Could you please write some headcannons for the DBH crew facing the fact that the object of their affection has a date that night? Iâd like to see how some would try to talk them out of it while others might go down the âsabotage the dateâ end.
I misread this ask when I was drafting this piece as âHow would everyone try to argue their crush out of a date night.â Which explains why all the responses are slightly different from the prompt. I hope this is alright with you anon, thank you so much for the request!
Connor, Passive aggression
Itâs likely when you first tell him about the date night heâll react with some surprise, and when you answer Connor, he becomes upset (poorly hiding his frustrations over losing you). But when you ask him if somethingâs bothering him, Connor will just tell you itâs nothing.
Even if you were to press him on this Connor would brush you off and tell you it didnât even matter, though in the days leading up to the date he would bring it up in a pessimistic tone, and force you to be the one to ask him directly if something was bothering him.
Once the two of you were able to have an actual constructive discussion about things he would really try to get in your head and ask if there was any way you could know for sure if you could trust this person. Maybe plants the idea in your head that they were just setting you up as some sick joke, or that they were going to stand you up.
Markus, Ethos, Logos, Pathos
Even though this is clearly a more personal and private matter, Markus wouldnât see any reason not to try and apply a more scholarly approach to the discussion, and as a well-read person in his own right, itâs only natural that he gravitates to the three pillars of rhetorical persuasion.
For starters, he would remind you of how close the two of you were, and how long the two of you have known each other and how heâs speaking to you as a close friend here. (Establishing ethos) Followed by listing out some logistical which arise as risks which from a first date with someone new. (Logos)
Then to really seal the deal he would try to connect with you on an emotional level, be would really allow the emotions to become evident in his voice as talks about how much he cares about you, and how he just doesnât want this person to hurt you.
Kara, Practically saying what she means
As an individual, Kara is far too practical and genuine as a person to try and sweet talk you into getting you to do what she wants. Kara respects you enough as a person not to waste your time with a cheap tactic like that, not to mention youâre probably smart enough as a person to see through this.
So while she would want to skip any false flattery, itâs essential that you know sheâs sincere in her request, she thinks you deserve better than what Kara sees as nothing more than a silly blind date with a stranger.
Also, while she wouldnât come right out and tell you what you were doing was hurting her because she would rather you were affectionate with her, it might slip that she doesnât think you should spend so much time caring about this other person.
Hank, Pessimism
When it comes to his own experience with love and romance Hank isnât exactly what most would call a âlucky guy,â and because of that, he has a pretty cynical outlook on the idea of casual dating as a practice.
Hank would also likely be the one to try and pose the question to you, is this date even really worth the effort if youâre not going to end up a lasting couple with the guy. If marriage was the end goal here, then why bother on someone who probably wonât last?
Whatâs most important here is that he wonât ever come out and say something like âthis is why I think you shouldnât go on the dateâ but present you with all the reasons you should decide for yourself not to go.
Simon, Starts with small talk
To Simon, the best way to talk you out of this is to come to you in a warm, personal, (and most importantly likable) place. He thinks the best way to talk you out of this is to speak with you as a friend.
An additional bonus of talking to you in this way is he can learn more about whoever this person is. What they mean to you, and other useful information he might need, just in case this person ends up causing trouble for him down the line.
Once he feels like heâs created a casual atmosphere with you, Simon would use whatever he knows about this person against them. He would sow seeds of doubt in your mind and convince you not to go on the date without getting too involved.
North, Accusations, and questions
It would be impossible for North to hide how upset she is when she hears this at first, and even though she wants you to take her seriously as a romantic partner she might come off a little childishly and say something immature like, âWow, so happy youâve found someone who makes you so much happier than I do.â
Quite the âComing in hotâ approach to say the least. Even though Northâs intent is definitely to talk you out of the date, she might accidentally escalate things into a fight when they didnât need to be, out of her inability to properly articulate her feelings.
So her âconvincingâ skills leave much to be desired, leaving her with no other option but to use force to keep you from going out on the date. Not necessarily to you, but might fuck up your car or something to keep you from going.
Gavin, Anecdotes
When you first tell him about the date Gavin really has to fight his more instinctual and emotional response which is to try and threaten you out of the date. (Stay away from this person if you know whatâs good for you.) and to try and think of how he can actually talk you out of this.
While the two of you are on the subject, Gavin might bring up some story about a date night he had in the past he really regrets and wishes he never went on. Whether or not heâs exactly honest here isnât clear, but he does know how to get his point across.
What he isnât though is subtle, and it wouldnât take a genius to guess what he was trying to get across here. If you were to ask him if he was trying to talk you out of the date, he would very bluntly tell you he thinks if you were to go on this date, it would end poorly for you.
Kamski, Listens more than he speaks
While youâre talking with him about going out that evening with another guy, Kamski would be fully attentive, maybe even keeping a close eye on your body language to see if he could pick up on any subtle clues you could give about the guy without asking.
He might prompt you to take the lead in the conversation, or very subtly start mirroring your movements, listening attentively, or finding any way he can to convince you that you and he were one and the same and that you were safe opening up to him.
Once he finally feels heâs captured your trust wholeheartedly, he would say something cryptic like, âI see youâve made the decision you wish to pursue, but I see there is more to this person than you realize. I do hope you realize that sooner rather than later.â And leave you confused and unsure of what to do next.
Chloe, WIth building emotions
When she finds out about your plans with this person, it would be impossible for her not to get frustrated, and while she would do her best not to get over emotional, it would be impossible for her to just talk this out with you completely detached emotionally.
This climaxes with her saying something like,l âWell Iâm thrilled that youâve found someone who makes you so happy, I wish I could give you that same joy, if I could I would never leave your side. But if youâd rather not bother with me, Iâll go.â
So, is this her being open and honest about her feelings, is this emotional manipulation, itâs in the eye of the beholder really. (Also for a little extra drama Chloe might run away in tears if she really wants you to feel sorry for her and not go on the date.)
Daniel, Doesnât ask you to make a decision
There is very little in life which could stress a person out more so than being forced to make a stressful decision while under pressure. Something Daniel knows all too well, and he wants to avoid stressing you out like this at all costs, while still talking you out of the date night.
Daniel would prefer a more direct and honest approach, plainly telling you that it would be for the best if you didnât go out with this person and that you would probably enjoy yourself more spending the night with him. Keeping things as blunt as possible.
Daniel wants to keep things straight forward, not to confuse you with a bunch of different options which could only serve to overwhelm or confuse you. The best way to convince you is to give you one choice.
Ralph, Mixed bag
Itâs hard to precisely describe his reaction because, knowing Ralph he might say when you first tell him about the date that it doesnât bother him, but then come the night of the date heâs threatening you with his knife not to leave his side.
So he might just use his emotions to convince you not to go if that makes any sense? Like he might be the one to break down in tears and beg you to stay, that heâs just so lonely whenever youâre away and he wouldnât know what to do if you were to leave him altogether.
Unlike Chloe though, heâs not using all this emotional expressionism to convince you out of the date as a manipulative tactic, he physically canât control himself and would cry at the thought of losing you to another since he has such little faith in himself to keep you.
Nines, Speaks in the affirmative
Heâs far from the type to dance around what heâs trying to say, whether this is something which ends well for him or not. Nines best understands direct commands and simple statements, so this is how he would communicate with you.
With this approach thereâs a more than likely chance heâll come off as rude and demanding, but he doesnât really care. So long as you know how he feels about the issue and how heâs not willing to compromise on the matter, thatâs all he really cares about.
Nines would leave you with the simple message not to go on this date, and that it would be in your best interest to avoid this person. In this approach, he doesnât need to open up about his own feelings of attraction or inferiority, but the message is still understood perfectly.
