Don't quit before the miracle happens

"The idea behind a kaleidoscope is that it's a structure that's filled with broken bits and pieces, and somehow, if you can look through them, you still see something beautiful. And I feel like we are all that way a little bit." -Sara Bareilles. (They/Them) (Queer) ❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜🩷🤎🩶🖤🤍

[liberalsarecool]

Data centers have a very limited lifespan but their consequences will be felt for generations.

[cristalplanetheart]

[bigbigtruck]

sucking at something is the first step to getting good at it

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

minor nuisance about being an atheist is when you or a loved one is sick, you can't say "keep us in your prayers." maybe "keep us in your thoughts" is better but it has a major meh factor. the best i can come up with is "KEEP OUR MISERIES IN MIND"

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

[byjove]

about the gen z priority gender divide survey

“women are holding humanity’s survival hostage” 🤢🤢🤢 I think we should go extinct if people simply decide they don’t want to reproduce anymore. But we’re not facing extinction. The birthrate has dropped due to a number of factors, including the political state of the world and the cost of living crisis. Also this survey was about how people define personal success and simply indicates that young women no longer view pushing out children as a badge of personal success, not that they’re not interested in ever having children just that it is not a matter of personal success and accomplishment. Women were told for so long that their worth was directly tied to their fertility that the suggestion of reproducing being the pinnacle of fulfillment disgusts them.

Also as a side note, people who are obsessed with having children to ‘continue their bloodline’ and very adamant about that should not have children and are not having children for the right reasons. Like, eww. Disgusting. It almost always intertwines with white supremacist and misogynistic rhetoric. “Am I interested in putting in the effort to raise healthy well-adjusted and successful children? Nah but I want to continue my bloodline and spread my seed and knock up several people.”

[kimberellaroo]

If you really want your bloodline to continue, try donating blood. Increase the chances of your blood being passed on

[byjove]

Bone marrow too. Literally transfer your bloodline to another person.

[wagitfag]

picklesbaseball

[magikonch]

[beanarie]

@buffaluff is this what happens in bananaball cause.... 👀

[barblaz-arts]

"It's a deal, then?"

[not-trustworthy]

happy august 10

[oldmabeuf]

bright and early

[chandlebing]

THE GOOD PLACE (2016–2020) S02E03 | Team Cockroach

[wizardarchetypes]

scariest thing is when you're a kid in a huge family run by women and then you go over to a house that's deeply patriarchal & misogynistic. i remember when i was 8 years old and i got invited over to my friend's house for a big birthday party with her entire extended family. after the enormous lunch that served over 30 people, i got called into the kitchen to do literally hundreds of dishes, alongside all the other little girls and women. not only were the boys our age all excused from the meal to go play, but all the grown men went to the living room to watch sports together and drink. i couldn't believe it. i asked why some of the grownups were watching TV but the girls had to clean up and all the women just laughed and laughed at me.

[wizardarchetypes]

as a teenager when i learned the word "sexist" and used it the older women balked at it and tried to convince me this arrangement was a good thing actually because women need space from men, and cleaning in the kitchen after parties is a sacred domain of safety. and i was like actually i think needing private safety from your own husbands, sons, and brothers sounds even worse. like do you understand you somehow made this even more troubling than it already was

[wizardarchetypes]

like i think it's fine if a bunch of sister-in-laws/wives want time together without their husbands & brothers to talk together in camaraderie. i'm not judging that. obviously. but dare i ask why the women's meetup could only take place while doing manual labor for a nearby room full of men

[wizardarchetypes]

it's also interesting how this ingrained rigid social structures in children bc i was mostly friends with boys at that age and in fact was at the birthday party of a friend who was a boy so i remember complaining to him at school that it was weird all the girls had to help clean up because i didn't know any of the other little girls so i felt really left out that i didn't get to hang out with my own friends for a chunk of the party and he and the other little boys were like "that's just the rules."

[qualityfarmprofessorpaper-blog]

Video of yesterday's meteor in Portugal

[yukuiyuuu]

What a great way to observe it................................................................

[kaijuno]

[nixscriptum]

[mousidy]

a lot of my disillusionment with the trans "community" comes down to the fact that too many of you take "gender is different from sex" and go "ah ok, so instead of saying women are fragile and men are strong, I should say afabs are fragile and amabs are strong. to be Inclusive"

then you just treat gender like a surface level aesthetic draped over what someone "actually" is. really is indistinguishable from terf rhetoric

[mousidy]

you all need to unpack your bioessentialism, but we also need a better theory of gender than "it's just dressup." I will pick my words carefully here, but the word "gender" itself refers to so many different phenomena that have been lumped together, and we need to un-lump them

[mousidy]

in a feminist context, "gender" has historically referred to externally imposed categorization and the internalization and performance of said categories. in a paper I wrote on this subject, I called this sense of the word "extrinsic gender"

"intrinsic gender," on the other hand, is what I used to refer to the sense of the word "gender" that a lot of trans people are talking about when they discuss social gender dysphoria and euphoria. it's the internal sense of category that's resistant to external impositions

but then we also use the word "gender" to refer to subconscious sex, which is the term Julia Serano coins in Whipping Girl to name the phenomenon we're talking about when we talk about bodily dysphoria. it is the "gender" being "affirmed" by gender affirming healthcare like HRT and bottom surgery

so, "gender" is: a social classing system, a performance, and at least two internal phenomena as well. and I really don't know if it's doing us a service to conflate all of these things!

[mousidy]

a lot of people lately seem to be going heavy on the "performance" use of the word, ignoring (intentionally or otherwise) social classing, intrinsic gender, and subconscious sex. this seems to have led to a lot of "progressive" people treating trans women like men "amabs" who wear womanhood as a costume, and nobody understands why that's wrong because they also think gender is just a performance

[mousidy]

see also "why can't you just be a femboy/feminine man/etc"

[hometoursandotherstuff]

[the-sweaty-toothed-mad-woman]

today’s the only day you can reblog this

“There Will Come Soft Rains”, Ray Bradbury

[cobra-bubbles]

my life with ADHD

[mardu-mama]

This is very true and a great post.

But low key makes me think about how people with adhd have been raised their whole lives to value a day based on what they accomplished vs what they experienced

[thatgirlwithadhd]

I think your point is excellent. But also consider:

That list might say things like “Paint a picture. Go birdwatching. Finish that great novel I started reading. Call my grandma. Learn to bake a cake. Visit my sister. Play piano.”

For me at least, the good/fun things are harder without meds too. I can have the best intentions, but following through is hard.

[adhd-informative]

This addition is so important.

[vinceaddams]

Yeah. I once made a post in which I complained about being frustrated at my brain, and one of the things I said was:

“I should not be struggling this much to do things that I want to do and have the time, space, energy, and skills to do. Actually, when I list it all out like that, I should not be struggling at all to do those kinds of tasks.”

And I STILL somehow got a rant about capitalism in the comments. And I do understand where it’s coming from, yes, but goddamn did I not make myself clear? Did I not say Things That I Want To Do???