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What is Emotional Detachment

1. This is an inability to connect with others in a deep and meaningful way.

2. Thus, although the person may be physically present, they are not emotionally present in the relationship.

3. In fact, sometimes the person will dissociate, or experience emotional numbing.

4. Emotional detachment makes it hard for the individual to empathize with others, to share their own feelings (which they may be unaware of), or to appear emotionally engaged in a conversation or relationship.

5. Often the person will intellectually analyze situations, but they will not be able to identify, understand or share any feelings.

6. Often, emotional detachment is related to a psychological trauma in the person’s past – something that occurred in a relationship with someone important to them. As a result of this trauma, the person (usually unconsciously) has chose to protect themselves from future pain by refusing to allow anything similar to happen again. Hence, they can’t relate on an emotional level.

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Adrenaline

There have been several post around about how adrenaline affects us physically, but what about mentally?

When face with flight or fight we only think about them. We become no better than animals when terrified. When we run, we run. Anything in our way is an obstacle. Run, run, run. Don’t stop or it’s going to hurt you. Don’t stop. When we fight, we fight. Anything near us is a potential enemy. Fight, fight, fight, Don’t stop or it’s going to hurt you. Don’t stop.

A little more on the fight thing, most people when terrified enough do not stop attacking until their bodies give out. The attacker might have been long dead but they still keep on fighting, just in case. 

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Once upon a time...

I was once told…

“It would be better for me to tell you what I NEED because whatever you are doing, isn’t working. I would love for anyone to tell me how to love them, so I can do it perfectly. You have this high & mighty attitude. Like you’re above any suggestions coming from me.”

I can’t count how many times we’ve written out manuals on how we are programmed. (what we like and dislike) Throughout our entire story I’ve requested the same things

1. Make it painless 2. Make it consistent 3. Give it 100% 4. LOVE ME (this one equals 100+ more things)

I can’t help but notice how all of your requests have contradicted one another at some point…when someone else stepped into your story (someone of interest) I was required to do less but still be the MORE…when your battle with religion would become unbearable I’d be required to do less PLUS mask things BUT still be the MORE…

I’ve been the voice of reason I’ve been a caregiver I’ve been a shoulder to cry on I’ve been a lover I’ve been a permanent.. A substitute.. A trial.. The error.. Your pro and con I’ve been used/mentally abused I’ve been your push and your pull A casual sex partner I’ve been your cheerleader I’ve been a teacher

Annd I’m sure I’ve made my point..

I’ve been everything to you’d I’d have wanted you to be for me “golden rule” style. I cannot fathom how or when I have messed up bad enough to have been taken through all of this and I’m sure you could come up with a greasy reason as to why but ITS TOUGH…it’s tough to look back and read how many times a person can put themselves down and watch a person consistently pick them up and be exactly what they needed at that time :,-(

I’m guessing it’s life but be careful with your words with others from this point on PLEASE…I’ve shown and told you for 7 years exactly what you could’ve and should’ve been doing for me. I ended up broken in return…no I don’t think I’ve ever asked for too much but I do think your introduction into my life had me thinking you were more of a superhero, I held you up so high and once I’d figured out you misrepresented yourself I never let go of that image and I should have…

I often apologize to myself because I could’ve done something about this but I figured the person I once fell in love with would return…it’s human error. You live and you learn.

Every Once upon a time does not have a happy ending.

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…So often the good ones are overlooked. The way they stick around the way they are loyal to us the way that they constantly lift us up when the world is trying to bring us down. 

I have been thankful and will remain thankful to have someone willing to stand by me no matter what life throws this way. I asked one thing years ago and that was for her love to stay..stay the same stay around stay available to me no matter what and that part hasn’t changed. I hate to think that I too can be considered a “bad person”...I hate that you have dropped tears on account of my actions. I hate that I set myself up for failures that you saw coming but I’m just so happy I don’t have to pick my pieces up completely alone…you remind me of how good of a person I am, you see my heart, you love my love, and most important you love me back. 

Previous love believes your my lap dog-door mat and I defend your title…never been any of the above and we have a partnership where the TWO of us have a voice. I hate for anyone to think that when I say sit you sit…you can only do this that and the other if I say so smh…but for my friends who see our love and RESPECT our relationship I am thankful. 

I love taking care of you daily..whether it be as small as making you lunch or letting you lay on my chest after a long day of work. I enjoy cooking you home cooked meals and each moment I get that *cheek kiss* with a “you feed me so well” :-) I enjoy making love with the lights on && watching your eyes enjoy every bit of me.. 

Not ashamed to say I need you…I am IN love with you and one day soon I will marry you and have a family with you. I cant wait we deserve each other. 

My Honey…7.23.15

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Methamphetamine, also known as crystal meth or meth, is a highly addictive drug. It is an artificial substance made from very toxic materials, which can cause serious harm or death when handled or inhaled.

….THE DRUG

I often refer to love as a drug, some love isn’t worth the sale lol cant get high on it and you tell your friends how awful it was and to stay away from it…Then there’s your kind of love, the stuff you have to have on a consistent basis because you cant handle the “come down”. A person can only remember how good this drug once made them feel and they need to duplicate that feeling and will do ANYTHING to have it…

Without the drug you may experience any of the below listed 

· Deep, dark depression

· Decreased energy

· Increased sleeping

· Irritability

· Anxiety

· Cravings (meth)

· Suicidal ideations

·  Suicide

I can remember a time in my life where I didn’t feel whole without it…even to a point where I had invited self harm into my life (I would never share that with you because you already suggested counseling to get over you) Sickening it was and is to think that I felt like something that was damaging my physical/mental self was necessary…I found myself loving you more than I loved myself and God && as long as I put you over my savior I knew we would have NEVER lasted. I hated to see where we had gotten, I hated to see myself begging for you to have conversation with me, begging you to see me, losing sleep and work, and mostly not being able to have a voice and losing my identity in trying to be who I thought you wanted me to be. 

It’s sad that a dealer understands the families he/she is breaking up the lives they are shortening and the only thing they are worried about is self satisfaction (money)… You know what your doing, you know that your feelings and pleasures are short lived yet for you own self satisfaction you are coming and leaving peoples lives as you please.

I will forever be thankful that I know my limits and am ONLY willing to have you in my life as a “multi vitamin” reducing my stress and helping me improve my mental and physical conditions. 

7.14.15 #iwant2stayclean 

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We’re very pleased to announce the titles of the articles for issue 7 of our quarterly magazine! As previously announced, the topic will be Bisexuality as part of our gender and sexuality series. 

Bisexuality is the most common identity in the LGBT community - with 5% of men, and 3 % of women identifying as bisexual (Kinsey Institute, 2007). Despite this however, bisexual’s still experience a lot of stigma and misunderstanding, and this comes from both within the LGBT community and outside of it (Roberts, Home & Hoyt, 2015). People who are bisexual experience the highest rates of violence, suicide, poverty and discrimination. 60% of bisexuals have experienced biphobia in the work place, and they are 6 times more likely to be closeted than homosexuals (Understanding Issues Facing American Bisexuals). There are many myths about bisexuality and people who are bisexual that feed into these high rates of violence and discrimination. Some of the most prevalent being that bisexuals are just greedy, confused or attention-seeking, the idea that polyamory and bisexuality are the same thing, the idea that they are immune to discrimination due to being “straight-passing”, the idea that bi-erasure is no big deal, and the idea that bisexuality is a phase.

We believe that by raising awareness about bisexuality, issues that bisexuals face, and also how these myths are incorrect we can help tackle the core of what some bisexuals face. This is why we’ve decided on bisexuality for our awareness topic for this issue. We address some of these myths in our magazine - for example in the “Myths” section we explore the myth that bisexuality and polyamory are the same thing. In the LGBT section we explore the very real effects of bi-erasure. And in our Community Submission section we explore the effects stigma (such as biphobia) has on a person. As well as this we also have many other great topics from psychology, including How To Stay Mentally Well Over Summer, and Piaget’s Theory of Child Development.

If you would like to pre-order this magazine, and help support us in our mission to raise awareness for the topics that really matter to yourselves and us, check out our Patreon here

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Can't wait to deck this place out.

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You never really cared about my God baby…you were much more involved with your new friends kids, which is perfectly ok…

It just amazes me how much she’s grown. I’ve had this baby from 5 months up until now and she is such a big girl. We’ve moved from every other weekend to every weekend and she’s always so happy to spend time with us.

On her birthday…(the day we were at the school) I brought her a cupcake and balloon home, I went in the room to take my shoes off and she followed me…she goes “Mom, thank you for my bee-loon” :’-) I enjoy being her mom and I hope I’m being a good example for my baby.

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6 years old!!! My baby <3

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2019

I did what I had to do. Lord knows that last year was INSANE simply insane. But until next time G. 💋 -Deyj

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We find out today 🙈