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I just wanted to make an inspirational video but I hit the wrong audio filter

This is still the most sinister post on the site

A long time ago I took a course on the sociology of marriage and my professor said “With compromise, you both lose. As a couple, you must collaborate on the best possible outcome.” Ever since, I never prioritize compromise in a relationship, only collaboration.

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this seems like a great concept and all but. what does it actually mean?

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Compromise is typically thought of as a 50/50 split amongst partner’s needs. They’re both left partially unsatisfied, but this dissatisfaction is deemed acceptable because it is ‘equal.’ However, with additional effort, many problems may be solved through collaboration; keywords: additional effort.

In collaborating, one may try to make the conflict more complex in order to expand the possible positive outcomes. This requires trust in both parties, empathy, and consideration for one another’s needs.

The objective should shift from getting what you want and ‘keeping things quiet’ to making sure your partner feels heard and considered (as they should do with you). Essentially, you must trust that your partner has your happiness in mind, and you must have theirs, instead of fighting for your own best interest.

For further explanation, Google “compromise vs collaboration.”

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My Brother, My Brother, and Me but it’s a crappy thriller.

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holy shit this is a fantastic job of editing omg

My twitter is icecolle, feel free to FRQ.

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incarvillea-blog

VERY URGENT.

Hello, I am back posting on Tumblr to try and remedy my failing living situation in the way of asking for donations. I understand if you are frustrated to see another donations post, but I truly need help and this is the safest way I can ask for help. I am grasping at straws to try and make this situation better and to prevent me from having to return to New York in a month.

I will attempt to keep this brief and to the point: I left New York because the abuse I faced made me fear for my life. I fear that if I return, the situation will escalate further because of my insurgency and rebellion to my abusers, i.e.: leaving them unannounced for over a year, which will lead to a much more dangerous life for myself.

My PayPal is: [email protected]

I need to secure housing. I am a new renter, therefore I need much more money for a lease due to my lack of credit history. Usually that is double the I had $900.00 saved, but that money was taken from me unexpectedly by an abusive family member in mid April, leaving me with only $587.00 from my paycheck a few days ago. If I spend nothing, I mean absolutely not a single cent of my wages, I will only have $980.00 by June. That is not sufficient for a new apartment or any type of safe, reliable housing.

I am asking for $2,000.00 USD total.

I understand how steep and lofty that sounds, however if I have ~$2,980.00 by June, I will not have any trouble securing an apartment to live in with its’ deposit and other fees. I will be able to attain a roommate to make the situation easier on myself financially, and I will be safe. I will not have to fear about being hurt or worse, I will not have to return to New York.

Please read this link for more detailed information about my situation. TW for nondescript mentions of CSA, forced SW and child SW: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1bRBvdzslBV6Vhwawokp3LNgaIDKlU8xoEitlAnyxiq4/edit?usp=sharing

My PayPal is: [email protected]

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I know I am asking for a lot. I know how annoying this must look. I simply want to survive. I have not come this far to be dragged back into that cesspool of abuse and suffering.

If you cannot donate, please boost.

oxalacetic

incarvillea’s one of my dearest friends- i’m one of the people who brought him out to washington because of the, and i don’t say shit lightly, literally life-threatening abuse i watched him have to survive in NY. he’s a hard worker and always has the best in his heart, better than i’ve seen in almost anyone.

i can easily vouch that he’s gone through, and continues to go through, more hell than most of us can even imagine. every day i’m proud he’s come this far.

he deserves this chance to at a new life more than i can express.

incarvillea-blog

100 notes in, through six donors, I have $202.50, $1979.50 until my goal, which needs to be met by June 1st. I appreciate the boosts, I appreciate the donors, but if we could keep this going and possibly lend anything, I would be the most blessed man in the world.

#Donation received.

Thanks to five generous friends, my donations have reached $200.10. Only $1799.90 to go. Please donate if you can, please help me boost the post. It is more urgent than most can understand.

#Donation received.

incarvillea-blog

VERY URGENT.

Hello, I am back posting on Tumblr to try and remedy my failing living situation in the way of asking for donations. I understand if you are frustrated to see another donations post, but I truly need help and this is the safest way I can ask for help. I am grasping at straws to try and make this situation better and to prevent me from having to return to New York in a month.

I will attempt to keep this brief and to the point: I left New York because the abuse I faced made me fear for my life. I fear that if I return, the situation will escalate further because of my insurgency and rebellion to my abusers, i.e.: leaving them unannounced for over a year, which will lead to a much more dangerous life for myself.

My PayPal is: [email protected]

I need to secure housing. I am a new renter, therefore I need much more money for a lease due to my lack of credit history. Usually that is double the I had $900.00 saved, but that money was taken from me unexpectedly by an abusive family member in mid April, leaving me with only $587.00 from my paycheck a few days ago. If I spend nothing, I mean absolutely not a single cent of my wages, I will only have $980.00 by June. That is not sufficient for a new apartment or any type of safe, reliable housing.

I am asking for $2,000.00 USD total.

I understand how steep and lofty that sounds, however if I have ~$2,980.00 by June, I will not have any trouble securing an apartment to live in with its’ deposit and other fees. I will be able to attain a roommate to make the situation easier on myself financially, and I will be safe. I will not have to fear about being hurt or worse, I will not have to return to New York.

Please read this link for more detailed information about my situation. TW for nondescript mentions of CSA, forced SW and child SW: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1bRBvdzslBV6Vhwawokp3LNgaIDKlU8xoEitlAnyxiq4/edit?usp=sharing

My PayPal is: [email protected]

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I know I am asking for a lot. I know how annoying this must look. I simply want to survive. I have not come this far to be dragged back into that cesspool of abuse and suffering.

If you cannot donate, please boost.

oxalacetic

incarvillea’s one of my dearest friends- i’m one of the people who brought him out to washington because of the, and i don’t say shit lightly, literally life-threatening abuse i watched him have to survive in NY. he’s a hard worker and always has the best in his heart, better than i’ve seen in almost anyone.

i can easily vouch that he’s gone through, and continues to go through, more hell than most of us can even imagine. every day i’m proud he’s come this far.

he deserves this chance to at a new life more than i can express.

incarvillea-blog

VERY URGENT.

Hello, I am back posting on Tumblr to try and remedy my failing living situation in the way of asking for donations. I understand if you are frustrated to see another donations post, but I truly need help and this is the safest way I can ask for help. I am grasping at straws to try and make this situation better and to prevent me from having to return to New York in a month.

I will attempt to keep this brief and to the point: I left New York because the abuse I faced made me fear for my life. I fear that if I return, the situation will escalate further because of my insurgency and rebellion to my abusers, i.e.: leaving them unannounced for over a year, which will lead to a much more dangerous life for myself.

My PayPal is: [email protected]

I need to secure housing. I am a new renter, therefore I need much more money for a lease due to my lack of credit history. Usually that is double the I had $900.00 saved, but that money was taken from me unexpectedly by an abusive family member in mid April, leaving me with only $587.00 from my paycheck a few days ago. If I spend nothing, I mean absolutely not a single cent of my wages, I will only have $980.00 by June. That is not sufficient for a new apartment or any type of safe, reliable housing.

I am asking for $2,000.00 USD total.

I understand how steep and lofty that sounds, however if I have ~$2,980.00 by June, I will not have any trouble securing an apartment to live in with its’ deposit and other fees. I will be able to attain a roommate to make the situation easier on myself financially, and I will be safe. I will not have to fear about being hurt or worse, I will not have to return to New York.

Please read this link for more detailed information about my situation. TW for nondescript mentions of CSA, forced SW and child SW: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1bRBvdzslBV6Vhwawokp3LNgaIDKlU8xoEitlAnyxiq4/edit?usp=sharing

My PayPal is: [email protected]

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I know I am asking for a lot. I know how annoying this must look. I simply want to survive. I have not come this far to be dragged back into that cesspool of abuse and suffering.

If you cannot donate, please boost.

oxalacetic

incarvillea’s one of my dearest friends- i’m one of the people who brought him out to washington because of the, and i don’t say shit lightly, literally life-threatening abuse i watched him have to survive in NY. he’s a hard worker and always has the best in his heart, better than i’ve seen in almost anyone.

i can easily vouch that he’s gone through, and continues to go through, more hell than most of us can even imagine. every day i’m proud he’s come this far.

he deserves this chance to at a new life more than i can express.

#Please donate.

incarvillea-blog

VERY URGENT.

Hello, I am back posting on Tumblr to try and remedy my failing living situation in the way of asking for donations. I understand if you are frustrated to see another donations post, but I truly need help and this is the safest way I can ask for help. I am grasping at straws to try and make this situation better and to prevent me from having to return to New York in a month.

I will attempt to keep this brief and to the point: I left New York because the abuse I faced made me fear for my life. I fear that if I return, the situation will escalate further because of my insurgency and rebellion to my abusers, i.e.: leaving them unannounced for over a year, which will lead to a much more dangerous life for myself.

My PayPal is: [email protected]

I need to secure housing. I am a new renter, therefore I need much more money for a lease due to my lack of credit history. Usually that is double the I had $900.00 saved, but that money was taken from me unexpectedly by an abusive family member in mid April, leaving me with only $587.00 from my paycheck a few days ago. If I spend nothing, I mean absolutely not a single cent of my wages, I will only have $980.00 by June. That is not sufficient for a new apartment or any type of safe, reliable housing.

I am asking for $2,000.00 USD total.

I understand how steep and lofty that sounds, however if I have ~$2,980.00 by June, I will not have any trouble securing an apartment to live in with its’ deposit and other fees. I will be able to attain a roommate to make the situation easier on myself financially, and I will be safe. I will not have to fear about being hurt or worse, I will not have to return to New York.

Please read this link for more detailed information about my situation. TW for nondescript mentions of CSA, forced SW and child SW: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1bRBvdzslBV6Vhwawokp3LNgaIDKlU8xoEitlAnyxiq4/edit?usp=sharing

My PayPal is: [email protected]

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I know I am asking for a lot. I know how annoying this must look. I simply want to survive. I have not come this far to be dragged back into that cesspool of abuse and suffering.

If you cannot donate, please boost.

oxalacetic

incarvillea’s one of my dearest friends- i’m one of the people who brought him out to washington because of the, and i don’t say shit lightly, literally life-threatening abuse i watched him have to survive in NY. he’s a hard worker and always has the best in his heart, better than i’ve seen in almost anyone.

i can easily vouch that he’s gone through, and continues to go through, more hell than most of us can even imagine. every day i’m proud he’s come this far.

he deserves this chance to at a new life more than i can express.

#Please boost.#Please donate something. Anything makes a difference.

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incarvillea-blog

VERY URGENT.

Hello, I am back posting on Tumblr to try and remedy my failing living situation in the way of asking for donations. I understand if you are frustrated to see another donations post, but I truly need help and this is the safest way I can ask for help. I am grasping at straws to try and make this situation better and to prevent me from having to return to New York in a month.

I will attempt to keep this brief and to the point: I left New York because the abuse I faced made me fear for my life. I fear that if I return, the situation will escalate further because of my insurgency and rebellion to my abusers, i.e.: leaving them unannounced for over a year, which will lead to a much more dangerous life for myself.

My PayPal is: [email protected]

I need to secure housing. I am a new renter, therefore I need much more money for a lease due to my lack of credit history. Usually that is double the I had $900.00 saved, but that money was taken from me unexpectedly by an abusive family member in mid April, leaving me with only $587.00 from my paycheck a few days ago. If I spend nothing, I mean absolutely not a single cent of my wages, I will only have $980.00 by June. That is not sufficient for a new apartment or any type of safe, reliable housing.

I am asking for $2,000.00 USD total.

I understand how steep and lofty that sounds, however if I have ~$2,980.00 by June, I will not have any trouble securing an apartment to live in with its’ deposit and other fees. I will be able to attain a roommate to make the situation easier on myself financially, and I will be safe. I will not have to fear about being hurt or worse, I will not have to return to New York.

Please read this link for more detailed information about my situation. TW for nondescript mentions of CSA, forced SW and child SW: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1bRBvdzslBV6Vhwawokp3LNgaIDKlU8xoEitlAnyxiq4/edit?usp=sharing

My PayPal is: [email protected]

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I know I am asking for a lot. I know how annoying this must look. I simply want to survive. I have not come this far to be dragged back into that cesspool of abuse and suffering.

If you cannot donate, please boost.