Going through follows and I’m noticing a lot of the personals(and even rpers) that follow me are pretty fucking young(Like thirteen/fourteen young), I have literally nothing against young muns one of my favorite friends I’ve made through rp is pretty young but I do want to make this clear
I am not a good example for anything
I have caused myself a lot of trouble, I mask probably dangerous levels of insecurity with vanity I have been arrested for a violent offense(It’s not like it was bad feel free to ask me about it, but still a fuck up) I post a lot of stuff that you just shouldn’t pay attention to, even my ic stuff is pretty bs for younger muns to read because I have a sick sense of humor.
So to make it clear despite how I act and what I say most the time I want to say this
It is not okay to be disrespectful to others, something I do a lot, but it’s not okay to lay on your back and accept disrespect either
It is not necessary to shame or promote your body or appearance(I know sometimes it seems I’ m really appearance based but that’s again only about myself and because I have a lot of issues)
In fact your appearance doesn’t matter really, just as long as you’re taking care of yourself(Did you eat today, shower, brush your teeth?)
I will sometimes talk about my issues and methods of coping here, and they are not okay. I do not use healthy coping skills, I drink too much sometimes(Even going back to showing up to middle school with hangovers)I take pills, I make myself sick, these are not good things to do. Do not follow my example.
It is absolutely not okay to avoid or ignore your emotions for the benefit of someone else or bend your boundaries to make people feel better(Something I also do a lot)
Sometimes I am pretty open about sexual activity, and I’m gonna be honest I am not a good example of that either. As someone who’s first sexual experience was at fourteen with someone nearing their twenties, that is not okay. As you get older and pass maturity age gaps become less of a problem, but if you’re in your early teens and someone in their early twenties is interested in you, run. Walk away, it is not a compliment you are not at the same level.
It is however okay to ask for help, if you’re feeling low or in trouble even if it’s irrational ask for help. Don’t wait until it’s too late or pretend you can handle it yourself so you don’t worry people. People worry because they care, let them.
It’s okay to feel sad, just cope safely.
It’s okay to explore your sexuality or lack there of but do it safely. Safety is the key, a lot of what you see on this site and others isn’t reality or even close. I still don’t feel safe talking about anything sexual with my parents, and you don’t have to talk to yours if you don’t want to about it, but try to find someone who can inform you. Planned parenthoods and local clinics you can walk in and ask, local youth centers too. If you have decided you are sexual know your boundaries and what’s safe. Don’t want to buy condoms? Free clinics and most youth centers carry them, even if you’re doing something that you can’t necessarily get pregnant for it’s still safer to use them(Yes even oral guys, you’re technically supposed to use them for oral and if it’s male on male) If you’re a girl and like other girls that way it’s okay, but still be safe and use protection. Obviously not traditional condoms but they have things.
I know I’m really kinda rude about the non mutuals thing, and I know I’m a shit example of a pulled together adult(Hell I’m barely an adult) But I will be there to answer questions that maybe you don’t feel comfortable asking your parents or school counselor, cause I know I wasn’t.
In short, I’m not a good person, don’t think of me as one, don’t follow my lead, but I can tell you a lot from experience and give you advice. Listen to my words not my actions, because I give awfully good advice I just seldom take it.(Yeah alice in wonderland reference)
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