Journal 8/26/24
I've been struggling with my ADHD the past couple of days. I want to study, catch up on material that I neglected earlier in the semester. Instead, I have been playing video games. Addiction runs in my family, and ADHDers have a higher risk for addiction, so it makes a lot of sense that I would indulge in gaming instead of reading my textbooks and doing homework. I am but a creature of instinct, after all. The creature wants dopamine.
So I procrastinated going to sleep last night, stayed up until midnight just scrolling on my phone. My partner is out of town for work and to visit family, and I didn't realize how much I rely on her sleep schedule to keep mine.
This morning, sleep deprived and depressed, I fed the cats, ate a Jimmy Dean croissant sandwich, and opened up YouTube.
Now, I'm not a therapy skeptic, so I wasn't the intended audience for this video, but Dr. K still goes over some solid advice for managing emotions and cutting through all of that learned helplessness that so often holds us back.
My lesson for today is acknowledging my emotions. Simply observing and taking note of what I'm feeling throughout the day. Then, I'll consider what I'm doing and how my emotions drive that behavior or feed off of it.
Example: This morning, I am tired. I want to go back to bed. I also want coffee
Because I am taking it slow (and honestly, it's been a long week), I am going back to bed for an hour or so. I'm not trying to fight it, I'm simply observing.
Good night :)
Hey! fellow adhder gamer here. I'm in therapy, music therapy, and a few other bits and bobs through a program in my state here. And I just wanted to say good job for the acknowledgement part, and excellent response. I'm working on my motivation and such myself. And 2+ years into therapy, peer support and the like. I'm.. still struggling to be productive more than 1-3 days a week.
Video games are great, and I can't imagine my life without them. Some doctors even think certain games are good for treating mental health.
Apparently stuff like stardew valley and minecraft help with relaxation and such.
I use car mechanic simulator early game or on easy, or mech mechanic simulator to take the thinking part of my brain and give it a rest sometimes. My biggest struggle has been identifying which days are just "I overstimulated myself and have to recover and am incapable of things today" and which are "a couple more hours of sleep and I'll be able to function" days.
I know this is a late reply to your post, but I'd love to hear your progress since this post, (Regardless of how much it is or in what direction it went) Just drop me a message if you like. Either way great job on taking the that step, may it be the first of many in the direction of living your life the way you want.
Thanks for asking! I posted this earlier this morning, but I've already found some progress in my day. Through my university, I meet with an executive functioning coach who helps me identify problems and solutions. It was very helpful, and I have some new ideas for catching up on my academics! I'll be going to the rec to study so I can conveniently switch between exercise and studying.
I've always been big on productive spaces setting the mood for what I'm trying to accomplish. I used to go to the library, but it soon became a stifling experience and stopped working for me. Even though the gym doesn't seem like the ideal place to study, the "vibe" of everybody working towards their individual exercise goals is still very similar to academic goals, so it still might have a body-doubling effect for me. There's also the novelty of a new space that will increase my dopamine. Finally, exercise is very important for everyone, but moreso for the cognition of ADHDers like us. Exercise helps our brain as much as it helps our bodies.
Im glad you've been able to find good use with video games, too! I fell out of playing more calm games, and now I mostly just play action games, but they can definitely have a positive cognitive effect!
I'm also glad that you're able to find the productivity that you're able to, even if you think it should be more. Society puts such great standards on us, it's really hard to keep up, even if you do everything "right." As I've seen through my own journey, it always feels like an uphill battle, no matter how much I "fix."
I hope you may feel pride in the things you accomplish, not shame in the things you don't. :)
I find this very interesting. I can only exercise with someone guiding me and doing exercises with me. Otherwise it just feels.. kinda bad to be honest. It's really hard to motivate for it at all.
I play a large variety of games, typically you'll find me in RPGs and Exploration type games, followed by Rogue lites and the occasional survival. Kinda is how I feel that day.
Some days I need to flex my tactical brain, some days I just want to pilot a big robot and shoot some big guns.
You're completely right about the societal standards. And that uphill battle feels to me like I'm playing whack-a-mole with each thing that comes up.
Apparently trauma plays a big role in the severity of adhd symptoms according to the diagnostic lady I just saw today. But I also have a pretty severe case (severe in level of impairment is apparently what's meant here)
And with all the underlying stuff it's hard to know how severe it is. Just that it's likely never going away for me.
I'm heading to therapy now it was great to hear from you.





















