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@kassandar
i’m not sure why but i feel really listless and now that i don’t actually have to do anything i feel like the wind has gone from my sails and things are even harder than they were to do when i was really busy which is weird.
like i dont wanna focus i just wanna distract myself bc it’s like theres something i wanna ignore and idk what that is
lol i just want tess to move in w me so i can come home to her and we can b even more in love and why am i so fcuking fucked when iit comes to her
hey kids im devoid of emotion and wanna die but my house is clean and i know all about the wild/civilised dichotomy in Sir Gawain and the Green Knight! !! !!!!!! !
Hey Man U ever just wanna like Fucking kill yourself and die Lmao
me: lays down bc too sad to get up
i want to kill myself lmaooooooo
alternative positive anxiety coping tools:
running - (my personal favorite/most successful for me) it gets my heart rate up through activity and peaks it in a different way than anxiety makes it, so after a nice long run my heart rate slows down, i’ve had a nice distraction and also some reflection time to think about whats been bothering me. i also feel pride in being active and that helps counteract the negative feelings that come with anxiety.
yoga - its a good way to relax your mind and your muscles, anxiety tends to cause a lot of tension and doing yoga helps loosen you up so you don’t have to deal with at least some of the physical symptoms.
meditation
breathing techniques** - i starred this one because its something to take note of no matter what tool you’re using to calm down, slowing your breathing generally helps calm you down and helps counteract the catastrophic thinking and helps you to think more rationally, someone described it well: Sit in silence. Close your eyes. Take some slow deep deep breathes. Listen to your heart beat, and your breathing. Try to not concentrate on anything but your heart beats. Don’t let any bad thoughts enter your mind, if your mind wanders focus it back to monitoring your heart rate and your breathing. its also important to breath into your belly, not your chest!
doing chores or small tasks - helps you get shit done and gives you a sense of accomplishment
long hot bath - read a book, light a candle, make yourself comfortable!
listening to slow/relaxing music (someone said jazz is really helpful specifically)
make a list of the things bothering you - and then start writing solutions for them, getting your thoughts down on paper helps you realize them how they actually are and can help you come to a solution or approach more easily when you aren’t being bombarded with negative thoughts distracting you from finding a solution. only the words you’re writing are what you should focus on
take a nap - i know its usually hard to sleep with anxiety but if you can get some rest it usually helps with cooling down and getting through/avoiding the panic
5-4-3-2-1 -Take a deep breath. Name the basic shapes and colors of FIVE things you see (ex. red circle=stoplight). Close your eyes. Name FOUR things you feel touching you (I feel the chair under me, I feel the air from the fan.. etc.) Name THREE sounds you hear at the moment.Take two deep breaths. Name TWO scents in your environment. Take a deep breath. Name ONE thing you are grateful for/like about yourself. Exhale slowly. (this was said to help with especially with public attacks)
4/7/8 - breathe in for 4 seconds through your nose, then hold 7 seconds, then you blow all your air out from your mouth for 8 seconds. repeat this until your calm. you can also use it if you have trouble sleeping
a cup of hot tea
make art - don’t worry about being neat, be sloppy, be emotional get that anger or frustration or whatever feelings that are fueling that anxiety and put them into your gesture, throw paint on the canvas, scribble hard with the pen, really allow your emotion to be put into the art. it helps you relieve tension and also reflect and gives you something cool to look at after. it gets the feelings out of your head/chest and on to something else.
write down everything you’re feeling - don’t think, don’t plan, just write.
cook something hella yummy - the process helps gives you something to focus on, and gives you something good to eat by the time you’ve calmed yourself down
holding an ice cube in your hand - focus on the cold and nothing else, til it melts, let your anxiety melt with it
tense and release method - Tense your face for 10 seconds relax. then neck, then shoulders, then one arm, the other arm etc… when you’re tensing hold your breath. when it’s all done lay down/or do this laying down and at the end just allow your whole body to relax
sit down - put your head between your knees, close your eyes, inhale through your nose to fill your lungs, hold for 10 seconds, exhale slowly while counting to 10
brain stimulation - puzzles/crosswords/building something/sudoku etc
taking a string - (thread or a hoodie string anything) and wrapping it around your finger then unwinding it and wrapping it around the other finger helps bc its so monotonous but easy to focus on
take a long warm shower - let the water wash the anxiety off of you
clenching and unclenching your fists
singing loudly
visualize the worst possible outcome - and how even in the worst turn of events there is always the next time the following day your world will not end regardless of what is to come there is always another opportunity another chance although circumstances change the potential remains the same your potential your ambition is undiminishable failure may be a lost battle but never a lost war
glitter jars - shake it, watch the glitter settle to the bottom, its calming to watch, repeat as many times as necessary
i compiled this list from personal experiences as well as tons of asks and advice from my followers. everyone has a different experience with anxiety, there’s no universal method or technique thats going to help everyone, but i will say controlling your breathing is something everyone should try and take note of or practice because it really does help alleviate a lot of the physical symptoms. these are not all of the possible methods or techniques just what either me or my friends and/or followers have found to help them. i hope this helps you guys as well. much love to all of you!!! you’re not alone with this!!
This is so important and so helpful. I alternate between all of these every time I get anxious and they all work v well! Please do these I’m sure at least one should work!
youre okay. a few thoughts do not need to snowball. you are okay. keep on lifting up, and don’t let yourself fall. you are okay. youre going to be okay. youre only feeling down because you had a very unproductive day. thats okay though. youve been eating bad bad food. but you are okay. you are okay. you are okay. you are okay. you are okay. you are okay. everyone has doubts from time to time but they will not ruin your life or your relationship. you decide how you feel kassboo. and you have decided you are okay!
tomorrow i wanna
self care:
get up early and read a book
do self portrait
appt with briony
make bed
tasks:
write
work out
sing
These are the items that you enjoy and do frequently:
Listening to music
Being with my roommate
Finishing a project or task
Writing stories, novels, plays or poetry
Putting on makeup, fixing my hair, etc.
Eating good meals
Budgeting my time
Being alone
These are the items that you enjoy the most but do not do as frequently:
Planning trips or vacations
Amusing people
Doing housework or laundry, cleaning things
Running, jogging or doing gymnastics, fitness or field exercises
Writing letters, cards or notes
Being complimented or told that I have done well
Having coffee, tea, a coke, etc. with friends
Having people show interest in what I have said
Playing in sand, a stream, the grass, etc.
Completing a difficult task
Saying something clearly
Reading stories, novels, poems, or plays
Having a frank and open conversation
Having lunch with friends or associates
Solving a personal problem
Introducing people who I think would like each other
Having a lively talk
Listening to the sounds of nature
Seeing beautiful scenery
Gathering natural objects (wild foods or fruit, rocks, driftwood, etc.)
Watching the sky, clouds or a storm
Getting massages or backrubs
Complimenting or praising someone
Doing a job well
Protesting social, political, or environmental conditions
Having peace and quiet
Rearranging or redecorating my room or house
Taking tests when well prepared
Walking barefoot
Being with my children
Being told that I am loved
Going on field trips, nature walks, etc.
Attending a concert, opera, or ballet
Winning a competition
Exploring (hiking away from known trails, etc.)
Driving long distances
Being popular at a gathering
Making food or crafts to sell or give away
Giving gifts
Getting a job advancement (being promoted, given a raise, or offered a better job; getting to a better school etc.)
Being in the mountains
Going on outings (to the park, a picnic, a barbeque, etc.)
Getting letters, cards or notes
Pleasing employers, teachers, etc.
Playing in a musical group
Being praised by people I admire
Meditating or doing yoga
These are items that you frequently do but do not enjoy as much:
Petting, necking
Brushing my teeth
Dreaming at night
Having other sexual satisfactions
Having sexual relations
Watching TV
Breathing clean air
Wearing informal clothes
Taking a shower
Being in a city
Being with friends
Combing or brushing my hair
Just sitting and thinking
Wearing clean clothes
Washing my hair
Cooking meals
Kissing
Sleeping soundly at night
Getting up in the morning
saturday!
self care:
- draft up a roster & little list
- take notes on criticism chapter
- moodgym module
- go for a walk
- self portrait
tasks:
- clean bathroom
- vacuum
- scales
- work out
- writing
this week:
clean bathroom
find book about parents
tomorrow is friday!
plans:
- climate march, 5:30pm - leave 4:30
self-care:
- have a bath in the morning, listen to uplifting music
- read self assertion chapter
- laundry
- moodgym module
- eat nice food
tasks:
- write in the morning (if possible)
- work out
- scales
- cancel dentist appointment
goals
this year:
- read 3 more good books eg. women who run with the wolves, the girl within, something by starhawk
try get each done in 1.5 weeks
- make a self care roster
before this week is through
will help making sure i slow down time a little
should include weekly tasks and things to tick off
possibly electronic, or able to be drawn up each week
possible things: meditation, yoga, bath, watching a tv show, self-massage, reading some trashy fiction/fanfic, listening to lovely music, moodgym
- sleeping pattern - 10pm - 7am
in bed by 11 this week! whatever it is, you can do it in the morning!
- have a bath once a week
- start life-coaching yourself!
collect some blogs you wanna check out, start writing goals and doing moodgym
next year:
- read a book a month
- craft every other day
- flesh out new novel
10 years:
- finish degree and begin postgrad
- get published
- ????????/
IM OVER HER
LIKE I DONT THINK ABT HER OR GET SAD WHEN I CHECK HER BLOG
FINALLY
and things are good with the new girl
Things that will always be good: - a milo on a cold day - snugly blankets in the morning - a cup of tea - wonderful housemates - your good friends - cleaning and feeling like you're getting something done - poetry - Illyria - reading trashy fanfics - your confidence - self care - early mornings - music - writing - fresh veggies - talking to strangers - nice sleeps
fuck christmas
