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We all are in-between one thing or another. Figuring out how to balance it out is the challenge.
Don't be the fresh fish. Turn him into fish food. Prepare yourself.
In relationships we all must choose when to get along. Or not.
Of all the encounters I experience when actively participating on an online dating site, it never fails the same questions get asked over and over.
For some reason, online dating seems to give people the courage to be more than curious, they become invasive.
Day SEVEN, Exchange Two.
Again, someone actually read my profile :) go you. And of course, I put in another tester to see what they know other than what that gps tells them.
Ah, right. I am a card playing thrill seeker!! Unfortunately one, just ONE, person out of all of this week even acknowledged that I listed that. Let alone he was the only one who had the balls to even bring it up knowing he had no idea what it was about, he used it to try and generate some conversation. KUDOS to you man. If anybody deserved a response, it was probably you. But by then I was too over it all to indulge any further.
The ho hummers wore me out from that man! Maybe next time....
Day SEVEN, Exchange One.
So, go figure where I’ve been dregging all this nonsense up folks.
It was funny, because I’M FUNNY which is usually a good indicator of one having, in fact, a great sense of humor! Thanks for clearing that up for me.
Why would you not want to hang out with me?? I’m SUPER witty. And thought of that all by my wittle self. Yes, entitles you to my time because you recognize it was a joke.
Day SIX, no exchange.
Sometimes silence speaks volumes.
**crickets**
How about noooooo.
Day SIX, Exchange Two.
This fine example of verbiage is result of my listing on my profile (intentionally) that I am relatively new to the area, thus I still use my gps to get everywhere. At least he read my profile and didn’t react solely to my picture. Oh, which is real AND current by the way, haters.
And I of course remain direct, I’m working, why aren’t you? Leave me.
Note: He did not.
Was it due to my boring and lame response? Most likely. So, I must encourage, if you want some active, engaged presence in your exchanges, you must first yourself be active and an engaged presence. And use exclamation marks, just so they know you mean business.
Day SIX, Exchange One.
Blehhhhh. “Give me ur favorite, food, flower, and music?” uhmmm, why? What you going to do with it? Are you writing this stuff down in your trapper keeper? Those things bore me so much, I don’t even bother to know them for myself. Well, in defense of myself, I am notoriously indecisive. Take me out to eat and it best be buffet or we can have a few drinks while I mull the menu over. My ex used to tell me where we were going for lunch in an effort to have me give the menu a gander online prior to getting there. lol
Ok, hmmm, food. Depends on who’s cooking, but macaroni and cheese I like. Ethnic stuff if going out. Lunch a salad and soup is great. Or a baked potato. So many decisions. And there is a LOT of stuff to answer for this guy, geezus is this a test? Flower, really? Live ones I guess... Music? Frankly, at this point scratching fingernails on that little metal strip on the side of a window sounds pretty awesome in comparison.
As I said, next subject. Sports, surely not.
Hobbys? YES! Finally. I enjoy trolling the internet to see who can ask me the most mundane questions of all time, and then I blog about them on tumblr....
Day FIVE, Exchange Two.
Alas, another non-follow upper. But, yet again the upstanding gal, that I am, I did it for him. And then I was thinking, “Why?” lol. So, I pulled a disappearing act. Cheers, bud. He didn’t come a calling, so well played obviously.
What I don’t undertand though is why do they even start and then not bother to continue? Are they at work? Did they get hit by a bus on the way to work? What is going on here people? lol.
Day FIVE, Exchange One.
This guy.
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*Attention. Attention, all shoppers, please be aware there is a hug monster loose in the store. Last spotted in paper goods balled up with the charmin display.” What’s with the ((hugs))?
Finally, get some kind of hyper activity considering what we’ve been seeing, and of course it’s this randomness. But first, he starts off immediately trying to get my digits, “so we can text off of site.” Uhmmm. Then why are we here? On this site? Better take yo ass to McDonald’s. Nonetheless, I give my explanation, then boom. In for the hug. Now, I won’t give my phone number out, haha, but I’m supposed to give yo ass a hug? LMAO. He wasn’t literal. I hope. But hey, he asked twice, so who knows.
Then asked if I even find him attractive. Somebody is super needy. He is looking for a-TEN-shun. And he will probably get it from someone, persistent and bee boppy as he is, just not from this gal.
Day FOUR, Exchange Three.
Ok, so again highligthting one that isn’t grotesque, but still nothing to get excited over. True story. I kept it simple and straightforward, and obviously bored him haha. Maybe some guys really can’t take the lead. Maybe he was just looking for FWB but to just polite enough not to say. Who knows. I’m not a big initiator of conversation, but I’m an avid replier, especially if I’m into trying to keep it rolling. If I’m not interested, as you guys have seen, I have no problem saying that upfront, mostly so I don’t keep getting messages, as I said I am an avid replier.
Day FOUR, Exchange Two.
Even though this guy was not my type, I give him kudos for the succint, tactful, and courteous interaction I had with him. He hit me with a direct attack and complimented me. I don’t get bent out of shape about misspellings. Some people just can’t spell, but as long as I can make out what they are trying to say, it isn’t a deal breaker.
See as soon as he showed further intentions, I quickly expressed that I wasn’t truly interested. I don’t like to waste anyone’s time, especially mine. So, I don’t dance around the subject. And he took it all in stride. As one should. Note to all you disgruntled haters who can not accept rejection, this is how to bow out gracefully.
Day FOUR, Exchange One.
This day started off with a few new messages. Nothing out of the ordinary. And mostly I was trying to be active, but still get ready for work. I don’t like to just ghost out on folks, without some kind of explanation. For once, I tried to do the reaching out. He did reply. I did too. And then nothing. Stuff just fizzles out. This stuff is really lilke a job. You have to work at it. lol
I’ve had a couple of conversations which have carried on over these days and I will get to those later. But some just fade away with no clue as to why.
Day THREE, No Exchange.
No. Just no.
No we can not.
Absolutely not.
No friends needed here.
Day THREE, Exchange Two.
Following up to my previous post, it seems we are sticking with the wild, wild west theme here. This firecracker came out guns-a-blazin’. Whoa nelly.
Now, in his defense, I intentionally created my profile with little things to provoke some conversation starters. My screen name for one, which he addressed in the first conversation bubble, but I blocked it out so, you know, you can’t find me. So, I did provoke this a little bit, but I am not taking all the blame lol. He did indicate he had at least noted my screen name, which is a good thing to me, but then he went straight to the sexual undertone, which I can do without. We are all grown folks here, well most of us. We all know that sex is eventually going to be involved. It just makes me throw up in my mouth a little when people jump straight to it. You know, like, “uhhhttt.” Why, must we always go there?
If the way your gun curved was important to me, I would make note on my profile, “Only guns that curve to the right here please. Thanks.” Unfortunately that remark would stimulate far more responses, just not many that would be worth granting with a reply.
And, by the way, I didn’t dismiss him immediately, I laughed. Because it was kind of funny, even though it was out of left field, he did make me laugh, which in my book is two extra points. But then he wanted to chit chat with mundane questions like, “What do you do?” ugh. Gag me with a spoon. I wanted to say, “I am the lead fingernail puller at Helga’s House of Pain. Can’t wait to meet you!” But alas, the lady that I am, I cut that stuff off promptly. Buh, bye buddy, take it on to the next, maybe she wants to tell you what it is that she does, her favorite hobbies, and what she likes to do for fun. Me, I want to chat with someone who can think of more things to say than the typical question pad he seems to be reading off of, because I answer those same questions with almost every person that messages me. How about see if you can generate a conversation without asking questions?! Now there’s a task for you.