Cone-Grabage

I'm a piece of cone

[azuremist]

For people who haven’t heard: this month, the DSM (diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders) are planning on updating the criteria for getting an autism diagnosis. On paper, this sounds like a good thing. It’s not.

The DSM is the handbook used by healthcare workers worldwide, for diagnosing mental disorders and the like. You may have read that the autistic diagnosis criteria is getting updated and, like many in the autistic community, hoped that this meant that it would be expanded, to make it easier for AFAB, transgender, and non-white people to be diagnosed (as it is notoriously hard for anyone except for white, cisgender men to obtain an autism diagnosis). However, they recently released a statement saying that they were not expanding the criteria, but were instead making it more ‘conservative’, as they feel autism is being ‘over-diagnosed’. (Which is, of course, bullshit for a whole plethora of reasons which I’m sure you’ve heard before.)

As-of my posting this, they have not released the official, updated criteria yet, so there is not much we can do right now. But there is one thing that we must agree upon: DO NOT SHAME PEOPLE FOR SELF-DIAGNOSING WITH AUTISM. Because obtaining an autism diagnosis is, quite literally, only getting harder.

[dystopiandilfs]

If you are on Sapnap's alt stream (or any stream but especially SapnapAlt) please read these basic twitch etiquette rules and tips. Kinda negative but sometimes bullying works.

1. Get BTTV. Google BTTV download the BetterTTV browser extension. It's 100% safe.

2. If you want to donate to be noticed please gift subs instead not only is it helping the community but streamers prefer gift subs.

3. Don't mention other streamers in chat. If another person starts streaming don't announce you're leaving just fucking leave.

4. Don't promote yourself or anyone else on someone's stream. That includes asking for a sub.

5. Don't spam chat. No joke needs to be spammed for 20 minutes and re-mentioned every stream after that.

6. Call streamers by the name they go by whether it's their birthname, nickname or Twitch username. Nicknames aren't funny. For example stop calling Sapnap Cracknap, Snapchat, Samsung Refrigerator etc. If their friends give them nicknames it doesn't mean you can especially if you overuse and ruin it. If they don't go by birth names don't use it. Clay, Nick, Luke, Dave etc remove that shit from vocab.

7. If you do want to donate please understand that stupid questions and donations aren't appreciated by streamers or viewers. If you donate saying any of these messages just know chat doesn't like you and the streamer probably think you're cringe.

"Can you say Happy Birthday to"

"Can you say Hi to"

"Can you read my DM/email"

"You ignored my last dono"

It doesn't matter how polite you are it's still dumb. If you are donating purely to be noticed, don't.

8. Don't call out lurkers. If Dream is watching but doesn't speak in chat don't spam chat saying hi or saying "Dream is lurking"

9. Don't ask streamers to join VC or add people to call

10. This is for DreamSMP members only but don't inform them about what happens in other lore streams. Like everyone spamming Phil, George and Techno about Dream being in prison, they know but the characters don't. Also stop spamming everyone to visit Dream in prison. It's arranged by both Sam and Dream since they both need to be online.

11. Don't say personal details. No age reveals. No location reveals. No full name reveals. Please stay safe.

DONATING TO A STREAMER MEANS YOU ARE DONATING WITHOUT GETTING ANYTHING IN RETURN. YOU WOULDN'T GIVE MONEY TO A DOG'S SHELTER AND EXPECT ANYTHING IN RETURN. SAME THING GOES FOR STREAMERS. DONATIONS AREN'T A PLACE TO GET A NOTICE. THEY AREN'T A PLACE TO BUY A HAPPY BIRTHDAY COMMENT.

FOR THE LOVE OF EVERYTHING PLEASE UNDERSTAND THAT DONATING AND BUYING ARE TWO COMPLETELY DIFFERENT THINGS. Buying means you exchange one product for another for example you give money in exchange for a new phone. Donating is you helping someone out without them doing something in return. Please learn that.

[irumacone]

Please stop breaking multiple agere blogs DNIs! We are strictly SFW and do not allow any interaction from folks who reblog or are part of DD/LG, CG/L, etc. ( Most have already blocked you, this was for incase you were unaware of the issue! ^^ Please remember to check the original blog before reblogging it!)

I dont know how long this was ago,but hi I'm sorry about that. I am age regression as well I'm not NSFW or in any kink related stuff. Sorry if that has gotten mixed up I'm I minor I don't do that kind of stuff. I might make a separate blog to reblog stuff if it fine. Sorry about that. Who blocked also, I want to apologize. I was mixing stuff up with my regular reblogs.

[cloudblack]

Children who feel they cannot engage their parents emotionally often try to strengthen their connection by playing whatever roles they believe their parents want them to. Although this may win them some fleeting approval, it doesn’t yield genuine emotional closeness. Emotionally disconnected parents don’t suddenly develop a capacity for empathy just because a child does something to please them. 

People who lacked emotional engagement in childhood, men and women alike, often can’t believe that someone would want to have a relationship with them just because of who they are. They believe that if they want closeness, they must play a role that always puts the other person first.

— Lindsay C. Gibson, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents (2015)

[stemmmm]

What advice do you have for a 14 year old who's trying to learn how to animate?

There’s a LOT of things that go into animation and I definitely can’t cover everything all at once (im sure you dont want me to either) so I’ll try to keep it simple!

But for forewarning, I take animation very seriously and can’t help but info dump.

1. Your animation isnt going to work immediately. it’s going to be awful. accept that and move on.

2. Don’t give up when your animation doesn’t work!!! i swear ive seen people try to animate for their very first time with like a walk cycle and immediately after the first test shoot they played they just dropped it and i was like honey!! honey no you made half of a single step and didnt in-between it. You aren’t done, thats why it looks bad! You don’t say a drawing sucks and throw it out halfway through drawing a single eye, you draw the rest of the face and see how it looks in the end. that’s how you have to look at making animation.

3. It’s a lot more work than you think it’s going to be. animation runs at 24 frames per second, that’s 24 drawings a second. some people do it 12 drawings or even 8 drawings a second, but no matter what it’s a lot of dang drawings.

4. Rough drawing rough drawing ROUGH DRAWING! when you start animating things, don’t even THINK about detail! for example, if you want to animate someone walking, animate a circle for the head and a rectangle for their body, that’s all the detail you need to start with. once that is COMPLETELY and i mean completely entirely animated to a point where you are satisfied, THEN you can start to add detail.

5. References!!!! they’re everywhere! and you need to use them! if you want to animate a bird flying, you either look out your window, find a video on youtube, or get a diagram but don’t just try to guess or it won’t work, i promise you

6. Try as many different methods as you can! everyone animates differently. maybe my advice won’t apply to you at all, these things are just what works for me! I have friends who animate from the roughest of rough drawings and others who start every drawing completely detailed. some friends animate from major pose to major pose and others animate frame by frame.

7. HAVE FUN! if you aren’t having a fun time animating, then what are you doing? Ask yourself this question and then figure out what you need to do to MAKE it fun! It makes the work better for everyone in the end!

Now get ready for a link dump!

other animation advice from yours truly! which will be somewhat repetitive

tips for beginners

basic tips

12 principles of animation

living lines library: archive of old animation tests for many movies

really good animation books (links to amazon)

animators survival kit

the illusion of life: disney animation

cartoon animation

elemental magic: the art of special effects animation

animation programs

tv paint (indefinite free trial, does not allow saving or exports)

toon boom has 21 day free trials

pencil 2d is free to use

adobe photoshop and flash also work

if you have any other questions, feel free to ask! some things here might sound like nonsense to someone with no prior animation knowledge and I will GLADLY explain in better detail

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Coping 101 - a masterpost of down to earth resources

This post doesn’t contain links to many professional resources - it’s a list of coping tips from people who are mentally ill/disabled themselves and who all decided to share what has worked for them here on tumblr. In the last 7 months I have been sharing content created for and by mentally ill/disabled people on this blog - and to celebrate reaching 5000 followers, I have decided to collect all the best coping tips I’ve come across in one easily accessible place. Enjoy!

Managing emotions:

Letting go of emotional suffering via mindfulness.

DBT strengthening statements

Handling negative emotions

The “emotions are signals” method

The “mindfully recognizing emotions” method

Healthy perspectives on emotions

The “emotions are like hiccups” method

The “healthy outlets” method

Managing anxiety:

Coping statements for anxiety.

Breathing exercise gif

Breathing exercise gif 2

Things to remember when having an anxiety attack

The “just show up” method

The “panicky friend” method

Grounding techniques 

The “I can survive the next 10 seconds” method

The “distract your brain” method

The “you will be able to cope” method

Managing depression:

7 depression tips and why they work

Depression tips

21 tips to keeping your shit together when you’re depressed

Managing executive dysfunction:

The “might as well” method.

The “one step access” method.

Why self-discipline isn’t always the answer. 

The “use whatever works” method.

The “taking care of someone else” method.

The “june-bugging” method.

Tricks for pushing through executive dysfunction

The “do several things at once” method

The “accept your limits” methods

The “turn it into a game” method

The “anything worth doing is worth doing poorly” method

The “tricking your brain” method

The “untangling the spaghetti” method.

The “smaller steps” method

The “emergency cleaning” method

The “letting go of should” method.

The “my body is an animal I need to care about” method

The “fork theory” method

The “remove the barriers” method

The “half-ass things” method

Managing negative thinking:

Challenging cognitive distortions.

Finding alternative thoughts.

Challenging negative thoughts

How to get over past mistakes

Toxic positivity vs hope and validation

How to improve your self-esteem

Negative and positive cognitions

The “self neutrality” method

The “separate your negative qualities from your identity” method

Self talk to help end obsessions

Ten forms of twisted thinking + ten ways to untwist your thinking

Managing self care:

How to practice balanced self care.

Why hands-on hobbies are important

Ways to self-soothe

A list of mental illness workbooks 

Ways to start feeling again

How to get back on track after a breakdown

How to self-soothe and treat yourself

Types of healthy coping skills

The “parenting yourself” method

An interactive self care guide

The “don’t ignore your needs” method

Online self care

Making the most of therapy

Free worksheets for people who can’t access therapy

The “add good things to your life” method

Showering for spoonies

The “do what you can” method

The “it isn’t a waste of time just because it won’t cure you” method.

Self care cheat sheet

The “create something” method

Managing school:

Studying with anxiety and depression

Studying with mental illness

Coping with dissociation in school

Managing exam periods when you’re mentally ill

The “done is better than none” method

How to survive college

Managing urges to harm yourself:

What to do to when you’re suicidal

Questions to ask before giving up

Alternatives to self harm

Coping with suicidal thoughts

[self-care-club]

a therapist i saw in high school recommended i keep a “panic attack journal” using this format. it can help you figure out what exactly gives you a panic attack, or even what makes you anxious even if you don’t necessarily experience an attack. it can also help serve as a distraction or as a coping method. this is just a basic format that works for me; please edit this to suit you and your needs. i recommend speaking with your therapist, doctor, or counselor (whomever works with you to help manage your anxiety) before keeping a panic attack journal, to help determine if keeping one would benefit you.

below is the transcription for people who can’t see the image, or can’t read my handwriting.

[image: a photo of handwritten text on wide-ruled white-lined notebook paper. the text reads as follows:

panic attack journal

date, time and duration (example: 12 november, 1:45-1:53 PM) (it’s ok to approximate)

location (example: my bedroom, grocery store, math class)

triggers - things you know set off attack (example: large crowds, thinking about something) and/or things you suspect set off attack (example: homework, an argument you had with someone)

thoughts - what you remember thinking before and after the attack (it’s okay to not remember)

feelings - what you remember feeling before and after the attack (it’s okay to not remember or not know the words to use)

what you did to get through the attack/calm down (example: talked to someone, did breathing exercises)

how well what you did worked

how you feel now that the attack has subsided (example: tired, relieved, empty, better)

anything you did to take care of yourself after (example took a bath, made some tea, talked to someone) ]

[vampcubus]

𝓜𝔂 𝓜𝓪𝓼𝓽𝓮𝓻𝓵𝓲𝓼𝓽!

                                   ♡ |𝓑𝓝𝓗𝓐/𝓜𝓗𝓐| ♡

❥ |Midoriya Masterlist!|

❥ |Todoroki Masterlist!|

❥ |Bakugou Masterlist!|

❥ |Kaminari Masterlist!|

❥ |Kirishima Masterlist!|

❥ |Tamaki Masterlist!|

❥ |Azu Masterlist!| - oc

❥ |Tsuruya Masterlist!| - oc

❥ |Tokoyami Masterlist!|

❥ |Shinsou Masterlist!|

❥ |Various|

Platonic!Bakusquad/Reader | Fluffy

                        ♡ |𝓝𝓪𝓿𝓲𝓰𝓪𝓽𝓲𝓸𝓷 𝓣𝓪𝓰𝓼| ♡

#oc aesthetic - aesthetic collages i’ve done for OCs!

#n/sfw - all of my nsfw content, including smut and thirst

#thirsty thursday - nsfw posts related to my Thirsty Thursday event

#ashi rambles - me talking all the time, what i tag most of my asks with or announcements

#oc talk - me talking to y’all about mine and your OCs!

#wife [user here] - wives and regulars

#my art - what I tag all of my artworks with

#my ocs #my oc #bnha oc - where to find everything about my original characters

#mommy asks - mommy dom interactions between me and anons

[vampcubus]

Izuku Midoriya M.list

┌───── *ﾟ⋅ ❀ ⋅ *ﾟ ─────┐

          —❥ Key!

               Fluff = ☁️

              Angst = 💔

              Smut = 🖤

              Mild Smut = 💜

└───── *ﾟ⋅ ❀ ⋅ *ﾟ─────┘

･:*:･ﾟ･Fics･ﾟ:*:･

—♥ Interlude ☁️

—♥ Nurse? [part 1] ✦✦✦ [part 2] ✦✦✦ [part 3] 🖤☁️

—♥ Put a Ring on it 🖤

—♥ Quiet [part 1] ✦✦✦ [part 2] 💔☁️

—♥ Safe With Me | Yandere Izuku ☁️

—♥ Goodmorning Starshine ☁️

—♥ Another Brick in the Wall 🖤

—♥ Bet 🖤

—♥ 3 AM 🖤

—♥ Too Short ☁️💔

—♥ Brat 🖤

—♥ Lovesick Messenger ☁️

—♥ Next Stop 🖤

—♥ Shh 🖤

—♥ You Misunderstand 💔

—♥ Bite Me [part 1] ✦✦✦ [part 2] 💔

—♥ Follow My Lead 🖤

—♥ Childish 💔

—♥ Do you love me? | Yandere Izuku 🖤

—♥ Castle 🖤

—♥ Hold This ☁️

—♥ Sleepless ☁️

—♥ Risk 🖤

—♥ Insatiable | Bunny Izuku 🖤☁️

—♥ Missing You 🖤

—♥ The Morning After ☁️💜

—♥ Honey-sweet  ☁️🖤

—♥ Strawberry Milkshake 🖤

—♥ Into the Garden ✦✦✦ chapter 1  ☁️

—♥ Anthill  ☁️

—♥ Get Angry [part 1] ✦✦✦ [part 2] 🖤

—♥ Marshmallow Dreams  ☁️

—♥ Exposed 🖤

—♥ Kissin’ in the Rain 💜☁️

—♥ Bunny Season 🖤

—♥ Honey! Honey! ☁️

—♥ Pillow Prince 🖤

･:*:･ﾟ･Scenarios･ﾟ:*:･

—♥ Izuku’s reaction to you calling him daddy! 🖤

—♥ Izuku trying to hide your hickeys from his friends 💜

—♥ 69 position with Izuku 🖤

—♥ Izuku being a not-so-soft dom after a hard day 🖤

—♥ “Just Kiss Me” | Izuku’s taller s/o teasing him ☁️

—♥ Midoriya with an insecure, curvy s/o! ☁️

—♥ Does Izuku prefer lingerie or sexy All Might cosplay? 💜

—♥ Teasing Izuku in public + Izuku Thigh Appreciation™ 💜

—♥ Overstimulation with Izuku 🖤

—♥ Izuku being a heavy producer 🖤

—♥ What Izuku smells like ☁️

—♥ What Izuku tastes like 💜

—♥ Izuku’s s/o finding his dirty notes about them 💜

—♥ Izuku calling you a good girl 🖤☁️

—♥ Slowly riding Izuku 🖤

—♥ Izuku loving his hair being pulled 🖤

—♥ Pegging Izuku scenario 🖤

—♥ One For All quirk kink scenario 🖤

—♥ Izuku sits on your face scenario 🖤

—♥ Dicc slaps uwu 🖤

—♥ Teasing Izuku with ice 🖤

—♥ Wax play with Izuku 🖤

—♥ Nibbling on Izuku’s ears~ 💜☁️

—♥ Thigh-riding Izuku scenario 💜 

—♥ A sleepy makeout scenario ☁️

—♥ “Overheat” Bunny Izuku in heat 🖤

—♥ “No breaks!” Bunny Izuku hitting it from the back~ 🖤

—♥ “Sleepy Little Bunny” Waking up with Bunny Izuku in your bed 🖤

—♥ Carrying around Bunny Izuku!  ☁️

—♥ Bunny Izuku’s ears and tail are sensitive~ [part 1] ✦✦✦ [part 2] 🖤

—♥ Teasing Izuku with a lollipop 💜

—♥ Licking ice cream off of him 💜

—♥ Him licking ice cream off of you 💜

—♥ Izuku’s strawberry milk 🖤

—♥ Choking Izuku with a popsicle 💜

—♥ Topping a subby Midoriya 🖤

—♥ “Princess” Daddy dom! Midoriya scenario 🖤

—♥ Praising Izuku’s freckles 🖤☁️

—♥ Making out with a vocal Izuku 💜

—♥ Izuku dressing up in bunny lingerie for you! 💜

—♥ Izuku riding your Bad Dragon strap! 🖤

—♥ Watching Izuku fuck himself with a vibrating dildo~ 🖤

—♥ Glowstick Dick Deku scenario (i blame u all) 🖤

—♥ Just a Bite | Naga Izuku Scenario 🖤

—♥ soft overstim scenario 🖤☁️

—♥ tiddy snatcher uwu 🖤☁️

—♥ Eyes | scenario ☁️

—♥ Spanking a bratty Izuku 🖤

—♥ A thirsty 4AM ramble 🖤

—♥ Izuku in school with a vibe scenario 🖤

—♥ Fem Izuku thirst~ 🖤

—♥ Izuku begging you to sit on his face 🖤

—♥ teasing Izuku in public~ 🖤

—♥ Izuku riding your face + ass eating scenario 🖤

—♥ Izuku the panty thief scenario 🖤

—♥ Izuku calling you mommy in public scenario 💜

･:*:･ﾟ･Headcanons･ﾟ:*:･

—♥ Some nsfw Midoriya HCs 🖤

—♥ Panty Theivery Midoriya HCs 🖤

—♥ Puppy! Midoriya HCs ☁️

—♥ Midoriya Kink HCs 🖤

—♥ Midoriya Kiss HCs ☁️

—♥ Midoriya with a tactile s/o HCs ☁️

[revehive]

what's happening right now is absolutely awful and so unfair... to all my black mutuals and non mutuals please take care

Black Mental Health Matters carrd

[figues]

sensory self-soothing/relaxation tips

whether you’re overwhelmed, dealing with an unpleasant situation, want to take a study break but you don’t know what to do, or you simply just want to get out of your head for a moment, there are a bunch of ways that you can improve your mood/comfort level and come back to your body using your 5 senses

smell

light an incense or a scented candle

put on some nice-smelling moisturiser or perfume

nothing like the smell of fresh laundry to make you feel like you’ve got your life together!

go to a bakery and buy some fresh pastry or bread if you can – or bake your own!

visit your local park, sit around and smell the grass and the smells of the outdoor

sight

make a collection of pictures that are pleasing to you, on pinterest, tumblr or just a folder on your computer

go on Google Arts & Culture and look at your favourite paintings

leaf through a book with pictures, without trying to absorb the information

draw, paint or collage something you like

look at a photo of someone you care about, whether it’s a family member, your bff or your celebrity crush

hearing

listen to some soothing music – bonus points if it’s from a part of the world/culture you’re not familiar with!

listen to an audiobook – you can find plenty of free audiobooks online, even on youtube

open your window and listen to the sounds outside without judgment, even if it’s just traffic noise

go outside and listen to the sounds of nature – or stay inside and put on a video with nature sounds!

listen to a podcast that’s neutral, gentle and informative (such as NPR’s Hidden Brain, or Sidedoor from the Smithsonian)

taste

make (or order) your favourite meal and eat it slowly

drink a cozy drink, such as tea, coffee or hot chocolate

eat a fresh, ripe piece of fruit

make some infused water with what you have at hand, and savour it as you drink

have some hard candy, mints or gum handy to pop in your mouth when you feel overwhelmed

touch

take a shower and enjoy how the water feels on your skin

change your clothes! get into something comfy, or something that makes you feel good about yourself

take off your shoes/socks and plant your feet firmly on the ground. notice how it feels to be supported

while you’re at it, go ahead and give yourself a foot massage!

change your sheets and lie down for a minute. just enjoy how cozy your bed is

some of these have been sourced from the Dialectical Behavioral Therapy Skills Workbook, some of these are my own. please feel free to reblog and add your own tips

[crimstudies]

here’s a list of my favourite playlists that i listen to when studying. only one playlist has lyrics so if you find that distracting you can skip it!

1 am study session - lofi hip hop/chill beats (1 hour)

a rainy town - animal crossing ost + thunderstorm ambiance (1 hour)

breath of the wild relaxing music with rain (1 hour)

lofi hip hop radio - beats to relax/study to (live radio)

relaxing life is strange music (1 hour) *has lyrics

relaxing music from uncharted series (45 mins)

skyrim music & ambiance - night (1 hour)

skyrim music & ambiance - rainy day (10 hours)

studio ghibli summer night piano collection with nature sounds (7 hours)

the last of us - relaxing music compilation (30 mins)

the legend of zelda - calming & relaxing music compilation (1 hour)

the witcher 3 - peaceful music & nature ambiance (1 hour)

the witcher 3 toussaint - relaxing music for sleep and study (1 hour)

uncharted - ambient music & ambience (1 hour)

all playlists

[mt-is-mental]

Studying with mental illness

I’ve discovered a couple of things first semester of college and dealing with mental illness. Most of the semester I was feeling depressed and anxious (rather than manic or lucid, etc.). It was very difficult to focus, but I found out some stuff.

THE POMODORO TECHNIQUE IS LIFE. If you can’t focus, take a break and do something distracting for a little bit. Check in with yourself. What is preventing you from focusing? After you adjust a little, try to do some work.

DON’T BEAT YOURSELF UP OVER NOT GETTING STUFF DONE. It’s not your fault. At the worst you can email your professor for an extension.

GO TO DISABILITY SERVICES. They can help you get accommodations for your classes. Accommodations are there to help you succeed.

SEE A THERAPIST. This sounds strange for helping you study, but if there’s stuff on your mind, it’s best to get it out by talking to a safe person. This will help you get back on track. Also, Dialectical Behavior Therapists will help you come up with strategies for studying.

TAKE YOUR MEDS REGULARLY. If you don’t have a meds schedule, start one. Taking your meds at different times each day is going to throw you off. I’ve been there. Set reminders on your phone and keep the medicine with you so you have no excuse.

READ SUMMARIES. If you have trouble with focusing, read the summary. It’s not going to work to force yourself to read long things.

FIGURE OUT YOUR LEARNING STYLE. And then use it. If you’re a visual learner, go look at diagrams and read summaries. If you’re a kinetic learner, rewrite your notes. If you’re an auditory learner, record yourself reading your notes out loud or ask to record the class (you can get an accommodation for this). Figure out your style.

TRY TO ATTEND CLASS. This is especially important for classes where they take role. If you have to, show up for the first 30 minutes and then leave. When I’m not doing as well, I sit in class on my laptop looking at Pinterest and tumblr.

DON’T BE AFRAID TO ASK FOR HELP. This is the most important thing. You can do this!

So I hope these tips are helpful. If you want to hear more about my experience or want a suggestion on how to work better, shoot me a message.

[sensitivesuggestion]

types of healthy coping skills

1. self-soothing

comforting yourself through the 5 senses

Touch: stuffed animals, stress balls, taking a bath, a soft blanket

Hear: music, audio book, guided relaxation

See: snow globe, glitter, calming images, art, anything that pleases you visually 

Taste: tea, mints, gum

Smell: lotion, candles, incense 

2. distraction

removing your focus from the stressor for a period of time

puzzles, art, crafting, reading, movies, gaming, exercise, being social

3. opposite action

doing the opposite of the impulse that aligns with a positive emotion

affirmations, inspiration, lighthearted and encouraging focus

4. emotional awareness

identifying and constructively expressing what you’re feeling

journaling, listing emotions, using a emotional identification chart, drawing, therapy

5. mindfulness

centering and anchoring yourself to the present moment

meditation, guided relaxation, yoga, breathing exercises, candle gazing, going for a walk

6. ask for help

this is important to do when you feel like your coping skills are not enough or they are too negative and detrimental  

therapy is ideal for helping a person create a healthy coping strategy and incorporate it into their life 

*a coping skill is considered healthy if it helps you to deal with stress more positively, does not hinder your progress, and isn’t harmful physically or mentally. A coping skill can become negative when it is used to completely avoid dealing with the stressor. 

[untitled31280]

Date Ideas: Summer Edition

-Breakfast Dates

-Movie dates

-Drive in Movies

-Midnight pancake sessions

-Rollerblading

-Walks in the park

-Ice cream dates

-Restaurant Crawls

-Bar

-Netflix and Chill

-Picnic

- DIY Drive In-Bring a charged laptop, snacks, blankets etc and park somewhere with a view!

-Backyard camping

-Real camping(For a weekend)

-Go to a cottage, you can even do this as a double date and invite friends

-Bike ride through a park

-Classic slumber party, but couple edition. So gather the comfy pajamas, the snacks and popcorn and watch your old favorite movies.

-Night swims

-Skinny dipping

-Stargazing

-Watch the sun rise and/or set 

- Gather a few best friends and have a bonfire 

-Museum or Art Gallery 

-Take each other to your old favorite places. Explain why you love that place so much.

-Music shows

-Clubs

-Coffee dates

-Midnight food runs

-Road trip! Even if it’s just for the one day.

-Beach and/or pool days

-Hike

-Go to the library and choose books for each other. Then, go to a park or a backyard and just relax and read them together.

-Read a sexy book to each other.

-Sushi date! 

-Get together and plan a proper vacation.

-Go downtown in your city and just explore together. Take photos as if you were new tourists and see if you can discover anything new.

-Go see a play or a comedy skit.

-Take each other to the places that you geek-out in. e.g. one of you could be a music lover that collects records and the other might be a comic book enthusiast. 

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ultimate dream team fic list

all fics have been curated by me as of 23/08!

apocalypse/end of world/zombies AU

let the world burn by TheAnonFanOn

minecraft but in real life

manhunt 3v1 (gone sexual) by Anonymous000000000

manhunt (gone sexual… again) by Anonymous000000000

training by Anonymous000000000

all i need is you by KittyKrazy

free the game, beat the end by goatgoatwasfound

allies and more by hiyacaramel (NSFW)

if only i could by enonymous

can we hunt? by yukako

ignore it. by Anonymous

scented smoke from dead by Closeted_Bookworm

the beginning? by amooniesong

manhunts with benefits by carbonbrine

a hero divided by amooniesong

shorts (<1,500)

and you’re gonna be happy by anonymous 

oh my god they were roommates by Rei (Arterra)

august slipped away… ‘cause you were never mine by InAGetawayCar

cold december weather by A_small_cabbage

often i am upset by anonymous

the sound of our love by rampageking

bad movies and purple hickies by dreamnotfound (NSFW)

awkward by 1_800_HOTLINE

don’t change my phone wallpaper by ThatOneWeirdWriter

liar (not on purpose) by rain_morpheus 

a drunk man’s words is a sober man’s thoughts by Zorse_not_here

oh, you little things by samdooodles

chaos by LlamaLamma

dear, hold me by vdearest

cozy by JSparks

the sleep that had finally settled by mwolfeo

sleepy dream by Flandusgirl

I can find comfort in your arms, in the shape of your heart, in the curve of your neck by colourspaz

sleeptalking by giacomettisteve

sorry not sorry by milkteacrystals

meeting for first time (george in florida)

there is more beauty past the surface by colourspaz

day dream by bakedbeanbuild

pancakes for dinner by hendollana

lovesick (the beat inside my head) by meridies

colors of florida by ndestroya

i want you only here and nowhere else by hiyacaramel

happy birthday dream by Moonl1ghtwastaken

the problem wasn’t the plan by jamingbenn

forever would be nice by jbird181

you have got to be kidding me by TheAnonFanOn

7 minutes in heaven, but it’s 7 days in flordia by Ship_On_The_Sea

inhibitions make for interesting situations by Ship_On_The_Sea

night terrors by ggaydennnn (TW)

don’t call me sweetheart (dreamnotfound) by passmethemolly

his butterflies by kumibladder

my beestings by kumibladder

burnt cookies by QueenOfFluff/Ship_On_The_Sea

bread crumbs || dream not found by blinderror

it was only a fic by imagineitdear

meeting for first time (dream in england)

feeling by amooniesong (TW)

how to cuddle 101 by Diamond_Sylvie

take the L by dontrollthedice

earn the W by dontrollthedice 

the consequences of spontaneously flying to a foreign country by caffinefeverdream

i won’t regret it by LateNightMonthly 

chasing snowflakes by passmethemolly

finally intertwined by sapnap

furry shit

a quiet kind of love by 4amsprite

the run by Wolfleap

assassins/killers/FBI agents

you missed by Lilbug

i missed by Lilbug

cowboy/historical

hand in unloveable hand by antsu_in_my_pantsu

thanks, bastards! by antsu_in_my_pantsu 

DnD/fantasy

Chaotic 12 by AkikoKotodame

the dragonborn’s tale by freelyf4llen

protected by Anequa

stream moments/video moments

you deserve better by rocket_pop

minecraft, but every time i take damage, my IQ goes down by rosetalon

pet names by ThatOneWeirdWriter

i found my by Yikes (CoralFlower)

dream hidden in your heart by Yikes (CoralFlower)

stream wars by Lillian_nator

text messages and face reveals by Lillian_nator

sunkissed (butterflies) by SanciaWasTaken

pickup lines by SatanicDoormat

motion sickness by 4amsprite

a nudge in the right direction by dontrollthedice

you love me by Anonymous

yes, mon amour? by Rei (Arterra)

Three Little Words (The Three Times George Stayed Silent, and the One Time He Didn’t) by Nyx93

text fics

[message redacted] by just your average loser 

PWP/NSFW (smut)

sweater weather by iemfo

surprise visit by koomega

surprise visit: the sequel by koomega (TW)

sweet thing by Dream_Not_Found

hanakai disease/other illnesses

but you like her better by Hopefulturtle

i just want to see you happy by chickens_for_AO3

visiting hours by amooniesong 

i’m not ready to say goodbye by NightRiser

forget-me-not by rain_morpheus

college/university/high school AUs

patches of pink by isleofdreams

you’re killing me, maybe by sapnap

meet cute/coffee shop AU

little coffee shops in big cities by Ships_On_The_Sea

dream SMP war

war by Moonl1ghtwastaken

video game AUs (the last of us)

the way you look tonight by NightRiser

the stars are out tonight by Chicken_Nuggets800

soulmate AUs

soul swapped by raquelli

off-script by mini_puffs 

00:00:00 by isleofdreams

bloom in the ocean of withering flowers by lazy_kitkat

spoiler alert by mini_puffs

social media AUs

current location by hendollana

other (no category)

sometimes it ends by giacomettisteve

the inconsistency of nothingness by icycas

the way the daisies flow in the wind (dont let the fire rescind) by Anonymous

What? by Anonymous 

heavenstruck by dontrollthedice

limbo by isleofdreams

in your dreams by dontrollthedice

dreams come true by dontrollthedice 

the mask by TheStarvingWriter

never seen your face (until you disappeared) by rubber_duck 

the chocolate raisin production line by dontrollthedice 

roommates (living together)

am i dreaming (dreamnotfound) by Salsablock

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