Every time you post about how much you hate men and that they all should die violently, an egg's shell gets a bit thicker and that closet gets deeper
NOTE: Wow, I wrote this piece anonymously and privately and did not intend for anyone else to actually read it. It was a way for me to vent…
Does NO ONE remember this article and it talking about exactly how harmful this stuff is for everyone?????
This is a long but very well worth read for literally any identity please do read this through in it's entirety. Here is a snippet:
"I hate that the only effective response I can give to “boys are shit” is “well I’m not a boy.” I feel like I am selling out the boy in baseball pajamas that sat with me on the bed while I tried to figure out which one I was supposed to be, and the boys who I have met and loved from inside my boy suit—who believed they were talking to a boy. I feel like I am burning the history of the naked body that sits on the floor of my shower. The body that went to prom in a boxy tuxedo and coveted the dresses.
Because I am not a boy, but I had a boyhood. I was, and am, made to live as a boy and I cannot suspend the perspective that gave me and join in when it’s time to fluster one of those clueless fuckers into anger by calling him a fuckboi and then tell him his anger proves he’s a fuckboi, or to humiliate one with an OKCupid screenshot because we’ve willfully conflated the clumsy ones with the threatening ones so we can grab those solidarity faves. It’s fucked up. It has metastasized.
More than a few out transwomen have told me, privately, they they are uncomfortable with these things, but are afraid that speaking up about it would cause ciswomen to like and trust them less. “I play along,” one of them told me, “because in the queer community the only people who defend cisboys are cisboys. I don’t want to give up finally being read as a girl.”
Another says “I do the misandry stuff because it’s an easy way to earn queer cred points, but when I think about it it makes me uncomfortable.”
Another: “It’s a coping habit I’m not proud of. If I agree ‘girls rule boys drool’ it makes me feel more like a girl."
"My story is not what makes true what I am saying"
@vinterfeminism i believe this is relevant to your blog?
Ohmygosh a mention yes hi. There is a lot wrong with trying to force transfems to come out by forcing their eggs open instead of letting them crack on their own, and by spreading antimasculine rhetoric that harms not only men and other masculine people, but as a butch trans woman it is very harmful. For a long time I felt like I had to conform to femininity and keep my hair long and wear dresses and skirts and use makeup and like all the things that other binary perisex femme trans women had to like and it wasn't me. By perpetuating this rhetoric not only are you disuading people who may want to come out as trans women but are too put off by antimasculine rhetoric in queer spaces, but you're also harming women (cis, trans, intersex, and whatever else have you) who don't conform to femininity and still like to embrace some masculinity like me. I may be voice training and on E, but I have short hair by choice and dress masc or neutral most days. I would rather wear a sleek suit than a frilly dress any day, but I don't diss the gals who like that, I just wish I wouldn't be subject to their ire either by just being myself. We need to make a world where the gender of anyone is cherished and appreciated. People should be just for their character, not their identity.
