Not all heartbreaks are the same, but all are painful if the relationship was serious. Emotionally broken na nga, physically weakening pa. Yung tipong malungkot ka na nga, di ka pa makakain kahit masarap ang ulam. Minsan other tends to suffer also from spiritual weakening. Yung tipong you just keep on asking our loving God why situations like these happen.
You’ve been listening to every sad songs in your playlist. Cried every tears na tila bang mata mo ay dehydrated na; talo pa ang tigang na lupa sa bukid. You also became angry at God throwing words to Him, describing Him as a God that He’s not, opposing the loving God you’ve once known. Yung tipong mala John Lloyd ang pagbato ng linyang, “Akala ko ba You are good, but why should this relationship needs to end.” Why do heartbreaks happen? Why would a loving God let this happen to me? How could I move on in a Christianly manner? Should I try to enter relationship once again? Will I ever find the right one?
We need to understand that He is perfect in all His ways, and we’re not . That He knows what is best, and were not. That not all the answers we’ve been praying for are not always “Yes.’ We view relationship as something that we can control, something that we can work out on our own, that in the end, hindi niyo na alam that it was already broken. Even Christians are not also immune to broken relationship.
Pinangungunahan kasi natin ang plano ng Panginoon. When we think the time is right, but the motives are not, we are heading ourselves to the pit. “Lord, ramdam ko na, siya na.” “Lord, patrang right time na.” Not knowing, when we enter such things like these, we are preparing na already for marriage.
Paano kung right timing, at right motives? To answer that is also a question, why did the relationship gets broken? How did you handle it?. What God had plan (right person) for you, He will never separate, even in hard times. If you’ve given it up for such reasons, then maybe that person is not for us. For love is worth fighting for and never seeks the wrong of others.
Of all the things I have learned from love, it is more than just a feeling na kung ramdam mo ay siya na talaga. Sometimes we base love according to our emotions. Minsan according to the looks or to the attitude.We thought love is all about matchmaking. “Maganda siya, funny ako. Bagay kami.” Hindi dapat ganun. Since pinangungunahan natin ang Lord, we tend to commit these things that lead us into our own destruction.
Broken relationships happen. We may have different stories, but the results are all the same. Broken. Masakit.
Why do this situation happens?
I remember a verse in the Bible that says
“ Do not awaken love before it is ready.” Song of songs 8:46b.
In fact I memorized it by heart. Yet I never learned from it. God gave me the warning, pero sadyang makulit ata talaga ako that soon leads to being broken.
Of all the things that God is teaching me, it is always patience. I’m always in a rush na tila ba mauubusan ako ng panahon kapag di ko masubukan ang magmahal. As I was meditating on that verse, I have found my own fault.
Isang malaking sampal na babakat sa gwapo kong muka. I found myself trapped sa salitang “parang.”
Naalal ko ang aking kaklase, nung nasambit ko ang salitang ito. Sabi niya, “Oi Da, kapag sinabi mo ang salitang ‘parang’ may katumbas na kabaliktaran. Walang kasiguraduhan.”
“Parang madali” sa “parang hindi madali.”
“Parang siya na” sa “parang hindi pa siya.”
Walang kasiguraduhan. When you are truly ready and sure, love will also be awaken.
We tend to rush things out of patience, that even when we are not yet ready, sinusunggaban na natin. We cry because we tend not to balance things out. Priorities over love? We hurt ourselves in the end dahil alam nating hindi pa oras para pumasok sa relasyon. Kaya nga kapag pinagsabay sabay na nating lahat, nahuhuli na nga ang pag ibig, dehydrated pa ang mata mo kasi di mo na mapagsabay ang lahat especially love, dehydrated na nga, napag iwanan mo pa si Mahal, then it leads to heartbreaks. We should also make sure na hindi lang dapat tayo ang sure at ready, dapat ready at sure din si the one. Why? Because if two are both ready, he or she can understand no matter the situation is.
Love knows its time, and will always know when it is ready. You can not force it.
Funny to say, we tend to limit God about the fact that He s always all knowing. Even in the matter of choosing kung sino si The One. God knows, but because we tend to seek decision on our own, instead of a beautiful rose ang nakuha natin, we always get the thorns.
Yes, you’ve been trying to find thae right one. Yes, you’ve been finding answers. Jeremeiah 29:11 says
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. ”
Alam ng Lord ang plano ng buhay mo. Alam ng Lord kung ano ang best para sayo, even in the aspect of relationship at kung sino si The One. If you’ve been finding the right one, put God always on the equation. Why? as we read the verse, God says He knows the plan in our live. Hindi ikaw ang may bhawak sa plano ng buhay mo kundi siya. If only we separate our own choices and follow His own then maybe situations would be different,
“Pero Kuya, sira na relationship namin. Hindi ko na kaya.”
Jesus said, “In this world, you will have trouble.” John 16:33
Jesus di not promise us that life in this world will always be easy. In fact, ang sabi niya’y makakaranas tayo ng pighati at problema. Bacause of our own doing, pinapahamak natin ang sarili natin. Even though we commit mistakes that lead to trouble, God can turn these problems into testimony.
“Have courage, take heart. I have overcome the world.” Tibayan niyo ang inyong loob. Napag tagumpayan ko na ang sanlibutan.
The warning that tere are troubles in life is a promise that He has overcome the world. Akalain mo yun! You’ve been broke, yet take heart! God is with us.Turn these afflictions into something that makes a better you.
“Pero kuya, siya na kasi talaga!”
I am not here to say na tigilan mo na. In fact I don’t have the authority to judge if that relationship is worth the fight. Hindi ko sasabihing “Mag sorry ka sa kanya.” or “Itigil mo na.” Ang katotohanan is is Him alone, mas totoo pa sa feelings mo sa crush mo. Listen to the still small voice that comes from Him. Sabi niya, “The truth will set you free.”
Don’t try to include emotion in deciding over relationship. You’re broke! But God is also close to you. Another promise from Him. God knows the desires of your heart and He is all knowing. God knows best. Pray for understanding His thoughts in making decisions and not by your own emotion. Why pray for understanding? Isang simpleng sagot sa isang simpleng tanong. Because His thoughts are always higher than us. It is hard for us to decipher or intindihin ang mystery ng buhay that only Him knows the answer.
Paano naman ang mga broken in pieces, still praying for the one.
“Kuya, should I still enter relationship once again?”
The answer is simple. FAITH! if you believe na may Right One na darating, then by faith, enter relationship, but before entering, make sure that both of you are ready. By faith, mahahanap mo din siya, and by faith God will bring him or her closer to you at the proper time. Hebrews 11 talks about faith. In this chapter, FAITH is defined as the confidence that what we hope for will actually happen, it gives us assurance about things we cannot see.
If you believe, it will happen. Take relationship maturely, as God is so extravagantly serious for giving us the right one.God knows best. Always. Aam Niyang we are not created to be alone in this world kaya He made si The One. Unless You have the gift of celibacy. (Hindi makakapangasawa.) Pero sabi ko nga, if you believe, magkakatotoo. What God had created for six days is for the benefit of men. That includes right relationship. By faith if you believe na may Right One ka, the I repeat, it will happen.
Girls be a matured Christian woman.
Boys be a matured Christian men.
Yes, you are broken. maybe you’ve been crying for that broken relationship. Maybe you’ve been playing for sad songs on repeat. Take heart! He have overcome the world. Instead, think of all the good things He had done and also a promise that there is more to come.
A line from a song says
“Waiting for the day ‘til I hear You say here is the one I have created just for you.’“
Believe and it will happen. Also, always remember that God is love no matter how heavy your situations are. Kaya smile, you’re worth loving
Believe and it will happen.
