Sirens, donât settle for less
I know that you hear this all the time but it is nothing short of the truth. You need to set your standards to your liking and to your benefits.
You know exactly what you want
You want a comfortable life working an above regular or a regular job with a big family and a marriage? Set your goals and your standards accordingly.
You want a life in which you never have to worry about a price tag, living lavishly going on vacations every year with your loving husband? Set your standards accordingly to meet with your future goals.
You want to work by yourself, provide for yourself and spoil yourself with all of lifeâs luxuries and experiences? You should then set yourself some standards.
You want a mixture of all of these? Go for that too! Itâs all up to you sweetheart. Youâre the queen of your own kingdom so rule yourself.
You want what you want so do you what you have to do, because nobody else will do it for you but you. You need to set your standards accordingly. Set standards so good that theyâll automatically filter out the dusty people and anything unworthy of your time and essence.
You should never lower your standards for anybody.
You should think about what is beneficial for you, for the present and for your future. You should state to yourself exactly what you want and how you want to be treated before you can demand anything from anyone.
Iâve made mistakes, trust me! I had my share of putting up with people who brought me nothing but stress and who made me bring myself down to reach their level. But no more! I realized that by getting to their level, I myself was leveling down and down again!! I couldnât bear to think of my future with those kinds of people in my life so the choice was simple, cut them off, focus on me and rethink what kind of lifestyle I want to attract. AND I DID JUST THAT. In doing so, Iâve been pushed not only by myself but by my trusted entourage to get better physically, emotionally, mentally and financially. They watched me bloom into this beautiful goddess entity that I am now. It was a simple step and I think back to that time when I had taken that step and felt bad and ashamed for the people that I would lose.. Those âfriendsâ that I had unknowingly put up with and clung onto because I was scared of being alone. I canât believe that I even felt bad about my choice, something I did for myself and I felt awfully ashamed of it? Not anymore, Iâve moved past that since a while and the time I had spent in quarantine during these tough times only enforced the idea that I am strong, that I am worthy of everything and I can only move forward.
At the end of the day my sirens, it is all up to you. You shouldnât ever have to lower your standards for anybody. You have to surround yourself with people that will lift you upwards and will rise with you instead of keeping you in a rut. Let me ask you this, would you really accept maltreatment? Would you really accept people who keep you below them or push you to a level much lower than than what you deserve? Do you want to prosper? Yes? Well do the people in your life and does your lifestyle at the current moment let you do that?
Donât ever let anyone touch your potential unless they can amplify it. Donât ever let anybody or anything bring you any lower than where you are and for the love of god do not ever make temporary people your main focus in life.
If you donât know what your boundaries are, I suggest you start to set some down with yourself.
-Write them down, by writing down your standards and your boundaries, you not only have a clear view of what they are but you can always look back at your notes if you ever need a picker upper.
-Ask others what their boundaries are, thereâs no shame in asking for advice or for ideas on what boundaries are. Taking care of yourself is crucial and you should take all the help you can.
-Donât be afraid of losing people along the way. I know that it can be difficult but think of it as a freeing process and trust me, youâll meet so many high value people that will fill you with gratitude for the steps you take now.
-You will gain so much more in the end. Always remember that when youâre questioning yourself and your journey right now
-Self love is a priority. You need to learn how to truly love yourself and be comfortable with you. Before you can even begin to make any changed in your lifestyle you need to start thinking right and thinking about yourself. Think about it, how do you expect someone to treat you correctly when you downgrade yourself mentally?
I am tired of hearing all these horror stories about people staying in their unhappy relationships just because they are âused to itâ. Tired of people rationalizing the maltreatment they get from their relationships or them romanticizing the minimum effort anybody gives them just because theyâre âused to it.âWhat? What do you mean used to it? Do you realize how sad it sounds to hear someone say that and for someone to say it without shame? I mean it always has me gobsmacked. I canât believe there are people, women, out there who lower themselves to such pits that they think so small of themselves and their worth. Itâs sad, pathetic and desperate. Yes I said it.
ANOTHER THING! NEVER EVER SHOW THAT YOUâRE DESPERATE EVEN IF YOU ARE.
Being desperate is a dangerous situation to be in. You have no idea the amount of people out there who will take advantage of you the moment they sense your desperation. You should never fold to this. Learn to control your yourself and your emotions, control the energy that you put out there for the world to see. You must be sharp and you must stay strong because you are your most important tool. Please donât make the mistake of trusting people too easily (though having some that you trust is certainly a necessity), I highly suggest that you keep certain things to yourself. If youâre desperate for a job or for love or any sort of connection, donât show that off. Keep it to yourself because all youâre doing by throwing yourself at everything you see is simply scaring off the good opportunities and bringing you down to nothing.
So my sirens, these are just some key things to remember when youâre leveling up. Trust me, keeping these in mind and applying them daily will change the way your lifestyle is now for the better. I know this for a fact...
Part II coming soon, I have so much left to say but I didnât want to keep you all waiting too long for me to post.
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