(Out of Topic) Matriarchy and feminism...
Ok people, time for a small rant.
This is personal, nothing to do with the tema of this blog, so just keep scrolling, this will not interest you. Its a message I send to a special Tumblr blogger.
Consider this a cold war between a ignorant online pseudo “feminist” and me.
In the past week I was having a correspondence with a online so-called tumblr liberal “feminist” and advocate of matriarchy as a necessary tool for women’s liberation and equality between the genders. First she was complimenting me for the choice of my blog. Because as a survivor of seven years of abusive marriage and psychological terror. I choose to express my sexual frustrations in a pornographic manner here on Tumblr and for my preference on black men (dismantling white supremacy). But when she found out (with horror) that I wasn’t buying her propaganda for a bright future, paradise on earth (for women). She became offended and label me as a misogynist who hates women. Now I dont hate men, I do feel uncomfortable around them, but I dont hate them. Matter of fact I work hard with myself to heal my anxieties. Because, despite what I went through I still love men. I dont hate women either. However I can be a bit harsh with them. But Its not about the random Jane, its about me. Its how I picture myself before I broke up with my X. See this blog as a bizarre way to exorcise my inner demons But more on this later.
Yes I know, its my habit to end up having conversations with weird and eccentric people. However this person beats them all. So many contradiction that I dont know if this person is perpetually high or drunk. This “feminist” after a week or so of debating, decided to cut the ties with me, in anger.
But let me address her fallacies.
First matriarchy is more fitting in the realm of some faction of radical feminism than liberal feminism. You know the radfemz kind of people who nobody like to be associated with, like feminazies?
Second, I fail to see what matriarchy has to do with gender equality and women's right. In a matriarchal world, women do all the work (yes they do, look it up) women has to work in the field, attend animals, cutting wood, taking care of the house, you know, all the traditional chores? taking care of the elders, of kids be a mother, taking care of the education, the religion.....and serving MEN, yes you read right. SERVING MEN, taking the dishes and stay in kitchen making sandwiches...oh Irony (see the Mosuo documentary on YouTube, look through the glamour and propaganda....face the reality)
Men on the other hand, they relax, sleep, they enjoy free time with their friends, perhaps they do some small everyday task...but thats it. Not to mention, they are worshiped by women, and they lay down with a new girl, almost every night. Paradise (for men) huh?
The picture of the matriarchal woman is NOT a queen, a powerful amazon or a obnoxious bitchy woman, so popular on social media. the picture of a matriarchal woman is a DICK worshiping female in her 30′s who looks like 80. Tired, stressed and with all her limbs in pain and with lot of kids. That's REAL MATRIARCHY.
If you expect the perfect world, you are deluded. Your problems will not be magically solved, you will still experience ignorance and prejudge (yes yes, trust me girl, women are also ignorant and stupid. If you dont know you’ll learn) you will still experience crime, and violence and jealousy. Sadly we will always have these problems with us. Its not a gendered prerogative or a political structure. Its human nature a bi product of having a free choice.
Matriarchs love to explain that in a matriarchy there is no jealousy because its generally a polyandrist system. However I call it a crock. Jealousy its still part of human nature, and sincerely there is nothing you can do to convince me the contrary. Because if the boy you are in love with spent all his time and sex with your (hot) sister YOU are jealous PERIOD. You can lie to convince yourself. But feelings are feelings. We harbor good and bad feelings, regardless the gender or political affiliation. The sooner you accept it, the better. Matriarchy is balls and pure hell for women. No thanks keep it.
Finally, dont tell me men fear the matriarchy....matter of fact they LOVE it. Sex with all the girls they desire, spending the time doing nothing or what they want. While we do all the work (as in Patriarchy so in Matriarchy, only worse)....come on girl grow the hell up. Just look online and on social media. All the websites and groups dedicated to matriarchy and gynarchy is populated (or infested) by horny males, very few women, and hundreds of males. Men fear the matriarchy? my big white A**
Final point, then I wont speak about matriarchy anymore.
Matriarchy is no more egalitarian than my left shoe. If all the economical social and political and perhaps spiritual power, falls on the shoulder of the woman. Can you tell me how the big holy F*** is this egalitarian? Egalitarian means humans are seen as people, not gender nor sexes, but PEOPLE. It means nothing if you have a vagina or a penis.
The matriarchy is the opposite. All the political power fall on the woman (and the man? so much for equality) all the economic power is female (and the man? so much for equality) all the social power is female (and the male? so much for equality) etc. Please I tell you what girl if you are pro-matriarchy you CANNOT label yourself as liberal feminist. Because feminism is for dismantling the patriarchy and removing gender roles, not replace it with a FEMALE PATRIARCHY because then its just a change in management. And I dont care how good men are treated or how much they are valued (benevolent sexism) or how fair it is or how different from patriarchy it is. It doesn't MATTER, because Its NOT egalitarian. Therefore matriarchy, like patriarchy is the ENEMY of feminism. And so are you.
Now I have something more important to do, like washing the dishes, than wasting my time with some stupid online PSEUDO-”feminist”.
Last word. I cite my self (just a innocent moment of narcissism):
If it aint real, its bullshit.
(Karina Petersen, on Matriarchy and feminism)
Matriarchy is not real, never was never will be (Gimbutas can suck my toe). Matrilineal (like the Mosuo) is the closest you can find...and its mediocre at best. Deal with it.
Sorry for the form of my post but my tablet hate Tumblr.