come home to my heart

vi / bisexual / 16 

[allisonxreynolds]

Neil: This is crazy! You come back off your meds but you won’t speak to anyone, while looking all ripped and sexy with your hazel eyes an-

Nicky: Neil-

Andrew: Let the man finish.

[paperthots]

this fourth, celebrate your right to protest and practice civil disobedience. celebrate the millions of immigrants that help this country progress socially and economically. celebrate the people of standing rock, the blm movement, the lgbtq+  community.  celebrate the influential individuals that our country didn’t elect, we chose, to shape our country and society ; emma gonzalez, mark ruffalo, harriet tubman, eleanor roosevelt, frederick douglass, marsha p. johnson. and remember the victims of the pulse nightclub shooting, the las vegas attack, the msd tragedy, the sandy hook shooting, the columbine attack. america has a long way to go, but it’s important to step back and remember how much we’ve accomplished as a nation and remember the sacrifices given to get us where we are.  

[screameureka]

not be gay but wearing another girls sweatshirt would be… nice

[pigmenting]

i have been writing i am alive in various places at various times throughout my life: in notebooks, on windows, on napkins, in messages, in poems, in sand, on skin. every time i write it, it comes with a new meaning and a greater depth from new experiences. I AM ALIVE in childish uppercase on construction paper in purple and yellow crayon like the declaration & bold statement it was. i am alive, a soft marvel of discovery scratched in blue ink in a textbook flipped open to diagrams of the skeletal system.  I am alive written like a promise, like a prayer on the inside of my wrist in a dark bedroom. three words that hold a lot of meaning to me in different ways. i come back to the word alive over and over, contemplating its definition & my own aliveness. am i alive enough? what does that even mean? how do i have so many meanings behind the same word? i come back to it now, i am alive, and it feels different yet again. this time, full; this time, beaming. i’m writing it here in this journal entry but it sits in my chest, expanding and collapsing on itself with my lungs as i breathe. as i move. as i live. i am alive, i am saying and this is the happiest i think i’ve ever been.

[fade-steppin]

throwback to the time my classics professor asked “does anyone know who sappho is?” and i immediately replied “she’s the OG lesbian” and my professor yelled “EXACTLY” and wrote the OG lesbian on the whiteboard

[ravemmabroken]

He studied the outline of his face, the curves and angles he and Andrew had in common. They were twins, whether they wanted to be or not, whether they could stand each other or not, and it was as much a blessing as a curse. A childhood apart meant nothing, and Andrew’s drugs were inconsequential in the end. Aaron still saw himself on every inch of Andrew’s skin and in the tiny gestures and tics they shared. He always knew when Andrew was lying.

[kikuism]

andreil is gasoline and sharp gasps and shuddering breaths taken in too-small, too-tight alleyways; clenched fists in shirts and heavy glances and drops of color staining water; pulsing heat and bite marks and unwavering honestly honed sharper than a knife; smoke and alcohol and the sharp glint of knives; comfort found in sharp soft places, nail marks on skin and key ridges, electricity crackling underneath skin and blood

pynch is worn wood and soft catches of breath; aching throats and fluttering pulses in fingertips; sunlight streaming in through rafters on a chilly misty morning; acceptance wrapped around hearts; dew dripping off roses not yet fully bloomed; fireflies on the porch and burning kisses and home found in cupped palms and whispered words; fading light glinting off church statues; fingertips tracing over ink on paper and ink on skin; secrets half formed and unearthed in hazy corners

[saltierthanbottomofapretzelbag]

Kneel, Neil!

Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE fics where Andrew just tells Neil to kneel when he’s ready to be blown. But does no else think our favorite dense™️ and oblivious™️ boy Neil would be confused? Because kneel and Neil sound the same…

Andrew: Kneel

Neil: What?

Andrew: Kneel, you idiot.

Neil: Yes, I know. What do you want?

Andrew: You. *points* Kneel.

Neil: *trying and failing at sexy* How do you want me?

Andrew: Kneeling

Neil:…

Andrew: *facepalm* Just fucking blow me, you idiot.

[inlovesuggest]

I want to hug you close so the world can’t hurt you anymore

[dateacutiesuggestion]

Date a cutie who calls you both dude and babe

[iskwekan]

the straights are. Unfortunate

[candelorofan19]

That’s Tumblr folks, remember, if you are desperate for notes, you can always say:

straight people, boys, white people are (insert something demeaning or something that’s not exclusive of any of these people at all)

And you will get a lot of notes of people wanting equality and respect, yet write things like this.

I’ve seen the same thing thousands of million times, it’s getting old, come on don’t you have something more original to do to get notes?

[iskwekan]

thank you for sharing your thoughts with the class, david. but seeing as how nobody cares, let’s move on, shall we?

[taavot-deactivated20170404]

why do the straights try this hard

[angrydykeprince-deactivated2016]

Poor little cis, straight, white boy feels.

[candelorofan19]

I’m gay, and I’m latino, you ignoramus. You are just proving my point, if someone disagree with your opinions, you Immediately jump and say “he’s just a straight white boy” 

[james-fergo-deactivated20151125]

No one cares yet a whole bunch of you make an effort to shame straights just to feel special about yourselves.

Grow the fuck up children

[eeveelutionsforequality]

Making assumptions about people due to their opinions is always a shitty thing to do. Even more so when you attempt to use said assumptions about their identity in a pathetic attempt to invalidate their arguments without actually addressing it.

~Mod Espeon

[nikroloz]

I just sort of feeI like I’m on drugs when I’m with you.

[officialqueer]

Honestly “queer” is so useful for people like me w/ a “complicated orientation” b/c instead of having to say I’m “asexual panromantic” and explain what that means, I can just say “I’m queer” and it tells you all you need to know (that I’m not straight).

[violet-lesbiann]

yeah sure good for you but don’t ever ever use that word for someone who doesn’t identify as it themselves, it’s not an umbrella term for everyone. also “pan/ace” would definitely work, even if you don’t want to use it, other people could. i use ace lesbian and definitely not the q slur.

[lesbianpeachs]

Wow its almost like they were just talking about using it on themselves for individual reasons and you butted in to be an ass and be condescending because you think you’re superior for not using queer, then you called their identity a slur right to them. But that can’t possibly be what you were trying to do, right?

[violet-lesbiann]

Anyone is allowed to use it for themselves, I never said no one should do that if that’s what they want. Queer is a slur though. I just want people to be aware of that, I have no idea if OP is aware of that or not but some people using that word aren’t. I’m tired of people including me and other people who don’t want to be included in that word, and before anyone asks, I never meant that OP did that, because I literally have no idea if they do.

[lesbianpeachs]

Queer is a slur as much as any other LGBT+ word, I just want you to be aware of that.

“Gay” is used as an insult. It is used to be demeaning. Its used to discriminate. And yet its used as the all mighty umbrella - gay rights, gay marriage, gay community - when discussing the entire community.

Gay gets used as a slur. Queer gets used as a slur. But I don’t walk up to gay people and say “your identity is a slur, you know that right” or get pissed when they say “the gay community” when they mean the whole community.

Personal identity and preference in terms, even harmful words that get used as slurs, are not questioned; except for the word Queer.

Queer gets shut down. Queer people get others in their faces saying “your identity is a slur!” Queer people don’t have the freedom to identify in a community, but are forced under other terms against their will due to hypocrisy and double standards.

So if you’re not going to come onto gay people’s posts for the same behavior, maybe critically analyze why exactly you feel the need to be so condescending to Queer people, specifically on posts that ONLY have to do with personal identity. Why you feel the need to insist to Queer people that their identities are slurs, to directly slap away the power of reclaiming a word from them by demanding it remain in the hands of the Straights as a perpetual slur.

[jormunganndr]

I think an important difference between gay and queer is however, that queer started out as a slur used against members of the community and continues to be used as a slur in many places. Whereas gay began as a word the community chose itself to describe itself and was then later used by homophobes and heterosexuals in general in a negative way, meaning however, that gay doesn’t hold the same negative connotations as queer for many people simply because it was our word that they took, and not a word that they forced on us to make us “strange” or “other” like queer means.

[lesbianpeachs]

That’s…. Not true. People think so because the history before gay was reclaimed is way older (older than any love community member’s lifetimes, probably,) but gay had the exact same origins.

It was meant to denote sexually perverse people, most frequently sex workers and those who hired them. Anyone who participated in anything but married, vanilla, straight sex might have been referred to as “gay,” including any suspected LGBT person.

The word (already being one frequently used on the community,) was reclaimed as a community identifier when the community wanted to disconnect from the clinical and diagnostic implications of “homosexual.”

There is record of queer being reclaimed and used as a personal identifier literally before the popularization of gay. Both words are reclaimed slurs with negative histories, and BOTH are used as slurs against the community still to this day.

The more recent history of the mid to late 20th century more prevalently favored queer as a slur, as is represented in our media. However its clearly undeniable that the switch back to gay as the popular community slur (along with the ever present f slur,) happened in the 2000s. Which is trying to be denied and rewritten by the anti queer crowd, who completely ignore the words popularity with community members who actually lived through when it was a popular slur.

[lanewilliam]

Yes to all of this. When it comes to words for “not straight” there are hardly any choices that didn’t originate as ways to stigmatize or pathologize us. We are all using reclaimed slurs to describe ourselves. 

Also, queer is reclaimed in a particularly empowering way. It doesn’t just mean “same-sex attraction” but encompasses a whole spectrum of attractions and gender orientations. It’s a word that says to asexuals, pansexuals, bisexuals, trans folks, genderfluid and genderqueer and genderless folks and people who are still figuring themselves out, “hey, you’ve got a home here. We don’t need to categorize you to love you.” 

This is important because there are a lot of divisions within the LGBTQ+ world, and in particular cis gay men and cis lesbians often overlook or exclude trans, bi and asexual people. Queer is the only word that not only demands equal acceptance for everyone, but leaves the door open for words and descriptors that haven’t even been invented yet. 

Somebody else pointed this out earlier to me, and of course I’ve lost the post, but it’s really suspicious that of all the reclaimed slurs, the one that gets the most pushback is the one that is most radically accepting of all identities

[27-teacups]

“hey, you’ve got a home here. We don’t need to categorize you to love you.”

Lmao yeah! the pushback against this idea is overt and disgusting and I don’t trust anybody who perpetuates it. 

Queer is an ideology and an identity, historically and now. It is an umbrella for that ideology and an umbrella for those identities, historically and now. They can’t be conflated (with LGBT) and it’s super fucking disingenuous to pretend one is just the tarnished besmirched dirty slur version of the other. They’re different. In my particular work for example, Queer bioethics is different from LGBT bioethics and conflating the two will muddle any discussion you try to have about them because they lead to literally opposite conclusions in some cases. 

[thispotterhead]

Yeah I freaking love pancakes

[thispotterhead]

Wait wrong post

[officialqueer]

By far the best addition to this post

[uphillbothways]

This is one of those things where I feel like an old. Like, *the* slogan I associate with pride is, “We’re here, we’re queer – get used to it!” There was a TV show called “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy” that was total mainstream pap. (Not that the show wasn’t riddles problematic elements from the concept out, but ‘queer’ in the title was clearly meant as a positive.) I just have a hard time processing queer as anything but reclaimed.

[officialqueer]

They actually shot “Queer As Folk” in my city!

[river-b]

TERFs and radical gender/sexuality bianarists are flooding social media and blogging sites with propaganda smearing the word queer in the hopes of silencing all of us who don’t identify with their hate politics. I fought hard to reclaim the word queer in the late 80s and early 90s, and it’s the one word that doesn’t worship exclusion. Which is why these people are trying to convince you not to use it. fuck that noise. there is literally no word i could use to identify my sexuality that hasn’t been thrown at me in hatred, fear, and violence. No way am I giving up the one of those that allows me to talk about all of my community without trying to put people in boxes they don’t fit in.

[monanotlisa]

I will never not reblog this post. Queer, queer, queer here. 

[mswyrr-deactivated20181203]

“Queer” has been claimed by queer people as a self-descriptor since at least 1910. It’s an insult to those historical people (and all the generations of queer historical people who have identified as queer since then) to pretend that the people using it as a slur owned it more than the queer people who used it as a self-descriptor.

Source: George Chauncey, “Gay New York,” page 101

[killerchickadee]

They don’t want us to use queer because they don’t want to be lumped in with anyone who’s not cis gay or cis lesbian. So fine. You don’t like the word queer? You don’t want to be in the “queer” community? Get the fuck out, then. Y'all don’t welcome us in your community anyway, so we’ll just have our own.

And it’ll be queer as fuck.

[gettzi]

I fucking love the word queer ❤

[beatrice-otter]

Or, to put it another way, using a great old slogan of the community: I’m not gay as in happy, I’m queer as in fuck you.

[rosalarian]

Yes yes yes yes yes! These younglings today don’t know their queer history but feel so free to comment on it. Trying so desperately to assimilate into straight culture by turning your nose up at queer, and all the people who take refuge under its umbrella. Queer accepted me when nobody else would, not even the LGBT groups. 

Queer is full of the types of people who don’t make good poster children for the middle class assimilationist cis gay couple just looking to get married and have some kids. Queer forces us to realize the fight didn’t end with gay marriage, and cis gays are gonna have to step out of the spotlight sometimes, and realize cis gays have privilege, and fight for someone with less. Trans people, nonbinary people, people in nontraditional relationship structures, aromantics, asexuals, sex workers. Heck more and more bisexual people these days are switching over to queer because the amount of biphobia in the so-called lgBt community is so alienating, and also because so many of us feel the term bisexual reinforces a false gender dichotomy and we’re too tired of jokes about kitchenware to use pansexual.

Part of what I love about the term queer is that it does make people uncomfortable. It makes them aware of their privilege, exposes certain biases, even within the LGBT community. What’s so wrong with a movement that strives to fight for everybody, huh? Huh?

[vulgarweed]

Proudly bi, proudly queer, and being part of this movement when I was young was an honor.

[pitcherplant]

From the Queer Nation manifesto

Text of a manifesto originally passed out by people marching with the ACT UP contingent in the New York Gay Pride Day parade, 1990. -

An Army of Lovers Cannot Lose Being queer is not about a right to privacy; it is about the freedom to be public, to just be who we are. It means everyday fighting oppression; homophobia, racism, misogyny, the bigotry of religious hypocrites and our own self-hatred. (We have been carefully taught to hate ourselves.) And now of course it means fighting a virus as well, and all those homo-haters who are using AIDS to wipe us off the face of the earth. Being queer means leading a different sort of life. It’s not about the mainstream, profit-margins, patriotism, patriarchy or being assimilated. It’s not about executive directors, privilege and elitism. It’s about being on the margins, defining ourselves; it’s about gender-f— and secrets, what’s beneath the belt and deep inside the heart; it’s about the night. Being queer is “grass roots” because we know that everyone of us, every body, every c—, every heart and a– and d— is a world of pleasure waiting to be explored. Everyone of us is a world of infinite possibility. We are an army because we have to be. We are an army because we are so powerful. (We have so much to fight for; we are the most precious of endangered species.) And we are an army of lovers because it is we who know what love is. Desire and lust, too. We invented them. We come out of the closet, face the rejection of society, face firing squads, just to love each other! Every time we f—, we win. We must fight for ourselves (no else is going to do it) and if in that process we bring greater freedom to the world at large then great. (We’ve given so much to that world: democracy, all the arts, the concepts of love, philosophy and the soul, to name just a few of the gifts from our ancient Greek Dykes, Fags.) Let’s make every space a Lesbian and Gay space. Every street a part of our sexual geography. A city of yearning and then total satisfaction. A city and a country where we can be safe and free and more. We must look at our lives and see what’s best in them, see what is queer and what is straight and let that straight chaff fall away! Remember there is so, so little time. And I want to be a lover of each and every one of you. Next year, we march naked.

[missveryvery]

guys. if you go to college and want to study our history and current political climate etc? do you know what that  department is called? “Queer Studies”. So could you fucking stop, you little babies.

[greyhairedgeekgirl]

I am officially Old as Fuck ™ compared to most Tumblrites.  

I came of age after they discovered HIV and before they discovered how to treat it.   THAT is how old I am.

I worked and marched with friends and loved ones and the banner that brought everyone together was “Queer.”   The word doesn’t need to be reclaimed.  It has been reclaimed.  Before a lot of y’all were ever born. 

Trying to school your elders about shit of which you know nothing doesn’t build community.  It’s part of a rejection of the idea that the LGBTQ community is multigenerational.   It’s a rejection of the idea that there is gay, lesbian, QUEER life after 30.  Its refusing to consider that those who went before did an awful damn lot to make where you are now possible.

[lesbianpeachs]

Can I have this framed

[neurodivergent-crow]

the Queer masterpost

[13faeinapenguinsuit]

so glad to see that this post finally got into the difference between the identity politics that is being gay, and the political identity that is queer. 

[elljayvee]

it’s pride month, have some queer history

[yillenhaals]

Rihanna as Nine Ball in Ocean’s 8 (2018), directed by Gary Ross.

[zacikel-deactivated20210528]

bullock’s coat, blanchett’s smile

[indiesoul96]

What I need right now:

Lots of Lou/Debbie fanfics, particularly angsty ones, those that make you ache real bad and almost make you cry and just are too intense to read because you start identifying yourself with the story and you spend all the time reading just hoping for everything to be okay and then it finally comes a great beautiful happy ending which preferebly concludes with a good amount of pure sex

More gifs and pictures from the movie

To make the film’s ratings skyrocket. Seriously we need to make this happen, imagine if everyone of us who loved the movie would leave a positive review.. I’m pretty sure we could overturn the current situation. Let’s not make whoever still thinks that an all female cast or a female leading cast is not worth the success win, let’s make them eat their own words!!

[casliyn]

Instagram AU + Debbie getting possessive over Lou Requested By: Anon