Shan

Just a newly single black woman who's trying to figure it

[yutito-archive]

Etion ★ “Why” 191101 Mubank

[amorosi-deactivated20220605]

You disrespect yourself when you beg someone for BARE MINIMUM things like love, attention, respect, affection, support, reciprocation, etc. Don’t do that shit again.

[k-luna]

[oaluz]

[mahoganymamii]

Imagine having a loyal, funny, intelligent, ambitious, romantic, tall, handsome man with money and a car.

[infpisme]

[illchangethissh-tlater]

A word

[introvertunites]

23 Emotions People Feel But Can’t Explain

Sonder: The realization that each passerby has a life as vivid and complex as your own.

Opia: The ambiguous intensity of Looking someone in the eye, which can feel simultaneously invasive and vulnerable.

Monachopsis: The subtle but persistent feeling of being out of place.

Énouement: The bittersweetness of having arrived in the future, seeing how things turn out, but not being able to tell your past self.

Vellichor: The strange wistfulness of used bookshops.

Rubatosis: The unsettling awareness of your own heartbeat.

Kenopsia: The eerie, forlorn atmosphere of a place that is usually bustling with people but is now abandoned and quiet.

Mauerbauertraurigkeit: The inexplicable urge to push people away, even close friends who you really like.

Jouska: A hypothetical conversation that you compulsively play out in your head.

Chrysalism: The amniotic tranquility of being indoors during a thunderstorm.

Vemödalen: The frustration of photographic something amazing when thousands of identical photos already exist.

Anecdoche: A conversation in which everyone is talking, but nobody is listening

Ellipsism: A sadness that you’ll never be able to know how history will turn out.

Kuebiko: A state of exhaustion inspired by acts of senseless violence.

Lachesism: The desire to be struck by disaster – to survive a plane crash, or to lose everything in a fire.

Exulansis: The tendency to give up trying to talk about an experience because people are unable to relate to it.

Adronitis: Frustration with how long it takes to get to know someone.

Rückkehrunruhe: The feeling of returning home after an immersive trip only to find it fading rapidly from your awareness.

Nodus Tollens: The realization that the plot of your life doesn’t make sense to you anymore.

Onism: The frustration of being stuck in just one body, that inhabits only one place at a time.

Liberosis: The desire to care less about things.

Altschmerz: Weariness with the same old issues that you’ve always had – the same boring flaws and anxieties that you’ve been gnawing on for years.

Occhiolism: The awareness of the smallness of your perspective.

Source John Koenig, writer and creator of The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows.

[anxietyproblem]

[recoverystuff-deactivated202108]

Positive affirmations for :

~♡~ inner peace ~♡~

I will stop worrying about everything.

I will live a healthy lifestyle.

I will stop thinking about past events.

I will forgive myself and others.

I will become more at ease with myself.

I will become more honest with myself.

I will do what I love to do.

I will stop feeling the need to be in control of everything.

I will let life play out on its own.

I will ask for help.

[dazzlingkai]

mark for madame figaro (april 2020 issue)

[manifestingmatcha]

I deserve to be spoiled and treated immaculately. I deserve to be listened to and respected. I deserve to be loved and cherished. I deserve loyalty and devotion. I will not chase a man out of desperation, loneliness, or beg to be loved for validation. I am a high value goddess and will not tolerate any less.

[recoverystuff-deactivated202108]

How to activate your "happiness chemicals"...

DOPAMINE ~ the reward chemical

Complete a task

Doing self care acitivites

Eating some food

Celebrating your little wins.

OXYTOCIN ~ the love hormones

Playing with a dog

Playing with a baby

Holding hands

Hugging someone

Giving someone else a compliment

SEROTONIN ~ the mood stabiliser

Meditating

Running

Be in the sun

Walk in nature

Swimming

ENDORPHIN ~ the pain relief

Laughing exercises

Essential oils

Eating dark chocolate

Running

[shadybrooktrez]

Stop looking at the “potential” of people.

If they ain’t there yet, they ain’t there yet.

[anetteva]

By sereinside

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Can we please stop associating being a good person with how much you're willing to suffer in silence for other people? You can be a kind person and still say "no, I don't have the time/energy to help you with that." You can be a kind person and still say "this makes me uncomfortable, please stop." You can be a kind person and still say "I disagree and here's why." You can be kind and still say "I'm not okay with this." Being kind is about treating people with kindness and respect, not about being the human equivalent of a doormat!

[introvertdear]

The struggle is real.

[fucklovepayme]

I belong to no one. I do not owe anyone my time, resources, energy, or body. I cut off anyone who do not serve a purpose in my life or benefit me. My top priorities are my happiness and well-being.