What I'm Grateful For Today: Friday 3/24/2017
I get asked a lot: So...what is up with your weird fascination with Bill Murray? I usually reply, I'm so glad you asked! I think it is important to point out right from the gate that I'm not a huge movie buff; I can barely find time to sit on my couch, let alone dedicate 2 precious hours to movies. While I do enjoy a good film, and I do love the Mur's work, this is far from the reason I am grateful for him today. Lemme explain!
My love of Bill Murray, the man, started in the oddest of places: in my car, listening to "The Howard Stern Show." I was in a very stressful place at the time. I felt stuck and disrespected by a job where I felt my contributions and dedication were being undervalued. I was often jealous of friends that I thought were way more successful then me. I was nearing 40 and though I had an awesome wife and a bevy of awesome friends, I had a hard time appreciating what I had. I was drinking too much and generally felt like an angry turd most of the time, which I often tried to hide behind a happy face. I was fast approaching a mid life crisis! But back to Bill..
Stern asked him (and I'm paraphrasing here), "During your Saturday night live days and under the intense pressure of live TV, how were you always so ON, and why do you always seem to be having such an awesome time doing what ever you are doing." Bill's reply went something like this, "You know, I always try to stay relaxed, I keep my sense of humor, and I try to not take myself too seriously!"
BOOM! IT WAS EXACTLY THE MESSAGE I NEEDED AT THE TIME! I decided right then and there that from that moment on, I would follow in Bill Murray's foot steps and try to live my life by the following three principals:
1. Stay Relaxed
2. Keep a sense of humor
3. Don't take myself too seriously
As a reminder to keep to these guiding core values, I would cut small pictures (usually just 1"x1" black and white thumbnails printed off the image search on google) and tape them in various places where I would see them to remind me to do these three things. I placed one on my coffee pot. I placed one on my fridge. I placed one on the dash board of my car. I placed them around the gym, and slowly with effort and constant reminders, my situation began to improve.
I was able to take a step back and look at some of the metrics I was judging my life against and I came to the realization that I was being a dick and needed to change my perspective. I needed to look at life through a different lens and change my metrics if I wanted my life to improve. If I wasn't happy with the way I was being treated, I needed to do something different. It was one of the reasons why I eventually had the courage to quit my job and open HIT Pittsburgh Fitness. It was how I could be happy for my friends and their successes instead of jealous. It was how I could become a better friend, a better husband, and a better man.
In that way, I will be forever grateful for the Mur (and I should probably give some props to Stern too, despite what you think of him that guy is one hell of an interviewer!) If you made it through this whole thing I thank you, and if you find yourself where I was a few years ago, take my advice and just let go, life is too short. Open yourself up to personal growth, and to learning. If you need help...just H.I.T. me up!