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Fic commission info! (because I generally just post a bit of info when asked, so I figured I’d write something to just link to).

Price is £10 per 1,000 words, so for example, a 2k one shot would be £20. Payment is up front, via paypal. To commission, you’ll either need to send me your email address or message me directly on tumblr’s messenger thing so we can talk.

Willing to offer discounts on multi chaps. Oh, and my regulars get discounts too!

Fandoms I’m used to are Arcane, HTTYD, Frozen, Doctor Who and Young Dracula.

However, I have also written for RWBY, The Owl House, Fate/Grand Order and Spider-Verse!

I’m open to writing for other fandoms too, and haven't had any complaints about my characterisation so far for fandoms I am new to.

Content-wise… I write most things? Fluff, angst, smut, BDSM + kink, polyamory. It’s all good!

I’ve included my AO3 link above, so you can check out my work if you haven’t seen it before.

And you can always drop me a Ko-Fi for if you don’t want to commission but want to support me. You’re also welcome to drop a little request with that - no guarantees I’ll do it, but I’ll definitely look at it

#commissions

part of my blood work included hba1c test cus type 2 diabetes runs in the family and I am overweight and rather sedentary and pushing 35 so thats a lot of risk factors, so me and doctor agreed it was worth checking for prediabetes

Not only am I not prediabetic, my a1c is in the EXCELLENT range, yeah boyyyy

(Nothing wrong with t2s, I'm just happy to not have another health problem on the pile)

dailymanners

I feel as though what drives most rude / inconsiderate behavior I experience IRL on a day to day basis comes from a place of having this unearned and unnecessary sense of urgency in situations that aren't actually urgent. I think if more people became aware of this completely unnecessary sense of urgency in situations that actually aren't urgent, it might make co-existing and sharing public spaces with other people a lot easier and more tolerable.

That text post that's been making the rounds that goes something like "Omg you made it to the same red light as everyone else but faster and more dangerously and recklessly, should we call nascar? Do you want a medal?" summarizes exactly what I'm trying to talk about.

It's like when I have to change buses at one of the bigger and busier bus stops, and the people who get off the same bus as me shove and elbow past me to get off before me, and then shove and elbow past anyone even slightly in their way on the way to the bus they're switching to, only to end up on the same bus as all the people they shoved and elbowed, with several minutes to spare before it leaves and plenty of open seats left.

I think this unnecessary urgency a lot of people feel in their day to day lives drives a lot of bad behavior. I'm not saying I'm innocent of this (is anyone's?), I've felt it too in plenty of situations that didn't call for it, and regrettably was less kind than I should have been as a result. But I try to be aware of it, and always try to ask myself it it's really as urgent as my lizard brain is trying to tell me it is, and even if it was urgent, does that still justify unkind behavior?

Is shoving or elbowing another person aside going to make the difference between whether or not you make it to the bus before it pulls away? (hint: at least where I live, most of the time that's a no because the drivers usually won't leave if they see people from another bus heading towards their bus). Is shoving and elbowing people aside in a crowded grocery store going to make any real difference in how quickly you get your shopping done?

Does a few extra seconds of time actually justify cruel and unkind behavior towards people you perceive as slightly inconveniencing you?

dailymanners

A few more examples of this phenomenon:

- Waiting in line at the store and the person behind you creeps closer and closer to try to pressure you forward, and ends up violating your personal space and making you uncomfortable, because they think creeping closer and pressuring the person in line in front of them will somehow get them through the line faster (it won't)

- Going through a self-serve buffet, and the person behind you keeps creeping closer and closer to try to pressure you to serve your food faster and get a move on. All it achieves is that you can't scoop your soup without elbowing them, and that's somehow your fault

- Crossing a crosswalk when the car waiting for you to cross creeps closer and closer to you to try to intimidate you into crossing faster (because using a 2 ton metal machine to try to intimidate a fleshy little ape you could easily kill with said 2 ton metal machine isn't acting like a bully at all no sir-ee)

- Honestly a huge heap of the poor treatment of service workers is also rooted in this sense of urgency in things that are not actually urgent

Please do feel free to add more examples if you can think of more examples

pixierainbows

This in every every *every* conversation Pixie have with people not in family . everybody in too much hurry to give any time or patience to Pixie using AAC device to communicate . Literally almost every person try to push Pixie to communicate faster and all that does is make Pixie silent and voiceless . So much hurrying for no good reason .

prismatic-bell

Adding to Pixie's point:

I run a panel at anime conventions about how to make your panels more accessible to disabled people, and one year I had an attendee with a severe stutter who wanted to make a comment. It was relatively short, but of course, because of his speech impediment it became much longer.

He actually cried a little after the panel and told me he couldn't remember the last time someone held an entire room in silence until he was done and didn't make him feel like he had to try to hurry up.

I told him nothing I had to say was more important than showing I was serious about holding space for disabled people and letting them speak for themselves.

He told me he's been in other "accessible" places where that isn't true.

Even the people who should know enough to slow down and have patience aren't able to do it.

heathenvampires

can confirm it is rare and very appreciated when people give speech impediments or alternative communications time and patience!

I stutter and stammer and struggle with aphasia-like issues, so I will trail off and try to figure out a word/how to explain the word I cannot get, and also get verbal traffic jams where multiple words try to come out at once and I have to start over

And that's when my words don't just abandon me entirely and I can't talk

I always try to lessen the urgency around me. When cashiers apologise for the wait I reassure them it's fine. I let people pass me in a bus queue cus "we're all getting the same bus" and they often seem surprised to think of it that way.

Whenever possible, I say "no rush" cus it really isn't that big a deal in general. I'm slow and clumsy and have poor spatial awareness and bad fine motor skills, I need a little patience and I make sure I put that back out in the world

succubusboyfriend

practicing self care less out of self love and more for the sheer logical reasoning of it’d be kinda stupid of me to expect myself to be able to function without proper maintenance

succubusboyfriend

“oh i don’t deserve rest and relaxation, i haven’t done enough, i haven’t earned it” and my car’s breaks don’t deserve break fluid because they aren’t breaking well enough to earn it. that’s what you sound like!!!!!

heathenvampires

got hospital appt tomorrow for breathing tests (asthma normally only flares up in winter but hasn't calmed down after this year) and the letter says to avoid vigorous exercise

I have chronic fatigue how else do you expect me to get there? Levitation?

heathenvampires

breathing tests went... well, they happened. I wouldn't say they went well. Gotta wait for my next asthma review to see what we are doing next

Also successfully got blood drawn! Taking bets on how long the bruising lasts, my record is almost three weeks

spicycheeser

"A marriage ending isn't a failure at all. I spent eleven years with her. We were so in love that we couldn't image life apart from each other. We got our own place, adopted a dog, and supported each other through school. I thought if tow people loved each other enough the rest would fall into place, except... love isn't everything.

And I didn't want to believe that, but we were sitting in counseling one day, talking about our future and I realized we were describing two completely different lives. Where we'd live, what kind of life we wanted, what made us happy. And it hit me that- I love this woman and this woman loved me. And after eleven years of loss, grief, career changes, we were so deeply in love... but we weren't aligned. And I kept thinking 'We just need to try harder. We can find some compromise to make this work,' because that's what you're supposed to do when you love someone, right?

But the reality was, we had just become different people. Her trade school took her in one direction, my graduate degree in another and trying to force us back into who we were five years ago wasn't coming from a place of love. It was coming from a place of fear. Fear that, if this ended, it meant we wasted eleven years. But sitting there across from her, I realized: That's not how love works.

Those eleven years happened. They were real. The dog, our home, showing up for each other through grad school and trade school. I wouldn't change a single thing because loving someone doesn't mean you're meant to stay with them forever. And letting go doesn't erase what you had. We measure marriage by whether it lasts forever or not, but what if we measured it by whether it mattered?

What if we measured it by the love we gave, the life we built, and the people we became? Because love's job isn't to last forever, it's to help you become fully completely yourself, and sometimes the most loving thing you can do is give each other permission to be yourselves, separately. But the dog doesn't know were' divorced. He just gets two Christmases now."

Pulled this from this guy Preston Rakovsky's Instagram (@prestonrack) because it is a beautiful perspective on love, marriage, and relationships in general.

#Harkers sex ed #Cus I have relationship stuff there

got hospital appt tomorrow for breathing tests (asthma normally only flares up in winter but hasn't calmed down after this year) and the letter says to avoid vigorous exercise

I have chronic fatigue how else do you expect me to get there? Levitation?

eugie35699

drawing vi for the second time in my life and i'm already in love with her puppy eyes. cutie

hope-for-the-planet

These pescatarian birds are directly exposed to PFAS contamination due to the island's position near the St. Lawrence Seaway.

Over fifty years of data show a peak in PFAS (also known as "forever chemicals") content in seabird eggs in the 90s, followed by a decrease as regulations went into effect. The most recent findings show a 70% decrease of most common PFAS.

While continued vigilance a regulation is needed, this data indicates that regulations are working to reduce PFAS concentrations in marine ecosystems.

sattarehi

Yes!!!! I did a review of literature on PFASs in human drinking water about half a year ago, and there is a lot of really good progress! Please celebrate this, please don't let this solution be forgotten (at least so quickly) as the ozone layer or acid rain.

We are making genuine progress! Producers are dramatically altering how much they use PFAS and how much gets released in effluent, but also there's a lot better understanding of how to remove PFAS from the environment!

Environmental problems CAN BE SOLVED.

toudencestyay

"incest" as in "noone understand me the way you do" and "noone can hurt me the way you do" and "I loved you since day one and I will love you till the end of time" and "I hate you in such a personal, visceral way that only you can make me feel. You hurt me so much yet I still long for you and what we used to have" and "you annoy me so much but I don't know how to define myself without you" and "you're my home, my world, my safety net" and "how can something that's supposedly so wrong feel like comfort and safety" and always "you're part of my flesh, anyone who manages to tear us apart will leave us mutilated and bleeding and we will never be whole again".

Incest can fit all of these contradicting emotions between two people in one lifetime. The blood pact is inscripted in their DNA after all.

lantuille

not angry anymore :DDD Happy Pride everyone :33

aicodraws

happy Pride!

dionysiaproductions

doyoulovethewayzeylily

if you're really chill about a lot of stuff, you will eventually become The Person Who Can Be Told Things and unlock a secret extra layer of knowledge about your friends

#And as a bonus your secrets are extra safe with me #Cus chronic illness has completely obliterated my memory!

vi-archive

Vi Character Portrait - Arcane Season 2

horsefriend

putnamspuppeteer

For those who don't know: Ikumi Nakamura is the woman who was senior artist on Bayonetta, and designed the titular character along with Hideki Kamiya. Their greatest moment of bonding was over their insistence that Bayonetta keep her glasses on at all times. Nakamura cannot go to horny jail. She is the warden.