hardwareblair

pretend adult, tea drinker, fashion lover, world traveler, diagnosed with wonderlust

[chounut]

[cathrinabroderick]

Lulu Cavanagh

[distraction-deactivated20220415]

[rations]

Message me for a promo xx

[sexperspective]

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[birdasaurus]

Amy Harrity

[midnight-charm]

Grace Bol backstage at Sies Marjan Fall / Winter 2017

Photography by Lillie Eiger

[midnight-charm]

Makeup by: Morin Gola-Benzino

https://www.instagram.com/p/BQOIPChAfjI/

[vogue-and-lemonade]

[streetstyleplatform]

Denim Shorts with Patch

[winternow]

[zuluandzephyr]

[driflloon]

ashish fw16

[pikachutwo]

[hardwareblair]

free your mind of what you cannot control

For as long as I can remember I’ve been a self-conscious person. Eternally jealous of those who are self proclaimed confident and proud. It oozes out of them – not in a gloating way but a beautiful, inspiring way. I don’t know if this is a genetic predisposition or due to my environment during my upbringing but from my understanding, it’s probably a mixture of both. Science’s way of saying, “you know, we’re not really sure but it’s a safe bet to say a little bit of both have made you the way you are.” And as so, self-conscious that is, I’m hyperaware of the way people perceive me or make up the way people perceive me in my head. Logically, I know that people are most likely not thinking about me at all and it’s egotistical to think that they are but alas it’s a thing that I do. I’ve realized that no matter how hard you try, you will never be able to control the way that someone perceives you. You will never be able to control anything except the way you perceive yourself. This is one of the most liberating lessons of all. And of course, I’m not cured, it’s not like this realization has changed my life but it has changed my perspective. Don’t let other people, even the people who you love and respect, decide your happiness and your peace. The only person who can do that is you. If someone doesn’t value you or your friendship, his or her judgement is not a reflection of your worth.

The way people treat you is often a reflection of themselves and what they are dealing with – but it’s not fair to give them the benefit of the doubt and allow yourself to be treated badly or devalued. Your worth should come from self-reflection and deciding if you are indeed a good person, a good daughter or son, a good friend, a good citizen. Work on bettering yourself instead of trying to influence other people about who you are. At the end of the day, you are the person who you are stuck with and you have to be okay with that – and not rely on things or people to make you happy.

[sexanax]

[melisica]

[louiesalto]

Love out the window

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