Hall/Razor Ramon [nonsharing, sorry :((]. my other mains are patrick bateman and timothy bryce from the american psycho film [both nonsharing]
DNI/BOUNDARIES + BYF BELOW!
DNI LIST:
- NSFW BLOGS. i am asexual/sex repulsed and find sexual content very upsetting to me. please fuck off my account if you post nsfw stuff!
- proship/comship/darkship/whatever you people call yourselves
- basic dni stuff
- patrick, timothy, and scott/razor doubles :(
- kink/fetish and pro-paraphilia blogs. youre gross.
- anti xenogender/neopronouns
- radqueer or adjacent
- anti selfshipping + anti rpf
- vivziepop media indulgers.
- heated rivalry fans. not homophobic i just hate sex
- pro ai accounts
- THIN ICE: MDNI accounts, date everything! fan
- user specific dni is linked on strawpage!
BEFORE YOU FOLLOW:
- i'm VERY picky with who gets to interact with me. please dont be upset if i softblock you, you either fit my dni criteria or i dont like your vibes!
- I AM SEX REPULSED AND SEX NEGATIVE (not in a conservative way). i will reblog posts that relate to my experiences. i am VERY anti sexual things (k*nks, f*tishes, etc etc you get it) and i call myself a prude to reclaim it.
- i would prefer to be mutuals with people that are not on the sex favorable side (CURRENT MUTUALS ARE OKAY IF YOU RESPECT MY PRUDENESS) for my safety and comfort due to terrible experiences and witnessing how sex favorables treat sex averse/repulsed aces.
- i block whoever the fuck i want. the block button is my bestie and i will NOT hesitate to use it like at all.
sex positivity doesn't mean sex everywhere btw. giving a warning for sexual content and giving people the option to avoid it isn't fucking censorship you absolute morons. you should ALWAYS be giving a warning, it's not even that difficult. and no, BadFaithLiteracyLacker777, that doesn't mean that every single pornhub video needs a captcha before you can watch it.
also means everyone can enjoy sex their own way. personally I think sex is really funny, and also has zero strings attached whatsoever. I have friends who see sex as the highest form of intimacy with another person and would never have any kind of casual sex. I have friends who think sex is utterly disgusting.
and sex positivity means I don't try to make fun of my friends' sex because I know they find it serious, and they don't shame me for finding it funny even though they see it as so important, and it means my sex repulsed friends aren't shamed for being repulsed and simultaneously don't look down on their friends who do have sex. all those can coexist together and that's sex positivity baby
Can we start normalizing flagging NSFW content with a NSFW tag so that ppl who are sex repulsed are not forced to look at it when looking at the tags of their fav characters/shows/etc?
"Oh why are you such a purist at your age" no Janet. If YOU want to talk about sex, draw sexy fanarts and stuff, that's fine by me!! You should be allowed to talk abt that, period! What I'm saying is: Just don't force ppl who don't like it to look at it, bc those ppl are trying to ENJOY that stuff just as much as you, and being forced to look at smth that makes you straight up uncomfortable REALLY ruins the experience.
"Then why don't you set your tumblr so that it doesn't show adult content?" bc sometimes Tumblr doesn't identify it or flags perfectly innocent stuff, Tom. Meanwhile, if ppl just bothered to add ONE TAG, this issue wouldn't really persist
I fucking hate exclusionists fucking assholes trying to tear our community apart AGH
Like there are struggles we face being repulsed that those who are favorable don't, but we're still all aspec!
Like, just because one person is sex favorable or grey ace or whatever, and I'm very much not, we're still both ace! I fucking hate gatekeepers and exclusionists why won't they shut the fuck up and go away we've had this conversation a million times.
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no one is inherently better or more interesting as a person just because they have interest in smut.
there are hundreds of thousands interesting things one can be into that don't involve sex or romance!
you're not boring, you're not less progressive, you're not missing out on anything if you find sex/romance boring and repulsive. you don't need to change anything about yourself to appeal to others
really controversial opinion here, but i dont really see what we have to gain from the queer community, esp the gay/bi part. seems like they want to put romance and sex everywhere (being "anti-censorship", "love is love", etc.) and we want the opposite. (heated rivalry is a massive fucking loss for the aspec community we should not be normalizing pornography in mainstream media!!) i think that aspecs could be far more politically active and successful if we had our own community. now were basically hanging onto a community working at cross purposes to ours. its alienating to everyone who is cis and whatever attractions they experience are to the opposite gender, they often feel like they dont belong and become a lot less politically active because of it.
honestly the neurodivergent community would make for better allies, theres a huge overlap AND relationships of all types are often difficult or non-standard. especially now that we acknowledge apls, afams, the rest of atretiaries. like i (apl aroace) have way more in common with the average autistic cishet who doesnt date or have many friends because socializing is difficult for them and they dislike social norms than i do with the average party gay who has a ton of friends, and has sex every day.
This will probably make quite a lot of people mad, but whenever I see someone going from repulsed to favorable or aspec to allo; I get disappointed. Since now they just fit most of the population's ideals & standards, lose all the relatibility & are more likely to become aphobic or discriminatory towards other repulsiveness/aspecs.
Cause there's not a single person on this Earth to have a willing attitude change to the more disliking one.
being a sex repulsed adult is truly awful i wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy. i dont want to be in spaces full of kids, but there's basically no nonsexual 18+ spaces. even if they arent /about/ sex, people will talk about it from time to time or make jokes. and if you bring up that you dont want to be in conversations about sex the response is usually to just exclude you from those conversations because they dont feel like having to censor themselves in adult spaces. which is.. i mean i guess its valid, i cant force them? but then it comes down to me having to choose between being extremely uncomfortable and grossed out and panicky depending on how explicit it gets or not having any friends my own age, every single time. they never have to choose between having friends or talking about sex life, its just me.
like idk i wonder where the 'repulsed aces are all super childish' stereotype comes from, when everything 'adult' contains sex. i want to watch stuff with a dark tone, i want to have adult friends i can have grown-up conversations with instead of teens who only care about fandom, i want to go out at night, theres so many experiences i want to have but cant, because i cant predict whether the people there decide to have a drawn out conversation about their sex life. and if i ask i get left out! other than other sex repulsed aces, who dont even seem to make up the majority of aces, theres nothing accessible. so then as a minority of a minority of a minority who cant talk to anyone who isnt like me, what do i do.
sex-repulsed people are fully within our rights to be cranky and blunt about not liking sex and how it's fucking everywhere btw. we shouldn't have to tiptoe around and make sure our phrasing is perfectly squeaky clean because people interpret any criticism of sex and sexualization as puritanism. venting about compulsory sexuality is not purity culture. maybe you could stand to learn a thing or two from us.
Sex repulsed asexuals are not prudes, puritans, or slut shamers for simply being grossed out by sex. No one’s saying you shouldn’t be allowed to have sex. We’re just saying we would like to be allowed to be uncomfortable with it and not participate in it or anything related to it. We’re asking for the same sexual revolution you get to have. We’re asking to be liberated from the chains of being told we have to do something that isn’t what we want.
I hate the stereotype of ace people being more down bad for their favorite characters than allo people are because if I'm being honest seeing my favorite characters sexualized genuinely makes me want to cry. and then I usually get so nauseous I have to lay down
what does constantly saying that "aces can have sex!" accomplishes politically?
how does it help us promote our interests and boundaries? society already assumes that everyone will and wants to have sex by default! asexuals included because our experience and orientation isn't even taken seriously at all
why do we need to keep reassuring people that they can have sex? no one is stopping them from doing so.
why don't we talk more about the fact that no one HAS to have sex? both allo and ace included. yes, you heard that right! sex is only something you should do if you're fully on board with the idea and have a consenting partner that wants it also. it's not an obligation, you don't owe sex to anyone, not society, not your partner, not to anyone
why don't we talk more about that having boundaries is important and you should never compromise yourself for anyone. never let anyone pressure you into anything you don't want. isn't this a more important message to send into the world that is still full of sexual coercion and predators lurking about?
why don't we put more effort into protecting the most vulnerable members of our community instead of reassuring people endlessly that yes, you can still do everything that society already expects you to do..
being seeing all kinds of bs lately silencing repulsed aces and it's pissing me off
if one is not supportive of repulsed aces, they're not supportive of aces period
my repulsion is part of my queer identity! I should be allowed to express that same as anyone else
obviously that doesn't mean being openly rude to someone personally
but I should be allowed to speak that sex is distressing and disgusting to me. that I don't want to see it
why can other queer people say whatever the hell they want and I can't? gay people can hate forced heterosexuality, trans people can hate forced wrong gender etc.. and I can't hate sex being forced and shoved in my face 24/7?
Being apothi is so frustrating because aro ace spaces are still screaming how they can date and have sex and it feels so invalidating like you can’t identify with your own label
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