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Greek artist Danae Stratou, Desert Breath (1997) collaborative, monumental land art installation (Egyptian desert) covering 25 acres
So true
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Spot on.
Lights and darks... put in the corner...
CATFISH ALERT — George “McKay”
This man is a catfish. He lies to women online to seduce them and fuck with their lives. He is a bad human being. He is a narcissistic sociopath with borderline personality disorder.
He usually tells people he lives in NH, or the greater Boston area. He talks a lot about how his wife died of cancer in April 2010 and how he raised his three children all on his own. He used that story to lure me in, because I am a single mom with terminal cancer. His wife is alive and well and he is still married to her. He talks about a woman he met on tumblr and dated from here who cheated on him with his best friend and then stole his identity and ruined his credit. Lies. All lies. Everything he says is a sob story to lure women into feeling sorry for him. He knows nothing about real D/s, kink, or BDSM. Or even basic human decency.
Stay away from this “man” and if you know anyone who is involved with him, please tell them to stay safe and contact me if they would like to talk. He is a dangerous predator. What I am saying is all firsthand knowledge and my own personal experience. When I confronted George with his lies and the fact I had found his wife, he continued to try and lie, but when I refused to back down he threatened suicide, and when I still refused to back down after the abusive threats of suicide, and I rambled off his wife’s cell phone number, he threatened me with violence.
Please reblog freely. We need to protect each other and keep each other safe. I am putting myself at great risk posting this— emotionally, financially, and physically— but I care about other women and want to do what I can to prevent this predator from continuing to use and ruin human lives. He has been doing this here for years.
Normally I wouldn’t reblog a post such as this. I purposely stay away from Tumblr drama and am very careful about accusing or calling out people, even if there is great effort to pull me into conflicts. However, I am compelled to reblog this for the safety of the community at large and to illustrate how devious predators can be, deceiving even the most shrewd and careful among us.
I first heard about George over a year ago when a follower contacted me needing advice on how to heal after a D/s breakup. Over the course of several months, I learned this woman’s story and how George almost completely destroyed her, nearly to the point of suicide, with gaslighting, lying, manipulation, emotional and physical abuse, and misuse of trust. Together we worked toward her healing and eventually things got better. She warned me that he would come after me because I was the kind of woman he targeted…intelligent, sensitive, artist/writers, with gentle perceptive souls. She was not the only victim. During her healing she confirmed that George had abused many others, at the same time as her, and was desperate to make sure that he never did this again. Months passed. Healing took place and George seemed to be silent, his blogs active but not posting.
Around the first part of July, I was messaged by a blog called societal-dysfunction. I had seen some of his ask answers get reblogged and liked what I read. He had been hearting some of my work for awhile. His message was polite and complimentary of my writing. He wanted me to critique some of his work. I asked if we could move to Instagram so I could leave a voicemail, easier than texting for me. His Instagram was seekingmckay. There were nature photos and two face photos on it. He responded to my voicemail with one of his. He had a THICK Boston accent. We texted for about an hour, talking about writing in general, spiritual and medical issues, and just having a nice conversation. He was polite and well-spoken. His words were spelled correctly and intelligent. He came across as gentle, caring, interested, and high quality- definitely not a fuck-boi or a predator. He told me his wife had died ten years ago and he had raised his three children alone. He had had a bad car accident a few years ago and had to recover from severe brain damage- learn to walk and talk again. As a medical person I was very interested in his recovery and gave him ideas for further therapy. His marriage had been a very special D/s relationship and since she had died he hadn’t really connected with anyone other than one or two relationships. He was very gracious and open, told me his name was George and he was looking forward to getting to know me.
The next morning I read through the chat again. Something wasn’t right. This was too good. Too smooth and perfect. I contacted my friend about it and while waiting for her response, I picked out the flags.
1. A few paragraphs into the chat, he let me know that he would keep anything I shared with him confidential. This was odd to hear since we hadn’t been discussing that issue or exchanging pics. I don’t share pics online. I knew he was alluding to an intimacy that hadn’t happened yet. An assumed intimacy, trying to make me feel safe. But why? I’d known him all of ten minutes.
2. He said how nice it was to be friends with me and that we were going to be such good friends, he could tell. Red flag. Friendships happen organically. People who just meet don’t say “I’m so glad we are friends.” That might be said months later, but in ten minutes? You are assuming a relationship that doesn’t exist.
3. He described, in long paragraphs, how he was an empath and a healer with many gifts, so often misunderstood by others. The phrasing, the wording, the way he presented this, sent chills down my back. First, because the words were exact copies from my follower friend who IS an actual gifted healer. I was seeing her words in front of me. It was so unsettling. Secondly, people with that depth of spirituality don’t blurt it out to someone new in order to impress. They reveal it further on, after the relationship is trusting enough. I had a strong sense that he was telling me something he had heard from someone else. This was a pink flag that turned dark red the more I looked at it.
4. His name. Could this be THE George?
5. He wrote responses to my texts using my same wording and phrasing, almost like he had been studying my writing. It wasn’t the texting of a person who had just met me. This is hard to describe but it was very uncomfortable, like he didn’t have his own voice and I was talking to an invisible version of myself. My spidey senses were tingling.
After showing my friend his IG picture we confirmed it was him. I blocked him on all platforms. Just a few days ago, I randomly came across @somevelvetmornin and read her George story. It was eerily similar to my friends. We put together bits and pieces of ours and others stories, some of whom may still be on Tumblr. We put together facts based on IP addresses and real life interactions with George. In addition to the original post, I know the following to be true, beyond a shadow of a doubt:
1.His wife is not dead. She is alive. He lied about being married.
2.He is not a Dom or D/s practitioner. He is someone who has read a lot of stuff and is interested in it but has zero experience. He lies, abuses a subs trust, and puts them in situations where their consent is violated and stretched beyond their limits, then tries to punish them when they ask for aftercare or a meta talk.
3. He uses the car accident story to explain away long absences and memory loss. This is how he covers his tracks when he disappears suddenly in the middle of a scene when a sub is in physical pain at his order. During his disappearances he is usually managing one or two other women online, despite telling each one that he is a “one sub Dom.”
4. He comes across for months as a caring, nurturing man, meeting all requirements of vetting. He earns your trust. Once the dynamic is established he slowly erodes it, then blames the sub for any fallout. He makes them question their sanity and emotional stability.
5. He mirrors people. He figures out what you want to hear, what you need to hear, and mirrors back your own interests and thoughts to create a connection. This makes a woman think she has found a soulmate. He creates comfort and trust very quickly. He purposely avoids asking for nudes or coming across as a fake Dom in the beginning. After trust is established he becomes more demanding and unethical.
6. Here is a list of known blogs/IG accounts he has operated under:
dominant intentions (all varieties of URL)
seekingmckay
societal-dysfunction
georgemckay
7. He has been abusing women on Tumblr and other platforms for probably well over two years.
8. When he is in the process of a “dynamic” breaking down, he starts trying to establish another one. Somevelvetmornin confronted George the first week of July about his marriage and lies to her. Around the same time he messaged me. This pattern is confirmed with previous victims.
I could go into many more details but the post is long enough already. This man is dangerous. He is different than your average fake Dom. He is cunning, smooth, gracious, polite, and O so understanding of your needs and emotions. He burrows into your mind and uses it against you. He is evil. He has driven several women to the point of suicide, some needing inpatient therapy for healing. He needs to be exposed so he never hurts another woman again.
This is a whole different breed of reptile from the pointless but essentially harmless fuckboys who send unsolicited dick pics. This is a dangerous serial predator who has damaged a lot of people. Be aware!
I am re-posting this - not because I am his victim but because I have been victim to this behaviour..,
Arousal fucks with your mind.
It doesn’t matter who you are.
Arousal can make you wish to be used.
Arousal can make you feel incredibly dominant.
Arousal can make you feel incredibly submissive.
Arousal can make you desire things you would normally only dream of.
And that’s why I love arousal so much.
It can make you soft.
It can make you suggestible.
It can make you weak.
It can make you beg.
It can make you whimper.
It can make you dumb.
It can make you crave.
It can make you mine.
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Shibari Art by Garth Knight
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Shibari Art by Garth Knight
Garth Knight is an Australian artist based in Sydney. His multi-disciplinary practice covers various areas including installation, sculpture, and photo media. Many of his works include the use of rope bondage pieces based in the shibari tradition, both as erotic and sculptural forms, creating tableaux of intricate, decorative networks that connect ideas of strength and pleasure with those of surrender and abandonment. Garth uses the rope both in a decorative sense, to draw the image, as well as psychological, to place the subject and himself into a state of altered or transcendental reality which is reflected in the images.
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Dominant, or Domineering?
I was scrolling back through my archives and I came across an ask from another blog where someone was inquiring about signs that a man was not a Dominant, but simply domineering. I think it’s a really important, and very interesting question, and so I thought I’d like to take a stab at answering. There are a lot of posts out there about how to spot a real Dominant, but so long as there are subs out there struggling to tell the difference I think there can’t be too many.
To be domineering is to assert your will over another person in an aggressive or arrogant way. To be a Dominant is to be a caregiver. Someone who thrives on leading by gaining the trust and devotion of someone who wishes to follow. It sounds simple to tell them apart on paper, but reality isn’t always that black and white, and some people talk a really good game, so how can you tell the difference?
A domineering man will only make his rules all about his pleasure. They may read as a list of fetishes. He’s concerned about how often you shave your cunt, but not how often you see the doctor. A Dominant man will make rules for his pleasure, and your betterment. He cares about which panties you wear, but also how much sleep you get each night. He encourages you to have goals and helps you accomplish them through his rules.
A domineering man will not go out of his way to let you know that you are loved and cherished. His praise comes in the form of “you’re so hot when you do that”, and “I love when you gag on me”. A Dominant man will make sure you know he respects you as a person and supports your accomplishments. “I’m so proud of you for interviewing for the promotion at work”, and “I appreciate that you tried, I know that was hard for you”.
A domineering man will not want to explain his decisions, or discuss his reasoning. He may become angry when you question him, and tell you that it’s not your place. A Dominant man is open to meta-talks. He will not allow you to question every tiny decision, but it’s important to him to address your concerns. He’s not afraid to share his thinking because he has your best interest at heart.
A domineering man doesn’t show interest in making decision that don’t affect him. He’ll choose your panties, but doesn’t really care when you ask him what you should do about that friend who is feeling neglected. A Dominant man wants to help calm your mind, and is happy to help you make even mundane decisions. He has no problem choosing where to eat tonight, or telling you if you should accept the invite to that party.
A domineering man will be concentrated on making you the ‘perfect sub’. He may be overly concerned with your ability to deep throat and unreasonably strict with your diet and exercise program. A Dominant man accept and loves the person you are, and wants to help you meet your goals. He helps you with your diet because he wants for you to be healthy, not skinny, or because YOU expressed a desire for change.
A domineering man will limit your contact with others, especially others in the BDSM community. He’s scared you’ll find out that there’s more out there than what he’s offering. He’s jealous, and resents the time you spend with friends and family. A Dominant man know he can not be your everything and encourages you to learn. He recognizes the value of other relationship and only limits them when there are red flags, or past problems. He encourages you to learn and grow in your understanding of D/s relationships.
A domineering man demands. He raises his voice, doesn’t say please, and doesn’t thank you for the things you do. A Dominant man leads by making you want to follow. He knows that trust is earned and isn’t put off by the effort.
A domineering man gives his time only when it is convenient for him to do so. Domineering man isn’t concerned with calming you before a medical procedure or exam. He cancels plans with you when something better to do comes up. A Dominant man makes you a priority. He sets aside his plans to care for you when you are in need. That doesn’t mean he drops everything because you want company, but when you’re genuinely having a hard time you don’t have to question if he’ll be there for you.
Do all domineering men do all of the things I stated? No, it’s not that simple, but they’re good reference points. It’s about intent. A domineering man is out to fulfill his own desires, and a Dominant man gains his pleasure from successfully providing for the needs and desires of both parties. Will Dominant men sometimes say the things domineering men do? Yes! But domineering men will not also behave as Dominant men do, because Dominant men have broader goals. A Dominant man will but his desires above yours, but he will never put his desires above your needs.
Dominant men have patience, a work ethic, and a sense of forward thinking in the management of their own lives that domineering men usually lack. It’s not normally a difference that can be spotted immediately or from the surface, unfortunately. An interested submissive will have to get to know a man’s intent and maybe even some of his history instead of merely observing action/behavior/physical appearance alone. This takes time and effort. This is why vetting is important. For instance…both a domineering man and a dominant man could be super into physical fitness. Maybe even both of them seem a little vain about it. Through (careful, guarded) interaction with them about their focus on diet and exercise (their OWN, not yours…they aren’t your dominant yet…please don’t ask/let a man be your dominant without knowing them on at least a greater than superficial level first), a submissive can get context for why they focus on it. His replies to comments like, ‘So I guess you work out a lot,’ will reveal these things. A domineering man wants to look good to get dates; wants to be strong to intimidate or overpower or impress. He places a heavy value on his appearance and how he presents to other people and will probably place yours at a premium too. He’ll value your surface over your substance because he values his surface over his substance. He likes showing off and outdoing other people at the weight stacks. He likes bragging about how many races he’s run and how many people he bested when he ran them. He likes comparing himself to other people to show he’s superior. He likes showing off his body for the praise of how it looks. He wants accolades for the results, even if his ‘results’ are attained by unhealthy practices like taking anabolic steroids or malnutrition or he’s using photo editing software on his selfies. He’ll be disappointed if his selfies don’t get his requisite positive attention. A dominant man, completing the same rigid personal program, who has the same six-pack abs and bench press number, and maybe even the same penchant for taking a lot of selfies, will more likely talk about how he used to feel weak/was unhappy with how his clothes fit/had a specific health issue/has a family history of a certain health issue, and decided to improve himself/give himself more options/be proactive about his future health prognosis. He might talk about races he’s run, but he’ll say he does this half marathon every year for <charity> because his childhood best friend had <disease> and it raises money for research. He’ll talk about being driven to accomplish goals and see results and he likes the tangibility of how much weight he can lift or beating his last run time/increase his weekly distance. He only compares himself to his former self. He likes the praise he gets for *how much dedication and self-control it took to achieve the look.* The accolades he wants the most are the ones about *his hard work.* And maybe, he won’t even want praise. He might just want a document of his progress for his own reference.
Often the differences are very subtle from the surface, but they are glaring on the inside of a relationship.
Totally this...
Do you have any advice on how to deal with a daddy saying he doesn’t want to be with me anymore? I can’t stop crying.....I feel super alone, he was my first daddy.
Hey, Anon. I’m really sorry you’re hurting.
I know you’re sad now and I think it’s good to let yourself feel how you feel and express those feelings. To that end, you can try writing in a journal, talking to a trusted friend or therapist, or channeling them into a creative/artistic project.
When you’re going through something like this, it’s important to take good care of yourself. I know it’s easy to wallow in jammies and eat junk food all day, but those things make our bodies feel bad… which makes us feel even worse.
Make sure you’re:
Staying hydrated. Drink plenty of water! You can flavor it with little bits of fruit or have decaf/herbal tea if you can’t stomach plain water. Bribe yourself with some fun straws or a cute sippy cup.
Getting plenty of sleep. I know it can be difficult, but sleeping helps you heal and helps regulate your brain chemstry. If you’re having trouble sleeping, try taking a relaxing bath, sniffing something lavender-scented, snuggling with a stuffie, or listening to a bedtime story online. There are tons of videos on YouTube, some bedtime stories on the Pillow Talk Audio subreddit, and also my friend @dinodaddy does a storytime on his Dischord server and posts recordings on his blog.
Reaching out to your loved ones and being purposeful about reconnecting. Sometimes when we’re involved in a relationship, we put friendships on the back burner. But spending quality time with the people you care about can remind you that they care about you… and you might even have fun!
Spending lots of time with your pet, if you’ve got one! Take your dog for a walk or to play at the park, snuggle your pet cat or get a new toy to play with them. Time with our furbabies lifts our moods and is comforting. …and they love it too!
Eating plenty of healthy food. Now is the time to load up on a variety of veggies and lean proteins. Getting the nutrients your body needs will help fuel you. It takes energy to get through something difficult, and having enough B-vitamins or iron should make things easier.
Taking care of your emotions. Feeling sad? Have a cathartic cry with a movie or eat a dark chocolate square or two. (Chocolate actually helps your brain create endorphins, which make you feel happier and are a natural pain reliever.) Feeling angry? Punch a pillow or scream into one.
Moving on when you’re ready. You can start by rounding up the things that remind you of him and putting them in a box—somewhere out of sight, but somewhere you can access it if you need to go through it as you process.
Developing your own self-care routines and structure in place of anything he was involved in. If he always talked to you on the way to work or school, make a fun playlist or find a new podcast you like to listen to instead. If he reminded you when to take your meds, set a phone alarm and label it with an encouraging message.
Focusing on yourself. You can do this by stating a new hobby or reinvesting your time and energy into one you let go by the wayside while you were with him. Praying or meditating if those help you. Getting plenty of physical activity. Soaking up a bit of sunlight for the vitamin D.
And finally, thinking about what the takeaway is from this relationship. Is there something different you’d look for in your next prospective Daddy? Are there red flags you ignored because you just wanted to have a Caregiver? Write all of this stuff down so that when you’re considering a new Daddy in the future, you’ll remember all that you learned from this experience.
Remember that lots of Littles here have (unfortunately) gone through the same thing. Know that you aren’t alone, and that we’re here to support you.
You’ve got this!
An excellent post with top notch advice… Also, a nudge that I need to get back on Story Time… Lol
As a serial apologiser (?) this is what I needed to see today!!
Make sure the rope matches! #rope #selftie #shibari
For Better or worse...not just for marriage
Hold on tight, this is a rant that has been many days in the making. I try to be positive in my answers to reblogged asks as well as the asks that land in my own ask box. This week has proven to be a challenge. Many of the asks that I am seeing come from “doms” ( and yes I am not capitalizing this for a reason) who express no respect at all for their subs. These asks show that these “doms” believe that taking care of their subs when they are ill is beneath them and not their job. These asks show these ‘doms’ unwilling to shop for their subs sanitary products. The feeling that I get from these ‘doms’ is that they are just in the relationship for the fun part. Well I am sorry to inform you but D/s isn’t all “spankings and blow jobs”. First I want to discuss the alarming opinion that aftercare is unnecessary and silly. Aftercare SHOULD NEVER be an option. When we play hard in a scene both the Dom/me and Sub will experience spikes of adrenaline and endorphins. Meaning natural chemicals flood our blood stream causing an amazing natural high. When a sub goes into subspace, he/she may experience blackouts, become incoherent and there also could be bleeding, bruises and more that need attention. When the scene is over it is time to make sure everyone is safe. Depending on the person the aftercare someone requires could be first aid, cuddling, hydration, food, a warm bath, playing games, watch movies, and much more. Your sub should not be left alone. If you are going to play with him/her and do all kinds of unspeakable (yet fun) things to him/her it is your RESPONSIBILITY to take care of him/her afterwards. I am not saying you have to stay with him/her for days but if you have time to play rough you need to have the time she (he) needs to feel safe and normalized again. Aftercare can lessen the blow of subdrop. Aftercare also brings the two of you back together in a loving way. For me as a sub I need to hear the soft voice that was calling me dirty, nasty names softly calling me Babygirl. Reminding me that he loves me and he is so proud of me. I need to be reminded that those hands that were so rough and violent to me can be soft and loving. This helps me come back to being coherent and normalize. And yes Doms need aftercare too. Some experience emotional drops and can feel very guilty about what they just did. Even though everything is done with consent, it can be rough on some when it is over. Take care of each other. Figure out what you NEED in aftercare. When you are vetting a Dom/sub this should be a topic. If the person you are vetting says they don’t do aftercare, you should end that conversation. You are worthy of being cared for.
Today there was an ask about a Dom who was taking care of his sub after surgery. She woke up crying, she had pissed the bed and she threw up all over him. He was upset and didn’t want to see her this way. Well, dude, that is part of your role. You took on the responsibility of her and that means….”in sickness and in health”. Yep, that is also not just for marriage. Yes it is upsetting to see your girl in such a horrible state. Anesthesia messes with a person and can for DAYS affect their mind and body. Add in pain meds, not eating or hydrating properly and you have a recipe for a not so pleasant couple days. But is she supposed to take care of herself? What would happen if you left her ALONE??? The possibilities are not pleasant and possibly could be fatal. She needs the one person she TRUSTS the most and that is YOU. You are her Dom and she trusts you MORE than anyone else. She hands you her life in her submission and trusts that even though you can do serious damage to her, that you won’t. So when she is sick, she needs the same. I am going to let you ‘doms’ in on a little secret. In these moments when she is so sick she is her most vulnerable, she will remember how you treated her. Take care of her, be there when she is making a mess of herself and all over you. She will remember you telling her it’s okay and she is going to be fine. She will remember you cleaning her up. And all of this builds deeper TRUST. And with deeper TRUST comes a love that is so strong. And when the TRUST and LOVE is strong your sub will be incredibly devoted to you. Now comes the topic of the dreadful…. PERIOD. Pads, tampons and blood OH MY! All we read is how GROSS and DISGUSTING the girls period is. How UNMANLY and embarrassing it is to go to the store and buy pads and tampons. Guess what…IT IS A NATURAL occurrence. Yes it is messy and if you don’t want to be all up in it, that is FINE. But we need love and attention during that time. We are bloated, in pain (sometimes a lot of pain) and our hormones are out of control. Please go to the store and pick up what we need. No one is going to think they are for YOU. Be a man and just do it. While you are there pick up our favorite “period” food and some wine (if appropriate, beer or whatever her favorite is.) I know if my man came home with a big greasy cheeseburger, a bottle of wine and chocolate I would LOVE him forever. Don’t make her feel like an outcast. Don’t tell her it is disgusting. When we here “It is disgusting” that means WE are disgusting. So please don’t comment negatively when she says it’s her time of the month. I recommend asking immediately if there is anything she needs at the store or if she wants anything to help her. Rub her back, cuddle her, get her the heating pad. She will be so happy. A happy girl means a happy YOU!
In sickness and health, for better for worse is just not for marriage. It is your responsibility as a Dom/me to take care of your sub. If you think that it is beneath you to take care of your sub when he/she is unwell you really don’t understand your role. If you think that aftercare is silly and you refuse to give your sub aftercare, you are ignorant and in my opinion dangerous. If you are embarrassed to go shopping for pads and tampons, then you are too immature to be playing in the vagina and need to go back to the sandbox with all the little boys.
To all the subs out there. You are worthy of being taken care of. You are worthy of having your Dom/me care of you after a scene and when you are sick. Ladies if your “man” won’t buy you pads/or tampons or makes you feel disgusting because of your period, then you have a boy and not a man.
A good and righteous rant.
Spot fucken on.
What Saturday is for... #bondage #shibari #rope