Miss the sound of your voice 20.05.2014 🥀

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[theambitiouswoman]

Magnetic women move with intention, listen more than they speak & radiate confidence. They don’t chase validation or force connections—people are simply drawn to them. Their power isn’t about status or looks; it’s about presence, self respect & the way they carry themselves. They aren’t the loudest nor do they need to constantly flex on Instagram. Their magnetism is subtle yet undeniable—the kind of presence that shifts the energy in a room without them saying a word

How to be more magnetic—

Magnetic women are confident in their skin, they don’t over explain themselves & they don’t shrink to make others comfortable. Their presence speaks for itself

They don’t need to flex, overshare or constantly post about how much attention they get—because they already know their worth. Bragging about attention, as much as looking for it everywhere is actually an insecurity

Instead of trying to be liked by everyone, they choose who gets their time & energy. That kind of self respect makes people naturally want to be around them

They don’t spill every detail of their life or feel the need to prove themselves. They speak with intention, leave a little room for curiosity & let people wonder about them

They don’t rush or try to force things. How they walk, how they smile, how they hold eye contact, their presence feels effortless & in control

They have hobbies, interests & passions that make them interesting. They don’t need outside validation because their inner world is already so full

They don’t entertain energy that drains them or lower their standards just to keep people around. They know their value & that confidence makes others respect them even more

They don’t mistake being “magnetic” for being passive or overly sweet. They’re warm, but they don’t let people walk all over them. It’s a balance that makes them both inviting & intriguing

They don’t waste energy wondering, “Did I say the right thing? Do they like me?” They trust themselves & let what’s meant for them come naturally

They don’t force, chase or overreact. They move through life knowing that what’s meant for them will always find them. And that is exactly why it does

[theambitiouswoman]

Why slow mornings are the secret to a better day 🌞☁️☕️

We romanticize slow mornings—cozy cups of tea, soft sunlight, a little journaling, a skincare routine, stretches, mediating, walks etc. And while all of that is beautiful, no one really talks about why slow mornings are actually necessary for your nervous system

A slow morning isn’t just about having extra time—it’s about creating a foundation for a regulated nervous system and a mind that can function at its best throughout the day

In the morning, your cortisol (stress hormone) is naturally at its peak. This isn’t a bad thing—it’s your body’s way of waking you up. But if you immediately expose yourself to stress (social media, emails, rushing out the door) you amplify that cortisol spike, putting yourself into a fight or flight before the day even begins

When this becomes a pattern, your body learns to operate from a place of constant stress, leading to anxiety, irritability, brain fog and decision fatigue, blood sugar crashes, cravings, bad skin, break outs, fatigue and burnout

On the flip side, when you intentionally slow down in the morning, you send a signal to your nervous system that you are safe. And a body that feels safe is a body that can thrive

Part of being in alignment—mentally, emotionally and even spiritually—comes from choosing habits that help you in the long run. When your mind isn’t cluttered with stress and chaos first thing in the morning, your brain naturally has space to focus on what matters

For example:

If your mind isn’t cluttered by social media first thing, your brain will have room to think about ideas you couldn’t access before

If you don’t rush through breakfast, your digestion improves and you don’t spend the afternoon bloated or exhausted

If you start your day regulated, you’re less likely to get triggered by small inconveniences and other people

A slow morning isn’t about doing nothing—it’s about creating a routine that eases you into the day instead of shocking your system. It’s about being intentional and prioritizing calm over chaos

What a slow morning can look like

Waking up gently—no jarring alarms

Hydrating with lemon water before coffee

Stretching instead of scrolling

Enjoying breakfast mindfully, not in a rush

Journaling, meditating, or just sitting in silence for a bit

So, if you’ve been running on autopilot every morning, take this as your sign to slow it down. Your cortisol (and your sanity) will thank you

[theambitiouswoman]

Why you don’t feel pretty (It’s not about your looks)

Have you ever looked in the mirror and felt like something was just off—like no matter what you do, you still don’t feel beautiful? The truth is, it’s not really about your looks.

So many of us tie our beauty to external validation, seeking approval from others without even realizing it. If your confidence depends on how others see you, you’ll always feel like you’re chasing something unattainable. The people who seem the most beautiful aren’t the ones with perfect features but the ones who move through life with effortless self assurance, embracing their own unique features.

It’s easy to look at certain girls and think, She has it so much easier because she’s beautiful. And in many ways, it’s true—pretty privilege exists. Attractive people often get treated better, receive more opportunities and have an easier time socially.

The women who benefit the most from pretty privilege aren’t just attractive—they own their beauty. They expect good treatment, they carry themselves with confidence, and they present themselves in a way that makes people take notice.

Ever notice how some women who aren’t conventionally “perfect” still get a ton of attention? It’s because beauty is an energy. If you constantly shrink yourself, avoid eye contact, or assume people won’t be drawn to you, the world picks up on that.

And then of course, there’s comparison. Social media makes it impossible not to feel like you’re falling short. Perfectly lit, edited, and curated images trick us into thinking that beauty should be effortless. But even the most stunning women have insecurities. The difference is, they don’t let those insecurities define them.

Sometimes, feeling unattractive isn’t about your reflection at all—it’s about how you experience yourself.

Do you take care of yourself? If you’re running on empty, constantly stressed, or neglecting your needs, it doesn’t matter how flawless your makeup is—you won’t feel beautiful.

Do you feel valued by the people around you? When you feel overlooked, disrespected, or under appreciated, it wears on you, making you feel smaller and less significant—even if nothing about your appearance has changed.

Are you holding onto past hurt? Painful experiences can shape how we see ourselves. If you’ve ever been rejected, ignored, or made to feel "less than," it’s easy to carry that hurt into the present. But your beauty isn’t something that can be taken away. The moment you decide to release those old narratives, you start seeing yourself differently.

Feeling beautiful is a full body experience. It’s not just about looking in the mirror—it’s about how you show up in your own life.

Instead of rushing through your morning routine, turn it into a ritual. Light a candle, play music and actually enjoy the process of getting ready.

Wear clothes that make you feel good—not because they’re trendy, but because they feel like you.

Take slow, confident steps. Speak clearly. Look people in the eye. These small things change how you perceive yourself.

When you start treating yourself with love, your mind follows.

So many people put life on hold, thinking, I’ll start doing things when I feel prettier. But confidence doesn’t come from waiting—it comes from living.

Go out. Travel. Meet people. Try new things. Stop waiting to look a certain way before you let yourself experience life. The more you engage with the world, the more you realize that beauty isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being present.

Treat yourself like someone worth taking care of. Move your body, nourish your skin and invest in your self—not because you have to but because you deserve to.

Stop waiting for permission to be confident. Walk, talk and carry yourself like you already are.

Focus less on how you look and more on how you feel. When you feel good, you look good.

The moment you stop chasing beauty and start owning it, you’ll realize—you already are.

[theambitiouswoman]

How to heal your nervous system after a lifetime of abandonment

If you’ve only ever experienced abandonment—whether emotional or physical—your nervous system has likely been in survival mode for most of your life. This means your body and mind have adapted to expect instability, making safety feel unfamiliar and uncomfortable. Healing isn’t just about “thinking positively” or “moving on” but about rewiring your nervous system to feel safe in connection, in stillness & within yourself

When abandonment becomes a pattern, your body learns to stay hyper vigilant, always scanning for signs that people will leave. It will emotionally shut down to avoid further pain. You will attach yourself quickly to people because you are scared that if you don't, you will lose them. You will feel unsafe in healthy relationships and sabotage them

This isn’t a mindset issue—it’s a nervous system issue. Your body is conditioned to see abandonment as inevitable, which is why true healing must happen on a physiological level

So to take control, you have to teach your body that safety exists (even if you don't believe it). And since you probably don't know why that is, you have to start small

I have spoken about these things before, but I am going to explain what they actually do, so that you see that even though they seem silly and pointless, they are very important. You thinking everything has to be a struggle and difficult is just you thinking from a place of survival

Grounding exercises - Grounding actually engages your sense to bring you back to the present moment and help reduce anxiety. Walking barefoot, holding something warm, or pressing your feet into the floor sends signals to your brain that you are physically here and safe. It activates the prefrontal cortex (the rational part of your brain) and quiets the amygdala (the fear center) helping you feel more in control

Weighted blankets- Trigger the release of serotonin (the "feel-good" neurotransmitter) and reduces cortisol (the stress hormone). Deep pressure mimics the calming effect of a hug, which lowers heart rate and blood pressure. It helps regulate the autonomic nervous system, shifting you from fight or flight mode to a state of rest and relaxation

Breathing exercises - They activate the parasympathetic nervous system (PNS), which counteracts stress and signals safety to the brain. Inhaling for 4 seconds, holding for 4 and exhaling for 6 stimulates the vagus nerve, which lowers cortisol and increases feelings of calm. Longer exhales specifically slow your heart rate, reinforcing a sense of control and relaxation

These small habits may feel insignificant at first, but over time, they help retrain your brain and body to recognize safety—not as something foreign, but as your new normal

Abandonment leaves deep emotional wounds, often from childhood. If no one ever soothed you, you must learn to soothe yourself

Affirmations for safety: Instead of just saying “I am worthy”, try “I am safe in this moment” or “I do not have to earn love”

Inner child work: Imagine speaking to your younger self. What would they need to hear? Start telling yourself those things daily

If you’ve only known unpredictable or inconsistent love, you may chase people or push them away before they can leave. Start practicing security within yourself first by keeping small promises to yourself. Surrounding yourself with emotionally safe people, even if it's just online or even books at first. Something that feels SAFE to you

Your nervous system might be wired to assume people will leave, so you either cling or detach first. Instead, start training yourself to trust in small ways by watching for people who are consistent, emotionally available and respect your boundaries. You are taking back control by paying attention to their actions and deciding if you want them in your life. When something feels safe, let it last as long as it should, don't sabotage it just because you are expecting the worst. You are worthy of good connections

Teach your nervous system that love doesn’t have to be earned. That you don’t have to fight for people who are meant to stay. You are not broken—you are healing

[disgustinggf]

mondays are for adoring me btw. tuesdays, wednesdays, thursdays, fridays, saturdays and sundays as well. you get no days off

[corruptmaster-deactivated202301]

you have gross perverted thoughts about me?? that's so sweet

[kawaiiiipsycho]

*fantasizes about you fantasizing about me*

[theambitiouswoman]

BTW, You’re not using logic to make your decisions, you’re using it to justify them

Most people believe they make decisions based on logic but in reality, decisions are primarily emotional & we use logic after the fact to justify them. It’s the illusion of rational thinking.

We like to think we analyze all options, weigh the pros & cons & make a reasonable smart choice. But studies in behavioral psychology & neuroscience show that emotions drive most decisions—even when we believe we’re being logical.

Why do people impulse buy but later explain it as a “smart purchase”?

Why do we stay in relationships that aren’t working and justify them with “history” or “potential”?

Why do we take risks & then find logical reasons to support them after the fact?

Because our brains decide emotionally first, then seek logical reasoning to make that decision feel justified.

The limbic system, which controls emotions, makes a decision before the rational brain (prefrontal cortex) can even process it.

You feel an emotional pull toward a product & then convince yourself it’s “a good deal” or “a necessity.”

You justify staying with someone based on time invested, even if you’re unhappy.

You pick a job based on how it makes you feel (excited, secure, proud), then use logic to justify why it was “the best move.”

So learn how to use this to your advantage. Instead of pretending logic runs the show, start recognizing your emotional bias & use it wisely by acknowledging emotions first instead of justifying. Once you do, use logic to enhance it.

I can’t express enough that we really need to start being honest with ourselves & accept reality first in order to achieve a desired outcome.

Hate to break it to everyone, but if you find yourself justifying a decision too much, it’s likely emotion based.

Don’t let people tell you they’re being logical in an emotional decision—they’re just operating out of fear, desire, or attachment & using logic to justify it. Not your problem to try to convince them either FYI. We have to accept what people show us and who they are without trying to manage or change the situation. Which ironically, is what the other person is doing because when we try to manage others decisions, it’s also fear etc. What an ugly little cycle.

You’re not a robot (obviously) & that’s a good thing. Emotions are important. But instead of pretending to be purely logical, recognize that emotion guides your decisions—logic just makes them sound smarter.

[theambitiouswoman]

“This is just how I am”

We’ve all said it: This is just how I am. Maybe it’s how you handle stress, conflict or tricky situations. But what if our “personality” is really just a bunch of coping mechanisms we’ve developed to get through tough times? It’s not who we are, but who we needed to be to survive.

Our brains are smart & create survival strategies when life gets chaotic. These strategies like withdrawing, getting defensive, or shutting down weren’t random; they helped us back then at some point. But as life changes so do our needs (cue self sabotaging behaviors & self victimization).

With mindful awareness, we can realize which of these patterns still work for us & which ones we need to move on from.

This isn’t about criticizing yourself, it’s about noticing that you’re ready to grow into a version of yourself that fits now, not the past. That you are not a product of your past. That your pain didn’t turn you into someone you are not. That the people who hurt you, won. Your brain has the ability to adapt and evolve, so you can make room for healthier habits, emotions, behaviors.

Instead of saying, “This is just how I am,” ask: What if I could be different? You’re not stuck with old patterns forever. You can’t blame your future, even your present forever. You can rewrite the story in a way that truly feels like you.

[theambitiouswoman]

NEGATIVE EMOTIONS ARE YOUR BEST TEACHERS

Did you know that negative emotions aren’t here to bring you down—they’re actually here to help you grow and protect what matters most? You, obviously.

Anger is not just about frustration! Anger shows you what to fight for. Whether it’s standing up for yourself, setting boundaries, protecting your values, anger can be a powerful motivator to take action.

Feeling anxious? It’s your body’s way of preparing you for what’s ahead. Anxiety shows you what to prepare for, helping you stay one step ahead during challenging times.

Guilt doesn’t have to be a bad thing. It reveals who to care for and reminds you to check in on relationships that matter. It’s a signal to act with compassion and care for those you love.

The pain of losing something or someone is tough, but grief reveals who to hold dear. It shows you just how much you value the people and moments in your life.

Pain can be uncomfortable, but it’s a guide to what principles are worth protecting. It teaches you to prioritize yourself & make choices that align with your deepest values.

So, next time you feel a wave of negative emotions, remember: they’re here to guide you, teach you & help you grow.

[theambitiouswoman]

It is okay to disappoint people. In fact, it’s often necessary. When you choose to stay true to your values and beliefs you will inevitably let others down at times, but that’s not a reflection of your worth. It’s a sign of self respect. You are not responsible for managing everyone else’s expectations at the cost of your own well being. People who genuinely care about you will understand and those who don’t were only invested in what you could offer them, not in who you truly are. Disappointment is temporary, but betraying yourself to please others creates long term resentment. Honor your path, even if it means not meeting everyone’s expectations.

[theambitiouswoman]

While I’m on the subject, I want you guys to learn this…

Did you know that how you talk to yourself alters your DNA?

The way you speak to yourself, your thoughts, emotions and inner dialogue—impacts your DNA through epigenetics. Negative self talk raises cortisol, triggering genes linked to inflammation, aging and diseases. Conversely, positive self talk activates genes for healing, resilience and longevity. Chronic stress and emotional trauma can alter DNA expression and even be passed down to future generations.

This also applies to what you hear. Negative words, insults and toxic conversations increase cortisol, rewiring neural pathways to make stress a default state. Constant exposure to negativity, whether through people or media, can impact gene expression.

Just how stress harms DNA, gratitude, affirmations and meditation can rewire it positively. These practices lower stress, trigger DNA repair, and activate genes for immunity and anti aging. Consciously shifting self talk can change your biology. "It is not that easy!" Yes, it is.

Research suggests binaural beats and solfeggio frequencies influence brainwaves, promoting focus and emotional balance. Mantras, prayers, affirmations can impact cellular structures, proving sound vibrations affect genes.

How long does this take, you ask?

Immediate (Minutes to Days): A single thought can raise or lower cortisol almost instantly.

Short Term (Weeks to Months): 6–8 weeks of daily gratitude, mindfulness, or affirmations can shift gene expression.

Long Term (Months to Years): Consistent mental reprogramming strengthens immunity, reduces disease risk, and slows aging.

Your thoughts shape your body at a genetic level so choose them wisely.

[theambitiouswoman]

HOW TO REWIRE YOUR MIND

If your thoughts can harm you, they can also heal you. Start noticing the stories you are constantly telling yourself. Write them down. Are they rooted in fear, insecurity, or past experiences?

The moment you catch yourself spiraling into a negative story, stop. Say “cancel” or “not this time.” This breaks the automatic cycle and gives you space to choose a different thought. Instead of “I’m not enough” try “I am constantly growing and learning.” Instead of “People always leave,” tell yourself, “I attract meaningful and supportive connections.” Words are powerful ,no matter how hard it may be for you to believe, use them wisely.

Start doing things that help regulate your nervous system. Breath work, meditation, movement, journaling, nature etc. will help shift your body from survival mode to a state of peace and balance.

Close your eyes and imagine the version of you who is thriving. How do they feel? What does their life look like? The more vividly you can see and feel it, the more your body will align with that reality.

You guys are looking for some sort of solution or magical fix but the truth is transformation isn’t about a single breakthrough moment—it’s about daily choices. The stories you tell yourself won’t change overnight, but every time you interrupt a negative thought and choose a new perspective, you’re rewiring your mind. The real magic is in consistency, not quick fixes.

[theambitiouswoman]

The mind is very powerful. It doesn’t know the difference between reality & imagination and neither does your body. Every time you replay painful memories or create negative narratives in your head, your body reacts as if it’s happening in real time. It releases stress hormones, flooding your system with toxic chemicals. And when these chemicals aren’t in balance, the effects show up as anxiety, depression, fatigue and even physical illness.

The stories we tell ourselves shape our emotions, our reactions, our lives. If you constantly reinforce thoughts like “I’m not good enough” “People always leave me” or “Nothing ever works out for me” your mind will accept these as facts. Worse your body will respond accordingly, triggering stress responses that keep you in a cycle of emotional and physical distress.

This isn’t just a mindset issue, it’s a biological one. Your nervous system, conditioned by these repeated thoughts, will remain in a state of fight or flight. Eventually this leads to chronic stress, inflammation, hormonal imbalances & a weak immune system.

What you believe, you will see. If you continue feeding yourself disempowering stories, your life will reflect them. But if you choose to rewrite the narrative, your body, emotions and experiences will shift. You have the power to create a new reality. Stop poisoning your body with the past and start feeding it with the vision of the future you actually want and deserve.

[theambitiouswoman]

Comfort is just familiarly, not happiness.

Human nature craves comfort—what feels familiar, predictable, easy. But comfort doesn’t mean happiness or alignment, it’s just what we know. Psychology calls this the mere exposure effect—the more we're exposed to something, the safer it feels, even if it's unhealthy.

People stay in toxic relationships, unfulfilling jobs, and old habits not because they’re good, but because they’re familiar. The fear of change often feels worse than daily dissatisfaction. But familiarity doesn’t mean safety—it can actually limit your growth.

Ever miss someone who hurt you? Resist opportunities that could elevate your life? That’s your brain mistaking comfort for security. Growth feels uncomfortable at first because it’s unfamiliar. Instead of asking, Does this feel comfortable? ask, Does this feel right for me?

People who choose what’s right—even when it’s uncomfortable—are the ones who evolve. So next time you feel at ease, ask yourself: Is this comfort, or just familiarity? The answer might change everything.

[theambitiouswoman]

Did you know emotions only last about 90 seconds?

Neuroscience says that when a feeling pops up, your body’s response is actually super brief. After that, it’s not the emotion itself that sticks around, but the story we tell ourselves about it. That’s why sometimes emotions can feel like they last forever — we keep replaying things in our minds, fueling the feeling. The trick isn’t to push emotions away, but to notice when we’re the ones keeping them alive with our thoughts. Ignoring our feelings doesn’t make them go away — it actually gives them more power. When we push them aside, we’re still focusing on them, just in a different way. The key is to acknowledge how we feel, without judgment & let it pass naturally. Emotions are like waves — they come and go & we don’t have to hold on to them.

[uln]

Energy doesn't lie. if it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. trust your gut.