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Morning mood and night mood are literally so different like what I can best do at morning I can’t do at night and vice versa so when you casually say oh you can do that later in the day like no dearie I can’t

INTJs be like:

11th time’s the charm

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Frankly though

Look at that dog! It's so cute! Such a great fur pattern!

ENTP

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I've taken the mbti test about every year since high school and I'm a junior in university now. I've always gotten INTJ as my type but most of my friends or people I know believe this is a mistake. I just don't see how this could be if it's always the result I get.

You could be biased towards yourself when you answer the test (maybe answering in the way you wish to be vs. the way you actually are), or you might not be showing your full personality to the people around you (still, they’d have to agree at least that you’re introverted).

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Is it possible to lose your INTJ personality and melt into a new one? Or is the typing permanent? I'm an INTJ and I'm in this phase where I'm uninterested with everything. I haven't been productive lately and I'm skipping my classes. I'm going through something right now and I'm refusing to address it directly thus leading to weakshit coping mechanisms that I don't approve of but as I said, I'm stuck. Am I still an INTJ with these attitudes I'm showing? It has been 2 months.

You’re alright. You can’t change personality type with time, no, but it sounds like you are simply going to some sort of “upgrade” phase (I’ve heard parents calling it growing up). You know how you can’t really use your computer while it upgrades but then you get all the cool new features? If you’re as young as I think you are chances are that’s what you’re experiencing, especially if there has been some big change in your life recently.

However, if there is something else that is bothering you, or if you want to talk about bad coping mechanisms, I’m here.

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Do you think INTJs are inclined more so than other types to drugs and / or alcohol?

“Wild” INTJs

I think inferior Se might give INTJs the tendency to not really be able to control themselves once they feel like going wild (feature shared with INFJs). But I think it also comes with maturity, and INTJs get better at releasing their Se without ending up hurting themselves or others exceeding as they get older/have more experience with anything sensory really.

Side note: if an INTJ does something really uncharacteristically “wild”, which can be related to drugs, or sex, or big motorcycles: 1) that thing is possibly not part of their habits but just necessary in the moment to blow off steam/experience new things/grow a little; 2) that “wild” side is always present in the INTJ, most often giving them ridiculous suggestions they’d never follow, but it’s part of their (inner) character and I think (because I know I do) INTJs want to be acknowledged and appreciated for that side as well, even more so because sometimes we have a hard time accepting it ourselves.

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hi there. as an intj, what are your thoughts on life being a simulation?

I definitely consider it a possibility. Would I live my life differently if it were? Not really, although I had a period in which I was very fascinated by the concept of waking up in your “real life” after you die, as if this whole thing were only a dream. Fun stuff.

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Hey, your blog is really helpful, but I think I need some advice. I'm pretty sure I am an INTJ. I have taken multiple tests and also gotten into the functions, although I don't really like this 'unemotional-robot'-shit. It just depends on how far an INTJ has come development wise. But: my 'obsession' with self-optimization is toxic. Paired with Ni my head becomes a mess everytime I talk to someone I can't be completely myself with. (1/3) (sorry i messaged this first by accident)

I’m always trying not to repeat bad situations and to better myself. I have so many bad experiences where either someone told me that I’m weird or something or I just really regret saying or showing something of myself that people might not have liked. I over-analyze everything the other person says. In my childhood I was kinda mean and insensitive and I’m afraid of making these mistakes again. (2/3)

But these insecurities only apply to my looks (eating disorders etc) and to my social life. Meanwhile I’m very, very confident (sometimes arrogant, but I think most INTJs have a bit of a superiority complex) about my intelligence and abilities. I know I can do almost anything, but my other insecurities just weigh me down so much. Any advice? (3/3)

Self-improvement, Morals, and Insecurities

Hey there! I think your self-description mentions many things that INTJs would feel relatable - and nobody like the robot stuff. Hm not true, maybe some do. But it comes more from the “catchy” side of MBTI than the “actually useful for self-growth” side.

I’m thinking of what kind of advise I could give you. I think self-optimization by itself is not a bad thing, and it’s a really common trait in INTJs, so you’re not alone. The thing is, it’s also important to learn when to stop. And you heard right, that also is something that you learn with time, by attuning yourself to how you feel. I can make up a dumb example for this, let’s say you were reading about how to paint succulents, when you start feeling thirsty. And since you were focused on reading, you probably feel thirsty when you’re really thirsty. But the water is far, and you’re in focus mode, so you don’t get up and keep working. Minutes pass and you start feeling an headache. “Why is that”, you think, not really understanding. You stop working because you don’t feel so good. And then you remember the last time you had water was something like 10 hours before.

This is an example of why sometimes doing something that might seem not productive or out of the plan is actually better in the long run. And I wish the water example wasn’t real-life based but it is. I guess the bottom line would be, in the process of you becoming the better version of yourself, don’t forget to take care of your needs. They can be physical, emotional, or even just “taking a break from your own mind” needs. And they matter.

When you say you don’t want to repeat your mistakes by being mean to other people again, I think you’re making an important point that often gets ignored when talking about INTJs: the effort that some INTJs make to be good people. Not all INTJs feel like this (or pretend not to feel like this), but I’m glad that we’re on the same side on this.

In general, I have found that insecurities can be tackled two ways. Let’s say that insecurities are things that you wish to change about yourself. There would be things you can change, and things that are out of your power. For the things you can change, I think it’s good to take baby steps to become every day a little less insecure and fostering change. Nothing dramatic, just a little bit at a time - INTJs are the best in the long game anyway. One of my life mottos is “you must do the things you think you cannot do”, meaning that you should always strive to challenge yourself with the things that seem a little out of your reach but that you really wish to do. You’d be surprised by the things you can manage to achieve. For the things you can’t change because they depend on what other people do or think about you, or on things that just happen and are out of your control, acknowledging and letting go is crucial. Don’t ever let things you can’t act on weight you down. They can make you suffer, but that’s about as far as their powers should go. The emotions you feel are precious and should be listened to and felt, but after that it’s time to let them go.

I hope this helps. All the best, xx

good-ni-te

Great post op (what I’m about to say here has nothing to do with your post). This side note and this is VERY IMPORTANT.

If you are focusing on something for hours and hours at a time and find yourself unable to retract your attention from it (no matter how much you want too) it might also be a possible sign of a neurodevelopment disorder (ADHD, autism spec) due to something called “hyperfocus” this may sound like something everyone does, but if it actually interferes with your life on a regular basis that is a mental problem and not a INTJ thing. (It is also important to note that just because this has happened to you before doesn’t exactly mean ADHD or autism but it is a sign of a problem that you should keep an eye on)

If you are curious as to how I know this, I have ADHD myself. If you want more information feel free to message me or take a look at my ADHD blog @hey-look-a-squirrel for some other ADHD type things. NOTE: I AM NOT PROMOTING SELF DIAGNOSIS PLEASE SEE A DOCTOR IF YOU ARE HAVING THIS PROBLEM AND OTHER FOCUS PROBLEMS WITH THIS.

That’s my two cents. Stay in school kids.

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Hey thanks for writing this! I wanted to mention this point as well but I forgot along the way.

I don’t want to make the asker worry unnecessarily, but if you (helenasmain) think that the way you feel really puts an obstacle on you living a normal life, you should seek the help of a professional since it’s something that none of us can really diagnose. But it’s also possible it’s just a rough period/you’re growing up/it’s just how you are/all sorts of stuff.

So keep an eye open on that, but no need to worry! I also relate to what you said (or could have related at certain points in my life and my psychologist says I’m a little quirky but alright haha). Only you can know how you feel and how noxious your feelings can get.

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Hey, your blog is really helpful, but I think I need some advice. I'm pretty sure I am an INTJ. I have taken multiple tests and also gotten into the functions, although I don't really like this 'unemotional-robot'-shit. It just depends on how far an INTJ has come development wise. But: my 'obsession' with self-optimization is toxic. Paired with Ni my head becomes a mess everytime I talk to someone I can't be completely myself with. (1/3) (sorry i messaged this first by accident)

I'm always trying not to repeat bad situations and to better myself. I have so many bad experiences where either someone told me that I'm weird or something or I just really regret saying or showing something of myself that people might not have liked. I over-analyze everything the other person says. In my childhood I was kinda mean and insensitive and I'm afraid of making these mistakes again. (2/3)

But these insecurities only apply to my looks (eating disorders etc) and to my social life. Meanwhile I'm very, very confident (sometimes arrogant, but I think most INTJs have a bit of a superiority complex) about my intelligence and abilities. I know I can do almost anything, but my other insecurities just weigh me down so much. Any advice? (3/3)

Self-improvement, Morals, and Insecurities

Hey there! I think your self-description mentions many things that INTJs would feel relatable - and nobody like the robot stuff. Hm not true, maybe some do. But it comes more from the “catchy” side of MBTI than the “actually useful for self-growth” side.

I’m thinking of what kind of advise I could give you. I think self-optimization by itself is not a bad thing, and it’s a really common trait in INTJs, so you’re not alone. The thing is, it’s also important to learn when to stop. And you heard right, that also is something that you learn with time, by attuning yourself to how you feel. I can make up a dumb example for this, let’s say you were reading about how to paint succulents, when you start feeling thirsty. And since you were focused on reading, you probably feel thirsty when you’re really thirsty. But the water is far, and you’re in focus mode, so you don't get up and keep working. Minutes pass and you start feeling an headache. “Why is that”, you think, not really understanding. You stop working because you don't feel so good. And then you remember the last time you had water was something like 10 hours before.

This is an example of why sometimes doing something that might seem not productive or out of the plan is actually better in the long run. And I wish the water example wasn’t real-life based but it is. I guess the bottom line would be, in the process of you becoming the better version of yourself, don’t forget to take care of your needs. They can be physical, emotional, or even just “taking a break from your own mind” needs. And they matter.

When you say you don't want to repeat your mistakes by being mean to other people again, I think you’re making an important point that often gets ignored when talking about INTJs: the effort that some INTJs make to be good people. Not all INTJs feel like this (or pretend not to feel like this), but I’m glad that we’re on the same side on this.

In general, I have found that insecurities can be tackled two ways. Let’s say that insecurities are things that you wish to change about yourself. There would be things you can change, and things that are out of your power. For the things you can change, I think it’s good to take baby steps to become every day a little less insecure and fostering change. Nothing dramatic, just a little bit at a time - INTJs are the best in the long game anyway. One of my life mottos is “you must do the things you think you cannot do”, meaning that you should always strive to challenge yourself with the things that seem a little out of your reach but that you really wish to do. You’d be surprised by the things you can manage to achieve. For the things you can’t change because they depend on what other people do or think about you, or on things that just happen and are out of your control, acknowledging and letting go is crucial. Don’t ever let things you can’t act on weight you down. They can make you suffer, but that’s about as far as their powers should go. The emotions you feel are precious and should be listened to and felt, but after that it’s time to let them go.

I hope this helps. All the best, xx

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Kind people who are genuinely happy to do things with me are the new sexy

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tangledinwards

Before I Hurt You

Run.

I may not know you, but I know this story. I smiled at you; I talked to you; I let you have a glimpse of my world. I teased and you were teased.

Run.

I pulled you in, I fed this thought, I did it both unconscious and fully aware. I can see the way your eyes are now set on my back as I play the piano. I feel your gaze when I laugh, a room of people away from you. I laugh a bit more flustered, a bit more innocent, and I let the laughter be dimmed, only to be replaced with the dreamy expression of someone who’s entered their own world. I know your mind wonders where I go.

Run.

It’s a trap. Don’t follow the trail of innocent words and dozed off stares I leave behind. I do not mean well. I cannot act on innocence; only strategy. There’s calculation behind all I do.

Run.

I feel your eagerness supporting those simple questions, that clueless chitchat. You’re intelligent. So, run, for if there’s one thing I have full and no control over, it’s my schematic mind. Run before I hurt you.

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Boyfriend, seductively: Tell me something I don’t know about you

Me: I love modern military airplanes

vijara

look: the right people will get it. the right people will see you and appreciate you for the person that you are. the right people won’t require you to dilute, censor, or edit yourself in order to be worthy of their time and affection. you don’t need to waste your time on people who are committed to misunderstanding you

enfp-and-intj

{ INTJ }

Keep this in mind! It doesn’t matter if the person is your ‘ideal partner from MBTI’ . They can be toxic, unhealthy and dangerous just like anyone.

Incompatible, healthy, loving partner > compatible, unhealthy, toxic partner.

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Do you appreciate it when people correct you?

Yes. I hate being wrong more than I love being right.

I made the mistake of telling you my favourite color one spring night, while looking at the velvety blue-black sky. And now, whenever I look up there to seek comfort, I can't help feeling your presence and your voice when you said, smiling as if you always knew,

"I get why you like it, this color is you"

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Due to my recent obsession with the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, I have taken the MBTI test several times at least. Across the board, I got INTJ with the exception of one ISTJ result at a 54/46 on the sensing. I feel a strong affiliation with the INTJ personality type, but due to its rarity I wonder whether or not I truly am that result or have conditioned my answers in a manner that favours this type. It’s basically my imposter syndrome taking over.

ISTJ vs INTJ - Tell-apart shortcuts

Oh I get the imposter syndrome, especially since you have been taking the test so many times. Considering the way you write, I think you’re alright with a IXTJ typing, the question now being N or S.

Keeping in mind there’s no good or bad type and that one of my lifelong and most trusted friends is ISTJ (and we have a lot in common, like our love for literature and general nerdy-ness) I’d like you to think of your most recent project (some problem you liked to solve or some creative idea you wanted to work on).

What was it about? Was it primarily practical or very abstract? (The difference between improving your work routine so that it’s perfect and masterfully executable VS improving that project your dad talked to you about that time five years ago and probably totally forgot about.)

Were you playing with the what-if’s? Not of your life only but of life on Earth in general, humanity as a whole, or something like that (the difference between “what if I had taken Korean in college - where would I be now?” VS “what if we had all developed from lizards instead of monkeys?”)

Both INTJs and ISTJs want to do things well and care about improvement and execution, but in my experience a lot of the things I end up working on, those interesting but not really applicable daily abilities that INTJs love to learn, seem almost pretty much pointless to my very dear and much more down-to-earth ISTJ friend.

For example, maybe a dumb one, but my other INTJ friend knows how to pick a simple lock: it’s a practical ability, you might say that you could use if you ever lose your key or something, but it’s not like you need it every day. And she learned because she thought it could be cool to know. I feel like an ISTJ wouldn’t learn something like that - also because they feel it’s illegal. An ISTJ would learn something more usable on a daily basis: how to make a great meal, how to have perfect calligraphy or stuff like that.

So I’d say learning with a real purpose VS learning with a fake purpose but actually just pleasure.

I don’t know if this helps at all, but I hope it does :)

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