Imagine this...
There's this one person who decided to break free. As to how this person cope up, is like being a mascot with all smiles. He pretends that everything's good in the outside, but deep inside, he feels uneasy; uncomfortable. He felt that the blame was on him but then, decides to move forward. He pretends to look ok but, at the end of every single day, he is left alone and got no one else to turn to. He got no one else to voice out the sentiments he felt (aside from the f*cking platforms of pretentions)... He got no one else to open up about the reasons of why he decided to fly away.
And... there's another person, who felt of being dumped and left hanging, not having to realize all the reasons as to why the other one broke free. More effort could have been done, but that person just didn’t execute. Instead, decided to become the “powerless” in making the decision. That person has his flock to run to, to listen to, to joke around and give emotional support. That person has easily let go and decided to bombard questions of why's. Thus, builds up a dump of guilt to the other person who decided to break free...
Who do you think carries much of the burden- the one who was left hanging and "clueless" or the one who broke free? You may point most of the blame to the one who just decided to break free, but please remember to also assess his side. It's not a matter of whose side is best in playing victim... It's a matter of knowing and understanding the basis of the decision.
And now the person who broke free tries to be silent and prefered to deal on the outcome with his own. Trying to fly even if it seems to be not moving up or forward. But keeping silent does not mean that someone is guilty. It may also mean that someone really doesn't have the courage to open up. So, if you are the flock, be considerate enough and avoid dumping more to the feeling of guilt in either side. Above all, #respect is what everyone needs.