How do people like this exist?

(pfp by ThePerilousTmp according to the watermark) hi i find a lot of dumb shit online and I wanna rant and vent about it!

[how-do-these-people-exist]

Arby you're a disgusting piece of shit for using my vents about my eating disorder against me while you dig for dirt.

Why the fuck did you reblog this tagging my name on your salt/discourse blog. Why the fuck do you think this is okay to use as "dirt" against me. You fucking stalking creep. Fuck off.

[strawberrycheesecakehare]

I’m thin and don’t eat much do to a lot of reasons and my dad used to constantly wonder if I had an ED and in general my parents would get on my ass about food. It caused me to become self conscious (and even start to question myself on if I actually did have an ED). I don’t think skinnyphobia works as a term and isn’t the right word for this stuff, but yeah people do get weird if they think you’re too skinny even if it’s natural for you.

So it’s… weird and disrespectful to take someone’s venting about their issues and try and use it as dirt on them

[how-do-these-people-exist]

I agree, I don't think skinnyphobia is necessarily the right term but I do agree there is definitely targetted attacks against people in regards to eating disorders. saying average-weight people must be anorexic, calling skinny men you dislike "twinks," just overall shaming people for their bodies, whether they are average-skinny or below-average-skinny or genuinely anorexic-skinny. that is absolutely shaming someone based on their body type. I since unfollowed the "this-is-skinnyphobia" blog tbh as I disagree with the direction it went and the extent to which that person would call things skinnyphobia.. but at the time it felt really good to get any validation on what I was going through with my eating disorder considering other people online at the time were actively mocking me for it. That's why I made the post Arby used as "dirt" here, to clarify. I'm tired. I'm disappointed. I'm disgusted. I'm still going through my weight and eating issues. I eat one meal a day. That's it. I rarely let myself have snacks or anything more than that. But sure, have fun using this post against me too, you stalking asshole..

[how-do-these-people-exist]

It's been hours and I'm still feeling like shit over it. This was so fucking disgustingly creepy and unnecessary for Arby to use as dirt it's literally just weaponizing my fucking eating disorder against me. Ever since I saw that shit it triggered me really badly. I contemplated putting off eating because the thought made me feel worse. I look at my body and am reminded of my own venting words being used against me by arby reblogging it as something to use against me. It's not okay. Especially when included in the post was "my weight gain is also giving me dysphoria since it makes my hips bigger" which it still is, by the way. So that's also triggering my dysphoria on purpose, thanks you transphobic piece of shit, wonder why you felt the need to reblog that right after I made a post about being a trans man. I'm angry. I'm disgusted. My mental health has already been horrid, and my eating disorder and the current state of my body being out of my control has definitely been a factor in my suicidal thoughts. I'm trying my best not to traumadump but considering arby reblogged my vent post to use as "dirt" i suppose it feels a bit warranted. Arby. You crossed a fucking line. You've crossed so many fucking lines, but for me, this is my line, this is my boundary. I am not going to speak a word about you again after this. Anything more I have to say will go in the doc. Unless it's an apology for weaponizing my fucking dysphoria and eating disorder, I don't want to see you say a word about me after this either. Fuck off, you creepy, stalking piece of shit. You know I have you blocked. On both of your blogs. If you're responding to my vagueposts about you, fine, I can accept that you got those from someone else. But you going out of your way to scroll through my old posts and reblog one of my vent posts about my eating disorder? That is too fucking far, and I certainly don't want to see you anywhere NEAR my blog after this. You are a horrible, disgusting person. Fuck off. Leave me alone. I'm keeping this as my pinned temporarily considering that you've now been spreading that vent post to other blogs to talk shit about me. You're all such fucking horrible people for weaponizing this as "dirt."

[transmaschottakes]

“omg men trying period pain somulators omg!!”

“men trying pregnancy for a day!!”

“omg what if men could get pregnant hahaha”

“men would suffer if they had female/woman problems!!”

trans and intersex men with endometriosis

trans and intersex men with uteruses

pre-testosterone and pre surgery trans/intersex men

trans and intersex men who gave or can give birth or have gone through pregnancy

trans and intersex men who are still seen as “wrong women” or social experiments by society

trans and intersex men who are excluded when the topic of periods, hygienic and medical care that mainly involve people who are born with female attributes

need i say more

[agnarid-deactivated20260112]

Btw people with Autism aren't the "good" people with low/no empathy, and people with ASPD or NPD aren't the "bad" people with low/no empathy. Stop demonizing personality disorders for the love of god.

[how-do-these-people-exist]

Please remember there are asexuals who want nothing to do with sex, and that's okay.

Y'know what no actually I'm posting about this because it's genuinely really fucking getting to me. I'm so fucking exhausted by how it feels like some people just took "some asexual people can still want sex, and that doesn't make them no longer ace" and just devolved into "oh so ace people can want sex? cool well i'm going to assume ace people/ace characters must want sex at least a LITTLE 'cause who doesn't?" It's genuinely really fucking upsetting that as an aroace, even in LGBTQ+ spaces, even in asexual spaces, I feel like I'm STILL faced with the same acephobia I would get from non-LGBTQ+ people. From non-asexual people. I feel like I'm still having to face the bullshit of "I don't care if you say you're asexual, there are asexual people who do want sex and do have sex so you're still the weird one." I feel like I still have to face that fucking idea that "everyone wants it, you'll want it eventually, or you'll do it because a partner wants it." No! I don't! and I'm tired of people in my own fucking community making me feel even more fucking broken and alone and making me feel like now instead of being discriminated against for being asexual, it's just turned into being discriminated against for being "one of those asexuals." in the fucking "I'm not like those queer people" way. I'm just so exhausted by this shit. Obviously I think asexual people who do want or have sex are valid. But I'm fucking tired of people making me feel like I must be broken and there must be something wrong with me if I'm an asexual who doesn't have or want sex. it just genuinely makes me feel like.. if being asexual means you're still gonna get perceived as maybe wanting sex and if being open about being a sex-repulsed asexual gets people saying "well don't push your trauma onto other people/make it other people's problem" then what the fuck am i that people can relate to. because it just. makes me feel like the community of people who are like me is a lot smaller than i thought.

[fin-139]

I’m not even sex repulsed and I hate whenever someone (especially if they aren’t eve ace) brings it up! I especially hate the “You’ll do it for your partner!” No!!! If my partner respects me in any way then they’ll understand that I don’t want that. And if they’re that insistent then maybe we were never partners in the first place.

I hate the “You’re just ace because of trauma.” Which is such an insensitive argument. Firstly not everyone who’s ace has sexual trauma and Secondly why are you trying to force someone to have sex/partake in sexual discussions if they have sexual trauma!? And it’s trauma the least you can do is be respectful of it!

(tw: talk of sex and self harm)

I personally use sex as a self harming method. So I find it so fucking insensitive and tiring to argue that I don’t want to have sex with someone. I shouldn’t need to bring up why I don’t want sex just to get my point across! And even if I do it’s “You can’t use sex as self harm” or “You must have sexual trauma” or “Once you have sex with someone that feeling will change.” Like!? Yes! You can use sex as self harm. If you’re forcing yourself to have sex then it’s self harm. No, I do not have sexual trauma. I started using sex as a replacement for cutting because my dumbass thought it would help with the urges to self harm. And my feelings on it will not change! If anything they’ll just shift and I’ll use my partner as another way to harm myself! I don’t want that! and if they’re my partner they shouldn’t want that either!

[how-do-these-people-exist]

I'm sorry. I wish I could think of what to say to add so I'm not just giving a 'left on read' response, but, god.. I agree. And it hurts. It hurts a lot. I'm sick of it being normalized for people to treat us like this.

[mrsmummifikation]

This time of year can be frustrating for people in the aro/ace community.

I will be here, whenever you need to talk. 

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[this-is-multigenderphobia]

Hard relate because the discussions with peers where I tried to bring up asexuality and that some people dont want sex ended with “if you’ve never felt sexual attraction by 50 then maybe, but you’re too young to know now”

I dont think I need to wait my whole life to feel attracted to someone so I can go ‘oh silly me, all the experiences I had before this point have magically vanished since I was mistaken all along!’.

On a nicer note, the classmate next to me this week went “you know, thinking about it, all the crushes I had were actually just admiration that I mixed up with attraction. Do you think that happens often to others?” And I had the pleasure to introduce him to the label aromantic and explain what it was, and he was genuinely interested in understanding and very happy to learn. I explained that I feel that describes me and my experiences and said he could use it too if he wanted. It was genuinely a nice exchange that gave me a bit more faith in others’ perception of aromanticism and asexuality.

[goreyboingos]

made a silly based off of one post i saw

[rabbitheatedgrrrl]

Not wanting to have sex is NOT a problem. It doesn’t matter if you are asexual or allo, there is nothing wrong with not wanting sex. It’s just an activity. That’d be like saying that if you don’t like soccer, you need to go to soccer therapy to figure out why you dislike it and figure out how to like it because it’s for your own good. See how ridiculous that sounds? IT IS OK TO NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX AND IT IS NOT SOMETHING THAT NEEDS TO BE FIXED!!!!!!

[canonically47]

this pride month, don't forget to shout out asexuals and aromantics. sometimes even pride month can make us feel isolated so DON'T FORGET US!! WE'RE HERE AND WE'RE QUEER!!

[how-do-these-people-exist]

Please remember there are asexuals who want nothing to do with sex, and that's okay.

Y'know what no actually I'm posting about this because it's genuinely really fucking getting to me. I'm so fucking exhausted by how it feels like some people just took "some asexual people can still want sex, and that doesn't make them no longer ace" and just devolved into "oh so ace people can want sex? cool well i'm going to assume ace people/ace characters must want sex at least a LITTLE 'cause who doesn't?" It's genuinely really fucking upsetting that as an aroace, even in LGBTQ+ spaces, even in asexual spaces, I feel like I'm STILL faced with the same acephobia I would get from non-LGBTQ+ people. From non-asexual people. I feel like I'm still having to face the bullshit of "I don't care if you say you're asexual, there are asexual people who do want sex and do have sex so you're still the weird one." I feel like I still have to face that fucking idea that "everyone wants it, you'll want it eventually, or you'll do it because a partner wants it." No! I don't! and I'm tired of people in my own fucking community making me feel even more fucking broken and alone and making me feel like now instead of being discriminated against for being asexual, it's just turned into being discriminated against for being "one of those asexuals." in the fucking "I'm not like those queer people" way. I'm just so exhausted by this shit. Obviously I think asexual people who do want or have sex are valid. But I'm fucking tired of people making me feel like I must be broken and there must be something wrong with me if I'm an asexual who doesn't have or want sex. it just genuinely makes me feel like.. if being asexual means you're still gonna get perceived as maybe wanting sex and if being open about being a sex-repulsed asexual gets people saying "well don't push your trauma onto other people/make it other people's problem" then what the fuck am i that people can relate to. because it just. makes me feel like the community of people who are like me is a lot smaller than i thought.

[gremlinz-yapz]

"sex should be less stigmatized and talked about more" and "you should always make sure people who dont want to consume sexual media that you present dont have to see it" are two statements that can and should coexist. by the way.

[denizenhardwick]

sex-repulsed people are fully within our rights to be cranky and blunt about not liking sex and how it's fucking everywhere btw. we shouldn't have to tiptoe around and make sure our phrasing is perfectly squeaky clean because people interpret any criticism of sex and sexualization as puritanism. venting about compulsory sexuality is not purity culture. maybe you could stand to learn a thing or two from us.

[eptck]

you have to be kinder to people with memory issues.

you have to be kinder to people who are slow processors.

you have to be kinder to people who don't understand your jokes.

you have to be kinder to people who forget important dates.

you have to be kinder to people with cognitive decline.

you have to be kinder to people who were always this way, too.

you have to be kind. you have to be kind.

[that-antitheist]

I am so tired of people uploading transfemme-shelterdog when pup is a chaser, harass people pup don't like and made some weird unwanted sexual comments.

I am tired of having to act like I need to idol a transfem person just because they believe in transandrophobia. It doesn't make you a good person. It just makes you someone with common sense. The same way you won't be celebrating just a non queer ally. I need trans men and transmascs to talk about transandrophobia.

[how-do-these-people-exist]

This is definitely a feeling I can relate to lately, yeah.. Like, allyship is important, it's important for transfems to call out transandrophobia like it's important for transmascs to call out transmisogyny, for this community to support each other. Same way it's important for cis gay people to call out transphobia and straight trans people to call out homophobia. I just. I do feel sick of it. I do wish we didn't put non-trans-men-and-transmascs talking about trans-men-and-transmasc-issues on a higher pedestal than trans men and transmasc people seem to be on.. Sorry. But, no. I am not obligated to agree with anyone on any of their disgusting actions just because they make some posts saying they stand up for me in little ways. It's like saying we should stand by JK Rowling because she's such a feminist, but let's just. Ignore that her definition of feminism hurts trans people, the same way people feel quick to ignore shit like this.. Sorry but I stand by this opinion strongly. Transfemme-shelterdog's definition of being an ally to trans men and transmascs by calling out transandrophobia does feel like a very contradictory ideology. Pup posts about how transmascs deserve, y'know, basic human rights and deserve not to be mocked for their gender.. But then pup make hornyposts about liking trans men and transmascs because trans men and transmascs are disgusting. Pup makes posts about wishing trans men were violent because pup finds that hot. Pup gets criticized for this and then goes on to post about how "maybe it's not a small minority of transmascs/trans men that are evil and cruel." It is performative as shit and I'm tired of pretending it's not.

[d3rlord3-kisser]

I think trans women who still present masculinely are awesome

I think trans women who still look like boys are awesome

I think trans women who don't have the time or money to look more femininely are awesome

I think trans women who want to transition but are scared of what their family would think are awesome

I think trans women are awesome

trans men version

[d3rlord3-kisser]

I think trans men who still present femininely are awesome

I think trans men who still look like girls are awesome

I think trans men who don't have the time or money to look more masculine are awesome

I think trans men who want to transition but are scared of what their family would think are awesome

I think trans men are awesome

trans women version

[how-do-these-people-exist]

Hi friend! Genuine question but I earlier responded to a post making fun of anyone who didn't think jax was transfem and I said

"while it's hevily supported by subtext, it's ok for people to interpert stories and characters different ways. I think it's a really cool headcanon but I can also see how Jax's story can be interperted otherwise"

And someone else reblogged saying I was transphobic for thinking anyone can interpert jax's story differently. "Saying anything else of jax is transphobic"

Just genuinely wondering what you think?

Oh my god. I haven't seen the finale in full yet (I've only seen the leaks and am waiting until it releases on YouTube to see the full thing) but it's.

I mean 1 you said it was heavily implied so you're not even denying the transfem headcanon, but 2 its. Again. Implied. Not directly stated as 100% canon??

And like, it is. It can be interesting to have characters with such fluid genders that multiple trans people can see themselves in that character.. (Though I'm not sure Jax is necessarily that character given his transphobic remarks towards Zooble in the finale tbh) its just. Odd.

Even before the finale aired I found it odd. Most of the evidence for Jax being trans could go in either direction, transfem or transmasc! I don't know why some people can be so.. Posessive and controlling over headcanons that they become so determined their interpretation is the only correct one..

But, yeah, to be blunt, no, it's not transphobic at all. It really feels gross imo to say that "not believing in my trans headcanon is transphobic" when compared to like.. All the other horrific transphobic shit in this world? Just feels like such a heavy accusation for an apples to oranges kind of thing imo. Especially when from what i see a lot of people who don't believe Jax is 100% canon transfem.. Are other trans people who simply have different interpretations of the character (often transmasc headcanons, too.)

[zmpl]

“i don’t hate this lolcow because they’re disabled i hate them because they’ve done bad things!” okay then why are all your comments about their mannerisms or physical appearance or hygiene

[zmpl]