[aroacemoth]

it’s ok to start identifying as asexual later in life! it’s okay to stop identifying as asexual! it’s okay to be unsure of where you fall on the ace spectrum! sexuality can be complicated, be comfortable with yourself! ✨

[grey-asexual-problems]

just kind of a reminder that i myself no longer identify as part of the ace community and that i’m looking for some that is part of the ace community to help me run/ to run this blog. the only reason i’m still continuing to run this blog is to provide gray aces with a safe space and as a resource, but i definitely need an ace to help me run this.

[grey-asexual-problems]

Hello. So, yesterday a moment of realization hit that.. I was ace! I did tons of research, I was excited, it was so accurate. It made my day! I thought it was wonderful to finally have a label that I clicked with. I am Biromantic, so I'm still kinda part of LGBT? I've known for a couple years now. Scrolling through posts in my feed, I can see how rude people are to aces. I'm laying in bed crying right now. It's awful, and I feel guilty for some reason. I don't feel valid. Help! -An Anon

I'm happy that you've discovered your identity!!!! It's an incredibly validating feeling to discover a word for what you've been feeling. Though I don't really like to discuss "ace discourse" on this blog, let me just tell you that no matter whether you consider yourself LGBT or not, you as an ace are still valid and you will always have a community that supports you in the asexual community. Hope I've been of some help!

[grey-asexual-problems]

im really scared about this... i grew up thinking i was straight, but ive recently had a sexual identity crisis. I thought maybe I was bi, but it just didn't feel right, and i just recently discovered what gray-a was. For the first time I feel like that's a label that fits. The scary part is that I have a heterosexual boyfriend, and I love him, but I don't know how to tell him or how he will react. This is the first time ive ever said anything about this, even anonymously... thanks for your help

take your time figuring out your identity! look into different communities, talk to people about their experiences. if you feel like you're grey-ace, embrace it! there's a whole community of aces and grey aces ready to embrace you, and the feeling of finally figuring out who you are is honestly one of the best. there's also no rush to come out to anyone! come out at your own pace, to whoever you choose. my advice is if you wish to come out to your boyfriend then do it when you're both relaxed and in a good mood and just directly and honestly tell him how you identify. he might have some questions, so maybe do some research on asexuality so you feel better prepared to face his response. don't stress it too much, as hard as that may seem. at the end of the day, you are who you are, no matter how other people might want to change that. hope i helped a little bit!

[grey-asexual-problems]

so...i do think of myself of demi-aro/ace. but i've been seeing a lot of backlash that many people do not include demi-aro/ace people who only experience heterosexual attraction. or aro/ace people, period. just wondering what your opinion is on that. i'm reaching out to multiple people about this just because of the growing disapproval i'm seeing from people who consider themselves part of the lgbtq+ community yet do not include these groups of people...

personally, i don’t really mind aces identifying as lgbt regardless of who they’re attracted to, but i do not speak for all lgbt people and some lgbt people may share completely different feelings on the matter. i don’t believe that most “exclusionists” are any more acephobic than anyone else, neither do i believe that most asexuals are inherently harmful to the lgbt community. i encourage you to look into both inclusionist and exclusionist arguments because you will find valid points being argued on both sides. beyond this, i’m afraid cannot offer you more of my opinion, as i haven’t fully developed one yet. keep researching and try to be understanding and empathetic to both inclusionist and exclusionist arguments.

[grey-asexual-problems]

Am I ace if I'm grey-A? So basically what I'm asking is can anyone that falls under the ace spectrum call themselves "ace", or is that exculsive to asexuals?

Yeah! if you're anywhere under the ace spectrum, you can use ace as a label.

[grey-asexual-problems]

hi guys, if any of you all are interested, @modestly-unique sells someone wonderful felt lgbt+ flags, including a wonderful graysexual one! go check them out, they're very nice :)

[grey-asexual-problems]

to those of you that still follow this blog, first of all, thank you for supporting myself and this blog for so long. however, i'm afraid i cannot honestly run this blog anymore. i've recently discovered that i identify more as bisexual than asexual. therefore, i do not feel comfortable running a blog by aces for aces as i am no longer ace. if any of you all would like to have this blog, feel free to send me a DM and we can work something out. in the meantime, this blog will serve as an archive and i will not be posting any new content. thank you again for all your love and support ❤

[grey-asexual-problems]

(WARNING: kinda TMI but yeah) so I've only tried using a tampon once because we were on vacation and I really wanted to go swimming with everyone but it felt SO wrong and I couldn't do it and after trying for twenty minutes I just gave up. later I asked my mom if that's what sex feels like and she said yes and that's how I know I'm never having sex. EVER.

I’m with you there! I hate tampons and the way they feel, and I’m really squeamish about penetration in general. I’m glad that you’re confident in your identity though!

[grey-asexual-problems]

so I spoke to my mom about how I feel and not really feeling sexual attraction and all that and she just completely agreed ("yeah, that is so you!") but I'm still afraid to actually come out and use the word "asexual"

That’s great! I’m glad that she’s supporting you! You don’t ever have to come out as asexual if you don’t want to, but that’s up to you. However, if you do want to come out as ace, just explain to your mom that it’s just a label for the feelings you experience. Good luck with whatever you choose to do! I’m always here if you need more advice.

[grey-asexual-problems]

200 Followers

I can't believe this blog has 200 followers already!! Thanks so much for your love and support, it means so much to me ❤️❤️❤️Here's to another 100!

[grey-asexual-problems]

@ porn blogs that follow this blog: why?????? this is the opposite of a porn blog?

[grey-asexual-problems]

I identify as grey-ace but like when I am very comfortable with a person/friend I sometimes flirt with them, I do not actually mean it sexually I just wanna be closer to them. What if they got the wrong idea?

Hey! Sorry I got to this so late! Basically, I always recommend being very open with the people you are close to, it just makes it easier on everyone. If they get the wrong idea, pull them aside, or maybe send them a text if you’re more comfortable with doing it that way, and calmly explain to them that you don’t mean it sexually, and explain that you just want to be closer to them. It may be difficult, but it’s important that you have open, honest relationships with the people closest to you.

[grey-asexual-problems]

I've only been attracted to about 5 people (4 of them were celebrities) in my whole life -is this grey asexuality? (Aka,I'm attracted to a very small amount of people but it's not connected to emotions because I only know one of them and I don't even like the one I know's personality).

Sure! It is possible for grey asexuals to be sexually attracted to only a handful of people over their lifetime.

[grey-asexual-problems]

I think I identify as grey ace but I'm not sure, I don't feel the need for sex/masturbation except when I see specific things. (Only a few of these things are directly sexual) what do you think I am?

Your libido has nothing to do with your sexuality, many asexuals in fact do have a high libido and may masturbate/ have sex frequently. Being asexual just means that you aren’t sexually attracted to others, and it doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy sex as a physical act. I hope that answered your question!

[grey-asexual-problems]

Can I be demisexual and grey asexual at the same time?

Both demisexuality and grey asexuality are under the ace umbrella, but are not usually used together. Being demisexual means that you can form sexual attraction for someone after a romantic connection is formed, while if you are grey asexual, it just means that you experience sexual attraction rarely or infrequently, with or without a romantic connection. Personally, I would identify as one or the other, but it’s all about choosing a label that you feel comfortable identifying as. I hope I answered your question!

[grey-asexual-problems]

This blog now has a tagging system! As always, feel free to send me a message if you'd like to see something specific tagged, or if I have tagged something incorrectly.