I’m FTM, He/him pronouns please, oh and I’m a switch leaning sub. Literally just a page for me to let go of some of my 24/7 sexual thoughts.
I’m drawn to a wide range of kinks especially power exchange, sadomasochism, bondage, group dynamics, blood, knife play, and CNC. Trust me there’s plenty more but we’d be here all day if I listed all of them lol
all of my kinks are grounded in clear communication, trust, and enthusiastic consent.
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⟡ Hard limits ⟡
Urine, incest, scat and age play. Fuck alll the way off (no offense I just can’t.)
Sub red flags: a checklist for less experienced Doms
Awhile ago, I wrote the above post explaining several red flags and warning signs in Doms for less experienced submissives to be aware of. This is the inverse. Written mostly for inexperienced Doms who are seeking subs, from the perspective of an experienced Dom. I would recommend less experienced subs read as well. My hope is that this post is a resource for others and helps to improve kink safety and understanding. Please remember to research everything you do before you do it and trust your gut. Don't do anything you aren't comfortable with.
Unclear consent/hasty consent
All kinks carry inherent risk. Some have physical risks, some psychological risks, plenty have both. Trust your gut if someone seems too eager to dive into something without fully discussing every possible angle you can think of. Don't ever run into something when you could walk. In kink, you aren't just consenting to the activity, you're consenting to the risks which the activity carries. Don't do anything with anyone who doesn't seem to understand that distinction.
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Dynamics are a two way street
One of the most misunderstood aspects of kink is the core element of mutual effort. Generally, less experienced people assume that the Dominant is an active participant, while the sub is a passive one, who simply receives whatever the Dom decides, getting off in the process. While this might work well in a Dark Romance novel it is categorically antithetical to real life BDSM. On a fundamental level, BDSM is a collaborative effort. Both the dominant and submissive are active participants, both have to put forth a lot of effort, both in learning about kink and safety and in actual scenes. While a scene might focus on a sub being a pretty doll for their Dom, just laying there and getting off, that should not be reflective of your actual interpersonal dynamic whatsoever. If a submissive doesn't believe they should have to put in as much effort as you, that's reflective of an unwillingness to put effort into your dynamic or your scene with them.
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Boundaries/safewords for doms
Just like a submissive has to consent to everything you do, a Dom also has to consent to everything in a scene. If a sub doesn't respect your boundaries, pushes them without permission, or acts as if your boundaries aren't as important as them getting off go play with someone else
"I have no limits"/"I don't use a safeword"
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REFUSING TO HONOR A SAFE WORD IS SEXUAL ASSAULT
Subs can assault Doms too.
This is fake. Everyone has boundaries. Some people like saying this doing scenes for fun, which can be fine roleplay, but if they genuinely believe it about themselves they are not emotionally mature enough for kink and are an unsafe partner. Run away.
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"Doms don't need aftercare"
Fake. Run. Unsafe partner.
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"Kink dispenser"
Subs should not view you as just someone who reads their mind and tells them things to get them off. Your needs matter too and all participants in a scene should be attentive to each other's needs and interests. You aren't there just to do whatever they want to get them off the same way they aren't there just to do whatever you want to get you off unless you have specifically agreed that you're both into that AND that the scene is going to be about that.
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Mental Health, Aftercare, and Drops
Your mental health is just as important as your physical safety in kink. Any submissive you play with must prioritize your emotional well-being the same way you need to prioritize theirs. There will be times when you feel weird after or during a scene or even bad about yourself. Dominance is stressful. Yours truly was once in a particularly harsh impact scene as a rookie Dom, realized how rough the marks on their thighs were, and experienced a drop feeling like a bad person even though they had specifically asked for what I was doing to them. It's perfectly normal to snap back to reality sometimes and end the scene for your own comfort. In fact, it is unsafe for your own emotional health to Dom anyone when you don't feel up to it. The correct thing to do is to communicate with the sub, pause or end the scene as needed, get feedback, let them know you need reassurance. Its completely normal and valid. If someone doesn't want to reassure you, that's a huge red flag
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Final notes
There are many "Doms" that are bad actors or abusers. They crave power over others not to seek out a mutual consensual fantasy, but because they want to stop other people from saying "No" to them, and have nonconsensual control over their life.
There are also many "subs" who are bad actors or abusers. Some are thrill seeking with little care for their own emotional or physical well-being, putting themselves and their dominant at risk by refusing to learn about safety or respect others boundaries. Some dehumanize Doms, essentially treating them like jerk off machine that doesn't have boundaries or feelings or require any effort.
Any standard you hold for yourself as a dominant, about consent, about boundaries, about safety, should also apply to any submissive you play with. No exceptions. Both Dominance AND submission need to be continuously earned, not given. If someone thinks otherwise...
I love sucking dick, I love feeling dirty, covered in spit. The tears welling up in my eyes, hands in my hair forcing me deeper. Oh and the moansss, hearing the little gasps when I go deeper, the low humms when I’m taking it so well. Use my throat please 🥹
Fuck Donald trump. Fuck JKR. Fuck ice. Fuck isreal and free Palestine and free Congo. Fuck racism and transphobia. This land always was and always will be indigenous land.
I am a femme bisexual she/they/it.
Minors fuck all the way off and anyone who interacts with them on nsfw blogs should also fuck all the way off. I love women and abortions and sex workers. All kink requires consent and trust, even taboo kinks require consent and trust.
Oh also if you have a harry potter house in your bio fuck off as well, bootlicking terf.
Im drunk and would like to be taken advantage of pleaseee 🥰
I promise I won’t fight too much I mean im already wet and begging for it who cares if im not fully aware of what’s going on I mean not like I’ll remember in the morning anyway. Dont you want me?
“you have such a rapeable cunt, you know that?” “Fuck yes thats it cry for me.” “You’re going to stay pinned under me and when I’m done with you I’ll have my friends fuck you until they’re dry.” “Shut up and take it, I know deep down you want it.” “Quit fighting! I’ll fucking kill you if you keep it up.”
today we gonna talk about the difference between a true dom and a fake one :
Clear, sustained dominance in BDSM differs from a “fake” or performative dominance in ways that affect safety, consent, and the emotional health of all participants. Key contrasts:
- Foundation: true dominants prioritize informed, ongoing consent and negotiated limits; fake dominants treat consent as a checkbox or ignore it when it’s inconvenient.
- Intent: real dominance centers on serving a negotiated power exchange and the submissive’s well‑being; fake dominance is often ego‑driven, about status, control, or spectacle.
- Communication: authentic dominants engage in pre‑scene negotiation, check‑ins, and debriefs; performative dominants skip nuance, rely on assumed compliance, or avoid difficult conversations.
- Consistency: genuine Ds are predictable in rules, aftercare, and responses; fakes are inconsistent, hot‑and‑cold, or change boundaries impulsively.
- Emotional intelligence: true dominants read emotional cues, regulate intensity, and adapt play to the submissive’s state; fake ones ignore affect or weaponize emotions.
- Safety practices: experienced dominants use safewords, risk‑aware planning, and skills (first aid, bondage safety); fake dominants neglect protocols or improvise dangerously.
- Power vs. abuse: legitimate dominance accepts responsibility for the subordinate’s physical and psychological safety; fake dominance slides into coercion, manipulation, or abuse.
- Aftercare and integration: authentic Ds provide tailored aftercare and help process scenes afterward; performative Ds may dismiss comedown effects or leave the submissive unsupported.
- Boundary enforcement: true dominants respect hard limits absolutely and negotiate soft limits; fake dominants test or pressure boundaries to see what they can get away with.
- Transparency: real dominants are honest about experience, limits, and expectations; fakes misrepresent skills, intentions, or relationship status.
- Growth and humility: good dominants pursue education, feedback, and self‑improvement; fake dominants resist critique and prioritize image over competence.
- Public vs private behavior: authentic dominance remains ethical outside the scene (consensual, respectful in daily life); performative dominance can be a façade that doesn’t translate to trustworthy behavior offstage.
- Long‑term care: in negotiated relationships, true dominants consider the submissive’s long‑term emotional health; fake dominants prioritize short‑term thrills.
- Red flags to watch: evasive answers about consent, inconsistent safeword use, refusal of aftercare, secrecy about experience, frequent boundary crossings, or pressure to escalate are indicators of performative or unsafe dominance.
In sum: real dominance is responsibility, skill, and service wrapped in consensual power; fake dominance is performance or control without that ethical, communicative, and safety‑focused substrate. Assess partners by their actions—negotiation, consistency, care, and respect—not by posturing or rhetoric.
I wish more people knew this, I know I talk a lot about some of the more extreme fantasies and kinks but it’s all under the umbrella of consent, long term care, and humility. Especially with CNC it is essential to know yourself and know your partner. Stay safe y’all, it can only lead to better experiences 🫰
I want to be humiliated. Fuck me with your friends watching, make me beg while they tell me how much of a whore I am. Make a display out of me, tell me how pathetic and worthless I am, show your friends how sloppy I get when all my fight is gone and my brain has turned off. Let them use me until they’ve had their fill.
Really need to stop scrolling tumblr at work.. too much freak shit, if im being honest 99% of my fyp is freak shit then the occasional “the US is burning down, let it burn.”
Im so high I know I’d be such a good fuck doll right now, dumb and drooling just begging to taste you. Ohh and I bet you taste so good, don’t you. It’s only right that I clean up the messes I make, what else are whores good for?
Confession time! About two years ago I was raped by my fiancé, we’re no longer together but I can’t stop getting off to the way everything happened. Don’t get me wrong I hated it when it happened, it shouldn’t have happened and he is long gone from my life butttt now? I just want to get fucked like that again. Pinned down on the mattress lying on my stomach, hands pressing on my back making sure I don’t move. I want to be crying, begging, and in so much pain. You know the worst part of it was I had stitches in my vagina. When I tell you I was in pain, I thought I was going to die. I could feel every thrust, every stitch.. I don’t know what about that I got addicted to but something changed.
“This kink is problematic when you think about it” ohhhhhh shit ok lemme head on over to the kink store and trade these kinks in for one that make my jackoff fantasies morally superior
