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I meant to post this AT 100 but i forgot oopsies! BUT THANKS FOR 100 (+) SUBSCRIBERS!!!
I mentioned in my last video about refilming my so so happy video essay, and all 3 comments said to do it, so consider that my 100 subscriber special. If you’re not subbed and you like So So Happy or listening to this emo kid talk for 10+ minutes, consider subscribing!! The video should be out this weekend at the latest!
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How to get the confidence to dress alternative in public: LONG POST {from a scene king!!}
I hear a lot of young teens online saying things along the lines of, “I would love to dress like that but I’m scared”. We’ve all been there, it takes bravery to step outside the box. Since 2020, there has been an uptick in alternative fashion, which makes things a little better, but it doesn’t mitigate the fear some people feel.
As someone who has been dressing alternative all throughout highschool and who I’d like to think has some 17 year old wisdom, this is how you can get the confidence to dress how you want. This can apply to other alternative fashion types like decora, punk, goth ect ect.
This post goes with a youtube video!! You can just watch it if you dont wanna read
Realize why you’re scared: Is it because you’re afraid of being different or picked on? Are you afraid of change? Do you think your friends/peers won’t care about you anymore? These are all valid reasons, and once you know why, you can start to tackle it. Change isn’t bad, everyone changes, change is natural. Look around at nature, seasons change, we grow and age, animals migrate and go through metamorphosis. You don’t have to be confined to one thing forever just because you weren’t born that way. As for the fear of being picked on, fuck those people. Do you know why people tease others? It’s because they’re insecure. Hurt people hurt people. When people see you being yourself and they wish they could do that, they take it out on you because in their heart, they’re jealous. You’re not the problem, they are. (If you’re afraid of being physically hurt, that is completely different and I would not advise putting your safety in jeopardy)
Start slow. While you’re still building your wardrobe, you can start slowly stepping out with small accessories and such. Add some kandi to your outfit or a tattoo choker. This is mainly to ease yourself into it. Big changes can be pretty scary and jarring, so easing into it can help you.
Have some role models. By this I mean, have people you look up to, people that are inspiration to you. Me? Some of mine here on tumblr are @xx-may4-malic3-xx , @xx-k1tsun3-k1d-xx , @xxdespairfactionashtonxx , @cigsnvalentines to name a few. Theres also some old scene queens, musicians, ect. Find whoever you want. I’m reccomending this, because when you see other people doing the same as you, it makes you go “if they can do it, so can I”. Most people probably wont even mind if you send them an ask about specific things (ik i dont, i love them).
Kinda the same point, but build a community. We have a pretty good community here on tumblr. Community is the backbone to everything. Ideally it would be someone irl, but not everyone is lucky enough to have cool irl friendz.
Fake it till you make it. Nobody has to know you’re scared but you. I’m not saying get super extroverted if you’re introverted and go around exuding confidence like a lazar beam. Dance in your mirror, hype yourself up. Take cool pictures and edit them, even if you don’t post them online. Learn to walk with your head up, again SLOWLY. As you start introducing more alternative elements into your wardrobe, wear them with pride.
Be the change you want to see. What I mean is if you want people to be kinder, you be kinder. Try to compliment someone every day. People actually aren’t as rude as you think, maybe I’m an optimist, but I think the average person isn’t terrible. Complimenting other people also makes you feel good, try it. Piggybacking off this point, don’t take things so personally. I know if can be easier to harp on the negative looks and comments you got versus the good ones, but you have to look past this. There are gonna be bad apples always, but their misdeeds can blind you from the people who think you’re pretty cool. Don’t let one bad apple ruin the bunch.
Lastly, realize being cringe is okay. Not just realize it, but internalize it. What even is cringe? Define cringe… Weird? Different? Everyone is different, everyone is weird about something. As I said earlier, some people are just too scared to be themselves. In 80 years when you’re old and looking back on your life, would you rather regret not being your authentic self, or think of all the fond memories of your life? Regret is one of the worse things in life, it’s terrible. There is nobody you can be but yourself. You’re you, so be you.
Remember that this is something that can take months or years. I feel like this past year and a half I have become fully confident in my fashion. I have been dressing alternative for 5 years for reference. I hope this could help someone.
If I wasnt clear on anything, feel free to send me an ask! Im more than happy to help!!
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If you dont follow my main @xanderisbraindead , im pretty passionate about making the scene FEEL alive. Tldr: we need to look at the present instead of in the past if we want the scene to feel revived. (I will elaborate on my main)
So, all the explaining out of the way, here it is:
Blog of the week. Basically shouting out a blog. Can be a fandom blog or a person’s. I will not shout out ppl that just repost other peoples pics. So submit a person you think is deserving of a shout out. I’ll start tomorrow then continue on mondays
I also wanna bring up for the millionth time that I take submissions. If you have a cool pic you think I could make a post ab it will absolutely do it and credit you.
Okay, so in full, what I was saying with the tldr is that we are VERY stuck in the past. It’s okay to cling to our roots and be like “man I wish I couldve been around in 20xx when this was more popular” bc like people in a lot of subcultures do that. It’s natural to wish you could experience the prime.
My personal problem is that this lust for the past blinds people from the true beauty of the scene rn. Bc yk what? Emo never died, it just fell out of the mainstream. It was no longer mcr touring the world, but a local band playing in neighboring cities. We have always existed since that spark in the late 80s, sometimes it was a huge fire that could be seen from a mile away, but others it was embers that are remnant of that fire.
Lamenting the warmth of that big bonfire isnt gonna bring it back. Caring for the embers will, adding to them to reignite that fire. There are TONS of current scene kids and emos and even bands that get no attention because everyone is busy lamenting what is no more.
I’m not saying forgo all of the past. You’re allowed to listen to Silverstein and blessthefall and Dot dot curve, just also learn to appreciate our current culture. Everyone wants a revival but we all seem lost on what it means to revive.
It doesnt matter if the band isnt from 2002.
Modern music and modern culture arent the devil.
Someone isnt a poser for incorporating modern elements into the scene.
We don’t have to be stuck in a time loop from 2008
I mean, what do I know? This is just whats been on my mind for a while
If you dont follow my main @xanderisbraindead , im pretty passionate about making the scene FEEL alive. Tldr: we need to look at the present instead of in the past if we want the scene to feel revived. (I will elaborate on my main)
So, all the explaining out of the way, here it is:
Blog of the week. Basically shouting out a blog. Can be a fandom blog or a person’s. I will not shout out ppl that just repost other peoples pics. So submit a person you think is deserving of a shout out. I’ll start tomorrow then continue on mondays
I also wanna bring up for the millionth time that I take submissions. If you have a cool pic you think I could make a post ab it will absolutely do it and credit you.
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