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At first I though this was a joke
Don’t ignore this Tumblr
Yet they still do even when it’s right in their face.
This reminds me of how a friend of mine was abused by the mother of his child. She was mentally unstable and used to berate him constantly and would smack him in the head all the time. It really pissed me off. Then one night she threw hot coffee in his face and tried to stab him with a screwdriver. The cops hauled him off to jail because she made up a sob story that painted herself as the victim. Once he left her, he stayed with me and it was a nightmare. She stalked him and me. She would drive by my house obsessively at all hours of the day and night (her muffler made a weird sound so I know it was her). She started showing up at my job, showing up at the places I frequented around town, and filling up my voicemail with dead air. The cops were no help. One day she got bold enough to talk her way into my home by conning my elderly grandmother, whom I was taking care of, while I was out. She went in my room and went through my stuff (creepy), then found him napping on the couch and attacked him. My grandmother witnessed the whole thing. He grabbed her by the arms, forced her out the front door, and locked it. The cops were called again. They said they’d go and ‘talk’ to her.
The next day we were watching a movie and there was a knock at the door. The police had come to arrest him. She filed a complaint against him and shown off some bruises on her arms from the altercation that she swore were completely unprovoked. My grandmother saw the whole thing since she was in the living room too and testified on his behalf. He still ended up serving jail time. No one takes male domestic violence victims seriously. They only see males as perpetrators.
#standing up for male victims takes NOTHING away from female victims #this isn’t an either/or scenario #you can pursue justice for male victims and still be 100% feminist #safer world for EVERYONE
I did a big project on this a few years ago; I'm sure the numbers have changed since, but women are actually significantly more likely to hit than men. We just see women half dead the majority of the time because men hit worse & won't report it/tell anyone if they're being beat up because they'll be called weak/a bitch/a sissy. Women are more than 4 times more likely to hit than men, & of those who have no issue with it, more than 60% say they do it with the confidence or knowledge they won't be hit back (i.e. we teach boys growing up not to ever put their hands on girls).
Men hit WORSE, but women hit more often/frequently. There are always individual circumstances, but genetically, men are stronger than women & that's why it's always "worse" when he hits her. It's much more likely he'll leave a cut, mark, bruise, etc. with one or two hits as opposed to a women, who will leave less physical damage doing the same action. Violence is violence is violence though & it's all wrong.
