The Feared

by jaiden velez

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Episode 12

Good afternoon! I have been going back and reading my old blog posts and it is so crazy to think how far I have come just in one month. I can’t believe it has already been over a month since I have moved into college. I had a hard time the first couple of days but now everything is pretty normal. I saw my mom this weekend for parents weekend, we had so much fun. I was sad while saying goodbye but once she left I felt fine. If that was a month ago, I wouldn’t have felt the same way. I have learned so much since I have been here about myself, my family, people, and college life. These opportunities and experiences will help shape me into who I am and will become. I want to thank each and everyone one of you for listening and I hope my experiences and words of advice have helped you all on your own journeys. I am so greatly to have been able to create this blog, a safe space for all. The inspirational quote for today is "If you are reading this. Smile. You're beautiful, just being you, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.". I have decided to take a break from the weekly blogs, I want to focus on myself, schoolwork, and college life. I promise I will be back soon but until then keep on writing your story, I can't wait to hear all about it :)

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Episode 11

Hey listeners! Today I want to talk about taking chances and becoming involved. Before I left for school, everyone kept telling me to try new things, have an open mind, etc. I always brushed them off and was like “yea, yea” because I kept hearing it over and over again. I have always wanted to join a sorority and during the rush process, I wasn’t sure if I was going to like it because it is so different than northern sororities. I stuck with it and it turned out to be something I  actaully enjoy. I have also joined fashion boards and I might do an intermural sport with my friends. I am trying to do more things that make me happy and try new things before it is too late and I think you all should do the same. It is so important to put ourselves out there and try new things because you don’t want to regret it in the future. Even if you end up not liking something, at least you could say “I tried!”. The inspirational quote for today is "In the end, we only regret the chances we didn't take.". Have you had any experiences like mine? If you have made it to the end, go find something you love, I believe in you!

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Episode 10

Hi everyone!! I hope you are having a great day :) Since episode nine I talked about family, this week I wanted to discuss friends. As you all know I recently moved to South Carolina for school. I have such an amazing group of girls back home who I call my best friends. I love my roommate and we got super close. She is almost like my sister. We have been struggling with finding our group of best friends. Friends that are loyal and trustworthy. I have met many girls but none that I would call my best friends. I haven't found my solid group of best friends and I know that many other girls are going through this based on my conversations I’ve had with them. Everyone says that it takes time and eventually I will which I know is true. It just sometimes is sad because I miss my friends from back home who I feel so comfortable around. I got really lucky with my roommate and I couldn't be happier. I have met more than I thought of girls who have so many problems with their roommates. If you are feeling like this just know we are all going through it together and it will take time but it will happen! The inspirational quote for today is "Find a group of people who challenge and inspire you; spend a lot of time with them, and it will change your life.". You will find your group, your home, your family but most importantly your best friends!

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Episode 9

Hola mis amigos! Today I want to talk about family. This weekend is parent's weekend and I cant wait to see my mom. My mom and I are super close so being away from her has been a challenge. In a way being far away has made our relationship better. We appreciate each other more because we both didn't realize how much we depend on each other. We don’t fight or argue as much because we are so far away. I think it has its positives and negatives at times just like any situation. I can't wait to give her a big hug. I am most excited about the football game on Saturday. I know it will be very chaotic especially with my parents and my roommate's parents. I am worried that once I see my mom I won’t want her to leave. I truly hope it doesn't feel like how it did when she dropped me off at school. How did you feel after you saw your parents on parent's weekend or after an extended period? The inspirational quote for today is “No family is perfect... we argue, we fight. We even stop talking to each other at times, but in the end, family is family... the love with always be there.". If you are reading this go text your family, grandparents, or anyone close to you that you love and appreciate them!

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Episode 8

JD is back! While we are on the topic of school this week... I am changing my major from biological sciences to public health. Why you may ask? Well let me tell you, I realized that it would better suit my interests and my career. I want to become a physician's assistant. I've met a variety of people at UofSC on the same career path as me who are public health majors. They encouraged me that the classes are easier because they are more interesting. I want to help people and the classes they offer are more hands-on. We are taught about real-world problems and how to help someone in different situations. I am excited about next semester and the new classes I can take. The more I understand something the better I do in school. There is also a study abroad medical leadership program and I am thinking of applying because I think that would be an awesome experience. As well as a great opportunity for my future and career. The inspirational quote for today is “Be the change you wish to see in the world”. Take that step, change your major, do what makes YOU happy! Change is for the better!

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Episode 7

Hey y'all, I'm back! I have been super stressed with school lately. I have so many assignments. I am also a big procrastinator which doesn't help. Recently I have been better and I have a planner for my assignments so I can get them done accordingly. I always get my work done I just get stressed beforehand. I feel like I have no idea what's going on in my bio and calc class which stresses me out even more because I love doing well in school. Does anyone else feel like this? or is it just me! I have a bio test this week and I'm extremely nervous. I need to create better studying habits so if you have any tips please comment them below. I know I will feel so much better once I finish all my work. I just need to prioritize my time especially this week. The inspiration quote for today is "There is no elevator to success. You have to take the stairs". I love this quote because there is no better feeling than success and achieving greatness. All of this will pay off when we have our dream job, always remember that to keep you going when it gets hard. We are all destined for greatness but we have to work for it! If you are reading this go do your homework or study for that quiz or test!

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Episode 6

Hey, welcome back! Today I wanted to discuss high school vs. college. I recently started my freshmen year of college almost a month ago. I learned that the classes are much bigger in college. In one of my classes, I have almost 300 students compared to 20-30 students in my high school classes. It’s such a different change such as not getting to have a relationship with my professors. In high school, we all knew each other and some teachers were the sports coaches. It felt more family-like in a smaller environment whereas, in a larger environment, it is more intimidating and intense. I realized that some pros and cons affect me positively and negatively. College will help me find myself and learn the best ways I study and get work done. You have to put the work in and learn to time manage your priorities. It is all about a journey and I can’t wait to bring you all on it with me as well! The inspirational quote for today is “Life is a journey with problems to solve and lessons to learn but most of all. Experiences to enjoy”.

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Episode 5

Hey everyone! Who is ready to hear the rest of the story?? I know I am, here we go! She had felt like the girls played much better than her (talent-wise). This made her more intimidated because she wanted to be on the same level as them. She came to me for advice. I told her that it would take time. As long as she keeps trying her best and giving it her all, it will work out. She will improve every day and the coaches will see that. In the end, that’s all that matters. She had texted me a week after saying that her nerves had lessened. Every practice she became more relaxed. I am so happy for her and I wish her the best! The inspirational quote for this story is “No matter how great the talent or efforts, some things just take time”!

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Episode 4

JD is back again! Today I wanted to share a friend of mine's experience (I asked for permission!). She is trying out for her college soccer team as a sophomore. The first day was the worst because she didn’t know what she was getting herself into. She was technically the only “new girl” because all the incoming freshmen had already met the other girls. She felt like an outcast because no one on the team knew who she was. She was also technically “trying out” for the team and everyone else already had their spot on the team which made her extra nervous because all eyes were on her or so it felt that way. Eventually, after playing with them for a week or so, she began to start feeling more comfortable in this new environment, the field, and how the girls played with each other. Come back next week to hear what happens!

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Episode 3

Hey everyone! The inspirational quote for today is “Your life isn’t yours if you always care what others think”! I used to always care about how others perceived me. One day, I decided to stop caring, ever since then I have felt like I can be myself. People will always have something to say or look at you funny. Once you overcome that fear, you start to feel free. This is easier said than done. Some ways to stop caring about how others think of you are to always stay true to yourself, put yourself out there, and face your fears. You don’t always have to be perfect, we are all human and we all make mistakes. Don’t be friends with people that judge you for you, find your friends that appreciate everything you have to offer. The day you stop caring about what others think is the day you start living! 

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Episode 2

Hey everyone, JD is back! A few weeks ago, I was feeling super overwhelmed and homesick. I recently moved to South Carolina for college. It was not as easy as I thought it would be. The first few days I wanted to give up and go home. My close friends and family repeatedly told me to “trust the process”. I never believed in this notion, and I always tend to lose my patience. Sooner rather than later, I grew to be comfortable in this new environment and was finally ready for upcoming experiences. Being away from home and starting a completely different life is extremely hard, but it also has so many great opportunities once you give it a try. If anyone is feeling like this please trust me when I say it takes time, but it will get better. If you also went through this, feel free to share your transition story in the comment section below. My inspirational quote for today is “trust the process”!  

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Episode 1

Hey everyone, I’m Jaiden Velez but everyone calls me JD! I created this blog called “The Feared” to discuss anxiety and tips to help overcome it. I am so excited to share some of my experiences when dealing with nervousness. I hope this can help many people around the world because I truly think it is important for everyone to be aware and understanding of individuals that deal and cope with anxiety everyday. Every new post I will come up with an inspirational quote that will help remind you of how amazing you truly are. The inspirational quote for today is “believe and you will achieve”!