Hi! I'm Alaina :)

They/Them enby trans girl :3 in my 20's St Louis MO

[shamebats]

[0x1f41d]

@queer-joy-detector @this-is-trans-joy

[this-is-trans-joy]

This is trans joy!!!

[hi-im-alaina]

Supportive grandparents 🥰😭😊

[shadedwillow]

ok google how do i propose deeper friendship and intimacy to my mutuals without feeling like a pervert predator

[shadedwillow]

hey. can we DM? do you want a voice message? do you want to see a picture of my face? do you wanna call? do you wanna get off on call with me? do you wanna consider us friends? do you wanna share secrets? do you wanna hint vaguely at where we both live to gauge how far we are from each other? do you wanna meet? do you wanna hang out? do you wanna fuck? do you wanna hold hands and kiss? does this make me creepy? is this too far? do you wanna kill me. i'm really sorry

[miiilowo]

whys combat and military gear always got to look so fucking cool when the people wearing them just objectively arent. thats unfair

[miiilowo]

this goes for like, all of time. knights are serving the KING? the fucking KING?

[miiilowo]

you cant serve cunt and the government at the same time come on now pick the right side i know you have it in you

[vivian-the-barbarian]

Jesus said this. Matthew 6:24

[miiilowo]

jesus said this

[demonnstein]

[rq1nzorr]

a lot of 'transfeminism' relies on "stop making fun of her, she's literally just a girl!" so here's a shoutout to women who can't defend themselves with that instead. shoutout to women who don't get that choice. shoutout to women who aren't perceived as feminine.

i love you Black trans women. i love you Brown trans women. i love you Indigenous trans women.

trans women above 5'7 or above 5'9 or above 6'0ft. trans women with broad shoulders and big arms and big frames and short legs.

trans women with deep voices. trans women who can't or won't voice train.

trans women who won't or can't take estrogen. trans women who do take estrogen and experience its effects [subjectively] slowly or insufficiently.

trans women who are not comfortable in traditionally feminine clothes. trans women who won't or can't use make-up.

trans women who are not comfortable with or can't have natural, pretty, long hair.

trans women who don't shave or don't have the capacity to shave.

trans women who can't have a 'feminine' strut/style of movement because of mobility issues.

trans women who don't show their emotions on their faces or trans women who experience the "serious" emotions over the "sensitive" ones.

trans women who like dominating sexually and trans women who want to feel like women when they do it. trans women who like being dominant bottoms.

trans women who like men. trans women who don't like women.

trans women who aren't 'girl-mess' or 'deer in headlights' or 'a little dumb' or any of the other stupid little things you're forced to learn to do to be 'coded' as who you are.

you deserve compassion and connection and community even when you "look like a man". you deserve compassion and connection and community even when white, abled, gender-conforming people can't feel bad for you. you deserve compassion and connection and community even when you're not the 'tasteful' type of trans.

[hi-im-alaina]

I don't support you because you pass, I support you because you're you!

It was really important for me to internalize this too, cause it's really hard to start transitioning when you don't believe you're valid unless you already look like your final goal.

[jamjarblues]

i truly think that this recent trend of “if you relate to a post about a different identity than your own you are ~derailing~ and taking over the conversation” is incredibly harmful.

i recently experienced some pretty severe transphobic abuse in my workplace (children’s home) that included having food thrown at me, being called slurs, being told i was a pervert because i am trans. one of the managers talked with me afterwards and shared that he had had a similar experience as an Asian man. this wasn’t him derailing my experience, or talking over me, or making things about himself. he was communicating “hey, i know how it feels and how much it sucks. you’re not alone.”

THAT is what solidarity IS. i don’t know what it’s like to be Asian, he doesnt know what it’s like to be trans, but we both had a similar experience and we were able to turn a horrible experience into an opportunity for bonding and comfort.

stop looking at people’s attempts as solidarity as an attack. and hey, you never know - you could find an opportunity to grow closer to other people.

[hi-im-alaina]

This is so funny to me because it's good and true and wholesome trans advice and then gotcha! Stupid joke time! And it makes me giggle every time I see it :)

[ashes2caches]

squeezing and caressing and clawing at every centimeter of that trans girl’s body is very fun. listen to all the cute noises she makes.

[bananaanna1]

Happy pride sleepy dykes

[charl0ttan]

ive started waving with two hands bc of you its really enhancing my cuteness and deerswag

HEHE

[hi-im-alaina]

You gotta be careful tho! I started waving with two hands last year cause I thought it was cutes and now I'm a girl 😳 it might happen to you too!

[aropride]

youre monogamous? oh… it’s ethical, right? ethical monogamy? okay good for you! i mean pretty much every monogamous couple i’ve met didn’t work out but maybe you guys will beat the odds! haha. so is it a sex thing? you guys have sex with- just each other? huh. how does that work? i could never do monogamy, i’m too jealous, i’d worry my partner would leave me for someone else instead of dating us both… how do you deal with the jealousy? is it hard? like, how hard? extremely? do you think you’ll break up? i mean in the long run these things rarely work out,

[drowsy-corpsegirl]

Love the asexual tranny too, btw

[clowngirlcreampie]

not every social interaction has to be rooted in sexuality and the second a lot of girls start denying their body to others they lose a lot of opportunities for connection and I think a lot of us pretend it just doesn't happen like that

[imjunebitch]

everyone needs to start hyping up intersex people right the fuck now 🗣

[hi-im-alaina]

Fuck yea, all my homies love intersex people 😊

[this-is-trans-joy]

I've goten to the point where I am very clockable and it's lovely. People can me sir and then switch to ma'am when i open my mouth, or call me ma'am and then switch to sir when i turn around and look at them.

Half the five and six year olds i work with call me he. Half call me she. I've heard statements like "She's not a girl" and "He's a them" and even "No that's his fan. Uhh ... them's fan." (That one made me laugh). They think I am the perfect impartial judge for a game of boys vs girls tag.

People ask me in slight confusion what pronouns I use. I can walk around town with a skirt (homemade) and a mustache (also homemade - mascara is magical) and everyone who looks at me can tell I'm a fucking tranny. It's wonderful. I love this.

This is trans joy!!!

[hi-im-alaina]

There is a certain joy to being obviously trans. I can go out and everyone will know that I engage in gender fuckery 😈

It is also sometimes exhausting 😭

[terraswallows]

Casual dominance is so fucking gay, especially when it's wrapped up in that soft, affectionate, “you're my girl and I'm going to take care of you” energy.

I want you to casually pull me onto your lap like that's simply where I belong. One moment I'm standing beside you, the next you've got me settled against you, your arms around me while I'm sitting there blushing like an idiot.

I want you to gently take my chin and make me look at you when I'm being shy. That little “eyes on me, pretty girl” would absolutely destroy me.

I want that hand on my back when we're walking together, guiding me through a crowd and keeping me close. Maybe occasionally giving me a little nudge forward with a quiet “come on, sweetheart.” It's such a tiny thing, but I'd melt.

And pet names. Call me your girl. Call me pretty girl. Call me beautiful. Call me your sweetheart or your little darling. Give me those affectionate little titles that make my trans heart go completely fuzzy because I know exactly how much I adore hearing them from you.

And please, head pats. Give me those little pats on the head when I've done something good. Run your fingers through my hair and tell me I'm being a good girl. Watch me immediately become the happiest, most flustered little creature imaginable.

I want the affection to be possessive in that soft, romantic way too. Holding my hand while we're walking, pulling me against your side, casually kissing my forehead or cheek, and occasionally giving me a little kiss in public just because you can.

It's that beautiful combination of dominance and tenderness that gets me. You aren't just taking charge, you’re making me feel adored. Like I'm your pretty girl, your sweetheart, your lover, and your little pet all at once.

Basically, I want the kind of woman who can look at her blushing trans girlfriend, give her a gentle head pat, hold out her hand and simply say, “Come here, pretty girl.”

And unfortunately for me, I will be coming over immediately.

[hi-im-alaina]

*Melts into a puddle*

[charl0ttan]

we built this tity on es-tra-dyollllll..

[egberts]

it's so easy to do things! it's so easy to get up and do things and get things done! i am capable and motivated and executive dysfunction can't touch me. *starting to cry a little because my affirmations aren't working* it's so easy to do things, come on get up, it's easy, let's do things *mental image of a cartoon trying to move a heavy lazy animal* come onnnnn

[hi-im-alaina]

You can tell how productive I am being right now by the fact that I'm scrolling tumblr instead of doing anything productive

[theconcealedweapon]

Some women are conditioned to be fragile and weak, and to believe that it's a sin to outperform a man. Her feminism would involve allowing women to be strong.

Some women are expected to be strong at times when they can't. Her feminism would involve reassuring her that it's okay to not be strong.

Some neurodivergent people are raised to believe that they're too stupid to ever amount to anything. Their disability activism would involve reassuring them that they're capable.

Some neurodivergent people are raised to believe that they're smart and gifted, and are expected to live up to impossible standards. Their disability activism would involve allowing them to fail, make mistakes, be stupid, etc.

Some children are constantly reminded "you're the child, I'm the adult" in order to deny their autonomy. Their youth rights activism would involve treating them like an adult at times when they feel ready for it.

Some children are treated like adults in order to justify increased expectations or to downplay abuse against them. Their youth rights activism would involve allowing them to be a child.

There is no one-size-fits-all solution to oppression. Each individual person's experience is different. Whatever trauma is caused by their oppression, the activism should focus on undoing it.