Features of Dominant Pleasure
This post is further to The Art of Submission, and provides some additional thoughts on the first Axiom of Submission:
The Pleasure of the Dom is Paramount - The Doms pleasure is the subs purpose. The sub selflessly, and without judgement, serves the Doms pleasure in every aspect of the Doms life, sex, and well-being.
There are 3 posts on this topic, each with my thoughts on submission, and what is required of the sub:
Features of Dominant Pleasure
Forms of Dominant Pleasure
Types of Dominant Pleasure (future post)
This post relates to the features, or characteristics, of the Doms pleasure and the subs role in serving that pleasure.
Features of Dominant Pleasure
There are 3 key features to Dominant Pleasure:
The Doms pursuit of pleasure extends across his entire existence; his life and overall happiness, his sexual pleasure, and his health and well being. The sub is required to understand his role in this:
The sub enhances the Doms life - The subs purpose is to make the Doms life better. This may include domestic service, financial service, work related service, etc. As the sub enhances the life of his Dom, so his own life is enhanced by the Dom.
The sub serves the Doms sexual pleasure - The sub serves the Doms sexual pleasure. The sub works to service the Doms sexual needs, conditions himself for sexual service, improves his skills and techniques, expands his limits, and grows in his submission.
The sub protects the Doms well-being - The sub works to protect the Doms physical, mental, and spiritual well-being. This includes the Doms health, lifestyle, work, social relationships, family, etc. The sub must never harm the Dom in any way. The sub exercises appropriate discretion with respect to his service to the Dom. The sub is under protection of his Dom in a similar fashion.
In all of the above roles, any specific needs the Dom may have and limits the sub may have should be balanced.
The Doms own pleasure is his singular concern and focus. The Dom is greedy in pursuit of his pleasure, it is often inconsiderate and uncharitable. The sub is required to understand his role in this:
The sub is Selfless - The Doms pleasure is the priority of the sub. The subs pleasure is not important. The sub must be as selfless as the Dom is selfish.
The sub expects no thanks, pity, or reward - The sub must fulfil his role in service of the Dom without expectation of thanks, pity, or reward. Submission is it’s own reward. In fact, it is possible for a Dom to disrespect the submission by thanking a sub, and Doms should be cognisant of this fact.
The sub graciously accepts thanks, pity, and reward - If the Dom chooses to thank, reward, or pity the sub, then the sub must accept this graciously and in turn thank the Dom for his generosity.
The subs permission is accepted - Once the sub agrees to serve the Dom, the sub has given permission for the Dom to use him in any way he requires within his limits. No further permission from the sub is required. In fact, the Dom may disrespect the submission by asking further permission to use the subs and Doms should be cognisant of this fact.
There are situations where the sub may feel pleasure during his service to the Dom, each of them in selfish service of the Doms pleasure:
The sub may receive pleasure as a by-product - The sub may receive pleasure as a by-product of the Doms pleasure. For example, the subs g-spot being hit as he is fucked by the Dom.
The sub may receive pleasure to recondition - The Dom may train the sub such that the Dom can gain greater pleasure for himself. This training often involves pleasure to mentally recondition the sub. For example, training the sub to take greater levels of pain often involves giving the sub pleasure right after or before giving him pain.
The sub may receive pleasure as a Reward - The Dom may give the sub pleasure to reward the sub for good service. This encourages the sub to continue and get better in his service to the Dom.
The sub may receive pleasure as a pleasure to the Dom - The Dom may gain pleasure by inducing, watching, hearing, and feeling pleasure in the sub.
When experiencing pleasure the sub must make it obvious to the Dom by moaning, grunting, stating it, etc. The more pleasure experienced by the sub, the more obvious to the Dom it should be e.g. increasing loud moaning as more pleasure is felt by the sub.
The sub should not confuse his gaining pleasure for selflessness on the part of the Dom, as this may lead to selfishness in the sub. Doms should be careful in giving pleasure to the sub since, if done to excess, could lead to a loss of submission on the part of the sub. If the sub is given excessive pleasure the Dom should balance it with pain in order to maintain the submission.
3. It is Shameless, Guiltless, and Without Regret
The Doms pleasure may be gained in inconventional ways due to the Doms personal fetishes and circumstances. The Dom may have fetishes that the sub does not share nor understand. The Dom may use and abuse the sub, and feel no guilt nor regret in doing this, as long as the Doms pleasure is legal, safe, between consenting adults, and respectful of the subs limits. The sub is required to understand his role in this:
The sub has no judgement - The Dom has the right to any pleasure without shame. The sub must make no judgement on the Doms fetishes, or any of his demands.
The sub causes no guilt nor regret - The Dom may excessively push beyond the subs limits. The Dom may, without malice, make mistakes and misjudgements. If this is so, the sub objectively provides feedback to the Dom without engendering guilt or regret on the part of the Dom. The sub forgives the Dom without need for apology.
The sub is obedient without question - The sub obediently serves the Doms pleasure, whatever it may entail, without question. The sub does not need to understand the Doms pleasure in order to fulfil it, although this is preferable. The sub should work to understand the Doms fetishes and circumstances in order to serve him better.
The sub considers his limits - If the sub has limits with respect to a Doms fetishes then this should be established early. If the sub chooses to serve the Dom whose fetishes align with the subs limits then the sub should expect the Dom to push the subs limits in that regard. Subs should consider this prior to serving a Dom whose fetishes align to the subs hard limits.
The sub does not evaluate the Dom - Each Dom is unique, with distinct experience level, attitudes, opinions, fetishes, and demands. The sub does not criticise the Dom, compare/contrast the Dom with others, nor evaluate the Dom in any way.
Since the sub must protect the Doms well-being, he must exercise appropriate discretion in relation to his service to the Dom, especially in regard to a Doms unusual fetishes and demands.