A few questions .Why do you think its appropriate to make people feel guilty about their ships? is it even necessary to make a whole blog dedicated to it? honestly I don't ship hidashi but I have friends who do and your blog hurt them. And I'm not hating on you but you should at least respect the people who ship it . You don't know them. You don't what they been through. At least your notp's. this is quite childish that people to send hate to people who ship one little ship.
Iāve got a few questions for you. Why do your friends like a pedo incest ship? Why are you defending them? Why would I care about the feelings of incest shippers? Why should I respect people who romanticize incest, pedophilia, and rape? Why are you wasting your time here? Do you really think weāre going to stop just because someone sent a message to us crying about hurt feelings?
Iām an abuse victim. I have lots of friends who are abuse survivors, and rape survivors, and csa survivors, and Hidashi and ships like it hurt me and them so much. It romanticizes the horrible things we went through. It normalizes those things by depicting such relationships as romantic and desirable.
And thatās the thing. Itās notĀ āone little ship.ā The romanticization of horrible things like pedophilia, incest, and rape is literally rampant among most fandoms now, and people who are new to fandoms and the internet in general donāt necessarily expect this. Seeing these things normalized in fandom desensitizes them for people in real life. I myself, when I was new to fandom, had some bad ships until people started pointing out how fucked up they were.
Hidashi is beyond a NOTP. We state it right in the description: itās rape, itās pedophilia, and itās incest (and for all that, Asian fetishization tends to go right along with it). Itās one of the worst ships Iāve ever come across with one of the most toxic and uncaring fandoms Iāve ever had the misfortune of interacting with. And Iām soĀ goddamn tired of having to justify why I and my friends oppose it. It should be absolutely self-evident, but because these things are pretty much the norm in fandom now, itās not.
That said, we donāt send hate to anyone--we all agree that searching out shippers and bothering them in their inboxes is wrong, especially since we are aware that some shippers are coping shippers (who, btw, should be coping in private,Ā so as to not hurt other survivors, but I digress). We just have this blog, and we stay in the anti tags.
TL;DR: I think itās entirely appropriate to make people feel guilty about romanticizing abuse. Itās necessary to make a blog dedicated to it because it acts as a safe space and it inspires others to stand against these ships. I donāt care if itās hurting someoneās feelings. Iām not going to respect people who romanticize abuse. I know what I and others have been through. I donāt send hate to people. And I truly hope this helps you understand why your friends are wrong to ship Hidashi and why your thinking needs to change.
