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FRIENDSHIP

A friendship doesn't shine by shaking hands in the best times

But It blossoms by holding the hands firmly in critical times .....

Indeed, True friendship doesn't require religion, cast or culture similarity

But Infact need a lot of understanding blended with extreme care, respect and sacrifice .......

Never lose your friend.. Because one friend can give u the strength to fight against the entire world...

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Our Life

Heart cries, so do my eyes. It really hurts when you miss your life. Life was wonderful then ..NO LOVE only friends in den. Things were so straight and so fine No commitments were in line. We enjoyed our company and friendship began .we teased each other with others in clan. Projects, Studies, Parties were in talks .. "Boss, whose love story is on the rocks?" Beautiful was the time ..Enjoyed a lot Then came an end to tear us apart. Final exams were over ..Time was to say good-bye . Wished that time had never passed-by. Some showed courage to propose their dream gals .Some were still shy to take a step forward. Some love stories came to an end ..While some started afresh to continue till the end. Pictures were taken for memories forever Friends made promises to stay in touch and loose never. Evening it was all were to depart ..nearby one's said 'Let's party hard'. I was standing aloof of them all ..Thinking . Is it the end or a new start for all? Time passed by . all were scattered .only closed one's in contact ..Other's din't matter. MBA or Job was on their mind ..Weekend Masti was still on time. Years have passed and all have been settled Now we talk but on Face book and Twitter .. Job/Business is eating most of our time ..rest of it is family time. Every time we decide and fix up a date .which gets postponed .and we have to wait. Then will come a time another ..We'll have partners and kids all together .. Meeting then will be a tougher task .. A minute the call will also not last .. My life was fun .I had tensions none .Friends were on cards . That was done Time has changed and it will change further ..We all will be in the memories of one another ..

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Discover Your Life

Life.. for some its just LIFE... where they feel they are alive.. brought up to fulfil someones dreams and take responsibility of others and repeat the same with their kids, in this journey of suffering they experience few emotions ... For some LIFE is a source to live an fulfil what they wish, people with a perception like them do experience something more than live , laugh and love... and so on everyone has a different perception about the same...

But in this life that we live we do experience a lot of emotions. At times we feel happy, sometimes sad, sometimes we cry, at times we laugh, generally we never go to the depth of these emotions... Emotions is an OCEAN, which has a depth to be known, but we are just aware about the surface. As human tendency we are afraid of the unknown. In simple words, we are afraid of ourselves... Have you thought WHY? Why are we afraid of our own self? What if we try to discover our self? Where will it lead us??? We don’t... We love to ask all these questions to others.. Don’t we...mostly to someone who has achieved something... or working towards it...

BUT Life is Unpredictable... and short... It like to give opportunity to us to discover ourself, maybe by putting us through the hard times, or testing our behavior when we have everything... Let us not measure OURSELVES with someone’s else ruler... we are here to create our own...

A Friend of mine reminded me that “Objects Exist We are here to LIVE”... somewhere in this world of competition and envy I had forgotten my life’s sole motto to LIVE... 

Don’t get satisfy or jealous by reading success stories of others... we still have the time to Write our own...

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It was a beautiful evening that I had spent with my friend… With the most tasty dinner… While way back home I decided to book an OLA, but my bad only Share OLA was available… I thought that something is better than nothing, so I booked it. With in 10min the OLA was there to pick me up… The driver’s name was Sunil, he kept the radio on and fortunately good songs were being played. It was like a cherry on the cake for my mood. But as its said “when you are extremely happy at times something bad is about to happen”. Just 10mins after I got in, we arrived to pick up another fellow passenger. He was very busy in his phone… Few mins later he suddenly asked Sunil to turn the Radio off as it was disturbing him from have a video chat with his gf.

This pissed me off as it ruined my mood a bit… So I decided to listen to music… It was a clam night, and listening to music helped me to ignore what my fellow passenger was talking about. But slowly his he started speaking loudly, at this point of time even my music didn’t help to ignore him as I was able to hear him clearly what was he talking about…

And made the entire drive damm boring because he was talking loudly on call which was annoying… After 40min we arrived near his building and he got off… And I asked Sunil to put the radio on if he wanted… Well I was unaware that he was more pissed off on that passenger than me…

Sunil started talking about how now a days people in relationship talk non sense all the time. Like where are you? What are you doing? Did you miss me? And all sort of stupid questions… Due to the frustration he told me about his story

He got engaged 8months back and was very happy with his fiancée… But after few day of engagement she got bit paranoid as she used to stay in Nagpur and he used to work in Mumbai. So every hour or two she used to call him to check on him.. Like what is he doing? Where is he? What did he eat? With whom did he eat? Etc. Etc. Sunil was fine with this in start but when she started asking him to have a video chat everytime… This was the time he lost his temper and decided to confront her, that why is she being so paranoid. But there was no answer from her side neither any kind of change in the video calling habit. At this point Sunil was fed up of her and decided to put an end to their engagement… His fiancée was shocked and was not ready to accept his decision… While breaking up she Cursed him that “He will never be able to get married and will stay single for the entire life time”. To this he replied that “Its fine if I don’t find a bride in India, I can still go to Dubai and find the best bride for me. So you don’t worry about me being bachelor”. It was the best 15mins of the drive when he shared his story.

Before getting down I just wished him that all his dreams and wishes come true and may he be blessed with the best bride…

At time even a ride can help us know such different story and makes us think about the different perspective other have… Those 15mins of the ride were the best ones…

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Waqt Nahi

Har kisi ko khush karne ki daud mai,

Apni Hasi dhundne ke liye bhi waqt nahi...

Subha Shaam bhagti zindagi ki daud mai,

Zindagi Jeene ke liye bhi waqt nahi...

Parivaar ke saath rehte tho hai,

Lekin Parivaar ke saath waqt guzarne ke liye bhi waqt nahi...

Kai Rishtey tut gaye, bikhar gaye,

Ab un rishtey ko jodne aur samatne k liye bhi waqt nahi...

Aanjano se ganto baat karte hai,

Jab ki aapno k liye bhi waqt nahi...

Sapno ki Nagri mai Josh se Jeete hai,

Jab ki Aapne liye ek Sapna dekhne ke liye bhi waqt nahi...

Tu hi bata Ae Dil, Iss Zindagi ka kya hoga...

Ki Har Pal Marne Walon Ko,

Jeene ke liye bhi waqt nahi...

Ek Guzarish hai aap sab se,

Apni Zindagi kabhi tho apne aur apno ke liye Jee ke tho Dekhiye

Apni si lagne lage ye Zindagi...

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Being Strong Is Painful

“You never know how strong you are… until being strong is the only choice you have.”― Cayla Mills

The weak fall, but the strong will remain and never go under! — Anne Frank, The Diary of a Young Girl

“Pain is not a sign of weakness, but bearing it alone is a choice to grow weak.” ~Tiny Buddha

We come across many quotes like them, that will teach us to be strong, never leave hope, it shall pass, and so on. It seems so amazing to know such experiences when we read someones success stories or in movies and even in daily soaps. Just like you even I was taught that I should be strong and courageous. Never feel the pain, always see the silver lining in the dark night. All these was amazing thing to learn but as the time flew and when I started experiencing the Pain, I made my mind that I will Stay Strong... I’m not Weak to give up... I’ll not quit rather fight... All said and done but at the end I always felt a Pain... Like something is broken and is pricking me continuously. People taught me its an imagination and I should learn to forget such things and move on... I moved on... We all Do...

At times it feels so Lonely even when I’m in crowd, Surrounded by so many people... Life feels like a Huge Pain, where no one can make me happy. Everyday, Everytime there is someone who want to break me down. Still I put on my Strong face and move on..  Everything is the same to me. -Love/hate. being silent/or noisy. It's all the same... Yet I move on...

“The worst part of being Strong is that no one asks if you are okay”-- Its the best quote. But it taught me to trust myself, to be independent and live my life as it is the last day today

Life will be full of ups and downs, that what makes it worth living. Being Strong is hurtful, but make sure you stay true to yourself, as its your life, live it to the fullest.

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Miracle Do Happen

We all wish that there should be some Miracle in our life, something that can make our dream come true.What if we can make it happen, like you can make your dream come true just like a miracle. How wonderful that feeling will be.... to achieve your goal or getting good grades or losing weight.... Anything that you wish for yourself...

In simple words its Self-fulfilling prophecies, a self-fulfilling prophecy is a prediction that directly or indirectly causes itself to become true, by the very terms of the prophecy itself, due to positive feedback between belief and behavior.  In other words, a positive or negative prophecy, strongly held belief, or delusion—declared as truth when it is actually false—may sufficiently influence people so that their reactions ultimately fulfill the once-false prophecy. Too technical right, its no rocket science, in simple words, it is what you believe is what you get.

Self-fulfilling prophecies occur more often than you'd think.  Have you ever woken up and just knew it was going to be a bad day? Sure enough, you stub your toe, people at work seem to be in a bad mood, and negative things just seem to happen. If so, you were likely experiencing a self-fulfilling prophecy. A self-fulfilling prophecy is when a person unknowingly causes a prediction to come true, due to the simple fact that he or she expects it to come true.

So that old “fake it ‘til you make it” advice is pretty darn good advice.

Just have a strong belief that you can make it, our mind is much powerful than you can imagine, because without you being aware about it, you will start acting, thinking and behaving in the manner to achieve that goal...

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Joy Of Getting Appreciated

Its Teacher’s Day... We all tend to wish our teacher’s on this day, by sending a message, whatsapp, posting on facebook, calling them or some way or the other. That’s how we usually do, Including Me.

At workplace we are not suppose to call any one Teacher but rather Mentor or Trainer. I experienced something Amazing today.

We celebrated Mentor’s Day, by giving our Mentor’s something. it was planned to give him a Mug, but wasn’t possible to arrange one in time of less than 12hrs, than we planned to give something handmade. So we planned to give him a Card, with all our thoughts written for him.

The Best part was that we asked our Sr. Mentors to help us by keeping him occupied and not letting him come to our training room before time. There was a sea of thoughts flowing from our mind, A conflict going between what to write and what not, how to express the respect in words, how to sumup the knowledge that he provided in few line, Don’t worry, we did manage to write all this in few lines.

In the course of training he is the one to give us activity but today we got a chance to turn the tables and gave him one to identify who wrote what... Which was extremely interesting and funny. Finally he was able to Guess it all, but the joy that we experienced was at another level, the shine of joy in his eyes, the smile of knowing us a bit more is something no words can explain. 

There was a little surprise for our Sr. Mentor’s, they were not expecting anything from us and when we presented them with a card (not as big as our mentor) they were soooooo glad. The most Sr. Mentor’s were not able to join us, so I went to their desk to present them the card. TS (Sr. Mentor) he was working and having snacks, he stood up and took the card, was not expecting such response but when he read the quote in the card, he was so HAPPY. I was speechless and the best reaction was of CL (Sr. Mentor) when I went to his desk, he asked me “Where is my Card?” M out of words to express what i Felt....

We ASSUME that a gift should be expensive as we start earning. It looks good, handmade gifts are cheap and its a waste of time. Just try giving a small handmade gift to your loved one, the one who is close to you, and observe their reaction. That feeling of getting appreciated, the Joy that we get when we see that smile is something that money can never buy. No Kidding.. Try it Once...

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Simply Freaking

It was a Friday, I was all set to pack my bag and leave for a long weekend trip but there was still time to log off.

While was waiting for time to pass, just remembered a incident that my Mentor had mentioned,

He was training a new batch, they were amazing and enthusiastic bunch of kids, there was one girl, She was pretty and smart yet shy. Used to sit in a corner in the training room. One fine day she came to the front row and gave a creepy look to the mentor, to be specific “Come and let me Kill you and taste your blood” Just imagine a girl out of nowhere come and gives you such an expression and contentious the same thing for days. That look scared the Hell out of Him.

He started avoiding looking at her. She used to constantly stare at him. Play with her hair, and give that Creepy smile. During an assignment while she was still staring at him, her friend got irritated and said “Stop eating your hair and focus on the assignment”. That was something shocking to him but an instant relief. He asked that girl to repeat what she said, than he understood that she was suffering from Trichophagia. We might think that she was crazy but Trichophagia is the compulsive eating of hair associated with trichotillomania (hair pulling). Sometimes those with the disorder may even eat the hair of others. In the psychiatric field it is considered a compulsive psychological disorder, which requires proper treatment.

It was a creepy incident but it taught me that First impression is never the last impression nor to judge anyone. Because we may not know what is other person going through.

Thank you “KN” for sharing this incident.

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Be Blessed to Have Mentor

A mentor is like Spring, Who nurtures new green sprouts, Encourages and leads them, Whenever they have doubts. A mentor is like Summer, Whose sunny temperament Makes studying a pleasure, Preventing discontent. A mentor is like Fall, With methods crisp and clear, Lessons of bright colors And a happy atmosphere. A mentor is like Winter, While it's snowing hard outside, Keeping students comfortable, As a warm and helpful guide. Mentor, you do all these things, With a pleasant attitude; You're a teacher for all seasons, And you have my gratitude

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Lines of Success....

Essence holds its dream entire, Strengthens hope true into fire To fit in it to be higher To the most breezed to aspire. Its strength with a wind-lot by, Sprouts ambition to the sky To bloom into a smile high. Happiness across to fly, Its fluttering wings in flight Spreads across the field its light. Blossomed is success glass-bright With glory mounting in sight. Heart content is in sublime, Remains diamond-worth in prime. Victory does reign in clime, Hailing joy bell-like to chime. #success #happiness #positivelife

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Remember Good

Always remember to forget The things that made you sad But never forget to remember The things that made you glad.

Always remember to forget The friends that proved untrue But never forget to remember Those that have stuck by you.

Always remember to forget The troubles that have passed away But never forget to remember The blessings that come each day.

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Life is a mystery to be lived

Just something I came across.... worth reading

We deplete our vital energy when we live a fragmented life — when our body, mind and soul are not in agreement with each other. Existentially, our body belongs to nature, our soul belongs to God, and in between is our mind which goes through a long process of conditioning by our family and society. Our life exists in relationships and these relationships are very demanding, full of expectations. An individual may not be so strong to fulfil all the expectations. It is next to impossible. As a result, we start being ruled by the social conditioning, ignoring our individual needs. In psychological terms, we become fragmented. A fragmented person can never be a happy person, as there’s an inner war going on all the time within his being. In such a situation, there are two possibilities: an individual can either go against oneself or rebel against the society. Both the possibilities create misery for the individual, who keeps struggling his whole life for attaining peace and joy.

It is really challenging to find a way out. It requires a tremendous amount of intelligence to understand this conflict and bring harmony between the conflicting elements of body, mind and soul. Yoga and meditation show the way — the way within. It is very therapeutic. One can begin with the body first, as it is very natural. Energetically one can talk to the body, communicate with it. Osho gave a meditative method which is “Reminding yourself of the forgotten language of talking to your body and mind”. He says: “People need to be taught how to be friends with one’s body. The body has to be loved — you have to be a great friend. It is your home, you have to clean it of all junk, and you have to remember that it is in your service continuously, day in, day out. It is doing everything for your survival, for your life, although you are so ungrateful that you have never even thanked your body.”

Modern medical science is now beginning to recognise what the mystics have always known — that the body and mind are inter-connected and deeply related. The remedy is yoga and meditation. The mind can affect the condition of the body, just as the condition of the body can affect the mind. Again, the remedy is yoga and meditation. Yoga can fix the body and meditation can take care of the mind at a deeper level. According to Yoga Sutras of sage Patanjali, the seventh stage is dhyana, which is understood as meditation in the modern times. It is basically dealing with the distractions of the mind. This way, the real yoga includes meditation also. In Sanskrit, yoga means the union. It is the union of body, mind and spirit. And finally what matters is the spirit, which rules both — the body and the mind. It is the life force together with godliness, the all pervading consciousness.

The prana energy functions at the optimum with the help of yoga and meditation. So one should not stop at asanas only — one should keep going further, deeper and deeper, higher and higher. The deeper the roots, the higher one rises. The roots and flowers are deeply connected. Osho says: “Your biology is your roots and your consciousness is your flowering.” A tree cannot flower independent of its seed and roots. The growth is a continuum; you cannot skip the birth pains, the suffering, the effort, the pushing upwards, and begin with the flower, the bliss, the meditation. There is no choice to be made. If you accept the roots, explore them deeply and consciously. In other words, be where you are; that is the nourishment the roots need to blossom into flowers. And finally, life is not a problem to be solved, but a mystery to be lived.

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LAUGHTER IS THE BEST MEDICINE

We like to Laugh when we are happy… Rather beyond happy… If you would like to go by the definition here’s the one for you “to express mirth, pleasure, derision, or nervousness with an audible, vocal expulsion of air from the lungs that can range from a loud burst of sound to a series of quiet chuckles and is usually accompanied by characteristic facial and bodily movements.” When you laugh have you realized how happy and good you feel in both ways physically and psychologically. But in this stressful life we have forgotten how to laugh… We have become Bookworms who go by the book and think about which vitamin are healthy and what to do and what not to do… But in this we forget to live in the small moments of joy… At time laughter is socially prohibited (agreed on some occasions) but not always…

Its One of the best feelings in the world is the deep-rooted belly laugh. It can bring people together and establish amazing connections. Everything from a slight giggle to a side-splitting guffaw can change the temperature of a room from chilly unfamiliarity to a warm family-like atmosphere.

Let’s see what are few of the Benefits of Laughter.

1. LOWERS BLOOD PRESSURE

People who lower their blood pressure, even those who start at normal levels, will reduce their risk of stroke and heart attack.

2. REDUCES STRESS HORMONE LEVELS

By reducing the level of stress hormones, you’re simultaneously cutting the anxiety and stress that impacts your body. Additionally, the reduction of stress hormones may result in higher immune system performance. Just think: Laughing along as a co-worker tells a funny joke can relieve some of the day’s stress and help you reap the health benefits of laughter.

3. WORKS YOUR ABS (Especially for boys)

One of the benefits of laughter is that it can help you tone your abs. When you are laughing, the muscles in your stomach expand and contract, similar to when you intentionally exercise your abs.

4. IMPROVES CARDIAC HEALTH

Laughter is a great cardio workout, especially for those who are incapable of doing other physical activity due to injury or illness. It gets your heart pumping and burns a similar amount of calories per hour as walking at a slow to moderate pace. So, laugh your heart into health.

5. BOOSTS T-CELLS

T-cells are specialized immune system cells just waiting in your body for activation. When you laugh, you activate T-cells that immediately begin to help you fight off sickness. Next time you feel a cold coming on, add chuckling to your illness prevention plan.

6. TRIGGERS THE RELEASE OF ENDORPHINS

Endorphins are the body’s natural painkillers. By laughing, you can release endorphins, which can help ease chronic pain and make you feel good all over.

7. PRODUCES A GENERAL SENSE OF WELL-BEING

Laughter can increase your overall sense of well-being. Doctors have found that people who have a positive outlook on life tend to fight diseases better than people who tend to be more negative. So smile, laugh, and live longer!

#LiveHealthy #LiveHappy #LaughterTherapy #StayPositive

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Stay Calm

Calm mind brings inner strength and self-confidence, so that’s very important for good health. By Dalai Lama.

Only Mental Calm can help us to think clearly. When we are stressed, angry or disturbed, we are not able to think clearly and not able get solution to the problem. A state of calmness also requires patience. Sometimes you need a little patience and time to understand the events and circumstances of your life. Sometimes you need patience to gain a deeper insight into your predicament. And the only way you will find true and unadulterated patience is through a state of calmness. It sounds funny but at times some amount of stress is important in our life to help us to get the best of our ability. But we tend to get stressed or anxious and due to that at times we mess up. But if we try to calm our self and then try to face the problem then we might be able to seek a solution even in our worst times. Its tough to stay Calm but there are ways how we can learn..

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TO CHANGE OR NOT IS YOUR DECISION....

Change Doesn't Happen When Circumstances Improve Change Happens When YOU Decide To Improve Your Circumstances... We always feel that we are never at fault, its always due to the situation or circumstances that we are what we are and how we are... We always wait for circumstance to change in our benefit... But never think about changing our perspective or our attitude towards that situation or person... For once if we give a thought to change and act in a different manner... There is a possibility of change... But it would be due to our own efforts... Probably the situation or the person is the same but we experience change due to change in our perspective... This change that we bring in our self helps us to view the circumstances or the person from a new viewpoint... Which we never thought of earlier... No person or situation is bad ... But surely it has a reason for its existence... To teach or give us opportunity to experience a new ability within us... We just need to find the reason, learn from it and apply in our life... There is only one thing constant... That is CHANGE... In the end its our DECISION TO CHANGE OR NOT TO CHANGE.... #ChooseTheChange #ChooseToBeBetter #PositveNotes #RaiseYourOpinion

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Understand Thyself

Life is not fair, get used to it. Don’t compare yourself with anyone in this world…if you do so, you are insulting yourself. It’s fine to celebrate success but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure. These Three Quotes By Bill Gates can make one think about themselves. From the Time we learn to Understand things we start comparing ourselves with other, complain about how Life is Unfair to us and never learn from Failures.... Just give a Thought and think rather than wasting your time and energy by complaining on the things that you don't achieve or the failure you are facing... Just for once try to face them amd fight for it... You may feel satisfied. We are Humans. We tend to more negative towards failures and others success. But we have the Capability to train our self and chose a different path by being optimistic... By Celebrating the Learning from Failure.... By Fighting against the Unfair... REMEMBER WHAT WE ARE AND WHAT WE WILL BE IN THE FUTURE.... IS NOT BY FORCE BUT BY OUR CHOICE.... WE HAVE THE RIGHT TO CHOSE... CHOOSE THE RIGHT... LIVE HAPPY... #Motivation #StayPositive #ChooseRight #RaiseYourOpinion