"ULTIMATE BETRAYAL"
Being cheated on is an “ULTIMATE BETRAYAL”,but when it happen to you twice in a row,you will be forced to take a long, hard look at yourself..what you was choosing,what you was putting up with & what you’ve learned.
If you’ve ever been there,yes,it sucks ass.However,if you’re out or even still in the relationship,sitting down & reflecting on what you learned can be helpful to you just so you can move on. Here are some of the facts you should think about :
BEING CHEATED ON WASN’T ABOUT YOU. It wasn’t your fault that the guy went & screwed around. It’s about them, their issues & reasons. Your first words are always, “How could you do this to me?”…. but its really not about us. When it 1st happens,if someone tells you this,you’ll want to punch them in the face,but trust me: it gets better,later on you’ll get it.
BEING CHEATED ON DIDN’T MEAN YOU WASN’T PRETTY ENOUGH, SKINNY ENOUGH, OR GOOD ENOUGH IN BED. Spending countless nights awake obsessing about what you could have done differently wont help.”what if I’d had bigger boobs? Does she satisfy him better than I did? Is she prettier, funnier, etc…and so on and on until your head would explode.There is no definite answer here.You’ll just get crazy trying to find out whats wrong with you, you will just feel the “self-pity” trying to think why he could have done this to you,when you know to yourself that you gave him everything you could.
BEING CHEATED ON IS SOMETHING ALL WOMEN NEEDED TO GRIEVE & GET OVER ITSELF. Being cheated on was a fucking traumatic scenario in every woman’s life or even mens. Drama. The suspicions,the lies,the fights,the moment of finding out.It is an EVENT. You really had to come to terms with it & grieve it separately than the break up of the relationship. In some small way, it still stings sometimes to think about it.Whatever.It doesn’t mean anything.Just because it still hurts doesn’t mean you wont get over it. It hurts & it sucks.
BEING CHEATED ON MAKES YOU REALIZE WHAT IT WAS LIKE TO BE IN A NORMAL, FUNCTIONAL, HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP. This one is shocking.When you get cheated on almost every relationship you had, you dont feel like trusting anybody anymore.Sometimes the next normal relationship you will have tends to suffer because your pasts were so full of drama & intensity.. full of hurt from lying,full of sufferings, you shed so much tears.but then,when you’re in a normal relationship already,you don’t know how to act anymore.You had to learn healthy communication.as well as the fact that healthy relationships are sometimes quiet & uneventful.Who knew?
BEING CHEATED ON MADE US WOMEN TRUST OUR INTUITION. And this is the “BIG SHIT” of lessons. Some women ignore the BIG TIME intuition they feel in their relationship.There are times that your intuition was flashing red lights & sirens at you & you’ll just walk right by.Sometimes women are so ashamed of their situation & they just hide their feelings to themselves so no one will know how bad it is.But intuitions NEVER LEAVE,it will try & try to help you & will not give up until you know the truth.We deserve the truth…Some women could not take one more day of the shitty lying so they left,some women forgives but it will be hard to forget.
Its possible to move on, move forward, learn a ton & be much better, bad ass person & partner on your relationship or the next relationship that you will have.
