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Sidemen XIX Twitter: @sdmnfam

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One cannot confirm but yes

Josh - Garry’s Mod Murder (via thatbandaddict)

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[minicookiexix]

His dimple, man. His freaking dimple.

I’m sorry everyone for spamming you with Simon, I just can’t stop🙈

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DIMPLES ARE MY ISH

[therealnimrod-deactivated201807]

WHERE IS THIS FROM

[minicookiexix]

https://youtu.be/JwkwmDVPH-E ;) xx

[therealnimrod-deactivated201807]

I LOVE YOU @chiaracolfer95

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Still somehow looks hot. How even

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A gif of Simon begging, because we all needed that

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Rah

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[elegantlynaked]

“We played chess”

[beyondthescene-19]

What video is this from??????

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KAY AND VIK HAVE THE CUTEST RELATIONSHIP

[deviantsidexix]

I actually love them

[elegantlynaked]

Cuteeeeee ❤️

[starrys-stuff]

i aM DYING

OMFG

THIS IS SO FUCKING ADORABLE

[aestheticvikklan]

ITS TOO CUTE

WHY CANT I HAVE WHAT THEY HAVE

[wheres-your-rum]

hey all you fanfic writers

I can 1000% guarantee that someone has flailed and gushed and swooned over at least one of your fics because it spoke to something in them.

You have connected with more people than you know and you should be completely proud of yourselves.

Never compare yourself to others because everyone builds these connections in their own amazing way and fandom would be far less interesting without you in it

[santonali]

flowers and badlands, both on wattpad @ thefaultinourvic

[sidemenfandomconfessions]

I agree with the anon saying they are scared to approach anyone in this fandom. I speak to a few people on twitter every so often. But i'm generally scared to even compliment people or talk in general. I'm a lot older then most fans as well. And even though i shouldn't feel this way, I just generally feel so out of place and lonely in this fandom. No ones welcoming and i've been a fan of the guys for 2 years. :S

[sidemenbase-deactivated20260511]

Literally just say hey bitch to me and i’ll talk to you XD no joke

[sidemenbase-deactivated20260511]

When life hits you with the unexpected savage.

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This will always be my favorite Harry moment

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GO AND FUCKING SUB GUYS GOGOGOOGGOOGOGIGOGOGOGOGO

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Me too Simon.. Me too

[pettyacosta]

Vikk and Caspar

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HE'S SO CUTE THOUGH 🙈

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"Should parents read their daughter's texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"

Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, “Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?”

I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.

I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”

Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.

Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.

It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.

It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.

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Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:

Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.

Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.

Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.

Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”

TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:

You do not respect their rights as an individual.

You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.

You probably haven’t been listening to them.

Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.

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Part of me is really excited to see that the original post got 200 notes because holy crap 200 notes, and part of me is really saddened that something so negative has resonated with so many people.

[isitscary]

I love this post.

Too many parents wonder why their kids aren’t honest with them, and never realize their own non-receptive behavior and their failure to listen are the reasons why.

At one point or another, a child WILL keep a secret from you, but if it’s to a point where all their emotional feelings are being poured away from you as opposed to toward you, it’s probably because you haven’t been emotionally trustworthy or open. 

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Adultism :(

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not to mention, you then take away one of your child’s coping mechanisms. if your parents read your journal, you’re never writing in it again. if your parents monitor your conversations with friends, you won’t tell them when you’re depressed anymore. if you have a therapist that reports what you say to your parents, you won’t tell that therapist anything. now all those methods of venting, feeling better, self-soothing, sorting out your issues, and feeling safe are gone. “i want information” is not synonymous with “i want my child to talk to me.” those are two separate goals, but i think parents conflate them – i want my child to talk to me, but since they won’t, i’m stealing information from them. no. you didn’t ever want them to talk to you. you wanted information. if you wanted them to talk to you, if that was your entire end goal, you would have approached things completely differently. stealing information from a child ensures they will never talk to you again. but if all you want is information, then you can take it however you want and call it a parenting success. if what you wanted was a child who talks to you, you would apply the same principles you do to literally any other human interaction in your life, and cultivate a relationship and trust.

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THIS DESERVES SO MANY MORE NOTES ❤️❤️

Parents, if you want to take your children away from Internet influences, you can't. You can't shape them to be the perfect kid in your head because they are human. You can't program them to stay away from things that may potentially hurt them. "But I want my child safe! I don't want them hurt!", you exclaim. We'll talk to you when we want to, when we need to, and when we feel like it's best to talk to you. Give us some control ffs. Let us learn from mistakes than from a screaming voice.

Also, if you want to take our phones away, first of all - don't. You want to take our phones way because we're texting too much? Because we're getting too much screen time? Because we don't get homework done? Those are all legit reasons and yes I understand. Thing is, if you take my phone away, I'll just use my iPod. Take my iPod away, I'll just use my laptop. Take all the entertainment devices away from the household, I'll just stay at my friend's house until midnight. Ban me from my friend's house? Hell I'll stare at my alarm clock for 7 hours. It's in the teenage blood to rebel against things they disprove of. It's the learning process. We go against something because we want to make a point. Next time instead of just taking my phone away, tell me why you want to. Tell me the problem. Explain to me why you want to take my phone away but won't, because how else will I ever understand?

Parents need to understand all our reasons for using the Internet. For me, it helps me take a break from the stress of reality. Please don't monitor them to try to keep us safe. We know where the boundaries are. We know when it's time to stop. I'd rather live my life knowing that I made the choice of focusing more on my future, than to live it knowing that I was forced to by people who don't understand me.

Build the walls higher, and the child will jump higher. Keep the walls low, and the child will walk through the door eventually.

Please be patient with us.. We're only just learning 🙂