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Fear and Insecurities - Relationship Killers or Not

Fear and Insecurities – Relationship Killers or Not

Insecurity is defined as an uncertainty or anxiety about oneself. You essentially lack confidence about various things. Feeling insecure from time to time is normal. Until those things that cause your insecurities are addressed, they will be much like background noise until resolved.

So, how do we rid ourselves of insecurity? We must get rid of fear. Fear is defined as an unpleasant…

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Dying for Love

It’s definitely not a pleasant topic, but it is too important to be swept under the rug. The case for domestic abuse and crimes within intimate relationships is becoming an increasingly alarming issue all around the world. One only needs to look at the evening news to see real-life events that could easily be titled “Relationships Gone Wild.” There seems to be more suffering in silence than we…

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Relationship Boundaries

Our world is full of boundaries. We may have fences or shrubbery defining the parameters of our property, or our desk at work defines our working space. In relationships, there is a need for healthy and clearly defined boundaries so that peace and harmony can exist between you and the one you love.

Boundaries in relationships have more to do with non-tangibles such as values, attitudes,…

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Love and Other Emotions

Love and Other Emotions

“I saw her walk through the door and immediately I knew I had met my wife.”

“As he worked on my damaged garage door, my heart began to beat so rapidly that I thought I would faint. I can’t stop looking at him or thinking about him.”

“Okay, Linda keeps calling me and I’m trying to get over Tina. Maybe we’ll give it…

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Unhealthy Love Part VI - "Learn from Your Past"

Unhealthy Love Part VI – “Learn from Your Past”

In a perfect world, we should be learning, growing and getting wiser with each relationship which hopefully hasn’t been too many for you to remember. The downside of not taking notes, learning the lessons and revamping your relationship strategies is best summarized by the following quote: “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results”.

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Unhealthy Love Part V - It Can't Be All About You or Are You a Narcissist?

Unhealthy Love Part V – It Can’t Be All About You or Are You a Narcissist?

In our last article, we talked about having an existence, a self to share with others. We should never be a doormat for anyone and should always have a healthy degree of self-love. However, there are individuals who take self-love to the extreme. They are really selfish people often referred to as narcissists.

Selfish, self-centered people are everywhere. They are only happy when they are…

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love is grand

Love is fantastic. Whether you've been through a few storms or not, it's still a good thing to share your life with that very special person.

Love is a many splendored thing….  Do you remember that old, dated soap opera from years gone by and the equally famous song?  We thirsted and prayed for some of the love that was displayed on the black and white screen packaged just enough to make us believe in the dream.  If only life could be like this, we thought.

Well, bring the illusions down about three notches and fast forward to the…

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Who Are You Attracting?

Have you ever wondered why you keep meeting the same type of people? Find out a reason or two in "Who Are You Attracting?"

Have you ever heard someone say, “why do I keep attracting the same type of man or woman?”  It’s not meant in a complimentary way, but more of a frustrating manner.  You may not even be aware that you are a magnet for certain types of people based on your dating pathology; however, every time you look up you are dating someone similar to the person you just stopped dating.  If you’re only…

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Leaving with Class

Breakups happen. But the way you leave a relationship is very important.

Relationships come and go.  Some last forever, but some just don’t have the juice to go the distance.  When these parting moments occur, it is never easy to say goodbye to someone whom, for at least a period, you shared some really great times.

As life would have it, relationships are made up of many variables.  In addition, when you meet your love interest(s), they bring a little or a lot of…

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Unhealthy Love Part I - Codependency & Relationship Addiction

Are you needy, codependent, or addicted to relationships? These are not positive traits and may be something you want to address for yourself and the one you love.

The word unhealthy immediately brings to mind something that is not good for you. None of us want to be unhealthy whether it be physically, mentally, emotionally or any other way.

When it comes to matters of the heart, there are many ways that one can sabotage healthy relationships. Today, we’ll talk specifically about codependency.

Codependencyis a learned behavior that can be passed down from…

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Present and Accounted For

Relationships don't just happen. You have to be mentally and physically present in your current relationship to develop the richness your desire.

Love. What a beautiful word. Everyone needs or wants love in some form unless the individual has decided they’ve had enough of what we call “romantic interactions” between a man and a woman.

However, for those who are on the journey to find their love or involved with the “love” of their lives, stay present and accountable in the relationships you have decided to partake of during this…

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Unhealthy Love Part II - "Hangry People"

Are you hangry?

In Part I of Unhealthy Love, we talked about codependency and relationship addiction. Hopefully, the article was enlightening or at least got your thought processes turned on regarding this issue.

Next, we’ll talk about “hangry” people and the damage they cause to themselves and others.

First, let’s define hangry.  It’s simply being hungry, thirsty, desperate and manipulative regarding…

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Unhealthy Love Part III - Leave that Baggage at the Door!!

How about leaving that baggage at the door and bringing some fresh, vibrant, and positive conversation with you to get your relationship off to a great start?

Baggage can be heavy or it can be condensed into a duffle bag for easier carrying. Either way, it’s something extra that you’re bringing with you on your journey.

In relationships, people bring substantial baggage. The more they’ve been wounded, mistreated, or discarded (just a few examples), the more baggage they tend to bring with them. Persons who have an extensive dating history or a…

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Unhealthy Love Part IV - Have a "Self" to Share with Others

Are you suffering from an identity crisis in your relationships? Take some time to figure out who you are before meeting a love interest.

Some people don’t know who they are which is unfortunate. How do you start a relationship if there is nothing relatable about you to share? Have you ever met a person and all he or she could say when you asked a question about them was “I don’t really know” or even worse they hunched their shoulders like a five-year-old who doesn’t have a clue?

Needless to say, this is not a good look for a…

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Unhealthy Love Part VI - Have a "Self" to Share with Others

Are you suffering from an identity crisis in your relationships? Take some time to figure out who you are before meeting a love interest.

Some people don’t know who they are which is unfortunate. How do you start a relationship if there is nothing relatable about you to share? Have you ever met a person and all he or she could say when you asked a question about them was “I don’t really know” or even worse they hunched their shoulders like a five-year-old who doesn’t have a clue?

Needless to say, this is not a good look for a…

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