My dad's randomly got this idea (probably from chat gpt knowing him) that autism and adhd are exactly the same. I love him but GOD it's so annoying
Like apparently coffee helps people with ADHD sleep, and he told me that I should drink it because they're 'basically the same' and that I would be fine because he drinks it before bed. And then he seemed so shocked when I told him that the last time I drank coffee a few hours before bed I hardly slept at all.
And then he gets so angry when he's overstimulated but the second I say something in a slightly harsh tone to him while overstimulated, he looks at my mum as if saying she should tell me off.
(once we were at a school meeting for options and he kept asking if I wanted to go to a speech because we were about a minute late and he wouldn't stop asking and kept saying that it would be embarrassing to walk in late so I spoke over him and he seemed so annoyed)
Oh and then he gets mad that I'm annoyed when he over explains everything. I asked him where the baking paper was. I didn't get a 'no', I got 'Well, I don't do any baking in the house, do I? It's your mum who does all the baking and puts all the stuff away. Why would I know where it is?' and every. Single. Time. I ask him a basic question or how to do something, I get a whole speech and because I'm autistic and need very clear instructions, I have no idea and I get stressed out and then he thinks I'm just being mardy.
Out of everyone in this house, the only other neurodivergent person should be able to tell that I'm not being 'mardy', I'm overstimulated. But no.