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My boyfriend (of like 8 months) and I got into a fight yesterday and almost broke up. Before we fixed it, I went and flirted with this other guy to get back at him. I feel bad and I can tell he's still a little upset. How can I make it up to him?

Honestly, the only way to make it up to him is let time heal the wound. Of course tell him that you are sorry (if you truly are) and don't do it again. You just have to show him that you only want him and no one else. Good luck & God bless!Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! - guideforgentlemenIf you haven’t already, check out the GuideforGentlemen Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/guideforgentlemen

My ex girlfriend and I just split up about a month ago just before what would be one year together. Everything had been perfect. Never fought. We took some weekend away trips and we even both would bring up traveling long term together. We had discussions of the future together. She was always not the super romantic type, but would always be affectionate. But she became a little distant and eventually broke it off. Stating she was not happy with herself and couldn't be with anyone right now.

I'm sorry that you went through a break up recently, those are hard. It is definitely more than possible that she really did just need to work on herself. Don't take it personally, try to heal and move on. Good luck & God bless!Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! - guideforgentlemenIf you haven’t already, check out the GuideforGentlemen Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/guideforgentlemen

I was having a discussion with my male bff, can you give me some insight? I said "if you wouldn't do it in front of your significant other, you shouldn't do it" in regards to looking at girls. he said "it's completely normal, like watching porn." I feel more comfortable with my BF watching porn than looking at girls in public. am I being completely unreasonable?

No, you're not being unreasonable. I think that you probably feel that way because you feel like a woman in public is more accessible to him than to a girl on the computer screen. I personally don't agree with a significant other watching porn or looking at someone in public. I think they are both disrespectful to your partner. I also think it goes both ways, not just men looking at women (porn or in public) but women looking at men. I hope that helps. Good luck & God bless!Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! - guideforgentlemenIf you haven’t already, check out the GuideforGentlemen Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/guideforgentlemen

I have an inkling my boyfriend of only a few months is cheating on me... Already.. I bring it to his attention and he calls me crazy and laughs it off..... What do I do? Everyone is telling me to say byeee.

Trust your gut but don't just cut him off because you think something is going on, it's possible that you could just be worried and he's not doing anything. I don't think it would be fair of you to just say goodbye because you think he is doing something. Sit down and have a serious talk with him, tell him to cut the laughing and that you're not crazy, that you need to be reassured because you're having some major concerns. If he can't do that then let go. If you really want it to work out, take the time to make sure. If not then it's better for you two to go your separate ways now. Hope that helps! Good luck & God bless!Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! - guideforgentlemenIf you haven’t already, check out the new GuideforGentlemen Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/guideforgentlemen

Hello, I am married now for one year... Been with him for 6. Things have changed so much, and I question if he loves me still. He says it , but doesn't show it.. At all. We have three kids together and I'm scared to leave and be a single mom. I cry daily ... I don't feel loved the way I should be. He's a good man- work hards and comes home every night. I have no trust issues ...I have nothing left to give. We've "talked " and he says he will be more affectionate, but never does what he says....

Marriage is hard, hard work...sometimes we go through what I would call a "dry spell" and they are so hard to get through but we come out stronger for them in the end, if you can make it through them. You need to remember love isn't just a feeling, it's a choice. If he's working hard providing for your family and is telling you that he does love you still, though it may not be easy, try to realize he is loving you, he is consciously making the choice every day to take care of you guys. Some men have a hard time showing their affection, in his mind showing affection could be what he's doing by financially supporting you. Express your wants, try to set up a date night for just the two of you and do what you can to rekindle the flame. I never believed it, but it's true, the first and 2nd year of marriage are the hardest. Keep fighting, don't give up! I really hope this helps!! Good luck & God bless!Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! - guideforgentlemenIf you haven’t already, check out the new GuideforGentlemen Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/guideforgentlemen

Hey, I have started talking to this girl for about 6-7 months now and we have become close friends. We talk every night and I always make an effort to go meet in person. I've started to have feelings for her and want to be more than friends. But she was dating another guy so I kept it friendly. She broke up with him so I gave her time to get over him. I finally built the courage to tell her how I feel, but she told me she just wants to be friends. How do I get out of the friends-zone

Sometimes getting out of the friend zone isn't possible. If she's not interested in you romantically, there isn't much you can do. Be yourself and if something more is supposed to happen between you two then it will. Continue to be her friend, enjoy the relationship that you do have and respect her decision. Be grateful that she told you instead of leading you on. I know being friend zoned sucks though! Hope that helps! Good luck & God bless!Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! - guideforgentlemenIf you haven’t already, check out the new GuideforGentlemen Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/guideforgentlemen

Seemingly out of the blue, my wife started reading regency romance books about six months most of which contain graphic sex scenes. I am opposed to her reading these types of books. She is angry that I have expressed my opposition. She continues to read them. She reads about a book every two days. She won't stop. To me, this is akin to male watching porn. What can I do? What do I do? Why do I feel so hurt?

I can certainly understand why you would be hurt. I would assume the reason that you are hurt by this is because it makes you feel like you aren't good enough for her and she needs to supplement her sexual life. This is just not true, just like porn to men isn't about the woman not being good enough. It is still incredibly hurtful though. I know you said you have expressed that you don't like it but maybe it would help her to know why you don't like it and really let her know that it hurts you and bothers you. If she doesn't stop there isn't much you can do other than maybe try to talk to a counselor and see what they would recommend. I truly hope things work out for you guys. Good luck & God bless!Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! - guideforgentlemenIf you haven’t already, check out the new GuideforGentlemen Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/guideforgentlemen

Someone had left a drink on the desk I was frustrated and ranted for a moment and then one of my friends who happens to be a lady made a joke about it and we all laughed for a while. I was jokingly acting sullen and said you're so mean to me! And she said I'm only mean to you because I love you and we laughed but then one of my male team mates said He couldn't get away with saying that and I said because it wouldn't be true or would it? and he was just silent. And we all just fell silent.

I think you're probably over analyzing it. You all were having a good time and laughing, he was probably trying to joke around and felt embarrassed. If you're interested in him then take a chance and see if he really would like to take you out sometime. Don't over analyze and over think, sometimes a joke is just a joke. :) hope that helps! Good luck & God bless!Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! - guideforgentlemenIf you haven’t already, check out the new GuideforGentlemen Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/guideforgentlemen

I have been dating this guy since Sept. '13. We have a semi long distance relationship but we've found a balance that works. Recently, we have some issues. I went to his graduation. I found him afterwards and he said for me to wait for him in the lobby because he had to go talk to an instructor. After waiting a considerable time I called him and he had left. I also recently found out that he has a profile on Christian Mingle. He has invested time in my family and we've talked about marriage.

Wow, that's a hard one. First of all I would definitely be asking him about the profile on Christian mingle, I would also be checking to see if he has even logged into it recently. If he has, I would ask him why. It definitely wasn't cool of him to just up and leave you at his graduation, was there a reason, such as an emergency that came up, that he left without finding you? I would definitely try talking to him but go with your gut, if you feel like something is off about his answers then take the time to think about what is best for you. I hope everything works out. Good luck & God bless!Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! - guideforgentlemenIf you haven’t already, check out the new GuideforGentlemen Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/guideforgentlemen

I fell in love with this guy but I only see him in the summer and I have no idea what to do with myself in the meantime. He calls me sometimes and we text but I just don't know what to do. I'm fairly certain he likes me too. what do I do?

I would make sure that he is interested in you as well, if he is then you both need to make an effort to talk to one another outside of the summer time. If he's not then do your best to move forward, it's not easy but can be done. Good luck & God bless!Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! - guideforgentlemenIf you haven’t already, check out the new GuideforGentlemen Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/guideforgentlemen

I have been living with a lady for almost 6 years no and I have a 13 year old daughter who lives with me she and my girlfriend can't get along we have recently moved out because my daughter said she was mistreating her. Have I done the right thing? What to do

I definitely think you did the right thing, number 1...she's your girlfriend, not your wife until she becomes your wife, your daughter comes first. 2ndly if she is mistreating her you don't want your daughter around that anyways. You did was is right for your family. If I were you I would make it clear to your girlfriend that your family is number one and if you guys are going to make it work she needs to make it a priority to work on the relationship with your daughter. I would also have a discussion with your daughter and let her know that even if she doesn't like your girlfriend for the time being she is a part of your life. You care about them both but you won't let her dictate who your girlfriend is just because she doesn't like her but if she has a legitimate reason for her concerns you do want to know about them. If she is actually mistreating (such as hurting, whether physically or mentally) your daughter, get out and get out now, don't look back. I really hope this helps! Good luck & God bless!Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! - guideforgentlemenIf you haven’t already, check out the new GuideforGentlemen Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/guideforgentlemen

I always try to be myself around girls, even more so if I like them but nothing ever comes of anything and I just don't know what to do. I may only be 19 but t feels like it may stay this way forever.. any advice you may have would be great

I promise it won't be like that forever, when the right person comes along she will love you for you. My husband was single for 5 years and only went on 1 date during those 5 years. We met and we knew. It's possible to find someone, she just needs to be the right one. Keep being yourself and keep being a gentleman. Hope that helps! Good luck & God bless!Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! - guideforgentlemenIf you haven’t already, check out the new GuideforGentlemen Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/guideforgentlemen

So I met this guy about two weeks ago when I went out of town with my friend, for spring break. I gave him my that afternoon, we started to talk about how our day was and what were doing. I invited him back to where I was staying. Though I didn't know he would have to drive an hour to my hotel after working, he got to the hotel at 5am. He tried to hookup, but I didn't want to. He was a gentleman but stayed til 10am. Am I thinking too much? I want to be friends, is that possible?

Yes, it's definitely possible that you could be friends. He tried to make a move, you declined, he didn't push and was a gentlemen about it. A guy who can accept no for an answer and continue to stay without getting mad is definitely worth keeping around. That's how a gentlemen should be. Just because he made a move doesn't mean you can't be friends, he wanted to know where you stood, now he knows. Hope that helps! Good luck & God bless!Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! - guideforgentlemenIf you haven’t already, check out the new GuideforGentlemen Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/guideforgentlemen

I've been dating this guy for about a year and some months now and we've been, recently, getting into fights and arguments and such and it's turned into a verbally unhealthy relationship. We decided to take a two week break but I had a very important and stressful activity coming up where I really needed his support, but he obviously wasn't there to give it to me so I called him 5 days earlier than should have. He got mad. We love each other and want to make it work but when is it enough?

Enough is enough when you can no longer take the pain, pressure, and heartache of it. Your head tells you it's enough, don't let your heart tell you that you can keep going if you know you can't. I will say that some couples fight for a few months and then get back on track, you guys need to figure out if that's you or if it really is over. I would be cautious of him being angry about you calling early, that is a red flag. I think he should have been missing you and waiting for the day you guys would reunite. I hope that helps. Good luck & God bless!Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! - guideforgentlemenIf you haven’t already, check out the new GuideforGentlemen Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/guideforgentlemen

Hi. I met a guy this week and he shakes a little bit my head because I think we have some kind of connection but he laughts at me everytime we are together with our common friends and he has his self esteem very high so I don't know what to think about it. The true is that he makes me laught and gives me energy to fight against him with jokes and that kind of things. Could you give me your opinion? Should I be her friend, classmate or more than it? Some of my friends have the worst image of him.

I think this is one that you need to decide for yourself, but take the time to get to know him before you decide to jump into a relationship. Sorry I can't be more help! Good luck & God bless!Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! - guideforgentlemenIf you haven’t already, check out the new GuideforGentlemen Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/guideforgentlemen

So i fell in love with this guy last year but then he cheated ( we weren't officially dating but we were together) we started talking again and he's made it clear how sorry he is and wants to get back together .... What should i do ?? I'm so scared of losing him again but i want to be with him so bad

I think that's a hard one, you need to follow your gut. Do you trust that he is really sorry and won't do it again or do you feel like he is just going to hurt you in the same way? It's easy to say you want to change but actually changing isn't always easy. Set some rules and boundaries if you do get back together. I hope this helps. Good luck & God bless!Let me know what happens, I love to hear back from my followers after giving advice! - guideforgentlemenIf you haven’t already, check out the new GuideforGentlemen Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/guideforgentlemen

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 1/2 years. In our first year, he cheated on me. I forgave him, but ever so often, I feel like he might be attaching himself to another woman. Last week I had his phone on me when I dropped him off back at work after lunch. Not 5 mins later, a woman calls his phone and hangs up. I called back, went straight to voicemail like she turned her phone off. I asked him about the number, and he says he's clueless, am I just crazy?

You aren’t crazy, I would be suspicious of this as well. If possible write the number down and call it later, sounds weird but it’s possible it really was just a wrong number. If he says he’s clueless then just watch for other signs of cheating, like growing distant from you and treating you different than normal. I truly hope that’s not the case and that it was just a wrong number. Good luck & God bless!

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