IDK

meg, she/her, a mess™️Feel free to talk to me whenever i guess

[aestheticsxemotions]

there it is, again

that funny feeling

[kordova-deactivated20230908]

[transtenzin]

not to be maya on side but please do not call someone or something “mayan” when talking about our people, culture, etc. “mayan” refers to our language family (a language FAMILY, in which there are plenty of unique languages). we are the maya, not the mayans. i am maya, not mayan. it is the indigenous maya community, not the indigenous mayan community. 

[transtenzin]

you can reblog this 😔

[a-queer-seminarian]

A twitter thread by Caitlin J. Stout @CaitlinJStout from Feb 25 2021 reading,

A friend asked the other day what percentage of people I went to youth group with “deconstructed” and what percentage remained evangelical. As I thought about it, I realized that for the most part it was the kids who took their faith the most seriously who eventually walked away.

Those of us who tearfully promised that we would follow Jesus anywhere eventually followed him out the door. The Queer kids, more than anyone, learned exactly what it meant to work out our faith with fear and trembling.

They told us to read the Bible and take it seriously and then mocked us for becoming “social justice warriors.”

Now they’re warning us not to deconstruct to the point of meaninglessness.

But they took a chisel to God until he fit in a box. They “deconstructed” the concept of love until it allowed them to tolerate sexual abuse, celebrate white supremacy, and look away from kids in cages.

Some of us got to where we are because we took it all to heart. We took the most foundational elements of our faith to their natural conclusions. Folks who deconstruct evangelicalism aren’t drop-outs; they’re graduates.

[blessedarethebinarybreakers]

“Your kids are not leaving the church because you didn’t train them enough.   Your kids are leaving the church because you trained them well enough to develop a sense for truth and justice.  You let them read the words of Jesus - and they got it.  And they’ve recognized that the church doesn’t seem to be interested in those words. They’re not leaving because they don’t know the truth, they’re leaving because they do.“ 

- Rhett McLaughlin

[obaewankenope]

“But they took a chisel to God until he fit into a box” is probably the RAWEST line I’ve ever read in my life. Holy shit.

[curseworm]

ok but seriously why is “much older internet friend uses you as their personal suicide hotline” such a universal experience for kids on the internet. fyi for any kids/teens following me if an adult tries to make you be their therapist just flat out block them you dont have to explain yourself or try to reason with them and ur not responsible for their mental well-being. just block them

[curseworm]

you are all such fucking freaks i am literally an adult who experiences suicidal urges and being suicidal does not fucking entitle you to traumatize a child by making them responsible for your survival. i fucking KNOW you know better. call a suicide hotline, talk to a therapist, or talk to an ADULT FRIEND whos willing and able to support you! not a fucking CHILD

[larkfeather1153]

If you have epilepsy/photosensitivity, you may want to avoid the Quick Reblog thing on mobile for the time being. For some reason the green confirmation bar at the bottom of the screen is now flashing rapidly (basically strobing) whenever I Quick Reblog a post, and Tumblr Support hasn't gotten back to me about it besides the standard list of basic troubleshooting.

[the-real-numbers-deactivated202]

I am not having this issue on Android / Galaxy s7

[thefluffybunnybabe]

using galaxy s7 (up to date everything) and im having this problem also, i would recommend being cautious if anyone is sensitive to flickering

[the-real-numbers-deactivated202]

Weird

[roach-works]

hey so, as a man who works with other men, here’s a quick relationship tip: if he doesn’t much like cats, that might be just a personal preference. if he hates cats, if he tells you he hates cats as soon as he hears that you have a cat and love your cat, he’s an asshole. he’s telling on himself.  

every guy i’ve ever worked with that makes a point of telling me how much he hates cats as soon as i mention that i have a cat and love my cat, is always someone who is regularly cruel for fun and who laughs in the breakroom about the mean things they do for fun to their girlfriends and children. 

[villainous-queer-deactivated202]

I wish I could articulate all the ways this makes sense and why it makes sense and stuff but it’s just like… something something misogyny something something resentment of creatures that don’t need you and don’t hang on your attention and approval all their lives.

[theseancequeen]

My dad gave me this exact same advice when I was a kid. “Anyone who hates cats is a control freak and an asshole.”

[fivefve]

Source

[capskat26]

a (now former) coworker at my last job’s first impression with me was a MAJOR red flag like this

she noticed the tattoo on my arm i have in memory of my cat who had passed a few years earlier, and as soon as i started waxing poetic about how she was the sweetest kitty, interrupted me to rant about how much they HATED cats and that they’re the WORST ANIMALS EVER. and i just….. never spoke to them outside of work-related manners again. 

[luv-not-hate]

Important tumblr PSA

[moveslikekeithrichards]

i think the hardest part about this job is not being able to say What The Fuck

[messy-kobalt]

When it’s time to pet your cat

[lovelyardie]

In foookin HOWLIN

[jacebeleren]

wait a second i gotta remind everyone that this is a real official token art in magic the gathering

[jacebeleren]

AND THIS ONE!!!!

[jacebeleren]

AND THE DINOSAUR CAT

[babyanimalgifs]

Dog refuses to get out of bed then proceeds to fall asleep looking after baby

(Source)

[ups-dogs]

videos like this are the reason i love tumblr

[cundtcake]

[chibisquirt]

58 seconds to demonstrate EXACTLY why professionalism requires manners.

[digitaldiscipline]

For those of you who do not speak Corporate, this is just:

“Fuck you.” “Fuck you, too.”

[mysharona1987]

[la-laborista-republiko]

Straight women should unionize

[witchaj]

What the actual FUCK

[thebestpersonherelovesbucky]

This right here is a HUGE red fucking flag. If you’re in a relationship with someone who wants complete control over finances, especially to the point where you don’t even have access to money, this is an attempt to control and isolate. They will use ALL sorts of excuses. “I’m better with money” “You spend too much” “You’re too impulsive” etc. It has nothing to do with looking out for you or money. It’s straight up abuse and will likely lead to worse.

[whereintheworldiskamalakhan]

Also, women need to be independent in every way they can. And they also need to know what’s going on with their finances, even if their husband makes all the decisions or whatever bs goes on. Because (true story), one day that husband could die and you’ll find out that you’re in a crazy amount of debt that you never knew about because he didn’t tell you shit and that gets to be a lovely surprise after the funeral.

[dancinbutterfly]

Women should ABSOLUTELY be independent and you should ABSOLUTELY keep your banking separate.

HOWEVER!

If you are in that circumstance?

Grocery shopping and gas stations and big box stores are your BEST friend. I know we’re in a pandemic but put on an N-95 and go. Use your debit card every time and take out 20-40 dollars each time you shop for these sorts of things because that doesn’t read as a withdrawal. It counts as part of the shopping. Women have been doing this for GENERATIONS now. My mother did it when my father was financially abusing her and she taught me and now? I pas this on to you.

Take your 20-40 dollars a trip and put the cash somewhere he won’t look.

Where won’t he look? With a friend who he doesn’t want to know. In the yard he expects you to care for. In the laundry he won’t do. In the kids room where he doesn’t go because that is your job. In the dog food he expects you to refill.

Or.

In you can take that money and put it a fucking bank he doesn’t use. Under your name and your name ONLY. Because when you leave him - which on average will take 7 attempts because thats how many times it takes to leave an abuser - you will need all the money you can squirrel away.  Depending on how often a woman runs absolutely necessary errands and how much money a family makes, she can squirrel away 1K+ in a year this way which may not seem like much but it’s enough for a softer landing than ZERO especially if she’s not working.

Take care of yourself ladies.

[elizabethleestorms]

Same goes for the opposite men. I’ve seen it happen where a woman controlled all the money and was financially abusing the man. It happens to everyone and keep yourself safe.

[jadedaceofspades-deactivated202]

And this isn’t a “straight” thing. It’s an abusive thing. 

[sketchysounds]

Fucking yikes. Reblogging to save lives, good God.

[flootzavut]

*waves* all of this. That kind of financial control is not normal or okay.

[its1130andtheclubisjumping-deac]

someone *hurts me emotionally*

me “lmao!! omg”

[systlin]

As a fellow member of the hating polyester society, where do you buy wool, cotton, linen, fur, etc for sewing? I have a few things I want to make (cloak, kilt, tunic, and the like) but finding real materials for not super expensive is very hard!! thank you <3

Oh shit lemme hit you with links

Wool, cotton, silk; https://metrotextilesnyc.com/ use coupon code at top of screen for 60% off!

Silk, lightweight bleached linen; https://www.dharmatrading.com/

Wool, more silk, linen thread; https://burnleyandtrowbridge.com/

More linen thread, more wool; https://wmboothdraper.com/

Linen; https://www.graylinelinen.com/

More silks; https://www.silkbaron.com/

Wool and more wool; https://dorrmillstore.com/

MORE silks, the granddaddy of the lovely silks websites; https://puresilks.us/

Silk and cotton thread; https://redrockthreads.com/

Furs, sourced from animals used for food and from ethically and sustainably hunted sources; https://www.hideandfur.com/

OR; https://www.glacierwear.com/

ALSO go to https://www.shopgoodwill.com/ and look up fur craft lots or fur coats; you can find many slightly damaged vintage furs there that you can take apart and use for very inexpensive prices.

[systlin]

Incidentally, was browsing puresilks today because HNNNN PRETTY and found this silk taffeta;

look at it I do not have anything I want to make with it but look at it

Also this silk/cotton blend;

[systlin]

OH A COUPLE MORE;

Silk velvet; https://prismsilks.com/collections/velvet also have a good selection of other silks

https://www.thaisilks.com/ MORE silk, including silk velvet fairly inexpensively

[slaygentford]

this gave me a, no joke, 60 second coughing fit and im still recovering

[nineherbscharm]

[anxietyproblem]

[raintome]

[witch-of-the-wild-xxx]

!!!!!!!!!!!

[amvi1323-deactivated20201209]

I went through a lot of things after surviving abuse, but one of the things that traumatized me the most was how all the shrinks and counselors treated my anger.

I wish someone had said this to me, instead of making me feel like a monster.

[itsladykit]

Righteous anger is justifiable anger.

(Just take care how it’s directed.)