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Signs Of A Bad Apology

Sometimes we fuck up, it happens to everyone..Sometimes we fuck up so bad there needs to be a public apology. There have been some appalling apologies and there will definitely be some more so here are a few signs of a bad apology.

1. You’re only apologizing for forgiveness: You need to very carefully reflect on your actions and why and how they upset people when issuing an apology. Are you embarrassed of your behavior? Did you hurt people you care about?  Are you receiving unwanted attention as a consequence for your actions? Why? Lastly are you apologizing to resolve the problem and the consequences at once? A sure sign you are only apologizing for forgiveness is not being prepared/understanding if an apology is rejected and or your actions unforgiven. 

2. “I’m sorry if you felt that (way)”: If you’re including this in an apology you’re implying that the person you’re apologizing to possibly overreacted when taking offense to your actions,and that there was nothing wrong with the actions warranting the apology in the first place.When you use phrases like this you are putting the blame on people you have hurt. 

3. You’re not taking responsibility: It’s important that you actively take responsibility for your actions when apologizing. You can explain your emotions during your actions, but should not attempt to justify or excuse them in any way if you are apologizing sincerely. You need to accept personal responsibility and not shift the blame on anyone but yourself. “I’m sorry ____,that I did _____” Accept fault and responsibility for your actions you guys. Address who you are speaking to and what you have done. 

4. Your apology is an explanation:  If your apology is just a long paragraph of why you did what you did, it is not an apology and can even be taken as an attempt to justify your actions by the receiving party. If you are in the wrong just admit to being in the wrong. 

5. “I’m sorry for what I did, but”: Don’t do it please see above. 

6. Your Apology wasn’t meant to be replied to: All great apologies involve conversation between yourself and the people you are apologizing to. You cannot write out an apology and then imply that this is the last you want to hear of the topic or your actions. You will always have to take responsibility for what you have done, and you will have to listen to and accept what the person you are apologizing to has to say in return. Again, if you are not ready for your apology to be rejected or your actions unforgiven, and then react badly to this-you are not apologizing because you are sorry. You are only trying to placate those you offended. 

PS: When it comes to apologies you are not apologizing to cope with what you did, you cannot forgive yourself..and then move on that’s not how apologies work. If you are issuing an apology and ignoring the other party because you apologized (and therefore it doesn’t matter to you anymore) you’re being very inconsiderate, selfish, and you are not sorry at all. 

7. You’re only apologizing because you’re being prompted to. Not because you mean it: If you’re only apologizing because you feel obligated to and not because you’re actually sorry your apology is shitty by default. It’s not sincere, you won’t learn from your actions, you don’t care. 

8. You’re apologizing for your entire existence and not your specific actions:  While making a mistake might feel like the end of the world to some of us, it’s not. Apologize specifically for what you did, not for living. That won’t make your apology a true apology, only an attempt to illicit forgiveness through guilt. 

9.  You at any point in your apology shift blame to the other party: You cannot apologize and then tell someone that they should have handled your emotions/reactions better. Do not victimize yourself in your apology. Do not try to get the other party to sympathize with you in order to get them to understand where you were coming from when you made your mistake. Do not refuse to take responsibility/fault in the situation if you are apologizing. 

10. You make no attempt to change your behavior or make amends: If your apology is true, sincere,  you will do your best to change and learn from your mistakes. Your apology by no means excuses your past actions nor sweeps them under a rug never to be brought up again. 

[survivingsleuth]

also who’s going to confront hawky’s racist ass again because they still hasn’t changed their fc from booboo?

@trickarrowd why is that huh? especially when there’s been anons that gave you PLENTY of actually navajo suggestions, you racist fuck

[trickarrowd-a-blog]

hey, I don't know if you're aware but Booboo Stewart isn't indigenous - a lot of places list him as Blackfoot through his father's line but it's never been documented and he himself has never said he's Native American in any interviews

hey nonnie!  thanks for the message,  but as far as i can tell literally everywhere i’ve checked he’s listed as blackfoot.  but if you yourself are native american and want to talk more about it or if you have links to back up your claim please message me off anon !

[survivingsleuth]

hey hawky, not only was the anon actually indigenous and just didn’t want to deal with your thick headed bullshit, you literally talked over an indigenous person who was trying to correct your bullshit with a half assed excuse. guess what, asshole? did you bother to fact/source check? did you ever bother to wonder why all the websites are listing only one source for his indigenous heritage but why he himself has never said a word about it? because, asshole, he’s not indigenous. learn to fact check and learn you thick headed piece of shit.

now for transparency purposes, i’m going to be honest and say i’m not native, i’m afghan american. but that anon and another friend both know about this situation, are both natives and have both signed me off on telling you off. so listen the fuck up, because i’m only saying this once.

when someone tells you not once but multiple times a person isn’t indigenous and your claim isn’t “booboo stewart himself says he is and is documented” then learn to shut the fuck up you pos. because there is absolutely NO reason for you to respond to “he himself has never said he’s Native American in any interviews” with “as far as i can tell literally everywhere i’ve checked he’s listed as blackfoot” because the fact alone that he won’t claim it, that there is no source from he himself, should tell your dumbass enough that this person, this anon is correct because he’s avoiding getting himself caught in a lie by directly associating with it. But because it’s what twilight demanded ppl, white chucklefucks like you, hawky seem to think someone is native just because they’re multiethnic.

you and your two friends who are too lazy to fucking fact check are going to be called out on this first part. so yeah i’m tagging you @emeraldxhood and you too @goodnessfilled. fucking read and shut the fuck up next time someone tells you booboo stewart isn’t native. don’t listen to rumors, learn to fucking read and understand context and accept if someone’s not admitting to it, maybe there’s a fucking reason for it.

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[arrowsbro]

smallestpym:

      “You’re the one with a thing for girls who could be your daughter calling you daddy in bed. It would be a public service for you to stop.”

       “Would you shut up?” He looks behind and around them to make sure no one is listening. “That’s not true. You’re assuming that it applies to everyone only because I like one!”

[arrowsbro]

smallestpym:

      “Clint Barton– Are you ashamed of your little kink?” She’s wearing a devilish grin, but it only lasts for a moment before she’s swept up into a fit of giggles. “Your secret’s safe with me.” Nadia does the motion of zipping her mouth, locking it, and throwing away the key.

       “It’s times like these I forget why I like you.” He rolls his eyes and looks around again before leaning to whisper in her ear: “Unzip that mouth. You’ll need it later.”

[hawkeyeiiarchive]

         “I don’t see you do half of what you do. We’re always so busy.” Which is a partial truth. Kate is just too into her phone half of the time to notice what he really does around the building. Trying not to pout when he moves from her, she huffs instead, raising a brow while he paces around her. “Of course you did. That suit and my tank tops don’t hide a damn thing.” But of course she jumps to that slap. She jabs at him playfully with her elbow as she quickly tugs off her panties and kicks them behind somewhere. 

        “Jeeze! Be patient, Hawkeye.” She walks in then, grateful for the water spilling over herself. It was warm and comforting. Letting herself enjoy it for the moment, she closes her eyes, completely enthralled at the feeling of Clint touching her as well. She cracks open an eye while she brings up a hand to grab at the side of his neck, head tilting to the side slightly so she could kiss him better. 

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[hypocriticals1]

tumblr user @psyl/ccke has proven themselves to be not only racist by fetishizing and writing white!betsy but also extremely biphobic and homophobic through constant denials of canon and going as far as to call bisexuality a fetish. even when given the opportunity to make their own canon to fix problematic writing, Simon doesn’t take the chance to correct course and rather completely ignore canon diversity. we do have screencaps but given the sensitive nature of how we obtained them we is hesitant to share them but we have other posts on this blog showing some of the troublesome behavior

[psylccke]

alright, so, this is why marvel insists betsy’s bisexual but there has never been a scrap of history showing interest in women for her 40+ years as a character.  even here, it isn’t shown as an interest in the person as a physical body – the interest was shown as a part of fantomex’s mind.  an aspect of his personality.  

again, this was during an entire arc that made no sense for her as a character.  the whole thief thing and forced relationship just doesn’t ring true for her but whatever.  

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[psylccke]

[  S E X U A L   T R A I T S  ]

bolded are applicable always or nearly always italics are dependent on circumstances/partner or just sometimes strikethrough are hard limits/never/not applicable.

[ inclinations / habits ]

is submissive | is dominant | prefers to top | prefers to bottom | likes to switch | identifies as heterosexual | identifies as homosexual | identifies as bisexual | identifies as pansexual | identifies as demisexual | identifies as asexual | enjoys sex with men | enjoys sex with women | enjoys sex with multiple people at one time | initiates | waits for partner to initiate | spits | swallows | prefers sex in the morning | prefers sex at night | prefers sex any time | no sex drive | low sex drive | average sex drive | high sex drive | hypersexual

[ body / appearance ]

small build | medium build | athletic build | muscular build | curvy build | voluptuous build | wears boxers | wears boxer briefs | wears briefs | wears lingerie | goes ‘commando’ | shaves/waxes | doesn’t shave/wax | keeps it trimmed below | cup size a-c | cup size d-f | 1-5" in length | 6-9" in length | 10" or over in length

[ sounds ]

is silent/makes little to no sounds | is very quiet | is very loud | grows in volume over time | bites hand/partner/pillow to muffle themselves | calls out partner’s name | curses | fakes/exaggerates | prefers a quiet partner | prefers a loud partner | is turned on by dirty talk

[ turn-ons / kinks ]

having their hands pinned | pinning their partner’s hands | having their hair pulled | pulling their partner’s hair | being watched (by their partner) | being watched (by a third party) | watching their partner | receiving oral | giving oral | calling their partner ‘daddy/mommy’ | being called ‘daddy/mommy’ | giving praise | receiving praise | biting/marking | being bitten/marked | spanking | being spanked | teasing | being teased | having toys used on them | using toys on their partner | giving anal | receiving anal | choking | being choked | dirty talk | being tied up | tying their partner up | being worshipped | worshipping their partner | humiliating | being humiliated |degrading | being degraded | knife play | blood play | being pegged | pegging their partner | whipping | being whipped | having a crop used on them | using a crop on their partner

[ places ]

in a bedroom | in a shower/bath | in a pool/ocean | in a kitchen | in a bathroom (home) | in a bathroom (public) | in a car | in a tent | in an alleyway | in a field/forest | at a school | in an empty/abandoned building | in a library | on a rooftop/terrace | in a dressing room | in an elevator | in a parking lot | at a museum | at a cemetery | at a beach | in a closet | at a hospital

tagged by: yanked from @arrowsbro tagging: anyone and everyone!

[psylccke]

What are her thoughts on Cluster? How did she actually feel about her, especially in comparison to the original Fantomex?

Betsy does not look back on her time with Fantomex ( or Cluster ) with any kind of fondness.  Ever since he admitted that he used his misdirection on her when it came to her feelings for Warren, she questioned how true any emotions could be with him.  Even when she went to meet Mother, she told herself to close her eyes and imagine a happy ending.  She does not trust what emotions or thoughts could have been her own versus what could have been a long game misdirect out of his own selfish nature.

The time when Cluster existed, it was nice to have an aspect that was essentially one aspect of an admittedly complex and frustrating personality, but I personally take exception with the execution of that whole thing.  It felt more like a forced aspect and I write it off to her admittedly self destructive ways whenever she is dealt any kind of emotional blow or her footing in life is compromised.  The addiction to killing made more sense than her being told that her love for Fantomex was on a cellular level, I never saw there being any love between them.

TL;DR: she didn’t feel anything special for her