12 TYPE SECRETS OF THE INFP PERSONALITY
INFPs, who make up about 4-5 percent of the population, are unique individuals who care deeply about other people. They possess a rare set of abilities that make them masters of understanding emotion and the human experience. At their best, INFPs bring emotional healing to others and inspire incredible change in the world.
Here are 12 less obvious aspects of the INFP personality type:
1. INFPs have a deep need to feel inspiration, passion and meaning.
INFPs desire a certain level of emotional intensity, so they may unconsciously seek out relationships, books, poetry, music, travel, or charity work that evoke strong feelings. When the passion or intrigue fades, INFPs may find themselves feeling restless and dissatisfied.
2. INFPs are deeply in touch with their values and emotions.
Their dominant function — which is their preferred way of thinking — is introverted feeling, so INFPs are profoundly in touch with their emotions and personal values. They make decisions by asking themselves, “What feels right for me?” Generally non-judgmental and gentle, INFPs may react strongly if they feel their personal values are being violated. Other personality types, especially dominant “thinking” types like ENTJs or ESTJs, may demand to know the rationale behind the INFP’s thinking process. When INFPs explain that they “just feel a certain way,” other types may criticize them, because their decisions appear to lack logical evidence. This can leave INFPs feeling invalidated, and they may even begin to doubt themselves and their cherished decision-making process.
3. INFPs want to connect with the essence of life.
INFPs are often lovers of nature who hike trails or spend time in the wilderness in an effort to passionately connect with what they see as the basic essence of life, writes Dr. A. J. Drenth, creator of the blog Personality Junkie. Especially early in life, INFPs may become lone wanderers, as they travel and explore one place after another. They’re usually content with rather simple or Bohemian living arrangements, perhaps furnishing their homes with second-hand furniture and decor. Extravagant vacations, designer clothes and fine meals aren’t a priority.
4. Creative expression is the life blood of the INFP.
INFPs often excel at writing, music, or other forms of creative expression, because art allows them to express feelings authentically, says personality profiler Antonia Dodge, co-owner of Personality Hacker, in a podcast about INFPs. INFPs may not be able to articulate their deep, personal feelings, but they can create a painting or write a novel to immerse other people in their emotional experience, whether it’s an emotional experience related to their own feelings, the feelings of another person they’ve come in contact with, or on a much wider scale, the feelings of the human experience in general.
5. INFPs are healers of emotional wounds.
In the Keirsey Temperament system, the INFP is nicknamed “the healer,” because INFPs care deeply about the inner lives of other people. According to the Keirsey web site, “Their great passion is to heal the conflicts that trouble individuals, or that divide groups, and thus to bring wholeness, or health, to themselves, their loved ones, and their community.” Their ability to heal springs from their deep understanding of emotions, their caring nature, and their ability to see things from a unique perspective.
6. The downside is, sometimes other people dump their problems on them.
Unfortunately, because of their superpower for healing emotional wounds, and because they outwardly appear receptive and non-judgmental, INFPs often end up serving as a dumping ground for other people’s problems, writes Dr. Drenth. This can give them a sense of emotional heaviness, and in fact, many INFPs regularly have an air of melancholy about them.
7. When INFPs feel passionate about something — watch out!
INFPs may see themselves as reluctant heroes. One minute, they’re strolling through life, then the next minute, they’re stumbling across a person who needs their help. With their idealism driving them on, INFPs can be truly unstoppable, says Dodge. That’s why this type has accomplished great things — think Joan of Arc, who, as a teenager with no military training, led the French army to victory over the British during the Hundred Years’ War. Other famous INFPs include Princess Diana, Audrey Hepburn, Fred Rogers, John Lennon, Kurt Cobain, Tori Amos, William Shakespeare, Helen Keller and Isabel Briggs Myers (creator of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator), according to Truity.com.
INFPs are often found helping people who are sick, disabled, or in need, writes Dr. Drenth. INFPs love rescuing the helpless — for example, they might adopt abandoned pets from an animal shelter, or they may take up special causes that have affected them personally, such as raising money for research for a rare disease.
On the other hand, if INFPs don’t feel a sense of conviction, they tend to shut themselves off from the world. For INFPs, “when it doesn’t matter, it doesn’t matter. But when it matters…it matters big,” says Joel Mark Witt, co-owner with Dodge ofPersonality Hacker.
8. INFPs don’t want just any job.
INFPs are not particularly driven by money or status on the job. What they really care about is doing work that aligns with their personal values and allows them to help others and contribute to the greater good. Because they’re highly individualistic, they may struggle to work for a company or organization they don’t personally believe in. INFPs are motivated by vision and inspiration, so they may become restless and unhappy if they have to do routine work often. Their ideal job allows them to express their individuality and takes advantage of their ability to see unique solutions. They enjoy working independently and having a measure of control over how and when they complete projects. As they experiment in life, try new things, and find themselves, INFPs will narrow their interests and be better equipped to find work that resonates with them on a personal level.
9. Their friends and partners must have congruent values.
In relationships, INFPs are loyal, nurturing and empathic. They choose romantic partners and friends carefully, looking for a strong emotional bond and similar values. Self-aware and often spiritual, INFPs tend to be open-minded and accepting of another’s preferences and behavior, as long as their own core principles are not violated. They strongly support their friends’ and partners’ individuality, and they encourage them to explore their own ideas and interests.
10. They shy away from conflict.
Naturally sensitive and highly relational, INFPs have a strong need for close, harmonious relationships. They’re always looking for ways to compromise and accommodate other people, according to Truity.com, and they’re generally quite skilled at finding creative solutions to interpersonal problems. Confronting someone else can be difficult for them, so they may ignore problems or keep negative reactions to themselves.
11. INFPs can lead through inspiration.
As introverts, they prefer to stay out of the spotlight. But INFPs can become leaders in another way — by profoundly inspiring others. They can use their passion, authenticity, and natural abilities of creative expression and communication to get others excited about causes they believe in.
12. They way an INFP can grow is by having new experiences and experimenting.
Their second function, extroverted intuition, is a learning process that “sees behind the curtain,” so to speak. It perceives patterns in the INFP’s experiences and makes connections that aren’t necessarily obvious or inherent by definition. It asks “what if?” and sees possibilities. The way INFPs can grow and develop themselves on a personal level is by using this process to explore, make connections, and learn new things. For INFPs, this may mean traveling to new places, taking classes to learn new skills, joining groups or clubs to meet new people, or feeding their appetite for new information by reading or exploring the arts. The more INFPs have new experiences, the more they will add to their deep understanding of the human condition and emotions.
Keep in mind that personality typing focuses on general traits of personality types. Your circumstances, background, and personal preferences will make you uniquely you, and no two INFPs will be exactly alike.