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Hi what makes better synastry for marriage or long term relationship for partners that both get bored in relationships easily? Are any of them 7,1,8,10,9,4,11, or 12th house synastry? I guess I’m asking what houses make it so that the relationship is long lasting and comfortable but also exciting and interesting?

Synastry For Long Term Relationships in Astrology

1. Strong Saturn Aspects

Typically in harmonious aspect but I’ve seen Saturn in hard aspect in longer-term couples. This is because Saturn is glue. He equals longevity. Seeing Saturn conjunction Venus, or on the 7th house cusp can indicate long term commitment. 4th house means committed home and structured family.

2. Venus in Harmonious Aspect to Saturn

People often associate love with responsibility. They are usually quite committed to their partners and they take their relationships seriously. I often see this aspect in couples that have been together for a very long time, [even if they are not legally married]. If this aspect is in the 5th house, it could mean a committed relationship where people may not even have a ‘title’. 5th house with these two is often the long term “f-buddy” aspect.

3. 12th House Overlays

Remember, the 12th house is also a very “spiritual house”, so there can feel as if there is a soulmate thing going on. When relationship significators are connected with the twelfth house, there may be a tendency to either keep relationships rather sheltered and private. The advantage of this is keeping others out. Usually, when relationships go south, it’s because too many parties are/were involved be it by opinion/busybodies or affairs. Ironically, 12th house overlays can be attracted to secret affairs or relationships. There is often a deep, inner need to look for support from a lover, and some pleasure is taken from keeping things private. This can happen when the ruler of the seventh or fifth house is situated in the twelfth house, or the ruler is strongly aspecting a planet in the twelfth house or the ruler of the twelfth house. 

4. 7th House Overlays

7th house rules marriage and partnerships. When there are mutual overlays or Venus, Moon, Saturn, the Sun here, this can indicate important and long-lasting relationships. Virgo 7th house can equate long life with someone else or “growing old together”.

5. Juno conjunct 4th or 7th House Ruler

Juno is the Roman goddess of marriage, The Greek Queen Hera’s counterpart. When someone’s Juno lands in the house of marriage or the house of home and family, this can be a strong indicator of a “spouse”. If she is making aspects to Venus, Saturn, or the moon even better.

6. Vertex conjunct Venus

Vertex in your chart is your fated point. Your karma. When the planet of Love is sitting on someone els’s point of “fate” it could mean a ‘fated’ connection in love. 

7. North Node Double whammies

North node is your goal in life Where you’re “headed”. When someone else’s NN conjunct yours they are meant to be in your life moving “forward”. For more context, see what houses they fall in and check transits.

8. 8th house Overlays

8th house is about shared resources, karma, death, sex, rebirth, etc. When Venus, Vertex, North Node, Saturn, Moon, or 7th house/12th house ruler land in a partner's chart here, there can be heavy and long term attachments between people. Remember, even though Saturn is considered “glue”, Pluto can also have a very long term “binding’ effect on two people. this house is quite literally the house of “til-death-do-us-part”.

9. Venus conjunct Uranus or Venus in the 11th House

This aspect is very good for people who live unconventional love lives. This placement/overlay can indicate two people who never get tired of each other. Romance could have birthed from friendship or out of the blue. There is always something exciting here. I see this aspect between swingers or those who have open marriages. If you get bored easily or are not a fan of traditional “monogamy” then this is the aspect/overlay for you.

10. Sun Conjunct Jupiter/in the 5th house or 7th House

Sun is a benefic and ruler of the 5th house that’s about playfulness and leisure. Jupiter is about joy, forgiveness, and expansion. Two individuals with this overlay will simply like being around each other. They’ll have FUN together, go on adventures together. May overlook issues because they would rather have the other person than fight. It makes for typically agreeable and jolly marriages. Lots of fun and travel together. Lots of babies too.

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Venus / Moon / Mars synastry  (conjunction, square)

Venus conjunct Moon synastry is considered a true love aspect. If at a tight orb the love will be mutual and likely emotionally fulfilling.  Both parties tend to be very sweet to each other. It can be sickening to outsiders sometimes. They very much understand each other’s emotional and security needs. They enjoy doting and spoiling one another with back rubs and gifts. They are each other’s side kick and best friend. They care for each other deeply, and selflessly. The Moon finds beauty and warmth from the Venus. The Venus feels greatly understood and nurtured in return. Long walks, hand in hand and cuddling. They look into each other’s eyes and feel their spirits lift. Simply being in one another’s presence heals pain. It feels as though they are wearing a favorite comfortable sweater. They are a classic and romantic pairing. In non-romantic relationships this aspect will still be good to have.  They joke around and behave goofy.  Venus feels like being romantic with the Moon. The Moon draws out their creative and organic self.  They are allowed to be themselves in this relationship. They hardly will notice other people when they’re with each other. If one of them do give anyone outside of the relationship more attention than the other party will feel left out in the cold. There can be jealousy but generally they want to make each other as happy as possible.  Going about their individual daily routines won’t normally clash too much. Always look to the rest of the chart to determine.

Venus square Moon indicates a rather strong emotional and sexual connection. Instead of the conjunction and softer contacts which show mutual understanding and good feelings. The square creates friction and a restless energy. Venus square Moon in synastry shows two people who usually are very much in love, or attracted to one another but are very different in how they each express their emotions and go about romantic gestures. Frequent likely arguments can become the couples natural form of foreplay.. Such paring indicates an off and on again relationship. Similar in some basic ways but different in other important ways. They argue about little petty things. This can even be the case in the early stages of the relationship, but since there’s a strong attraction both parties will try to ignore the irritation or awkwardness felt sometimes. This aspect will generally play out when they couple is out socializing together or having company over to their home. They can have differences when it comes to raising their children, or have conflicting views on marriage and children. Such as one person may want kids and a big family while the person person although aren’t entirely turned off by the idea, is not completely sure that is something they want. They may want to travel and never considered children. Their moods generally two don’t match up well. One person will want to have sex and the other seems to be caught up in something else they’re doing. When the two do sync up, there is emotionally driven sex. 

Venus conjunct Mars is considered to be a marriage and major sexual attraction aspect. Especially when it is at a tight orb. This particular aspect’s potency depends on other mars and venus contacts going on in the synastry charts. When Venus conjunct Mars, there is an immense sexual chemistry between two people. Venus is the feminine and Mars is the masculine, so together they have found their ideal match. They view each other as the mate they always wanted. Mars is compelled to touch and flirt with Venus. They really like to touch one another, especially early on in relationships. They may feel like they haven’t been as fulfilled in the bedroom before they met each other. Mars is usually the initiator and behaves like Venus’s knight in shining armor. They feel compelled to win Venus over. Venus in return feels completely in her feminine energy, but being chased after by Mars. Mars really make them feel like a woman. Not only is there simply a sexual/romantic attraction, there is mutual respect. Both parties do not mind going out of their way for one another. In fact they may want to team up and tackle projects together. People  see the couple as an ideal match. They physically look good together and are charming. This is a good long-term aspect because when two people are sexually compatible it makes them less likely to wander outside of the relationship.  Candle lit love making and passion are all the name of the game. If there are any negative contacts connected to this one, then beware of jealousy.  You don’t need to be around each other 24/7. Give each other some room to breathe or this can turn platonic.

Venus square Mars there is either an immediate repulsion or attraction towards one another. In many cases it is both. The way that the Mars person advances on the Venus person can make them flat out uncomfortable.  However that is where the tricky-ness occurs with this aspect. There is a fine line between dislike and like. Love and hate. They irritate the hell out of each other sometimes, which ironically fuels the attraction. Venus see’s Mars as aggressive or inconsiderate. Mars sees Venus as soft and beautiful physically, but Venus is overly sensitive or does not react how the Mars wants when they pursue. Mar’s wants to dominate and conquer Venus, so they can come off as desperate or overbearing.  It can take longer then the conjunction/opposition for these two to form a relationship of any kind because of how much they drive each other crazy. They can be be that couple who has some fiery, epic arguments. Screaming at each other in a very public place. All because one of them said/did something the other person didn’t approve of. Other people will take notice of the tension between them, especially in the beginning. Some issues this contact also ensures is sexual disharmony. They are attracted and horny, just at different times. When they do have sex it’ll be aggressive and passionate. Think of Brad and Angelina in Mr. and Mrs. Smith. Loud make up sex isn’t uncommon.  

Moon conjunct Mars in synastry is a baby maker aspect. This is because of the impassioned physical responses from both parties. There is a great deal of libido responses when around each other, making them more fertile. The moon persons emotions are drawn outward, making them feel vulnerable initially in front of Mars. the mars can go into fits when the moon becomes overly sensitive or emotional. At the same time there is a lot of understanding about what both people are attracted to in an intimate relationship. The moon in the beginning is intimidated by the mars yet finds their domination and strength to be very sexy. It causes much steam. The kind which burns underneath the skin. This attraction is primal and instinctive. This aspect puts both people in heat.  They want to engage in sexual activities or mate. The sex is likely to happen quickly. Mars does the chasing and wants the Moon person SO badly. Both planets feel primal and primitive traits of animal and man. There can be an animalistic quality to the sex. It is common for the Moon person to want to have the Mars children.  The female in this contact can become more fertile like those mentioned above. Mars makes the moon feel safe and protected. Mars is indeed protective of the moon. They go into total warrior mode when anyone messes with their lover. Although they may respond heatedly to each other, any outsiders should beware trying to pull that nonsense. This is another good long-term contact to have if there’s other positive aspects. Similar to the Venus/Mars conjunct, there is great sexual relief and satisfaction.

Moon square Mars in compatibility normally brings on irritation at first interaction. They feel this irritation which lends to sexual emotions. Moon square Mars causes friction naturally on its own, that just puts people on edge. There can be an attraction, with other supporting aspects. So when there is a romantic attraction involved, these people will seriously annoy the hell out of each other, but they do love each other. Their interactions in the initial beginning of the relationship will be emotionally hot and perhaps feisty. There can also be interactions to do with manipulation. The Mars person can physically manipulate or be more aggressive which makes the Moon cower back. Overtime the Moon will fight back which is where the square energy really comes in. The Mars can pick and poke at the Moon so the Moon eventually will begin having outbursts. They can feel like the Mars is emotionally abusive in some extreme situations.  Normally however it can just simply be the Mars teases the Moon, and finds them to be overly sensitive.  They sometimes wish the Moon was not so sensitive. There can be a lot of sex in beginning of relationship because of the level of friction aroused when around each other. In the beginning this can be kind of sexy to have. It’s definitely an aspect which brings pure emotional responding to each other, especially in the heat of the moment.  Both parties need to watch out for manipulating each other to get what they want. It’s not about each other’s individual selfish needs, it’s the needs of both parties that matter. This aspect can drain two people over time and other people around them.  Each other’s parent’s can definitely be a stress. The Moon persons mother can interfere in the relationship perhaps and Mars gets angered by this. Or vice versa. Regardless of the fighting and heated moments, there is obviously love for each other even if they are at war. The War is always started by petty things said and done too, so try not to be completely immature with this aspect. It can tend to make people act in childish ways simply because the other person drives them nuts.  

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