Perceptionist

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True intimacy is when it intensifies even more in absence. The soul is independent of the presence of another soul; It doesn't rely on constant togetherness to feel complete; rather it intensifies more when the same person comforts you in your dreams. There is this feeling of finding comfort in your thoughts; there is this strange energy that connects these two souls who are apart. It's this energy that somehow keeps you connected in an unexpected way. Intimacy is when memories comfort you more than the actual presence of that person. And when things like these make you feel comfortable, believe me, you truly understand what's real intimacy.

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The literal meaning of the word "relationship" is the way in which two people are connected. But if we define it differently - then it's more like a ship, if it sinks, it will sink as a whole, and if it floats it will float as a whole. One part of ship won't tell the other part, "you sink and I won't". No! Whatever happens, happens mutually. Thats what true intimacy means. If you are in a relationship, then your opponent has to be with you, whether you are on the ground or touching the sky, whether you are in your highs or lows. You cannot love your opponent on a conditional basis. If it's true Intimacy, then it's strong else it's a toxic shit that needs to be let go of.

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It takes a ton of efforts to convince someone and fall for that person. But, it takes fraction of a second to break the same bond that was built over years. Before you decide to break it, give it one more thought because not every body carries the same soul that you were bestowed with. Stay a little longer :)

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If I am supposed to furnish a connection with someone, I am the one who will put everything aside for building it from scratch. Yes, I can put aside my assignments, lectures and every important work, to make this connection more intimate. I will stop focusing on random things, I'll be so close that I will try to find every answer from this conversation, to my otherwise unanswered questions. I will not use any filter, whatever I am, who I am, I will put everything on the table. I will be so genuine that you can read me like a book, from start to end. This is the core criteria that I will use for furnishing a bond!!

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Someone asked how do you define intimacy?

I said, it's when the same person still chooses you when you are in your darkest phase of your life, not when you are living your happiest phase. Anyone can be with you in your good moments, but someone staying with you when everything is going wrong is the real intimacy. If you got that person stick a bit longer.

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Having a conversation at 3 am isn't called Intimacy, rather it's about being acquainted with each other. It's about being comfortable with the weaknesses and strengths of other person. Anyone can be comfortable with your perfections, but someone who's comfortable even after knowing your flaws is the real intimacy. Anyone can stay around when you have everything, a particular position, health etc. But someone who stands with you when you have nothing, when you loose a particular position that's called true Intimacy. Don't tell me sophisticated lies, I don't believe in them, I believe in reality.

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A relationship is not a situationship. Forcing some things out of a bond is never going to give you upper hand in it, rather, it's going to only make it a bad trajectory. If you crave control, then you are not living in that relationship rather you are forcing yourself to stay with it. Living for it, existing for it and merely staying around are different things and are never going to be in your favour. Relationships are not meant to give you chaos rather they are meant to liberate you from it.

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It's far easier to have a coffee with people, to eat on a common plate, to have a laugher together, to click that selfie together, to have the conversation that lasts longer, but it's way too heavy to be together with people while you present your true self. People are not always going to accept who you are, the problem isn't with what you like; they will adjust to it, but the problem is who you are, what your perspective is. Every time, they are going to question your perception, curiosity, and the way you see life! Choose wisely who you are going to share your perspective with, not your plate!

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There's always a difference between excitement and care. Don't be doomed by someone's excitement for you; excitement is not forever, it's at one time, another time it's not. But if they care about you, it's constant. If they are curious about only when you are right, but not when you are wrong, then know that it's not real alignment, but deception. If they want you to be there always, it's not love, it's dominance, someone not understanding your boundaries, how will they understand you, and would you still call it intimacy? No!

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People who are very fragile while choosing an emotionally demanding relationship are never fooled by your words and hollow promises, nor your looks make them curious. What they notice is your art of speaking and how you handle yourself in situations of anger. They notice your misalignment, bad vibes, cunning shifts and the loss of vibe shit. They respond to your silent whispers, not what you spit out loud.

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People will never take you out of darkness; you are the one who's supposed to. Don't balme others of hurting, it's you who is emotionally so dependent on others that you expect so much in one go, and then blame others when your expectations aren't fulfilled. Stop assuming your emotional weakness is going to attract others; it's not. Instead it's going to leave you vulnerable.

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Soul is a heavenly entity, you can't blame soul for what you do that's wrong. You never purify your soul with a physical thing; it's only purified through solitude and seclusion. Cravings, arrogance, completeness, desires, and false motives are of your body, and they belong to this earth; even if you achieve these things, you still don't feel satisfied. Your soul is so pure that it always reminds you of your kind nature. But somehow your body overpowers your soul, which in itself is so kind that it is often deceived. Teach your body to respect the teachings of your soul. Your soul is a master already; try to learn most of it.

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Intimacy is more like a night sky; despite having billions of stars, you still choose the moon. It comforts your eyes, it doesn't make your eyes so excited that they blink, no, it's smooth. The same is intimacy; whenever someone is intimate with you, they are going to give you a smooth feel.

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Learn to walk away from people who do not value your efforts, the time you spent on them. They assume you are determined to be there; they like the way you beg them to stay. Know that intimacy is never forced upon anyone; if it's there, then it will be evident - you will experience it; otherwise, it's but a waste of time.

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Randomness is what we call life; the stress you are taking about your life is baseless. The success that you are constantly craving for is relatable, not absolute. At one stage, you are craving to make a particular degree; once you achieve that, then you are craving for a position. Once you get that, then a promotion, once achieved, then your own business, once done with that, then something different until you reach a stage where you are about to say a heartbreaking goodbye to yourself. In between, you will come across tens of definitions of happiness and success & every time, to your amazement, none of your new definitions will match your old ones - in other words, every new definition will be outdated while you move forward with your life. What is it that exactly puts your happiness and enjoyment on hold? If you are in a position you craved for yesterday, then why don't you accept it and live with it? The more you spend your energy on certain things, the more anxious you will feel. Isn't it better to accept the fate and enjoy.

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I think friendships aren't only meant about sharing a laugher, sometimes they are meant for sharing your weakest points, sometimes they are meant for sharing your silence. And at times, they are meant for sharing tears as well.

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The saddest part about life is that you will find yourself lonely when you would like to rely on others. People have nothing to do with your mood, whether you are bored or okay, sad or happy; they do not go by your instincts, they have their priorities, so why would someone leave their priorities for you? Most of the time, it's not their unavailability that gives us pain, but rather our unexpected expectations.