Yesterday while out with my bf we asked each other what we hoped to improve on for next year, our new years resolution.
He said the usual stuff like improve my health, buy a house, get a new job in the engineering world.
When he asked me I said work on my feminists views.
I’ve been slowly opening my mind more to feminists views but there is still a lot I don’t know.
He tells me I chose to be a feminist when it’s convenient for me and then I don’t when I want something else.
So I should really stick to my guns 100% of the time.
This is something I put into action at my workplace.
Personally I see many people get taken advantage of and I am not your average women. I speak out pretty much all the time even when it makes me look bad.
I didn’t believe I was getting the pay I deserved and so I spoke out and got it. I can’t say I wasn’t getting paid equally as much as men because I don’t know how much they get paid. I try to get that information out of them asking for an average and some of the higher paying people tell me and some don’t.
Money is always such a taboo subject especially at work. I am usually a very open person and with my friends if they ask me how much I earn I will tell them.
I try not to hide things from people and why should I have to hide that. It’s really just a number.
But as a women it is hard to ask for such things as a raise or promotion.
I myself was scared to ask and why was I scared when most men aren’t. They don’t include their feelings when making these decisions so why was I letting my feelings scare me from what I wanted. I finally got that guts one day, I nervously stepped into the owner’s office and told him what I wanted.
When you don’t speak out how are pepopel suppose to know what you want.
I am currently on track to getting an electrical engineer titile since I am currently a designer and my bosses know what is that I want and they are doing what they can to get me there.
Just this past week I had to work 111/12 hr days to get a project out while having 4/5 people to manage and I had to give progress reports everyday on how it was going. Was it stressful? Very much but this is what I asked for. I asked to be given more responsibility and the chance to manage people so that in a few years I could become a project manager and then the next title and so on.
I’ve divulged a bit but some people are complacent and happy where they are, I am not. I want to keep achieving and progressing as far as I can in my career and life. I am a natural leader and so I want to be in a leadership position no matter how long it takes.
